The REALationship Method

Chris Lomboy
  • 5.0 (8)
  • Relationships
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The REALationship Method is a comedic podcast about dating, relationships, and advice, blending tips with plenty of tangents. With stories and experiences shared by the cast and guests, it offers cautionary tales to help you avoid making the same mistakes. So sit back, relax, and maybe learn a thing or ten!

  1. 6d ago

    Behind the Crown: Dating, Love & The REAL You with Charieze

    Send us Fan Mail What happens when you take off the crown, the makeup, the sash, and all the expectations—and just talk about being YOU? In this episode of The REALationship Method, Chris sits down with Charieze, a beauty queen and pageant contestant, to go beyond the crown and get real about dating, love, relationships, standards, expectations, and what it’s like navigating romance while pursuing your goals. We talk about the difference between the person people see on stage and the person behind the scenes, what dating looks like in today’s world, whether having high standards makes dating harder, and how ambition, confidence, and vulnerability can all affect relationships. And of course… we get into the questions you probably wouldn’t hear during a pageant interview. 😂

  2. Sep 2

    Dating on God's Timing with Jes

    Send us Fan Mail Dating advice gets weird fast when everyone assumes you must be “talking to someone” just because you’re seen with a man. So we brought Jess on for her first ever podcast and kept it brutally honest: she’s single, she’s never had an official relationship, and she’s not ashamed of it. We talk about what it’s like to be goal-driven in your early 20s while people treat your love life like a scoreboard, and how a vision-board mindset can turn “one day” into real action.  Jess shares how she balances hospital work as a nurse aide with content creation, modeling, and building a clear personal brand around faith, fitness, self-motivation, and independence. We dig into the difference between posting for fun and treating social media like a platform, plus the dating complications that come with being visible online. If you’ve ever wondered whether social media makes relationships easier or harder, we break down DMs, public assumptions, and the endless drama around likes, follows, and “respect.”  Then we get into the deep stuff: commitment fear, vulnerability, high standards, and why “nice” still doesn’t make someone the right partner. Jess explains how faith shapes her dating boundaries, how values like wanting kids can be deal-breakers, and where she draws the line on physical intimacy without apologizing for it. We also talk Filipino family pressure, education-first parenting, and the drive to become financially stable without losing yourself in love.  If you know someone who’s protecting their peace while still hoping for real love, share this with them, subscribe, and leave a review. What’s one boundary you refuse to compromise on? • vision boards as a practical tool for direction and action • building a personal brand through content creation while working in healthcare • growing up sheltered and choosing family, friends, and goals over dating • high standards, time-wasting filters, and fear of vulnerability in commitment • faith as a guide for dating choices, values, and long-term compatibility • physical intimacy boundaries and the need for emotional safety • balancing college, work, dating, and independence without losing identity • Filipino family expectations, financial pressure, and wanting to support a parent • social media and dating, public assumptions, and what “likes” can mean in a relationship

  3. Aug 18

    More Than His Girlfriend: Fitness, Influence & Finding Your Own Identity with Maka

    Send us Fan Mail People love to talk about “discipline” like it’s just willpower, but the truth is messier: schedules, stress, relationships, and social media all shape how we show up. I sit down with Maka to get real about what it actually takes to protect your me time, stay consistent, and build a career that fits who you’re becoming. We bounce from early mornings and late nights into the deeper stuff: what you owe yourself when life gets busy and nobody’s coming to save your calendar for you.  Maka shares her path through entrepreneurship and career pivots, from beauty and esthetics to re-centering fitness and working toward becoming a certified personal trainer. We talk personal branding, switching niches on social media, losing followers, and the confidence it takes to keep going anyway. If you’ve ever thought about moving away for school or work, her Las Vegas lessons bring a grounded look at money, independence, and rebuilding momentum when plans change.  Then we get into relationship communication, because none of this happens in a vacuum. We dig into accountability, tone, venting versus problem solving, and why “I’m silent because I don’t want it to get worse” can still land like distance. We also talk about body image pressure, “looking the part,” and what it feels like when people see you as someone’s partner before they see you as your own person.  If you’re into relationship advice, fitness mindset, entrepreneurship, and social media boundaries, hit play and take something useful from every chapter. Subscribe for more, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review with the one communication habit you’re working on right now. • early mornings versus late nights and how we protect quiet time • juggling business, studying, and relationships without burning out • pivoting from esthetics to fitness and rebuilding after losing followers • body image pressure on social media and “looking the part” standards • handling likes, comments, and online conflict without spiraling • communicating truth with better tone and avoiding disrespect • venting versus problem solving and saying what you actually need • being seen as someone’s partner first and staying grounded in your own identity

  4. Aug 11

    'Speak My Language', 10 Day Movement Mission, and Does Heartbreak Make Better Music?, with Kali Flower

    Send us Fan Mail A song can be a postcard from home or it can be a line in the sand. Kali Flower joins us in person for a super real conversation about coming back to Hawaii, feeling that instant reset, and still carrying the pressure of family expectations, big dreams, and a limited window to see everyone you love. We talk about the questions that always pop up when you visit home, how to show up without resenting the schedule, and why protecting your timeline matters when you’re building a life with purpose. We also get into the story behind her new single “Speak My Language” and the 10-day mission to promote it. What starts as a marketing plan turns into something deeper: connecting with people, reclaiming what Hawaii represents, and pushing back on outsiders trying to define the culture. If you’re into independent music, artist branding, music marketing, and real behind-the-scenes industry talk, this one lays it out with zero fluff. Then we go craft and relationships. Kali breaks down her songwriting process, why heartbreak often makes better music than healing, and how world-building shapes what makes the cut for a project. We talk choreography and breath control training, balancing a Sephora day job with late-night performances, and the hard relationship questions artists face: can love survive an artist schedule, is “support” enough, and what boundaries keep you steady with exes and old doors that do not need reopening. We close with discernment, faith, and the difference between a good opportunity and a God opportunity when everything looks tempting. If this conversation hits, subscribe, share it with a friend chasing a dream, and leave a review so more people can find the show. What part are you navigating right now: home expectations, career hustle, or relationship boundaries? We sit down with Kali Flower in person and talk through what it means to come home to Hawaii while pushing a new single into the world. We get honest about the grind behind music, the relationships that get tested by ambition, and the choices that keep you aligned when everything looks like an opportunity. • Coming home expectations with family and friends and how to manage the limited time • “Speak My Language” and why the rollout becomes more connection than promotion • Building support as an independent artist and finding resources beyond your hometown • Working a Sephora job while performing and why culture matters more than perks • Songwriting from present emotion and past experience plus rewriting endings for story • Why heartbreak tends to create stronger music and what Saltwater Secrets represents • Dating on an artist schedule and drawing lines between stage persona and real life • Training for choreography and vocals including breath control and cardio • Social media making music easier to release but harder to stand out • Collaboration dynamics, pride, control, and learning to trust a team • The reality behind the “smoke and mirrors” of the music industry and marketing rollout • Boundaries with exes and why intention matters with “harmless” messages • Discernment, prayer, and counsel for choosing the right opportunities

  5. Jul 21

    Behind the Ink: Love, Life & Lowrider Culture with Kayla

    Send us Fan Mail You can tell a lot about a person by what they choose to put on their body and why, but you learn even more when you hear the stories behind it. We link up with Kayla, a Waipahu tattoo artist at Tattoo Crew, a lowrider model, and a mom, for a conversation that bounces from shop life to family life without losing the thread: be real, be intentional, and protect your peace. We talk about the growing wave of AI tattoo design and why so many artists hate it, especially when tattooing is supposed to be about creativity, skill, and personal style. Kayla walks through how she gets into tattooing through ombre brows and an apprenticeship, what a legit tattoo portfolio should show, and why rejection is part of the path if you want to break into the tattoo industry. We also hit the tattoos that age badly, like partner name tattoos, and what makes her excited to work on a piece, especially when a client comes with meaning and a story. Then we open it up: lowrider culture in Hawaii and what it takes to get respect in a tight knit community, motherhood and therapy, making time for self care without guilt, and the hard parenting conversations around bullying, fighting, and accountability. We even get into relationship boundaries like separate bank accounts and whether being friends with an ex ever really stays clean. If you vibe with honest talk and real life lessons, subscribe, share this with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find the show. What topic hit you hardest: tattoos, parenting, or relationship boundaries? • why AI tattoo design feels like a shortcut and how to spot it • how Kayla starts with ombre brows then commits to a tattoo apprenticeship • what to put in a tattoo portfolio and why you will hear no a lot • tattoo red flags like partner name tattoos and trend quotes • what makes a tattoo a green flag for an artist to take on • lowrider modeling in Hawaii and earning respect by loving the culture • patience, therapy, and making guilt free time for yourself as a parent • kids fighting, guns, and why parents have to be accountable • a real bullying story and rules for self defense without starting fights • separate bank accounts, joint savings, and avoiding money fights • staying cordial in blended families while keeping boundaries with exes • handling rumors, name droppers, and weird DMs by protecting your peace

  6. Jul 7

    Misused Labels, Fast Rebounds & Justifying Ghosting with Tyler

    Send us Fan Mail Cutting someone off can feel like power and peace at the same time, but it can also be a way to dodge the conversation you’re scared to have. We sit down with Tyler, a preschool educator and aspiring model, and get painfully specific about what people mean when they call someone “toxic” or label a “red flag” and how often those labels get misused when it’s really just discomfort, disagreement, or bruised pride.  We pressure-test boundaries with real scenarios: Do family members deserve unlimited chances because they’re blood? What changes when the betrayal is small versus life-altering? We talk forgiveness versus access, people pleasing, respecting elders who don’t respect you back, and the hard truth that you can love someone and still choose distance. If you’ve ever said “I hope you eat, just not at my table,” this one will land.  We also dig into adult friendship breakups and why they can hurt worse than dating, from jealousy and ulterior motives to politics and loyalty conflicts. Then we go straight at the ghosting debate: when it’s cruel, when it’s self-protection, and how “outgrowing” someone is basically a breakup that still deserves clarity and closure.  To close, we connect the dots to self-awareness and mental health: shadow work, therapy as a tool for perspective, and what it takes to own your part without abandoning your standards. We even zoom out to real-life stressors like teacher burnout, pay, budgeting, and self-worth. If you got something from this conversation, subscribe, share it with a friend who’s navigating boundaries, and leave a review so more people can find the REALationship Method podcast. • preschool life realities, messy cleanups, and what teachers deal with daily • modeling as a fun side hustle, getting paid in products, and runway nerves • staying off dating apps, why people rebound fast, and what that signals • defining toxic behavior vs red flags, plus why disagreement is not abuse • family not getting unlimited chances, and separating love from access • money boundary scenarios, from a karaoke machine to a $20,000 betrayal • why adult friendships end, including politics, jealousy, and disrespect • when ghosting feels justified, how to explain outgrowing someone, and the need for closure • shadow work, being emotional vs logical in conflict, and learning from past mistakes • therapy as perspective not pressure, plus choosing a therapist you feel safe with • teacher burnout, low pay, budgeting, and the struggle to truly know your worth

  7. May 27

    Love Frequency, Powerful Women Surrendering and Fake Lifestyles with Mzeye

    Send us Fan Mail “I’ve never felt emotionally safe.” When Mzeye says that out loud, the whole conversation changes. We go from surface-level dating talk straight into what it means to be the strong one for everyone else, how grief reshapes your nervous system, and why “I can do it alone” can quietly turn into a wall you don’t know how to put down.  We unpack attraction versus emotional depth, emotional control versus emotional suppression, and what happens when a partner’s insecurity starts sabotaging something good. Mzeye shares how losing her mother and going through a breakup pushed her to protect her peace, commit to health and fitness, and stop tolerating disrespect. We also talk about modern relationships and social media culture, where looks, surgery, and “baddie” branding can get more attention than actual character, communication, and long-term compatibility.  Then we get practical about hyper independence and love. Yes, powerful women can surrender, but it takes a partner who shows up, handles business, and earns trust through consistent action. Mzeye defines softness in simple terms: being able to sit back, breathe, and know someone’s got you without you having to manage them.  We also get into creativity and building purpose from pain: why she launched her Love Frequency podcast, her take on healing energy and 528 Hz, what it’s like dealing with podcast tech glitches and guest ghosting, and her new intuitive, therapeutic deck focused on accountability, boundaries, and self-love. If you want relationship advice with emotional intelligence and real-life honesty, press play, subscribe, share this with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find the show. • first attraction through looks, then real connection through depth and conversation • emotional intelligence as expressing feelings rather than suppressing them • disappointment, forgiveness, and why confidence protects the relationship • never feeling emotionally safe and the pressure of being the strong one • coping tools for grief and stress through fitness, health, and positivity • hyper independence online, fake lifestyles, and why collaboration matters • what surrender and softness look like when trust is earned • modern dating lacking depth because social media rewards image over substance • starting Love Frequency after loss and the meaning behind “love frequency” • podcast consistency, tech problems, rejection, and staying focused • creating an intuitive healing deck built around accountability and boundaries

  8. May 19

    Bathroom Breaks, Hormone Shifts, and COVID Divorces with Lola

    Send us Fan Mail The scariest relationship problems aren’t always the loud ones. Sometimes it’s the quiet drift: two people doing everything for the family, handling life like a checklist, then waking up one day feeling like strangers. Chris sits down with wellness practitioner and fitness coach Lola, founder of Lola’s Vibrant Living, to get honest about why that happens and what actually helps couples reconnect.  We dig into a topic many men misunderstand: what can change for women after 35. Lola explains how hormone shifts can affect mood, desire, patience, and even the “lens” someone sees life through, especially after kids and years of putting everyone else first. We also talk about why a well-meaning staycation, a night off, or “go take self-care” can land wrong when receiving help feels awkward, loaded, or unsafe. If you’ve ever tried to support your partner and got pushback, this conversation gives you a new framework.  From there, we get practical. Lola breaks down how routine and structure rebuild self-worth through small wins, why expectations quietly create tension, and how resentment often comes from meaning and interpretation, not just words. We also touch on survival mode marriages, COVID pressure, and the truth behind the line: a lot of women don’t want a divorce, they want relief.  If you want better marriage communication, healthier habits, and a stronger emotional connection, hit play. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs relief, and leave a review with the one shift you’re going to try this week. • hormonal shifts after 35 shaping perception, energy, and emotional bandwidth • why offers of “go relax” can feel unsafe or loaded • the challenge many women have with receiving help and voicing what they want • getting out of robotic survival mode through routine, structure, and small wins • releasing expectations and focusing on what you can control • Lola’s health story, miscarriage, and the question “Is what I’m doing working for me?” • how couples reconnect through acknowledgment, forgiveness, and simplifying life • why timing, tone, and interpretation matter more than the words • the idea that many women want relief more than divorce • finding nostalgia and meaning in the messy parenting years

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The REALationship Method is a comedic podcast about dating, relationships, and advice, blending tips with plenty of tangents. With stories and experiences shared by the cast and guests, it offers cautionary tales to help you avoid making the same mistakes. So sit back, relax, and maybe learn a thing or ten!

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  • Creator
    Chris Lomboy
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    111
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 The REALationship Method
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