The Problem is You

A Mindset Podcast Hosted by Cait Pearson

Tired of chasing milestones, battling shame spirals, and feeling stuck in the “when/then” cycle? The Problem is You Podcast cuts through the noise to help you reclaim your agency, quiet your inner control freak, and build a life that actually feels like yours. Hosted by Cait Pearson, mindset coach and NLP practitioner, this podcast blends tough love, neuroscience, and real talk to transform self-awareness from something daunting into your greatest power. From navigating life’s messy middle to breaking free from burnout, we tackle the hard questions: Who are you beyond your to-do list? What do you really want? And what’s holding you back from living it? Expect bite-sized episodes packed with practical tools, relatable stories, and the occasional gut check—all designed to help you take meaningful action and redefine success on your own terms. Ready to get out of your own way? Hit play. caitpearson.substack.com

  1. Ep 17: Comfort Crises & Conscious Choice

    12/20/2024

    Ep 17: Comfort Crises & Conscious Choice

    (Episode 17, Release Date: December 20, 2024) Episode Overview In this episode of The Problem Is You, Cait dives into the power of conscious choice and the challenges of navigating discomfort in a world designed for convenience. Reflecting on personal growth, community, and the value of adversity, Cait shares insights from her life, business, and the eye-opening book The Comfort Crisis by Michael Easter. Join Cait as she explores how embracing the hard stuff shapes our values and vision for the future. Key Topics Covered (Timestamps Included) * (00:00:00) The illusion of comfort and its impact on growth * (00:01:02) Cait’s life update: ADHD, community, and new routines * (00:08:12) Navigating change and emotional vulnerability * (00:13:18) The freedom found in intentional choice * (00:17:02) The Comfort Crisis and the dangers of "comfort creep" * (00:37:28) Upcoming events: Happy Hour and the What Really Matters Masterclass Must-Listen Moments (Shareable Quotes & Highlights) * (00:10:10) "The presence you have with choice is the inherent freedom that I think is the most powerful thing anyone can engage with." * (00:12:57) "Instead of running old programs, choose to consciously rewrite your story." * (00:20:01) "Comfort creep has made us intolerant of discomfort, but adversity is essential for growth." Resources & Links Mentioned * The Comfort Crisis by Michael Easter * Join the free Everyday Esoteric Community here. * RSVP for the New Year Happy Hour on January 9th here. * Sign up for the What Really Matters Masterclass on January 14th here. Connect with Us * Follow Cait on Instagram: @caitpearson * Join the Everyday Esoteric Community: Everyday Esoteric Get full access to The Table at caitpearson.substack.com/subscribe

    52 min
  2. Episode 16: What You Actually Want (and How to Get It in 2025)

    12/13/2024

    Episode 16: What You Actually Want (and How to Get It in 2025)

    (Episode 16: December 13th, 2024) Episode Overview In this deeply personal and transformative episode, Cait breaks down the core truth behind every goal and desire: it’s not the job, money, or relationship you’re chasing—it’s the feeling you believe those things will bring you. She unpacks why burnout, procrastination, and misaligned goals leave you feeling stuck and reveals the powerful shift that can change everything. Through personal stories, actionable insights, and an invitation to go deeper, Cait will help you uncover the root of your desires and show you how to align with what truly matters—starting now. Key Topics Covered (Timestamps Included) * [00:01:00] Why resolutions fail: It’s not about willpower, it’s about alignment. * [00:05:00] Cait’s personal story of burnout, frustration, and chasing someone else’s version of success. * [00:07:00] The real reason behind every goal: It’s the emotional payoff, not the thing itself. * [00:11:00] The primary manifestation: Why emotions are the root of all desires. * [00:15:00] A personal experiment: How Cait shifted from chasing goals to creating aligned feelings. * [00:22:00] Practical tools for identifying and embodying your desired emotions today. * [00:28:00] The power of knowing your Soul Ethos: Core, Growth, and Goal Values. * [00:30:00] An invitation to the “What Really Matters” masterclass to create your most aligned year yet. Must-Listen Moments (Shareable Quotes & Highlights) * “Everything you’ve ever wanted is because of how you think it will make you feel.” * “The emotion is the manifestation. The things you want are just the side effects.” * “When you master how you feel, you stop chasing things. The things start coming to you.” Resources & Links Mentioned * Free Masterclass: What Really Matters * Discover why your goals haven’t worked and learn how to align with your Soul Ethos to create lasting change. * [Click here to register for free] * Join the Everyday Esoteric Community: [Join Here] Connect with Us * Follow Cait on Instagram: [@everyday._.esoteric] Get full access to The Table at caitpearson.substack.com/subscribe

    34 min
  3. Episode 15: Let The Lesson Play Out: There is Value in Discomfort

    12/06/2024

    Episode 15: Let The Lesson Play Out: There is Value in Discomfort

    This week, we’re diving into the transformative power of discomfort and its essential role in personal growth. Cait shares insights from her therapy session and the book Comfort Crisis, offering a fresh perspective on navigating fear, societal expectations, and the pursuit of fulfillment. This episode is about letting the lesson play out, embracing the unknown, and challenging the limits you’ve unconsciously set for yourself. If you’re curious about how discomfort can guide you to clarity and success—or just trying to make peace with the messy middle—this one’s for you. Key Topics Covered (Timestamps Included) * [00:00:00] The link between discomfort and growth * [00:12:00] Why “checking the right boxes” can still limit your potential * [00:20:00] Lessons from Comfort Crisis: Reframing discomfort as a tool for evolution * [00:30:00] The value of staying curious and following breadcrumbs of inspiration Must-Listen Moments (Shareable Quotes & Highlights) * "Discomfort is not inherently negative—it’s a requirement for growth." * "Your life isn’t your reality; it’s your relationship to your reality that shapes your experience." * "Let the lesson play out. Don’t rush to the outcome; sit with the process." Resources & Links Mentioned * Comfort Crisis by Michael Easter: [Link to purchase] Connect with Us * Follow me on Instagram: @everyday._.esoteric * Join the Everyday Esoteric community: [Join Here for Free] Next Episode Teaser Next week, we’re tackling the “Creator Conundrum.” How do you balance working in your business with working on it? Tune in as Cait shares her strategies for staying inspired and connected to your mission while juggling the demands of creation and strategy. To the brave thing. See you next week! Get full access to The Table at caitpearson.substack.com/subscribe

    38 min
  4. Episode 14: Ambition Redefined: Aligning Values with Action

    11/22/2024

    Episode 14: Ambition Redefined: Aligning Values with Action

    In this raw and unfiltered episode of *The Problem is You*, Cait gets personal. This week’s episode takes a deep dive into ambition, failure, and the challenge of aligning your goals with your core values. Through personal anecdotes and real-time processing, Cait explores the importance of a "realignment ritual" and how embracing your unique energy can shift your relationship with success. If you’re grappling with feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or disappointed as the year ends, this episode is your reminder: you’re not alone, and there’s still time to create intentional change. Key Topics - Why stability can feel overwhelming after years of fluidity and chaos. - How Cait’s ambition fueled bold life decisions, from redefining her photography career to moving across the country with $300. - Redefining failure: It’s not about societal expectations but about self-imposed benchmarks. - The power of values alignment: using rituals and reflection to recalibrate your life. - Why self-awareness and discernment are essential tools for adopting systems and advice. Must-Listen Moments & Quotes - [00:05:00] "Stability doesn’t always bring peace. Sometimes, it feels like chaos in disguise." - [00:12:00] "I’ve never been afraid to fail, but I’m learning that fear can sneak in through the back door of ambition." - [00:29:00] "Ambition isn’t about proving others wrong; it’s about proving yourself right." - [00:36:00] "Your life isn’t broken—it’s a garden. It just needs the right environment to thrive." - [00:38:00] "Success doesn’t come from blindly changing things; it’s about being specific and intentional with your actions." Why You’ll Love This Episode - Gain practical tools for resetting your mindset and reconnecting with what truly matters. - Learn how to conduct your own "realignment ritual" to ground yourself in your values. - Hear Cait’s empowering reminder that failure is just feedback—it doesn’t define you. Resources & Links Mentioned - Instagram: @everyday._.esoteric - What Really Matters Workshop: Launching January in the free Everyday Esoteric Community. Learn how to get specific about what fuels you. - Join the Everyday Esoteric Community Next Episode Teaser Next week, Cait teams up with Lindsay Freeman, the Energy Architect, to explore the spleen center in human design, innate fears, and how reframing fear can unlock your potential. Get full access to The Table at caitpearson.substack.com/subscribe

    42 min
  5. Episode 13: Structure Your Day with Human Design Ft. The Energy Architect, Lindsey Freeman

    10/11/2024

    Episode 13: Structure Your Day with Human Design Ft. The Energy Architect, Lindsey Freeman

    (Episode Number: 13, Release Date: October 10, 2024) Episode Overview Look, you’re not meant to force discipline into everything you do, and no, waking up at 6 a.m. isn’t the key to success. In today’s episode, I’m hanging out with my bestie, energy architect Lindsey Freeman, to show you how to optimize your day using human design. We’ll break down the five energy types and spill the tea on how you can use your unique energy flow to stop feeling drained all the time and start thriving. Whether you're hustling in your business or just trying to manage your day better, we've got some practical tips for you. Key Topics Covered - [00:01:25] What is human design and why you should care - [00:03:45] The 5 energy types: what they are and how they affect your life - [00:07:30] How to structure your day according to your energy type - [00:16:00] Why rest is not optional—especially for non-energy types - [00:22:45] Bonus: Using human design in business and marketing through your defined and undefined centers Must-Listen Moments "You’re not meant to force yourself into things that don’t work for your energy type. Rest when you need it." "Generators need to focus on doing what lights them up, and stop piling on energy-sucking tasks that make them miserable." "Projectors can work magic in a few hours, but they need to be intentional about recharging—because burnout hits different when you’re a projector." "Flowers don’t bloom in toxic gardens—same goes for you. If your environment sucks, get the hell out!" Resources & Links Mentioned - *Get your human design chart:* [designedtobehuman.com] - *Let’s F*cking Grow Guide:* [Download Here] - *For the basics on Energy in Human Design, listen to Episode 6:* [Listen here] - *What People Often Miss in Human Design, Episode 9:* [Listen here] --- #### **Connect with Us** - Follow me on Instagram: [@she_runs__wild] - Follow Lindsey on Instagram: [@the.energy.architect] [@designedtobehuman] - Join the *Everyday Esoteric* community: [It’s Free] to the brave thing, Xx, C Get full access to The Table at caitpearson.substack.com/subscribe

    1h 3m
  6. Ep 12: Manifestation isn't Magic

    10/04/2024

    Ep 12: Manifestation isn't Magic

    Let’s get real—manifestation isn’t magic, and it’s definitely not about sitting around wishing for things to happen. In this episode, I’m cutting through the BS and showing you how manifestation actually works. Spoiler: it’s about taking aligned action, not just positive thinking. If you’re tired of waiting for the universe to drop your dreams in your lap, this episode is for you. I’m giving you real, no-fluff strategies to get clear on your values, take action, and make things happen. ✨ Join the Everday Esoteric Community Here 💫 Key Topics Discussed: * Debunking common misconceptions about manifestation: it’s not magic, and it’s not instant. * The real process behind manifestation—aligning thoughts, beliefs, and actions. * Practical strategies for setting values-based intentions and staying consistent. * How to use spiritual tools as complements, not substitutes, to manifestation. * The role of energy alignment in creating your ideal reality. Notable Quotes: * "Manifestation isn’t magic—it’s about aligning your values, taking action, and staying consistent." * "Positive thinking alone doesn’t create real-world results. You need to back it up with belief and aligned action." * "Your reality is the culmination of your most dominant thoughts, beliefs, and actions. If you want something different, you have to change those patterns." Call to Action:Loved this episode? Share your values and the practical steps you’re taking to manifest your ideal life! Tag @she_runs__wild on Instagram, and don’t forget to join the Everyday Esoteric community for more tools and support in bringing your dreams to life. Final Thought:"Manifestation isn’t about wishing—it’s about showing up, aligning your actions with your values, and believing you deserve the life you’re creating." to the brave thing, Xx, C Get full access to The Table at caitpearson.substack.com/subscribe

    57 min
  7. 09/13/2024

    Ep11: Energy Audit for Virgo Season

    In this episode of The Problem Is You, we’re diving into one of the most crucial aspects of personal growth—managing your energy. With Virgo season in full swing, there’s no better time to perform an "Energy Audit" to identify what’s fueling you and what’s draining you. Cait walks you through the practical steps to assess where your energy is going, how it impacts every area of your life, and how to set boundaries that honor your true self. This episode is perfect for anyone feeling a little depleted or overwhelmed by the chaos of life. It’s time to tune into Virgo’s meticulous and discerning energy and get real about where your energy is being spent. Key Topics Discussed: - How to perform an Energy Audit and why it’s essential - The importance of setting energetic boundaries - Practical tools to guard your energy and prioritize what fuels you - The power of Virgo season for fine-tuning your routines and rituals Notable Quotes: - "Your energy isn’t limitless, so it’s important to get honest about where it’s going and if that’s where you want it to keep going." - "Virgo season is the perfect time to step back, reflect, and get meticulous about what’s draining and what’s fueling you." - "Boundaries aren’t walls—they’re the foundation for building the life you truly want." Call to Action: Loved this episode? Share your results from your Energy Audit on Instagram and tag [she_runs_wild](https://www.instagram.com/she_runs_wild)! And if you’re ready to dive deeper into your personal growth, don’t forget to join The Everyday Esoteric community launching October 1st, where you’ll find workshops, events, and tools to help you guard your energy and thrive. JOIN EVERYDAY ESOTERIC COMING SOON HERE Final Thought: As Virgo season encourages you to focus on the details, remember: the more you protect your energy, the more you protect your potential. Let’s get intentional together. Until next time—cheers! Get full access to The Table at caitpearson.substack.com/subscribe

    50 min
  8. Ep10: Why Potential is Sabotaging Your Growth

    08/23/2024

    Ep10: Why Potential is Sabotaging Your Growth

    Alright, listen up, friends! In this episode of *The Problem Is You*, we’re getting real about something we’ve all been guilty of—falling for someone’s potential. You know, that dreamy version of them you create in your head, only to find yourself disappointed when reality doesn’t quite match up? Yeah, that. Cait’s here to break down the difference between potential and possibility, and trust me, it’s a game-changer. Potential is all about desire—what we *hope* someone could be. But possibility? That’s where the magic happens. It’s about what they’re actually doing to grow and change. And it’s time we stop getting those two mixed up. We’re talking real talk about relationships, personal growth, and how to stop setting ourselves up for heartbreak by attaching to a version of someone that might never exist. Cait’s got your back with tips on how to support the people you care about without losing yourself in the process. This episode is like a loving nudge from your best friend to wake up and see things for what they really are. Key Topics Discussed: - Why potential and possibility aren’t the same thing (and why that matters!) - The emotional rollercoaster of falling for potential - How to love and support people for who they truly are - Practical tips for keeping your relationships healthy and drama-free - Focusing on real actions, not just pretty words Quotes: - "You can’t want something for someone more than they want it for themselves." - "Potential is just a fancy word for desire; possibility is about what they’re actually doing." - "Loving the possibility in people means cheering them on for who they really are, not who you wish they’d be." Call to Action: If you’re not already subscribed to *The Problem Is You*, what are you waiting for? Hit that subscribe button on your favorite podcast app so you don’t miss a thing. And if you want more of Cait’s no-nonsense wisdom, follow her on Instagram at [she_runs_wild](https://www.instagram.com/she_runs_wild). Trust me, you’ll love the behind-the-scenes content and daily inspiration. Oh, and don’t forget to check out Cait’s Substack at [12houseofwild.com](https://www.12houseofwild.com) for even more goodies, including tarot readings, journal prompts, and all the extra stuff that makes life a little more magical. Get full access to The Table at caitpearson.substack.com/subscribe

    45 min
5
out of 5
5 Ratings

About

Tired of chasing milestones, battling shame spirals, and feeling stuck in the “when/then” cycle? The Problem is You Podcast cuts through the noise to help you reclaim your agency, quiet your inner control freak, and build a life that actually feels like yours. Hosted by Cait Pearson, mindset coach and NLP practitioner, this podcast blends tough love, neuroscience, and real talk to transform self-awareness from something daunting into your greatest power. From navigating life’s messy middle to breaking free from burnout, we tackle the hard questions: Who are you beyond your to-do list? What do you really want? And what’s holding you back from living it? Expect bite-sized episodes packed with practical tools, relatable stories, and the occasional gut check—all designed to help you take meaningful action and redefine success on your own terms. Ready to get out of your own way? Hit play. caitpearson.substack.com