The Midlife Mess

Lara Thompson
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Welcome to The Midlife Mess Podcast! A podcast about the mess that is midlife, how to cope in your relationships, interpersonally, and the world during this time of life. Hosted by, Lara Thompson, a 42-year-old single mom and professional. In each episode Lara will use her background knowledge of psychology and mindset to discuss a self-improvement strategy or hot topic in a way that brings empathy and understanding for women and men. So, unless every aspect of your life is perfect, join the discussion every Wednesday, and please subscribe, rate, review, and follow TheMidlifeMessPod on Instagram. 

Episodes

  1. Episode 12: The Real Charleston: Neighborhood Vibes, Beaches, Growth Pains, and Why I Chose It

    2D AGO

    Episode 12: The Real Charleston: Neighborhood Vibes, Beaches, Growth Pains, and Why I Chose It

    Charleston has been ranked a top travel city for years — but visiting and living here are two totally different experiences. In this episode, Lara shares why she chose Charleston, what surprised her after moving from the DC area, and how each part of town has its own personality — from downtown’s postcard charm to West Ashley’s laid-back “real life” vibe, to Mount Pleasant’s suburban-coastal polish, to Folly’s low-key surf energy, and Summerville’s fast-growing family scene. She also gets honest about growth, traffic, cost, school choice, the dating scene, and Charleston’s complicated history — and why she’s still grateful to call it home. What you’ll hear in this episode Why Lara chose Charleston (small-town Virginia → DC → “Charleston is my middle”)Two things she missed immediately: major league sports + a thriving mall (hello, Sephora panic 😅)“Postcard Charleston”: Rainbow Row, carriages, church steeples, Spanish moss (and why she loves it)Downtown breakdown: Upper King vs. Lower King + a lesser-known gem (Philadelphia Alley)Neighborhood/area vibes across the metro (3 counties: Charleston, Berkeley, Dorchester):North Charleston realities + the cool pockets (Park Circle, Old Navy Base redevelopment)“East of the Cooper” world: Mount Pleasant, Sullivan’s, IOP, Daniel Island“West side” world: West Ashley (Avondale) + hidden treasure Charles Towne LandingThe plantation district stops: Drayton Hall, Magnolia, Middleton PlaceIsland life: James Island, Johns Island (and commute/traffic realities)Beach culture: why Folly Beach is her favoriteSummerville: old-town charm + Nexton growth and what it feels likeSchools & the big question: “Where are the good schools?”What “school choice” means in Charleston CountySpotlight on Ashley River Creative Arts (and why Lara loves it for her daughter)Magnet options later (arts + academic pathways)Growth and the economy: the metro pushing toward ~1M over the next decade + diversified industryThe “been here vs come here” tension (and the transplant jokes)Dating in Charleston: slightly more women than men + Peter Pan syndrome (Lara keeps it real)Charleston’s complicated past — and why acknowledging it mattersThe market’s historyInternational African American Museum, McLeod Plantation, and honoring Gullah Geechee cultureClosing: Charleston isn’t perfect (cost, heat, traffic)… but it’s where she’s built a lifeIf you know someone visiting or thinking about moving to Charleston, send them this episode. And if you want a deeper dive on any area (West Ashley pockets, Mount Pleasant vs Daniel Island, best “local” beach days, etc.), DM Lara and tell her what you want next.

    54 min
  2. Episode 11: Can Men and Women live in Harmony, Not a Power Struggle?

    FEB 12

    Episode 11: Can Men and Women live in Harmony, Not a Power Struggle?

    In this episode of Midlife Mess, Lara dives into one of the most nuanced and emotionally charged conversations of our time: the dynamic between men and women. Is it strained? Yes. Is it hopeless? Absolutely not. Lara believes we’re actually closer than ever to something healthier — but growth always comes with friction. From Travis and Taylor (yes, we’re going there) to the “wives submit…” Bible verse that’s rarely quoted in full, to pregnancy, physical vulnerability, masculine and feminine energy, and the male loneliness epidemic — this episode is an honest, bridge-building conversation meant to bring men and women closer together, not push them further apart. This is not an anti-man episode. It’s a pro-relationship, pro-respect, pro-understanding episode. Forward this one to your husband, boyfriend, brother, dad, or male friends. This is a conversation worth having together.

    48 min

  3. FEB 4

    Episode 10: Twin Flame Theory & Understanding the 3 Types of Love

    In this episode of The Midlife Mess, Lara explores the idea that we only fall in love three times—and why that framework can be incredibly freeing in midlife. Inspired by You Only Fall in Love Three Times by Kate Rose, this episode breaks down soulmate love, karmic love, and twin flame love, and how each relationship serves a purpose rather than representing a failure. Through personal reflection and real-life examples, Lara reframes past relationships as lessons that build toward emotional awareness, boundaries, and readiness for calm, consistent love. If you’re single, healing, dating again, or wondering whether you missed your chance, this episode offers reassurance: you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be. Love isn’t something we fail at—it’s something we evolve through.

    41 min

  4. FEB 1 · BONUS

    Bonus Episode: Where's the Middle? (A followup to Episode 8)

    In this bonus (no production, just talking) follow-up episode, Lara returns to a heavy but necessary conversation—one rooted not in politics, but in humanity, balance, and the often-silent majority living somewhere in the middle. Sparked by a recent, deeply troubling incident involving ICE and a protester’s death, this episode is not about choosing sides. It’s about questioning fear-based narratives, calling out extremes, and reminding ourselves that most people are far more reasonable—and compassionate—than the loudest voices suggest. Lara reflects on why extreme viewpoints dominate public discourse, how fear is used as a motivator, and why the center often feels drowned out. Drawing from personal experience, cultural moments, history, and first-hand stories, she invites listeners to pause, breathe, and remember: we’ve been through hard chapters before—and we’re still here. In this episode, Lara explores: Why extreme narratives are so loud—and why they workA powerful quote from The American President that feels eerily relevant todayA grounded, compassionate perspective on abortion that centers women’s lived experiencesGrowing up around guns—and why “the middle” gets lost in the gun debateImmigration fear narratives, personal Facebook backlash, and why many people stay silentHow fear + blame derail productive conversationWhy due process and democracy matter—regardless of political identityHistorical context showing that today’s tensions are not newFirst-hand stories of immigrants Lara worked with—stories of kindness, dignity, and tragedyA heartbreaking example of how broken systems impact real familiesWhy personal stories soften fear more than statistics ever couldA timely book recommendation that restores faith in compromise and shared valuesBook Recommendation: The Greatest Sentence Ever Written by Walter Isaacson A short but powerful read (or audiobook) that explores the care, compromise, and intention behind the founding of American democracy—and why those principles still matter today. What this episode is not: A political manifestoA call to extremesAn argument for outrageWhat it is: A call for calmA reminder that most of us live in the middleAn invitation to lead with humanity instead of fearLara closes by sharing what’s coming next (including a lighter, self-help-focused episode), introducing a new recurring segment, and reminding listeners that it’s okay to speak up—even when it’s uncomfortable. New Segment - Insta Follow of the Week: @slavic.bestie Bold, feminine, empowering content with humor, confidence, and unapologetic energy. If this episode resonated with you—or challenged you—Lara welcomes your feedback. The goal isn’t agreement. It’s connection. Thanks for being here. We’re going to be okay. 💛

    45 min

  5. JAN 28

    Episode 8: I Didn’t Know What to Say This Week...

    This week’s episode is a pause, a processing moment, and an honest check-in, in real time after watching the disturbing video out of Minnesota over the weekend. Lara found herself unsure how to show up—yet committed to showing up anyway. What unfolds is a calm, empathetic reflection on power, escalation, grief, and the complicated emotions that surface when authority and humanity collide. Drawing from personal experience—including years spent in the DC area and her intimate experience as a law enforcement wife—Lara explores why training, discernment, and restraint matter, and why empathy doesn’t require silence or extremism. The episode closes with a note of hope, inspired by Michelle Obama’s recent conversation on Call Her Daddy: a reminder that progress isn’t finished, but we are not starting from zero—and that new ideas and new leaders matter. Listeners are also offered one simple, tangible action step for those feeling helpless in the current climate: directly contacting elected officials through their official websites. This episode isn’t about politics or having the perfect words. It’s about being honest, staying human, and choosing calm over cruelty.

    30 min

  6. JAN 21

    Episode 7: My Therapist’s Take on the Midlife Mess: Trauma, Hope, and Becoming “Okay” Again

    In Episode 7, Lara sits down with her therapist, Kelly Quarles, for a real-life look at what healing can actually feel like—messy, layered, hopeful, and very human. Kelly shares her path from journalism to trauma therapy, why she believes trauma isn’t only “big T” events, and how therapy can help when your world flips upside down. Together, they revisit Lara’s early days in therapy after a major life upheaval—grieving the loss of the life she thought she had, the friendships that fell apart, and a future dream (including the possibility of another baby) that suddenly felt out of reach. Kelly names what Lara was carrying: complex grief, stacked in layers, and validates that “being strong” doesn’t mean rushing past sadness. They also get practical about mental health support: Lara opens up about antidepressants, a tough attempt to taper off, and how medication can be a powerful tool to “turn the volume down” enough to do the deeper work. The conversation closes on growth—Lara’s breakthroughs, new parts of her personality emerging, and even the “fun” healing goals (a tattoo, touching a snake, and skydiving… two out of three so far). They also touch on parenting, why men need therapy, and why therapy can be useful even when you’re not in crisis—and healing isn’t a straight line. Book your appointment in Mt. Pleasant or Charleston, SC, with Kelly's team at, https://guidedhealingclinicaltherapy.com/.

    49 min

  7. JAN 14

    Episode 6: Mom-Strong in Midlife: Healing, Lifting, and Laughing with My Trainer Lauren

    Lara’s first guest is here—her personal trainer, Lauren Michi—and this episode is equal parts funny, real, and motivating. They talk about what training looks like in midlife, how the right trainer becomes a trusted person (aka “gym therapy”), and why strength training matters more than ever. Lara shares her 2025 injury story: a fall that shattered and dislocated her left elbow, surgery, months of recovery, and the moment she decided to stop settling for “functional” and start rebuilding real strength. Lauren breaks down how injuries create imbalance, how to train safely around limitations, and why the scale isn’t the best measure of progress—especially for women navigating perimenopause. They also touch on fitness and diet trends (weighted vests, no-carb confusion, protein obsession, GLP-1s and protecting muscle mass), and wrap with a Charleston spotlight on Forge: a clean, contract-free, 24/7 private gym with capped membership and a welcoming setup for strength and functional training. Check out more info that Lauren recommends on weighted vests: https://www.health.harvard.edu/exercise-and-fitness/what-are-the-benefits-of-walking-with-a-weighted-vest https://www.uclahealth.org/news/article/should-you-walk-with-weighted-vest

    57 min

  8. JAN 7

    Episode 5: 2026 is the Year of the Horse?

    In Episode 5 of Midlife Mess, Lara digs into why astrology resonates so deeply in midlife—especially when identity, emotions, and life roles start shifting. Prompted by social media chatter about 2025 being the Year of the Snake and 2026 being the Year of the Horse, she explores how the Chinese zodiac connects (and differs) from Western astrology, and why both can be useful tools for meaning-making during seasons of change. Lara breaks down the basics of a birth chart—how your sun, moon, and rising signs work together—and offers a memorable “house” metaphor: your rising sign is the curb appeal, your sun sign is how the house functions, and your moon sign is what it feels like inside at night. She explains how midlife often brings a collision between these layers: how you’ve been functioning, who you said you were, and what you actually need now. Using her own chart (Aries rising, Cancer sun, Scorpio moon), she shares how this framework helped her understand boundaries, emotional truth, and the shift from surviving quietly to living honestly. The episode closes by tying the “snake-to-horse” transition into a broader message: 2025 as internal shedding and emotional excavation, and 2026 as outward movement and decisive action—a powerful invitation to align your life with what’s real and nourishing now.

    45 min

  9. 12/31/2025

    Episode 4: Holiday Check-In, Dating App Déjà Vu, and the Christmas Parade That Broke Lara’s Silence

    In this shorter, more casual holiday episode, Lara shares a cozy midlife New Year’s mindset—lower expectations, more peace, and zero pressure to “eventize” the night. After a full house at Christmas (family, kids, and pets included), she reflects on how her relationship with holidays has shifted in midlife: less chasing the perfect moment, more grace for quiet, comfy celebrations (but still with something bubbly). Lara also answers listener questions—starting with why she’s back on the dating apps. A “let’s go fishing” girls’ weekend outside Charleston turns into a humorous experiment in boundaries when she runs into a familiar character from earlier episodes: the infamous “werewolf” guy. This time, Lara shows up differently—more self-assured, clearer on what she won’t tolerate, and uninterested in educating grown men who want to turn a romantic relationship into a mommy-son dynamic. The heart of the episode is Lara’s long-awaited Christmas parade story: a tense public confrontation sparked simply by her standing—and dancing with her young daughter—while waiting for the parade to arrive. What begins as petty entitlement escalates into a triggering moment tied to body-image sensitivity, feeling “othered,” and the deeper wound of middle-school bullying. Lara unpacks how her reaction, her mom’s discomfort (especially with her using the F-word in public), and her therapist’s validation helped her connect past and present—and ultimately claim a new boundary: she’s done sitting down and shutting up. She closes with encouragement for listeners to do New Year’s their own way, plus a quick podcast update: The Midlife Mess Podcast is now on Facebook, and she invites everyone to follow, share, and leave reviews as the show heads into 2026.

    35 min

  10. 12/24/2025

    Episode 3: Midlife Dating: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

    In this deeply honest and often hilarious episode, Lara opens up about what it’s really like to date in midlife—for the first time. After two marriages and a late start in the dating world, she shares the lessons she’s learned over the past five years navigating online dating, shifting expectations, and her own evolving sense of self. Lara walks listeners through the good (clarity, honesty, emotional depth, and unexpected confidence boosts), the bad (misaligned life stages, Peter Pan syndrome, online dating fatigue, and wildly different relationship goals), and the ugly—including ghosting, cheaters, ethically non-monogamous surprises, and why Facebook groups like Are We Dating the Same Guy? even exist. Along the way, she reflects on body image, trauma-informed attraction, sex “rules,” trusting your gut, and why women today are no longer willing to be expendable in relationships. The episode wraps with hard-earned dating wisdom, unapologetic expectations, and a blunt—but loving—PSA for men in the online dating pool. Raw, funny, reflective, and validating, this episode sets the tone for Midlife Mess: real conversations, no pretending, and learning how to be your best mess—together.

    1h 4m
  11. Episode 2: How We Got Here

    12/17/2025

    Episode 2: How We Got Here

    Listen if you want to hear my story, Lara, your host. You may find it helpful to see where I came from and what my journey has looked like? If you're curious, give this episode a listen. If not, then you won't miss anything topical.

    42 min
  12. Episode 1: Welcome to The Midlife Mess!

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    Episode 1: Welcome to The Midlife Mess!

    Welcome to The Midlife Mess Podcast! Your host, Lara, introduces herself, her motivation for starting a podcast, and what you can expect in future episodes.

    6 min

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About

Welcome to The Midlife Mess Podcast! A podcast about the mess that is midlife, how to cope in your relationships, interpersonally, and the world during this time of life. Hosted by, Lara Thompson, a 42-year-old single mom and professional. In each episode Lara will use her background knowledge of psychology and mindset to discuss a self-improvement strategy or hot topic in a way that brings empathy and understanding for women and men. So, unless every aspect of your life is perfect, join the discussion every Wednesday, and please subscribe, rate, review, and follow TheMidlifeMessPod on Instagram. 

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  • Creator
    Lara Thompson
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    12
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 The Midlife Mess
  • Show Website
    The Midlife Mess