The Me in Us

Dr. Olivia Schlapfer Colmer and Elsa Hines
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Join a conversation between two relationship therapists talking about real life issues. Based on what they have learned in clinical settings, working with clients and from their own experiences of motherhood, marriage, and parenting.

Episodes

  1. 01/04/2025

    Self Criticism

    In this episode we discuss the pitfalls of self criticism and how we can manage our self criticism to help improve and grow in our relationships.

    38 min

  2. 09/11/2024

    Sex - Part III: The Pressures to Initiate, reject and orgasm

    In this episode with discuss the complexities and pressures surrounding the roles of initiating, rejecting and experiencing orgasms in intimate relationships. The conversation explores how these dynamics can create anxiety and tension, and how they are influenced by gender, societal expectations, and the evolution of a relationship over time. We delve into topics such as the differences in sexual desire between men and women, the importance placed on orgasms, and the need for open communication and flexibility within a couple's sexual experiences. We also discuss the importance of understanding the internal dialogue and personal experiences of each partner to navigate these sensitive topics effectively and maintain a healthy, fulfilling sex life.

    37 min

  3. 08/07/2024

    Sibling Position

    In this episode we talk about Sibling Position. It is a discussion about how a person's position in their family as the oldest, middle, youngest, or only child shapes their personality and relationships. We talk about the origins of sibling position theory in psychology, common traits associated with different sibling positions, and how factors like family dynamics, gender, and culture influence how those positions play out. We also discuss how knowing your sibling position can provide insight into your behavior and relationships as an adult, including in intimate relationships, at work, and as a parent. Overall, it is an exploration of the complexity and impact of birth order in families.

    31 min

  4. 07/10/2024

    The In-Laws

    In this episode we have an insightful discussion about managing relationships with in-laws. We explore common tensions that arise, cultural expectations, setting boundaries, the importance of open communication, and more.

    31 min

  5. 06/12/2024

    Sex - Part II: Masturbation and Porn in Relationships

    In this episode we discuss the topics of masturbation, pornography, and how they relate to couples and relationships. We talk about the prevalence of porn, the porn industry, and the pros and cons of porn and masturbation when done individually versus as a couple. We explore questions around whether porn and masturbation replace partnered sex, how to have conversations with your partner about these topics, whether making your own porn as a couple could be beneficial, and more. Overall, we aim to provide perspective on the complexity surrounding porn, masturbation, sex toys and how they affect intimacy and connection in relationships.

    27 min

  6. 05/15/2024

    Cross Culture Parenting

    In this episode we have an insightful discussion about the joys and challenges of parenting across cultures. Drawing from our own upbringings in Venezuela and Switzerland and raising children in America, we share personal stories and perspectives on balancing multiple cultural identities. It's an interesting dialogue about the nuances of raising third culture kids. I think any parent who has experienced these multi-cultural dynamics will relate to our discussion!

    30 min

  7. 04/17/2024

    The Money Issue in Relationships

    In this episode, we have an in-depth discussion about the role money and finances play in romantic relationships. We touch on topics like gender expectations, financial planning, communication between partners, and more. We share personal stories and examples from our experiences as therapists and in past relationships. And debate the various approaches couples can take in managing money matters, though we acknowledge there are no one-size-fits-all solutions.

    31 min

  8. 03/20/2024

    Narcissist vs Bipolar

    In this episode we discuss the prevalence of labels like "narcissist" and "bipolar" in a relationship, and how they affect the power dynamics. Are all men narcissists and women bipolar? Let's discuss. While actual diagnoses are relatively rare, these terms are commonly used as insults or excuses for poor behavior. We note that everyone demonstrates some problematic traits at times and no one is perfect. We also consider the role of labels in fostering a sense of helplessness versus responsibility over one's struggles. Ultimately the most important questions are what actions people take regarding difficulties in their relationships and whether issues are tolerable or change is possible, with or without a label.

    27 min

  9. 02/26/2024

    Sex - Part I: Who Wants Sex More in a Relationship?

    In this episode we talk about the importance of sex in an intimate relationship and all the benefits it can provide. Let's see if we can answer the age old questions of: "who wants it more?"

    32 min

  10. 02/21/2024

    Friendships and personal relationships outside of marriage

    Meet Dr. Olivia Schlapfer Colmer and Elsa Hines in the very first episode of The Me in Us Podcast. In this episode they talk about how to navigate friendships and personal relationships outside of a marriage.

    43 min

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    This is The Me in Us Podcast. A conversation between two relationship therapists talking about real life issues. Based on what they have learned in clinical settings, working with clients and from their own experiences of motherhood, marriage, and parenting.

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Join a conversation between two relationship therapists talking about real life issues. Based on what they have learned in clinical settings, working with clients and from their own experiences of motherhood, marriage, and parenting.

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  • Creator
    Dr. Olivia Schlapfer Colmer and Elsa Hines
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2025
  • Episodes
    11
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Dr. Olivia Schlapfer Colmer and Elsa Hines
  • Show Website
    The Me in Us