The Oasis Space

Patrice Grimes
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"Oasis" is something serving as a refuge, relief, or pleasant change from what is usual, annoying, or difficult. Nowadays, people can find themselves conflicted between so many internal and external factors that can trigger anxiety, stress, fear, shame, depression, etc. Therefore, The Oasis Space Community is focused on creating an environment that rejuvenates and encourages, but also challenges your current or historical thought/perspectives that leads you towards a path of becoming a P.E.A.C.E. P.U.R.S.U.I.T.

  1. 12/31/2021

    Enlist the Elite - Transformation Year Takeaways

    Peace Pursuits!! It's the Season Finale!! Can you believe we're already at the end of 2022?! The end of the year always brings a time of reflection and a hope for the future.  In this episode, I share my top 5 takeaways from my Transformation Year along with some practical tips to implement into your life.  Additionally, I provide a preview of my intention for 2022.  Transformation Year Takeaways: - Obedience Is Better Than Sacrifice - The Power of Setting Your Intention For the Year - Pause Before The Pivot - Don't Minimize Your Impact - Enlist the Elite In Your Vision Key Quotables/Takeaways: "Your obedience will likely cause you to sacrifice something, but it shouldn't cause you to compromise." - Patrice Grimes "Things that are worth it, take work." - Patrice Grimes "I needed to transform these areas of my life so they didn't transfer into my relationships, my body, or my finances." - Patrice Grimes "When you change on the inside, it shows up on the outside." - Patrice Grimes "There is an element of having to die to yourself, dying to the old version of you, dying to old patterns, dying to antiqued belief systems.  You have to die to those things in order reincarnate as a better version of yourself." - Patrice Grimes "Sometimes we're entirely too busy that we don't even take the time to sit in the chaos.  We don't process the pain and that's what breeds trauma responses instead of triumph responses." - Patrice Grimes "What is it costing you when you're pivoting so quickly?" - Patrice Grimes "We'll try to manufacture new relationships because we don't have access to someone else and it ends up causing us more pain than the initial chaotic event that disrupted our life." - Patrice Grimes "Am I doing this for people or am I doing this for purpose?" - Patrice Grimes "We have to get in tune with ourselves so we can ensure we're making decisions out of peace instead of pain." - Patrice Grimes "If i'm not creating impact, then i'm living in vain." - Patrice Grimes "You have to do an inventory of impact." - Patrice Grimes "Not everyone is equipped to be enlisted in your vision." - Patrice Grimes "Sometimes, people will fail to stabilize your vision, because they aren't secured in theirs." - Patrice Grimes "Balance is not something that breeds continuity or transformation in the long run. It actually breeds burnout." - Patrice Grimes 57:05 "Limit portions of the vision you share only with people that have the capacity to see it and visualize it with you." - Patrice Grimes Episode Sponsored by: Unleash the Peace Program - Book Your FREE Discovery Call 35% off until January 31 for my regular Peace Pursuit Listeners!  Indicate "The Oasis Space" on your intake form. LINKS: Engage with Me, Work with Me, Book Me for a Speaking Engagement Support the show

    1h 4m

  2. 12/28/2021

    Transitioning From Toxic to Healthy Relationships w/Ralph & Daa'Iyah Plaskett

    I think we've all had some unpleasant r/s experiences.  What's even MORE challenging to embrace a healthy relationship or even know the first steps to transition into one if you've  had one, or even numerous, toxic relationships in the past.  We all want healthy, reciprocal relationships, but don't quite know how to achieve it...until now :) This episode, I'm joined by 12 year marriage vets, Ralph & Daa'Iyah Plaskett, where they share their initial dating process and the different approach both of them had to take in order to transition into a committed, healthy, and happy relationship for both of them.  We also discussed: - Doing the Work to Show Up As Your Authentic Self - Analyzing Historical Dating Patterns - The Mindset Shift Required For Commitment - Identifying You and Your Partner's Communication Style - The Tug of War Between Triggers vs. Actuality, - The Importance of Identifying Green Flags Key Quotes "I made the commitment that i was going to be open, honest and answer all of the questions regardless of where this thing [relationship] might go." - Ralph  "I didn't send a representative during our first date.  I showed up on the first date so you know what you're dealing with." - Daa'Iyah "Part of it [the dating process] is learning how to trust yourself again." - Patrice  "I got to know myself which gave me the strength to be able to speak up for myself." - Daa'Iyah   "I was committed to making a relationship work. I was committed to working on the relationship understanding no relationship is easy or perfect or anything. But I was committed to say i'm going to put in the work."- Ralph "It's a vulnerable position; it says I have to be willing to talk about the good, the bad, and the ugly in order to be committed towards a relationship." - Ralph "You have to have the hard conversations.  We have the hard conversations, even when we don't feel like it." - Daa'Iyah "You can reconcile by understanding this person is not here to harm me, they're not here to intentional hurt me so a little bit of time could help to dissect the situation." - Patrice "You don't fight fair when you're mad." - Daa'Iyah "We might have conversations that are tough. But those are intended for growth as a couple.  Those are intended for bettering the relationship.  Those are not intended to intentionally open wounds." - Ralph "A lot of times in relationships, we only identify the red flags. We rarely identify the green flags. The ones that say 'Go! This is great. This is healthy. It's safe to keep proceeding. It's safe to let down the walls. It's safe to be loved by this person." - Patrice "One of the factors of transitioning to a healthy relationship is being open and ready. Ready to receive the potential of a good relationship." - Patrice Rapid Value Questions What is one thing you like to do to sustain or reset your peace? - Travel / Spending time together Name one book or song that's helped you to define peace? - Never Too Much by Luther Vandross  How do you define peace for yourself now? - Not entering situations or relationships that cause me stress or anxiety. Being secure in whatever I enter into/When I feel loved, unconditional love. Fill In the Blank: My name is Daa'Iyah, and without peace, I'd probably be crazy; but with peace, I have joy. My name is Ralph, and without peace, I'd probably be wilding out; but with peace, I am centered. - Ralph LINKS Engage with Patrice/Inquiries/Booking https://sociatap.com/ThePeaceCurator/ Support the show

    1h 7m

  3. 12/20/2021

    Finding Peace Through the Fragmented Family Lens w/ Mariam Ernest

    As the holidays are approaching, we realize that not every person is close to their family so it can be particularly difficult to be in the "holiday spirit" when the only thing holidays represent are what they don't have or what they previously had, but has now lost.  Family Estrangement and Fragmented Families are a topic that rarely is discussed, but affects all social classes, genders, race, etc.  In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Mariam Ernest, where she discusses the how Family Estrangement can be intergenerational and as parents, if we aren't being careful, we could be potentially creating a pattern for future family estrangement within our children. We also discussed: - The Emotional and Pyschological Effects of Voluntary and Involuntary Estrangement - The Commonalities of Estrangement in Women - How Estrangement Affects Other Relationships - Steps to Identify Peace in Fragmented Families Key Quotes/Takeaways "Family estrangement knows no class, knows no race, knows no economic status, nothing.  It cuts across everything." - Mariam Ernest "I think there's something about us human beings when we perceive that we've been rejected. It literally does something to our brain. It alters our perception in how we view, how we think about ourself and other people. It literally changes into who we're letting into our life." - Mariam Ernest "This group [family estrangement] is fighting against a narrative which is the narrative of a happy family." - Mariam Ernest "If you don't come back to yourself, now you're gonna be judging everyone from the lens of the trespass that you've endured. Everyone is going to become the victim of what that person did. - Mariam Ernest "If you don't change the pattern, you stay in anger and bitterness. Neither of which add any transformational value." - Mariam Ernest "If you don't deal with them [patterns of anger and bitterness], if you don't pass them back, you pass them on." - Mariam Ernest "A lot of times when the peace is disrupted, it's a direct reflection of your identity and how you're viewing yourself." - Patrice Grimes "You're bracing yourself of what's to come, but you also rob yourself of the present moment." - Patrice Grimes "We grow with the uncomfortableness.  We never really grow by denying other people's truth, even ourselves. - Mariam Ernest Rapid Value Questions What's one thing you like to do to sustain or reset your peace? - Meditate and exercise Name one book or song that's helped you to define peace? - The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle - The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer How do you define peace for yourself now? -Harmonious relationships with myself and with others. Fill In the Blank: - My name is Mariam and without peace, i'm more likely to retreat, more likely to disconnect, more likely to internalize things I shouldn't, but with peace, I'm more resilient. LINKS: Engage with Patrice/Inquiries/Booking https://sociatap.com/ThePeaceCurator/ Engage with Mariam: IG: RecoveryFromFragmentedFamilies Forgiveness Journal by Mariam Ernest  Support the show

    1h 8m

  4. 12/14/2021

    Healing Your Daughter By Healing the "Little Girl" In You w/ Precious Joy

    We all know how integral the father/child relationship can be, but we oftentimes gloss over how critical the mother/daughter relationship can be, specifically as it relates to our healing and the sexual relationships with our bodies. The reality is that both parents play vital roles in the development of children and how they show up in the world and instead of fighting one another, we should be fighting for the trauma inside of us that prevents us from reaching the highest version of ourselves. In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Founder of non-profit organization, Purity is Precious, Precious Joy, where she explains the necessity to heal the "little girl" inside of you so that it serves as a catalyst for healing the relationship with your daughter.  We also discussed: - Fear Based Parenting vs. Natural Hormonal Changes - Shifting Communication from Fear Based Responses - Four Things Needed to Feel Secure In Relationships - The Affects of Forfeiting Healing that Carries Into Adulthood - Recommended Steps for Adult Women to Heal Outstanding Mother/Daughter Relationship Challenges Key Takeaways/Quotables "Allow the fear to fuel the healing process that can come through the relationship." - Precious Joy "It's the the little girl inside of you that has been asking for a way to actually free herself from whatever pain or trauma that occurred that we have learned to live with, cope, and actually mask in our personality." - Precious Joy "Mothers create atmospheres to be seen and soothed and some of these qualities were likely missing [for that little girl] to feel okay to heal." - Patrice Grimes "We don't recognize how our healing is attached to other people. It really is a catalyst to helping someone else heal." - Patrice Grimes "Women in general, we try to be so accommodating to each other and to each other's feelings; even though we have these expectations of each other, we'll minimize it and sweep it under the rug." - Patrice Grimes "A lot of times, we make ourselves become numb. So instead of us really facing things head on, we use a numbing process so that we feel as though 'ill never be hurt from her again' and that's us disconnecting us from our femininity." - Precious Joy "When we make those decisions to actually start to medicate those wounds by becoming completely numb, then we rob ourselves of the opportunity to become a our best version of ourselves, not just for us, but for those who are attached to our call and our purpose." - Precious Joy "The pain will normally come where the wound is sitting at the most." - Precious Joy Rapid Value Questions What's one thing you like to do to sustain or reset your peace? - Dance Name one book or song that's helped you to define peace? - Psalmist Raine - Abba Father How do you define peace for yourself now? - It's in the unknown.  Knowing that God's got it. It is knowing that regardless of how I feel, I choose to rest and trust in him.  It is knowing that as long as God called me to walk on waters, I'm going to walk with him. Fill In the Blank: - My name is Precious and without peace, I would be the bird that flew over the coo-coo's nest, but with peace, I am grounded, I am whole, and I am protected. LINKS: Engage with Patrice/Inquiries/Booking https://sociatap.com/ThePeaceCurator/ Engage with Precious: IG: @PurityIsPrecious Precious's Website Support the show

    59 min

  5. 12/07/2021

    Daddy Issues & Disassociation To Discovery & Destiny w/ Bernadette Jackson

    Here's the facts: One in four children in America grow up in homes without a father present.  Not only is this physically damaging, but the emotional and mental effects can be so detrimental that it leads into adulthood.  Sometimes, the very thing prohibiting you from transforming conflict to peace lies in the root of fatherlessness. In this episode, I had the pleasure of sitting down with Relationship Strategist, Bernadette Jackson, where she shared her personal story of fatherlessness and why it was crucial for her to ditch the norm of numbing the pain with disassociation to going on an extensive journey of self discovery in order to heal. We also discussed: - Connotations Associated with "Daddy Issues" - Disassociation From Emotions and Identifiable Signs To Know If You Suffer from Disassociation - The Effect of Fatherlessness on Women vs. Men - Children's Inability to Grieve Fatherlessness Due to Parental Expectations - Similarities Between Physical vs. Emotionally Absent Fathers Key Takeaways/Quotables "Even the idea of trying to change what this relationship [with my father] was in my imagination has also played out in my relationships, until I decided to heal." - Bernadette Jackson "I was tired of trying to convince people to be emotionally ready for something that they said they were or something I said I wanted." Bernadette Jackson  "I had to take ownership of what belongs to me, and what belongs to me is my response to what has happened." - Bernadette Jackson "I became radical about trying to understand exactly what my issues were, what was going on with me, what did my father loss mean to me, how was it presenting in. my relationships, how it was affecting me in ways I didn't know." - Bernadette Jackson "I was committed, fully, to understanding who I was; to self discovery." - Bernadette Jackson "We normalize conflict without still realizing even though it's "normal," this doesn't feel good to me." - Patrice Grimes "A lot of times people will translate grief to mean someone dying in your family, without acknowledging that grief comes in different forms and its literally the psychological acknowledgement of a loss." - Patrice Grimes Rapid Value Questions What is one thing that you like to do to sustain or reset your peace? - I take opportunities to really be by myself.  Name one book or song that's helped you to define peace. - "Peace is not something external, it's something that's within so regardless of the chaos around you, you can still be peaceful in the middle of the storm." How do you define peace for yourself now? - Peace for me is being authentic in the moment as well as honoring the request that I make to myself. Fill in the Blank: My name is Bernadette and without peace, I'd probably be bitter, but with peace, I know that I can confidently walk in my purpose and be fulfilled. LINKS: Engage with Patrice/Inquiries/Booking https://sociatap.com/ThePeaceCurator/ Engage with Bernadette: IG: @BernadetteNJackson Relationship Autopsy Support the show

    1h 6m

  6. 11/30/2021

    Scorned In Silence, Suffering On the Scale w/ Kendra Wyatt

    Coming off the Thanksgiving holiday, I thought it would be the perfect time to level set our relationship with ourselves and our bodies.  Although, the holidays are generally a time of family, fun, and lots of food, we recognize that our health can take a hit in the process.  Or, sometimes we learn our relationships with ourselves and others were affecting our health all along. In this episode, I had the pleasure of sitting down with Kendra Wyatt, in The Oasis Space, where she explained why she is the Master Motivator and Wellness Coach, and how her personal story of scorned relationships led to weight fluctuations that fueled her motivation to empower other women to embrace their bodies no matter what shape or size.   We also discussed the following: - How to Identify Patterns that Cause Weight Fluctuations - Getting Past Societal Standards of Physical Trainers - Emotional Eating and Transforming Your Relationship with Food - Questions to Ask Yourself When Prioritizing Your Health Key Quotables/Takeaways "Sometimes, people will pull out of you, the things you don't even see in yourself." - Patrice Grimes "I had to do a lot of self assessing on who i am, what i want, who I'm called to be and why do I feel I need validation from a relationship when it was all right here in me." - Kendra Wyatt "Seeking that love from someone else, feeling like that would make me feel a certain way; but I realized I'm all I need." - Kendra Wyatt "When you change your mind, your body will change. The way you look at yourself will change, that body image will change, you'll feel you are enough no matter what." - Kendra Wyatt "I am evolving no matter what shape or size because you gotta love you." - Kendra Wyatt "Society trains our minds that we have to look a certain way.  We have to break that mindset and you have to want to feel good for yourself." - Kendra Wyatt "I have yet to find a trainer that trains you from the inside out, and for me the value of your life is so important.  It's more than just the physical." - Kendra Wyatt "The game changer is that I'm not going to let you prematurely die. It's deeper than some cardio, it's spiritually and mentally dying and I'm not gonna let that happen." - Kendra Wyatt "Trainers will school you on all the things but never tap into how did we even get here and how are we going to make sure you never go through this cycle again?" - Patrice Grimes You have to understand and wonder what is going to be the trigger point for you because if it isn't the relationship this time, it's going to be something else." - Patrice Grimes "How much is your life worth to you?" - Kendra Wyatt Rapid Value Questions What is one thing you like to do to sustain or reset your peace? - Read Name one book or song that's helped you to define peace? - Fail Fast, Fail Often: How Losing Can Help You Win by Ryan Babineaux & John Krumboltz How do you define peace for yourself now? - My circle Fill in the Blank: My name is Kendra, and without peace, I'd probably be living a lie, but with peace, I am walking in my truth. LINKS: Engage with Patrice/Inquiries/Booking https://sociatap.com/ThePeaceCurator/ Engage with Kendra: https://sociatap.com/ThinkThiccFitness  Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TheOasisSpace) Support the show

    51 min

  7. 11/23/2021

    Tips to Be Thankful Even When It Sucks (Thanksgiving Edition)

    We all know how it is when the holidays come around.  As much as we'd like to say it's solely a joyous occasion, sometimes the holidays greet us with sadness of those we lost, the what ifs, and the shoulda, coulda, woulda's of regret and sulking of opportunities we thought we've lost. But, what if I told you that every pain has a purpose and every loss has a lesson?  I'm a firm believer of not only the saying "everything happens for a reason" but rather, "it HAD to happen."  Certain things and people we meet are literally the catalyst that launches us into becoming the absolute best version of ourselves. In this episode of The Oasis Space, I share my personal insights of the Thanksgiving holiday, how I redefined the loss of a loved one, adverse situations that I've actually learned to be thankful for, relationships I've avoided and/or otherwise villainized for the sake of my own comfort instead of accountability, and how you too can apply these principles to your life. Key Takeaways/Quotes "Sometimes, it's honoring them by pulling out a specific characteristic of theirs that impacted you, and implementing it into your own life."   "Sometimes part of the growth includes pulling the plug on your core support system so you can lean on yourself more." "Take the time to lean into the WHY it didn't work the way you expected it to. " "You cannot allow your purpose to be delayed because it's inconvenient for someone else." "I could not allow my purpose to be confiscated or forfeited because it wasn't in line with someone else's purpose for my life." "Be ok with disappointing some people sometimes if it means aligning yourself to the better version of you." "When you honor yourself to be the better version of yourself, the people who truly love you and who are aligned to you,  also reap those benefits." "Growth begets growth." "If you keep yourself stuck, you have to think about what other people are you potentially keeping stuck because of your disobedience to not honor your growth process." "Some people call into question your foundational roots that you refuse to address out of fear."  "You gotta be in a position ready to receive, ready to learn, ready to be held accountable, if you want to change something." "I am thankful for the relationships that feed and fuel me into my next destination, but also those relationships that didn't because I was the problem; because I was the one that didn't want to acknowledge or want to be challenged in areas that called my identity into question." "Sometimes we avoid or even villainize relationships that shake something within us b/c we aren't ready to address the situation. We aren't ready to address the identity crisis we're going through." "It is so easy to victimize or villianize someone else for something you don't want to be accountable for." LINKS: Engage with Patrice/Inquiries/Booking https://sociatap.com/ThePeaceCurator/ Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/ThePeaceCurator Email: theoasisspace@patricegrimes.com Join The Oasis Space - PEACE PURSUITS FB Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theoasisspace To advertise on the podcast: Email: TheOasisSpace@patricegrimes.com If you have questions about booking Patrice or sponsoring the podcast: Email: TheOasisSpace@patricegrimes.com Support the show

    46 min

  8. 11/16/2021

    Finances Leading with Peace Instead of Pressure w/Juan Lee

    Did you know your finances or lack thereof can tell a story about who you are and what you may be going through in life?  As we discuss transforming conflict to peace in our personal relationships, these relationships heavily influence our finances and the decisions we make regarding our finances.  In this latest episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Transformational Speaker and Author, Juan Lee, about how every goal or dream require finances.  But it's more than needing finances, it's setting goals and making good decisions regarding our finances that provides us with access to the required resources.  We also discussed: - Building Generational Wealth - Defining Contentment - Teaching Children the Process of Spending Money - Steps to be Proactive in Finances Key Takeaways/Quotes "We're talking about generational wealth, but the generation may be starting with you." - Patrice Grimes "Contentment is operating within your abilities, and that takes discipline." - Juan Lee "Discipline is actually one of the highest forms of self love." - Patrice Grimes "Having the ability to operate within your own abilities; it doesn't mean you should not push yourself to be greater. it's knowing what you're actually capable of so you can show up better and master yourself better, instead of trying to push yourself outside of the limits that do not serve you because you're trying to put on for someone else, that's when you realize the discontentment settles in. - Patrice Grimes "It's not saying you are not pursuing your potential, you are operating in the place and space that you are today so you can maintain that peace." - Juan Lee "We find when we're not in that place of peace, it's outside of our own boundaries." - Juan Lee "We allow those pressures to influence and push us outside of ourselves, because we don't understand the purpose of life." - Juan Lee "Money is merely an exchange for your choices. You're going to give someone your money to get your choices." - Juan Lee "You have to be willing to sacrifice instead and not live in instant gratification." - Juan Lee Rapid Value Questions What is one thing that you like to do to sustain or reset your peace? - Stay within my ability.  Maintain my boundaries. Name one book or song that's helped you to define peace. - Love is the Reason by BeBe Winans How do you define peace for yourself now? - I translate success as having all my means met; contentment, clarity. Fill In the Blank: My name is Juan Lee, and without peace I'd probably be devastated/destroyed, useless, in bad shape, but with peace, I am complete. LINKS: Engage with Patrice/Inquiries/Booking https://sociatap.com/ThePeaceCurator/ Engage with Juan: https://juanleetheauthor.com/ Support the show

    58 min
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"Oasis" is something serving as a refuge, relief, or pleasant change from what is usual, annoying, or difficult. Nowadays, people can find themselves conflicted between so many internal and external factors that can trigger anxiety, stress, fear, shame, depression, etc. Therefore, The Oasis Space Community is focused on creating an environment that rejuvenates and encourages, but also challenges your current or historical thought/perspectives that leads you towards a path of becoming a P.E.A.C.E. P.U.R.S.U.I.T.

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  • Creator
    Patrice Grimes
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2021
  • Episodes
    25
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2024 The Oasis Space
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