The ReMasculation Podcast with Mikaal Bates Mikaal Bates

In 2024 what does it mean to be in alignment with nature? In a culture that has become so accustomed to hustle, technology, and constant change at an ever-increasing pace, what role does the ancient, subtle wisdom of plants have left to play?



With “plant medicine” taking the personal development world by storm it’s easy to get caught up in the hype of hallucinogenic induced spiritual deep dives into the psyche. As we discuss in this episode with Jordan Mockingbird, a practitioner of the sacred healing arts and steward of shamanic medicine, there are many journeys to connect with the deep wisdom of the universe without using psychedelics or other entheogens. 



By being in ceremony with the plants, trees, and nature that surrounds us, it is possible to face our shadows and embody new aligned ways of being in a grounded, sustainable way. I personally journeyed with Jordan on a 7 day vision quest and I can tell you from personal experience, the technology of the trees is not to be taken lightly. 



From sacred tobacco rituals to ceremonial songs, Jordan is an experienced practitioner who lives and breathes this medicine. If you’re searching to reconnect to the wisdom deep within your soul or you’re struggling to adapt to a culture that has divorced itself from the subtlety of life, feelings, and spirituality, then you’re definitely not going to want to miss this episode!


Check the links below to connect with Jordan Mockingbird and the work he's doing in the world

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mknbrd/

Website: https://www.treediets.com/



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(0:00:53) - Introductions

(0:05:30) - Jordan’s Journey, “How this work came to me”

(0:13:58) - Carrying the Altar of Plant Medicine

(0:18:11) - Sacred Tobacco

(0:25:40) - The Subtle Wisdom of the Trees

(0:30:00) - Opening the Channel, the Medicine of Song & Celebration

(0:38:28) - Healing the Masculine’s Divorce from Feeling

(0:43:48) - Remembering the Laws of Respect and Love

(0:50:31) - Why You Should try a Tree Diet

(1:00:05) - Sacrifice, Letting What is Dead Within us Die to Truly Live

(1:15:18) - Learning to Sit with Yourself

(1:21:50) - Fully Expressing our Joy and Liberation

(1:28:00) - Feeling Safe While Letting Go



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Masculinity, Men’s Work, Shaman, Shamanic, Native American, Amazon, Tree Diet, Plant Medicine, Plant Teachers, Nature, Alignment, Sacred Tobacco, Ceremony, Fast, Fasting, Culture, Healing, Sacred Ritual, Consciousness, Mockingbird, Austin, Texas, Personal Development, Coaching, Spirituality, Vision Quest, Journey, Rites of Passage, White Birch, Tea, Wisdom

#16 - The Lost Technology of the Clan

We have lost the ways of community and kinship. The cultural emphasis on the sovereignty of the individual, although beautiful, has divorced us from one of the most powerful technologies our species has relied on for generations upon generations. 

The power of two or more gathering in the name of a higher purpose. 

We hear it all the time; “your network is your net-worth,” “iron sharpens iron,” “it takes a village.” All colloquials that emphasize the importance of healthy interdependence over isolation and selfish fixation.  

In this episode I speak on the importance of finding and contributing to an aligned community. In a culture that romanticizes the Lone Wolf mentality, we are charged with the responsibility to wake up from the delusion that growth is a path walked in isolation and remember this most ancient technology. In service of the collective, in service to our evolution, and in service to healing. 

References in this Episode

King, Warrior, Magician, Lover by Robert L. Moore and Douglas Gillette

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(0:00:53) - Remembering the Lost Technology of the Clan

(0:04:00) - The Struggles of the Lone Wolf

(0:05:20) - How Men Depolarize their Relationship and Lose their Women

(0:06:30) - In Community When I Win, You Win

(0:09:00) - Learning How to Share, When to Share, What to Share

(0:10:50) - Fixation on the Selfish Self Creates Misery

(0:13:20) - The Greatest Suffering for the Masculine, Lack of Purpose

#15 - Initiation



In this episode I talk on the history and importance of initiation rituals and rites of passage. For thousands of years, the transition from boy to man has been accompanied by special rituals and ceremonies. In the modern world however these rites of passage have fallen out of mainstream culture, and yet we wonder why so many men are walking around today with “boy-psychology”. 



These ancient traditions were more than just spiritual practices and traditions, they marked important transition moments in life and prepared men to let the past, immature parts of themselves die and be reborn with a new level of understanding. 



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(0:00:00) - The Lineage of Initiation

(0:03:16) - The Transformation from Boy to Man

(0:07:16) - Universal Moments of Transition

(0:09:22) - Letting Parts of you Die so you can Truly Live

(0:12:27) - The Biological Initiation of Women

(0:14:46) - Men with Boy Psychology

(0:16:18) - Training to Find Comfort in the Discomfort

(0:18:26) - Modern Forms of Initiation

(0:20:47) - How Men Grow Together



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Masculinity, Men’s Work, Femininity, Polarity, Coaching, Psychology, Vulnerability, Boy, Boyhood, Inner Child, Boy Psychology, Man Psychology, King, Warrior, Magician, Lover, Archetypes, Fatherhood, Initiation, Rites of Passage, Shaman, Shamanism, Transition, Mid-Life Crisis, Growth, Transformation

Episode 14 of the ReMasculation Podcast

In today’s episode I sit down with Zach Watson, a self proclaimed recovering Manchild. Zach has become a big positive influence on social media by bringing awareness to invisible labor, decision fatigue, and the negative impacts of mental overload on our relationships. 

We’ve talked before on this show about how the uninitiated man will unconsciously put their woman into the role of their mother or therapist. As we discuss in this episode, acknowledging how much we rely on invisible labor to maintain our lives and households, and making intentional shifts to stop outsourcing decision making to our partners is a crucial step in avoiding this intimacy-killer. 

Zach speaks vulnerably about the impact of being in default mode and burdening his wife with the mental load of his decision making. Like a real King would, Zach took this awareness and turned it into a strategy to better serve his partnership through the implementation of fair play, routine “boring meetings,” agreed upon minimum standards of care, and some simple shifts in communication.

If, like a lot of men, you’ve struggled adapting to cohabitation during COVID quarantine or you find yourself getting into the same simple arguments on a regular basis, then this episode is for you.

Check the links below for a closer look into Zach Watson’s work or search “Zach Watson Recovering Manchild”

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/realzachthinkshare/?hl=en

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCGP1ihHIjbtVeP2KPOPCmw: 

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(0:01:56) - What is Invisible Labor

(0:05:25) - The Impact of Default Mode and Decision Fatigue

(0:09:26) - Infantilizing Men, Statements vs Questions

(0:15:20) - Defining Masculine and Feminine

(0:18:50) - ”Helping Out” vs Co-Creating

(0:26:25) - The Importance of “Boring Meetings”

(0:31:30) - Minimum Standards of Care

(0:35:25) - What She Says vs What I Hear 

(0:39:00) - What are you Willing to Die For?

(0:42:02) - The Real Value of Invisible Labor

(0:47:40) - Showing your Work & Evolving Past Manchild

(0:53:05) - Influencers with Integrity

(0:56:50) - Final Advice, The Power of the SImple Multiple Choice Question

(1:01:05) - Men’s Take on Withholding Sex






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Masculinity, Men’s Work, Femininity, Polarity, Coaching, Psychology, Vulnerability, Communication, Manchild, Recovering Manchild, Vulnerable, Workshop, Invisible Labor, Divorce, Decision Fatigue, Mental Load, Resentment, King, Queen, Intimacy, Authenticity, Battle of the Sexes, Ballad of the Sexes, Withholding, Relationship, Parenting, Partnership, Good Men, Attraction, Standards, Fair Play, Boring Meetings, Multiple Choice, Household, Cohabitating, Child Care, Fatherhood

Episode 13 of the ReMasculation Podcast

You do not want to skip over this one. In this episode we sit down with an amazing Coach, Founder, and Workshop Facilitator Veronica Kaulinis. In a very on-brand conversation, Veronica gets Vulnerable AF regarding her journey with waking up to the work of loving and receiving love from Men. 

Veronica and I have known each other since our early days in “the work” back in Brooklyn, NY. It has been an honor to witness her deepen into the woman she is today and see her pass her wisdom along to other women on the path of learning to receive love. Interweaving the Masculine and Feminine paths, Veronica and I talk about the key shifts required to transmute the Battle of the Sexes into the alluring, desirable, and collaborative Ballad of the Sexes. 

Along this journey we explore the importance of clarity, the art of softening to receive, taking radical responsibility, de-armoring with discernment, learning to say no with loving approval, breaking through resentment, and many more crucial frameworks to unlocking the King or Queen within. This episode was so much fun to record, it will almost certainly not be the last.

To find out more about  Veronica’s work, check out the links below

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/veronicakaulinis/

Vulnerable AF: https://www.instagram.com/vulnerableaf/

Website: https://www.veronicakaulinis.com/

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(0:02:51) - Waking up to the Work of Loving Men

(0:07:15) - Reflections from a Woman trying to be the Strongest Man in her Life

(0:13:34) - Making the Choice to Believe in Good Men

(0:16:50) - Inspiring the Masculine Through Vulnerability

(0:20:03) - De-armoring with Discernment

(0:32:30) - The Ballad of the Sexes

(0:36:50) - Attracting your Reciprocal

(0:42:30) - Eradicating Barriers to Intimacy with Authenticity 

(0:44:44) - Standards - Saying “No” with Loving Approval

(0:51:10) - Breaking Through Resentments & “The Golden Pussy”

(0:57:04) - Kings & Queens are Made in Relationship

(1:02:31) - The Danger of Withholding as a Punishment

(1:06:45) - What do Men Need to Hear?

(1:09:42) - What do Women Need to Hear?

(1:11:09) - Inspiring the Hero & Letting them Lead

(1:18:21) - Your Need to be Right vs Your Need to be Met

(1:20:15) - The Oracle of the Feminine

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Masculinity, Men’s Work, Femininity, Polarity, Retreat, Coaching, Presence, Psychology, Vulnerability, Vulnerable, Workshop, Austin, Texas, Softening, De-armoring, Alchemy, Radical Acceptance, Resentment, King, Queen, Intimacy, Authenticity, Battle of the Sexes, Ballad of the Sexes, Withholding, Relationship, Vulnerable AF, Good Men, Attraction, Receiving, Loving Men, Standards, Play, Goddess, Feminism

Episode 12 of the ReMasculation Podcast

In this episode we sit down with my friend Dan Hochman, a Men’s Work facilitator and musical artist based out of Boulder, Colorado. Dan and I discuss the consequences of living a distracted life, keeping a man's true potential locked in a never ending sedation cycle of cheap dopamine spikes while delaying his development physically, mentally, sexually, and spiritually. 

Fluent in the art of shadow work integration, Dan also discusses the major threats to the developing man in today’s society. The intentional overconsumption of the “three villains," pornography, weed, and video games, leads to immature men who choose to live out their fantasies in a simulated hero's journey while staying ignorant to their true life's calling.

In this episode we explore the importance of intentionally facing difficulty and the dangers of routinely avoiding discomfort. I know this one is going to hit home for a lot of men out there struggling with pornography and other addictions. Our intention is not to judge or shame the industry, but to call up our fellow brothers to a higher standard of excellence. To hone their swords and develop their hearts into fully conscious, awake, aware, and dangerous men. 

To connect with Dan Hochman on Instagram, click the link below

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dan.hochman/

Also be sure to check out his new album, Shadow Blues

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/7HtTx1wffqNseAbZ3vYXvO?si=a3Ir2tEfQ_KjQcL31TUujA

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(0:01:55) - Shadow Integration Work

(0:05:13) - The Heart & The Sword

(0:13:58) - Regaining the Ability to Give and Receive Feedback

(0:19:17) - Distractions - the Spiritual War of Our Generation

(0:26:10) - Your Greatest Discomfort as Your Life’s Purpose

(0:29:00) - Connection, the Other Side of the Coin

(0:35:18) - The Shadows of Men’s Work

(0:40:48) - The Three Villains; Porn, Weed, and Video Games

(0:46:30) - The Integration of the Mature Masculine & Feminine 

(0:50:41) - Pornography - the Anti-Sex Skill

(0:54:05) - The Power of Conscious Sex

(1:02:10) - Doing the Work & Being the Hero

(1:10:45) - Final Advice, How Are You Serving Your Body?

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Masculinity, Men’s Work, Femininity, Polarity, Retreat, Coaching, Presence, Psychology, Illumination, Purpose, Awakening, Relationships, Spirituality, Emotions, Discipline, Archetypes, King, Warrior, Magician, Lover, Inner Work, Life Coaching, Modern Masculinity, Feminism, Shadow Work, Fear, Courage, Strength, Competition, Sword, Heart, Correction, Team, Community, Brotherhood, Distractions, Pornography, Porn Addiction, Semen Retention, Video Games, Weed, Marijuana, Cannabis, Discomfort, Connection