The REALationship Method

Chris Lomboy
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The REALationship Method is a comedic podcast about dating, relationships, and advice, blending tips with plenty of tangents. With stories and experiences shared by the cast and guests, it offers cautionary tales to help you avoid making the same mistakes. So sit back, relax, and maybe learn a thing or ten!

  1. 1D AGO

    Love After Loss, Patience in New Relationships & Healing Outloud with King Katty

    Send us Fan Mail You’ve probably met someone who looks “tough” and assumed they don’t feel much. This conversation flips that myth on its head. I sit down with Hawaii fighter and full-time mom King Katty to talk about what strength actually costs, how boundaries keep you safe, and why emotional pain can be harder to heal than any black eye in the gym. We start with her origin story: running the streets, fighting out of anger, and then finding boxing at a small backyard gym where a crew of girls became the first “Lady Animals” training together. From there we get into modern dating and relationship advice that’s blunt but clean: men approaching her cautiously, why social media kills mystery, and the standards she refuses to compromise on like communication, loyalty, and clarity. We also talk about dominance that feels secure versus arrogance that gets checked fast, plus what she values most in a partner through acts of service and words of affirmation. Then the real heart of it: grief, guilt, and love after loss. King Katty shares what it’s like to heal out loud after losing her husband, raising five kids while the house still has to run, and finding patience in a new connection without rushing labels. We close with parenting, structure, and the kind of discipline stories you will not forget, plus where to follow her and details around her upcoming BKFC fight. If you got something from this, subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find the show. • her origin story from running the streets to training boxing with the Lady Animals • being recognized in public and why men approach cautiously • protecting privacy in the social media era and keeping mystery alive • what kills attraction fast and why inconsistency does not fly • simple relationship standards like communication loyalty and clarity • dominance versus arrogance and reading a man’s energy • love after loss including guilt and comparing new partners • patience in new relationships without rushing labels • raising five kids with structure and trust • emotional pain versus physical pain and why self-work matters • blended family anxiety and introducing a new partner gently • fighting as therapy and healing out loud • parenting advice for teen relationships plus dinner table rules • discipline stories including docking allowance and taking a door away Instagram, King Katty on Instagram. I think it’s king.Katttyy. Make sure you guys are there. Ticketmaster will have tickets.

    57 min

  2. MAR 17

    100!!! REAL Marriage Talk, Bad/Good Cop, and Brady Bunch Woes with Tiffany

    Send a text We hit a milestone and decided to make it personal: Chris brings on his wife, Tiffany Lomboy, for the 100th episode of The REALationship Method, and we go straight into the stuff couples usually talk about after the kids are asleep. Tiffany opens up about caring for her dad after a stroke, what recovery at home really looks like, and the warning signs that made her say, “We’re going to the hospital.” If you’ve ever Googled stroke symptoms, caregiver stress, or how to keep your marriage steady when life gets heavy, you’ll feel this conversation. Then we pivot to marriage and parenting with zero filters: the clashes that come from different personalities, how we split household duties without constant “meetings,” and how good cop bad cop actually plays out when you’re tired and overstimulated. We also talk blended family parenting, learning each other’s boundaries with older kids, and why repair matters more than being “right,” including apologizing to your kids when you lose your temper. The biggest debate is one a lot of families avoid out loud: should a 19-year-old pay rent at home? Chris breaks down the real-world skills he’s trying to teach, Tiffany shares the emotional side of letting your kids struggle, and we unpack how to make decisions as a team even when we don’t fully agree. We wrap with lighter moments too, like the story behind our pet name “Ebabs” and the question that stings a little: who gets the nicest version of you, coworkers, friends, or family? If you got something from this, subscribe to The REALationship Method, share this with a parent or partner who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find the show. • caring for Tiffany’s dad after his stroke and what recovery looks like at home • the early stroke symptoms they noticed and why acting fast matters • living together with big personalities and how they navigate friction • how they split parenting duties and handle good cop versus bad cop • blended family boundaries with older kids and shared kids • Tiffany’s support for Chris starting a solo relationship podcast • dealing with family reactions to personal stories and managing embarrassment • parenting moments they regret plus apologizing to kids and handling mom guilt • whether adult kids should pay rent and what responsibility training looks like • mood shifts, venting safely, and what helps them de-escalate • the story behind “Ebabs” and why their private language matters • who gets the nicest version of you at work, with friends, or at home Hey, thank you for listening and watching this 100th episode.

    1h 2m

  3. MAR 3

    Creating the Scene, Persistent with the Vision and Protecting Your Worth with Scoot and Mai

    Send a text Creative momentum doesn’t come from perfect conditions. It comes from saying yes early, learning when to say no, and mastering the details that most people overlook—like how to rescue a high-noon ceremony or coax a genuine smile from a nervous couple. We sit down with two Hawaii-based photographers, Scoot and Mai, to unpack the real playbook for building trust, shaping light, and growing a career that actually lasts. We start with the outreach game: why DMs get ignored, how to write messages that earn replies, and why meeting people in person changes everything. From there, we pull back the curtain on weddings that happen at the worst possible time for light and how pros adapt without ruining the vibe. Night shoots get love too—balancing flash with ambient warmth, asking clients if they prefer cool or warm tones, and using quick test shots to align on style before the big moments happen. Editing and ethics take center stage. Mai explains her minimalist approach—remove distractions, protect real skin, and save heavy retouching for beauty images—while admitting the simple magic of a subtle face swap to fix blinking group shots. Scoot shares how fast, thoughtful in-camera color and JPEG delivery can win clients who need next-day turnarounds. We also talk shop about credits, watermarks, and contracts: set expectations in writing, ask for tags once, then move on and choose collaborators who respect the work. Style threads through the whole episode. Scoot’s fashion revamps—spray paint, rhinestones, glow effects—turn rentals into head-turning looks for shoots and events, while Mai calls for intention over hype when it comes to gym fits and mall wear. Underneath the humor is a serious point: your choices signal your standards. That applies to clothes, edits, prices, and boundaries. Manifest goals, keep a visible mood board, and knock out weekly must-dos to beat procrastination. And remember the power of me time—those quiet hours that protect your mind and keep your craft sharp. If you’re a creator—photographer, designer, or content maker—looking to navigate ghosted DMs, tough lighting, and the politics of credit without burning out, this conversation will feel like a deep breath. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs a push, and leave a review telling us the one boundary you plan to set this week. • choosing guests and saying yes with intent • moving from free shoots to knowing your worth • why lighting beats gear and how to adapt • weddings at midday and saving skin tones • night shoots with flash and ambient warmth • editing lightly, removing distractions, swapping faces • posing with prompts and building comfort fast • DM culture, follow-ups, and in-person trust • referrals in Hawaii and growing a media team • contracts, credits, and handling missing tags • fashion revamps, rentals, and practical style • mindset, goals, mood boards, and me time

    1h 9m

  4. FEB 17

    Cheesecake Factory Isn't Trash, Fake Collabs, and Red Flags in Casual Dating with Zakaila

    Send a text A chance DM turned into a wide-open conversation with model, creator, and early childhood educator Zakaila—Seattle-born, Honolulu-rooted—about building a life that actually fits. She shares how COVID crashed a long-planned world trip, why she pivoted fast to Hawaii, and how that leap brought her back to performance through Tahitian dance, deeper community around music, and a creative lane that feels like home. We get honest about the messy inbox reality creators face: fake “collabs” that ask you to buy in, vague brands, shipping ghosts, and TikTok shop misses. Together we map a simple playbook for protecting your time—clear deliverables, real rates, and the courage to pass when something smells off. From there we move into her day work in early education. Big feelings, tiny humans, and why empathy paired with structure helps kids regulate, communicate, and grow. The hard part? Burnout driven less by children and more by shifting parent expectations and scarce resources. Relationships get airtime, too. We compare first-date norms—coffee “zero dates,” picnics, and the eternal Cheesecake Factory debate—and cut to what matters: intention. Red flags look like months of “almost” with no next step. When it’s real, you feel safe, not confused. That’s how she and her partner knew to choose each other and build forward. We also unpack posting your partner online, archiving for peace, and finding a healthy middle between private life and public work. If you’re chasing creative work, teaching with heart, or navigating modern love, this one’s for you. Hit follow, share with a friend who needs a pivot story, and leave a review with your best scam-spotting tip or first-date idea—we’ll feature our favorites next week. • DM overload, filtering scams vs real offers • Paying to “collab” vs fair partnerships • Seattle roots, pivot to Honolulu during COVID • Tahitian dance, modeling, and the local music scene • Early education work, empathy for big kid emotions • Teacher burnout driven by parent dynamics and low resources • Post–high school adulthood, accountability and timelines • First-date norms, coffee “zero dates,” picnic appeal • Cheesecake Factory debate, intention over hype • Red flags in casual dating and setting standards • Choosing each other quickly, defining commitment • Social media privacy, posting partners with boundaries • Seahawks heartbreak memory and final shoutouts

    42 min

  5. FEB 10

    Couch-Surfing, Owning Cringe, and Scriptless Scripts with Suavenohea

    Send a text A one-way ticket, a do-rag, and $200. That’s how Suave landed in Hawaii at 19, betting on instinct, island culture, and the kind of grind most people only romanticize. We dive into the real playbook behind that leap—why he never scripts, how he handles stares in public, and the moment streaming beat short-form videos for deeper connection. We get into the creator trenches with zero fluff: the IRL setup that keeps streams stable (why the Samsung S25 Plus and top-tier T-Mobile plan matter), what it takes to grow when you’re couch-surfing and DoorDashing just to keep a rental, and how to stay human when the internet won’t drop a past controversy. Suave breaks down purpose with refreshing clarity—spread positivity, make people laugh, and motivate others to chase their dream—while Chris presses on accountability, confidence, and what it means to be recognized everywhere from airports to bathrooms. The conversation widens into life, growth, and the weight of responsibility. We talk fatherhood goals shaped by an absent dad, where discipline meets empathy, and the messy reality of men under pressure. Who’s the prize and why? How do you keep focus when feelings hit hard or attention gets loud? From body image to tough love, from simping versus romanticizing to setting standards that protect your future, this is raw, funny, and unexpectedly grounding. If you’re building a creative path—streaming, content, or anything that asks you to be seen—there’s game here you can use today. Tap play, subscribe for more candid creator stories, and drop your biggest takeaway in a review so we can bring even better conversations your way. • moving from Stockton to Oahu on faith and hustle • DoorDash, couches, and friends who believed • scriptless skits, dealing with public stares, owning cringe • purpose focused on positivity, laughter, and motivation • resolving the Kauai moped incident and learning • streaming vs recorded content, IRL gear and carriers • approaching women, confidence, and visibility on a small island • fatherhood goals, discipline, and priorities • men, feelings, pressure, and resilience • who is the prize, value-building, and standards • body image, health habits, and tough love • staying locked in, avoiding simping, and raising your bar

    1h 1m

  6. FEB 3

    Finding Home Far From Home, Portland Protests, and Dating by Faith with Benny

    Send a text A rainy city can make you feel alone even when you know everyone. That’s where Benny found himself in Portland—craving real community, steady sunshine, and a way to put faith into practice. One week in Hawaii flipped the script: pounding poi, working in the lo‘i, worship threaded with culture, and mentors who measured belief by service. School opened the door, but the heart of the move was purpose—helping kids with incarcerated parents and choosing a place where ohana isn’t a cliché, it’s daily life. We dig into the tradeoffs that come with paradise. The cost of living is brutal, the grind is real, and deciding whether to stay after graduation means doing the math as much as following your heart. Benny opens up about juggling biblical studies with a State Farm gig, the ache of missing Black community, and the blessing of friends who make island life feel like home. He gets candid about dating: it’s not hard to meet people in Hawaii, it’s hard to find alignment. Faith lived out, real conversation, and a growth mindset top his list, and he explains how cultural respect matters more than smooth talk. The conversation turns sharp and honest when we compare Portland’s protest years to Hawaii’s calmer streets, and when we talk about non-locals moving to the islands. Benny shares how online backlash taught him to listen first, honor the monarchy’s legacy, and stop treating Hawaii like content. From not touching turtles to learning why displacement cuts deep, he’s focused on humility, service, and showing up where it counts. Along the way, we hit food favorites, Waikiki’s Vegas energy, and why Hawaiian history should be common knowledge, not a footnote. If you’re weighing a leap for peace, purpose, or belonging, this story offers a grounded map: follow the open doors, learn the land, serve the people, and let values lead. If it resonates, subscribe, share with a friend who needs courage to move, and leave a review with your definition of “home.” • moving from Portland to Hawaii for peace and purpose • school as the vehicle, community as the destination • cost of living pressures and staying long term • dating with faith, conversation, and growth in mind • Portland protests versus Hawaii policing • respecting local culture, land, and history • learning Hawaiian history and unlearning mainland gaps • food, friends, and finding ohana through service

    55 min

  7. JAN 27

    Hurricane SLAP Shot, No Dating Customer Rule, and Handling BO with Hurricane Tee

    Send a text What happens when a bartender at a military-heavy honky-tonk goes viral for a slap and turns it into a professional path? We sit down with Hurricane Tee to unpack the craft behind the chaos—how a novelty “Hurricane Shot” (waiver, your choice of liquor, splash of water) became a crowd favorite, and how consent, clear communication, and safety protocols keep the fun from tipping into danger. Tee shares the real bar operations most people never see: when to cut someone off, why keys get held until morning, how over-serving can put you in court, and what great bouncers do in the first 30 seconds of a bad vibe. We also get into the human side of nightlife. Tee talks about boundaries—why she never dates customers, how to decline a date without drama, and why people-pleasing is a red flag that erodes self-respect. The conversation stretches into tricky relationship territory, including what to do if a partner’s porn history shocks you, how to approach curiosity without shame, and why assumptions break trust faster than blunt honesty. Along the way, we laugh through the sensory truths of bar work, from BO and stale breath to the kindness of handing someone a napkin and a mint when words won’t land. Rooted in Hawai‘i, the episode brings island life into focus—Kailua roots, Big Island night markets, favorites like squid luau and kahlua pig with poi, and a straight talk on cost of living, military culture, and mutual respect. Tee’s five-year vision is sharp: open her own bar, plant deeper roots, collect passport stamps, and build a life that’s both grounded and free. Between slap mechanics, line-dancing regulars, and the small rituals that keep a community safe, this is a fast-moving, funny, and thoughtful ride through modern bar culture and the relationships it holds. If you enjoyed this conversation, follow the show, share it with a friend, and leave a quick review—your support helps more curious listeners find us. • how a viral slap led to a pro contract • what bar safety looks like when it works • over serving liability and taking keys • tipping and tabs that don’t get paid • clean boundaries like not dating customers • canceling dates with honesty and respect • people pleasing as a red flag • first impressions, hygiene, and bar etiquette • local food favorites and Big Island markets • cost of living, military presence, and respect • five-year goals to own a bar and travel

    1h 5m

  8. JAN 20

    Dirty Shoes, Fupa Jeans, And Why Your Do-Rag Isn’t A Crime with Rita

    Send a text What happens when sharp style meets sharper self-awareness? We sit down with Rita—EMT by training, quality officer in detox care, and a fearless fashion mind—to explore how identity, community, and emotional intelligence reshape the way we love. Her story cuts through the noise: surviving a back injury, pivoting to teach EMS, leading with compassion in inpatient detox, and stepping into a new era of personal style after major weight loss. The throughline is agency—owning what you wear, how you speak, and who you keep close. We start with the fun stuff: fashion that respects the body you have, why clean shoes matter more than brand, and how the Chicana aesthetic traveled from East LA through the West Coast into mainstream culture. Rita connects the dots on dark lip liner, representation gaps in beauty, and why crediting the origin isn’t gatekeeping—it’s integrity. She’s building community the old-school way: free styling for friends, boosting small brands, and saying no to clout-chasing because relationships outlast trends. Then we get real about relationships. Keeping score with dinners and chores often masks something deeper: the ache to feel seen, heard, and valued. Rita lays out a practical playbook—use I statements, choose partners who can tolerate hard truths, and decide together how you’ll handle conflict before it blows up. We talk grace for “human days,” the cost of being the fix-it friend, and the power of boundaries when people are committed to misunderstanding you. Age gaps don’t have to be barriers if you translate each other’s language with patience. And when love can’t be shared up close, caring from a distance can still be honest and whole—proof that soulmates can show up across friends, partners, and community. Come for the style, stay for the skills: emotional intelligence, conflict resolution, cultural respect, and the courage to choose yourself without losing your capacity to love. If this conversation moved you, follow, share, and leave a review so more listeners can find the tools and stories they need. • balancing EMT roots with quality leadership in detox care • fashion as access after weight loss and why fit matters • supporting small brands and offering free styling • cultural origins of Chicana aesthetics and giving credit • fashion icks for men and women with simple fixes • keeping score reframed as not feeling valued • using I statements to reduce defensiveness • planning conflict resolution styles together • boundaries with fix-it roles and ending one-sided ties • bridging age gaps with clarity and patience • loving from afar and accepting multiple soulmates Find me on IG/TikTok: Rita_CCE or Rude Girl Dino Justice for Goose: search hashtag JusticeForGoose “KO Studios, thank you for the lovely home. Rappy Bae, thank you for the lovely beats, man.”

    56 min
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The REALationship Method is a comedic podcast about dating, relationships, and advice, blending tips with plenty of tangents. With stories and experiences shared by the cast and guests, it offers cautionary tales to help you avoid making the same mistakes. So sit back, relax, and maybe learn a thing or ten!

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  • Creator
    Chris Lomboy
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    100
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 The REALationship Method
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