For Love's Sake

Joyice Robinson Myers, PhD
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This is a Relationship Education Podcast. We produce education content, fusing evidence-based science, lived wisdom, and cultural tea, to guide you on your dating journeys and support you in your relationships and marriages. Your host, Joyice Robinson Myers, is Dating, Relationship, & Marriage Educator and Researcher who supports Black women and couples.

  1. 106: The Surname Debate: Marriage and Family Names

    6D AGO

    106: The Surname Debate: Marriage and Family Names

    What happens when love, marriage, identity, lineage, and legacy all meet at the question of a last name? In this episode, I sit down with my husband to talk through a conversation many couples eventually face but do not always prepare for with enough depth: what happens to a woman’s surname after marriage, and what should happen when children enter the picture? This episode is for engaged couples and anyone trying to think more carefully about the meaning attached to names, family, and partnership. Don’t forget - if you have a Secret Story you want to share with me like the one I share in this episode, then I invite you to⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠drop your truth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the next Secret Story episode! HOW I CAN HELP YOU: Interested in our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠services⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠?  Choose your option⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. HOW YOU CAN HELP ME: Contribute to my next study by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠sharing your romantic experiences.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Submissions: Submit your⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Secret Story⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book your⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Awareness + Secret Story Session⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Submit your⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Safe Story⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Literature & Links: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The DC Relationship Education Center⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Connect with Me: Website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠www.joyicerobinson.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠@joyicerobinson⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Patreon:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Become a Patron⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Work With Me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a Session

    1h 37m
  2. 105: The Protector-Provider Role for Black Men [Part 2]

    MAR 20

    105: The Protector-Provider Role for Black Men [Part 2]

    Join us for Part 2! Dr. Jae is in the studio with her husband, Jeremiah, to continue their protector-provide conversation. We explore capacity versus desire, legacy versus lineage, community versus individual responsibility, and the systemic shifts that reshaped dating and marriage in the Black community over the last 50 years. Don’t forget - if you have a Secret Story you want to share with me like the one I share in this episode, then I invite you to⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠drop your truth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the next Secret Story episode! HOW I CAN HELP YOU: Interested in our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠services⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠?  Choose your option⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. HOW YOU CAN HELP ME: Contribute to my next study by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠sharing your romantic experiences.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Submissions: Submit your⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Secret Story⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book your⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Awareness + Secret Story Session⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Submit your⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Safe Story⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Literature & Links: ⁠⁠⁠The DC Relationship Education Center⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Connect with Me: Website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠www.joyicerobinson.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠@joyicerobinson⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Patreon:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Become a Patron⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Work With Me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a Session⁠⁠⁠⁠

    36 min
  3. 104: The Protector-Provider Role for Black Men [Part 1]

    MAR 6

    104: The Protector-Provider Role for Black Men [Part 1]

    In this conversational episode, Dr. Jae sits down with her husband, Jeremiah, to unpack a question that keeps showing up at women’s tables and in the culture: Are men naturally wired to protect and provide—and do marriage-minded men actually want to? Jeremiah offers a grounded framework for what “husband” means to him: caring for the woman and tending to the shared marriage space. Together, they explore “coverage” as a concept that blends protection and provision, the difference between egoless protection vs. possessive control, and why a man’s willingness to compete for a woman’s time and commitment is a meaningful signal. Don’t forget - if you have a Secret Story you want to share with me like the one I share in this episode, then I invite you to⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠drop your truth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the next Secret Story episode! HOW I CAN HELP YOU: Interested in our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠services⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠?  Choose your option⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. HOW YOU CAN HELP ME: Contribute to my next study by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠sharing your romantic experiences.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Submissions: Submit your⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Secret Story⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book your⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Awareness + Secret Story Session⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Submit your⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Safe Story⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Literature & Links: ⁠⁠The DC Relationship Education Center⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠A Hunter-Gatherer's Guide to the 21st CenturyConnect with Me: Website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠www.joyicerobinson.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠@joyicerobinson⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Patreon:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Become a Patron⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Work With Me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a Session⁠⁠⁠⁠

    1h 9m
  4. 103: The Media & Black Millennial Relationships

    FEB 20

    103: The Media & Black Millennial Relationships

    Join me as I discuss a 2025 peer-reviewed study on Black love and media representation to explore how TV, film, and pop culture have quietly shaped Black millennials’ beliefs about love, conflict, gender roles, emotional safety, and partnership readiness. If you’ve ever wondered why dating feels harder than it “should,” why expectations feel mismatched, or why love feels delayed rather than denied, this conversation is for you. Don’t forget - if you have a Secret Story you want to share with me like the one I share in this episode, then I invite you to⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠drop your truth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the next Secret Story episode! HOW I CAN HELP YOU: Interested in our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠services⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠?  Choose your option⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. HOW YOU CAN HELP ME: Contribute to my next study by⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠sharing your romantic experiences.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Submissions: Submit your⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Secret Story⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book your⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Awareness + Secret Story Session⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Submit your⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Safe Story⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Literature & Links: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The DC Relationship Education Center⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How the Digital Age Disrupted Community [blog]Connect with Me: Website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠www.joyicerobinson.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠@joyicerobinson⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Patreon:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Become a Patron⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Work With Me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a Session⁠⁠⁠⁠

    38 min
  5. 102: Two Coping Strategies for Black Romantic Relationships

    FEB 6

    102: Two Coping Strategies for Black Romantic Relationships

    What does it really take for Black couples to stay emotionally connected in a world that feels heavy? In this episode, I break down powerful relationship research to explore how Black couples cope with racial stress—and how those coping styles shape intimacy, support, and conflict inside romantic relationships. Don’t forget - if you have a Secret Story you want to share with me like the one I share in this episode, then I invite you to⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠drop your truth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the next Secret Story episode! HOW I CAN HELP YOU: Interested in our ⁠⁠⁠⁠services⁠⁠⁠⁠?  Choose your option⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. HOW YOU CAN HELP ME: Contribute to my dissertation by⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠sharing your romantic experiences.⁠⁠⁠⁠ Submissions: Submit your⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Secret Story⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book your⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Awareness + Secret Story Session⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Submit your⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Safe Story⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Literature & Links: ⁠⁠⁠⁠The DC Relationship Education Center⁠⁠⁠⁠Progressive Couples, Traditional Tensions: Finances, Freedom, & Fairness [blog] Love Isn’t Always Enough: Premarital Work That Strengthens Black Marriages [blog]Connect with Me: Website:⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠www.joyicerobinson.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠@joyicerobinson⁠⁠⁠⁠ Patreon:⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Become a Patron⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Work With Me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a Session⁠⁠⁠⁠

    27 min
  6. 101: From Fear to Forever: Why Black Men Marry

    JAN 23

    101: From Fear to Forever: Why Black Men Marry

    In this research-centered, I dive into a powerful qualitative study exploring why Black men choose marriage—from the voices of Black men who actually said yes. Building on Episode 100 (which examined how never-married Black men think about marriageability), this conversation centers married Black men and asks a critical follow-up question: What pushed you toward commitment—and what almost stopped you? Drawing from a study of 52 married Black men, this episode unpacks the emotional, relational, spiritual, and practical factors that shaped their decisions to marry—and what Black women and couples can learn from their honesty. Don’t forget - if you have a Secret Story you want to share with me like the one I share in this episode, then I invite you to⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠drop your truth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the next Secret Story episode! HOW I CAN HELP YOU: Interested in our ⁠⁠⁠⁠services⁠⁠⁠⁠?  Choose your option⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. HOW YOU CAN HELP ME: Contribute to my dissertation by⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠sharing your romantic experiences.⁠⁠⁠⁠ Submissions: Submit your⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Secret Story⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book your⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Awareness + Secret Story Session⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Submit your⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Safe Story⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Literature & Links: The DC Relationship Education Center⁠⁠⁠⁠Black Men Speak: What Encourages and Discourages the Decision to Marry [blog] Connect with Me: Website:⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠www.joyicerobinson.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠@joyicerobinson⁠⁠⁠⁠ Patreon:⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Become a Patron⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Work With Me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a Session⁠⁠⁠⁠

    25 min
  7. 100: What Is Black Hybrid Masculinity?

    JAN 9

    100: What Is Black Hybrid Masculinity?

    In this research-based episode, you’ll hear how 42 never-married, college-educated Black men are crafting what the researcher, Dr. Hill, calls “Black professional hybrid masculinity”—a blending of traditional provider-protector ideals with egalitarian values like shared domestic labor, emotional presence, and support for women’s careers. I break down what this hybrid model gets right, where tensions still exist, and why these nuances matter for Black women seeking real partnership. Don’t forget - if you have a Secret Story you want to share with me like the one I share in this episode, then I invite you to⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠drop your truth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the next Secret Story episode! HOW I CAN HELP YOU: Interested in our ⁠⁠⁠⁠services⁠⁠⁠⁠?  Choose your option⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. HOW YOU CAN HELP ME: Contribute to my dissertation by⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠sharing your romantic experiences.⁠⁠⁠⁠ Submissions: Submit your⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Secret Story⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book your⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Awareness + Secret Story Session⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Submit your⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Safe Story⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Literature & Links: ⁠⁠⁠⁠The DC Relationship Education Center⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are Black Men Still Protectors and Providers?⁠ [blog]Connect with Me: Website:⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠www.joyicerobinson.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠@joyicerobinson⁠⁠⁠⁠ Patreon:⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Become a Patron⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Work With Me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a Session⁠⁠⁠⁠

    33 min
  8. 99: 2025 "Black Love" Wrapped

    12/30/2025

    99: 2025 "Black Love" Wrapped

    As 2025 comes to a close, me and my co-host, Kaity Rodriguez, ring in the New Year with a playful yet reflective vibe of Black Love, dating, marriage, and public relationship moments that dominated the culture. Month by month, we revisit viral stories, celebrity relationships, and headline-making moments—judging each one as either messy or magical! January 2025 The viral cultural moment surrounding Aaron Pierre, sparked by his public appearances and widespread online admiration. We discuss attraction, aura, confidence, and what people perceive as universally appealing. February 2025 We discuss ethical non-monogamy, prompted by revelations about Kofi Siriboe and the overlap between his personal life and his role on Harlem. We explore honesty, desire, emotional bandwidth, jealousy, and the complexity of sustaining multiple relationships. March 2025 We discuss AD from Love Is Blind and her engagement with Ollie and Clay’s public reaction. April 2025 We discuss the viral Dear Future Wifey podcast appearance featuring Pastor Reggie and First Lady Kelly Steele. The discussion addresses church socialization, marital grace, infidelity, humiliation, and gendered expectations in Christian marriage. May 2025 We discuss Rihanna and A$AP Rocky’s third pregnancy announcement and women rebounding after difficult relationships. Cardi B’s pregnancy and post-separation are also discussed in relation to recovery, public scrutiny, misogynoir, and Black women course-correcting at love. June 2025 We discuss Ashanti and Nelly following a clip from their reality show that sparked conversation about caretaking expectations and the negotiations couples make when bringing children into a relationship. July 2025 We discuss Shannon Sharpe’s scandal, financial fear, lust, reputation loss, and how avoidance of marriage does not necessarily protect men from relational or financial consequences. August 2025 We revisit the aftermath of Meagan Good and DeVon Franklin’s divorce, focusing on public commentary, protection of a former partner’s honor, and contrasting visions of marriage and parenthood. September 2025 September was quiet. October 2025 We discuss Coco Jones’ engagement, highlighting intentional dating, mentorship from married couples, and the role of community in supporting relationships before marriage. November 2025 We discuss Laterras Whitfield’s wedding and earlier engagement announcement. The discussion focuses on presentation, visibility, role fulfillment, image management, and the tension between mission-driven marriages and cherishing a partner’s personhood. December 2025 We close with Venus Williams’ engagement, using the moment to explore Black women’s autonomy in love, swirling, historical context, community expectations, and the difference between collective ideals and individual romantic choice. Don’t forget - if you have a Secret Story you want to share with me like the one I share in this episode, then I invite you to⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠drop your truth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the next Secret Story episode! HOW I CAN HELP YOU: Interested in our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠services⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠?  Choose your option⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. HOW YOU CAN HELP ME: Contribute to my dissertation by⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠sharing your romantic experiences.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Submissions: Submit your⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Secret Story⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book your⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Awareness + Secret Story Session⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Submit your⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Safe Story⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with Me: Website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠www.joyicerobinson.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠@joyicerobinson⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Patreon:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Become a Patron⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Work With Me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a Session⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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This is a Relationship Education Podcast. We produce education content, fusing evidence-based science, lived wisdom, and cultural tea, to guide you on your dating journeys and support you in your relationships and marriages. Your host, Joyice Robinson Myers, is Dating, Relationship, & Marriage Educator and Researcher who supports Black women and couples.

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  • Creator
    Joyice Robinson Myers, PhD
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    106
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Joyice Robinson Myers, PhD
  • Show Website
    For Love's Sake