The Ryan Vet Show

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To lead well today, you have to understand the forces that shaped yesterday and the ones reshaping tomorrow. You were made to Inspire Forward...and every episode helps you do just that. The Ryan Vet Show is where leaders come to understand why the world, and the people in it, work the way they do. Hosted by Ryan Vet, USA Today bestselling author, generational futurist, and contrarian leadership thinker, the show blends research, lived experience, and narrative to help you navigate tomorrow with more insight, perspective, and practical wisdom. Each week, Ryan explores the ideas shaping today’s workplace and culture: Generational dynamics and the behaviors that form each cohortLeadership and organizational psychologyChange management and the forces driving adaptationEntrepreneurship and real-world decision makingCommunication, influence, and human behaviorHow the past explains the present and the present shapes the future The show features two core formats: Long-form interviews with leaders, thinkers, entrepreneurs, and creators whose stories reveal the “why” behind their work, decisions, and impact.Weekly readings of the COLLIDE newsletter, where Ryan breaks down cultural shifts, generational insights, and leadership lessons with a story-rich, research-backed lens. Whether you’re an executive, a manager, an entrepreneur, an educator, or simply navigating cross-generational tension, The Ryan Vet Show gives you the insight and tools to lead with clarity, curiosity, and intentionality. If you want a show that’s intellectually grounded, practically useful, and deeply human — welcome. This is your place to understand the world more clearly and lead it more thoughtfully.

  1. 11h ago ·  Video

    Nicki Petrossi: Scrolling 2 Death, AI Companion Bots, and the Fight to Keep Kids Safe Online

    Content warning: this episode discusses online harms to children, including suicide, self-harm, and online predation. Listener discretion is advised. If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988 in the US to reach the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Nicki Petrossi spent years managing social media for tech companies and their executives. Then she started learning how bad the internet had become for kids, and she could not stop. Today she hosts Scrolling 2 Death, one of the most important resources parents have for understanding what is really happening to children online. Ryan and Nicki go past the usual social media conversation into the traps most parents are not watching: Roblox and online gaming, encrypted chat apps like Discord, and the fast rising world of AI companion bots designed to befriend, isolate, and addict young users. Nicki explains why the common excuse, "my kid will be left out," gets the risk backwards, and why keeping a child off these platforms is an act of love, not deprivation. They dig into the velocity gap, the reality that technology is accelerating faster than our morality and wisdom can keep up, and what that means when the companies on the other side have hired neuroscientists to build the most addictive products ever made. Nicki shares what is finally changing: Australia and the UK raising the minimum age to 16, more than 1,500 school districts taking action, court cases turning on internal documents, and a growing parent movement demanding safety by design. Most important, Nicki offers hope. It is never too late to change your family's relationship with screens. She walks through practical steps for every stage, from newborns to teens, and makes the case that the single most powerful thing a parent can do is stay a safe, open place their kid can always come back to. In this episode: Why "everyone else has it" is the wrong reason to hand over a device The online dangers beyond social media: gaming, encrypted chat, and AI companions What the data shows about Gen Z and chatbots, and why it is climbing fast The velocity gap, and why regulation has been so slow How schools and parents can work together The truth about YouTube and YouTube Kids A practical blueprint for families at every age Learn more about Nicki's work at scrolling2death.com. Send us Fan Mail About Ryan VetRyan Vet is a USA TODAY bestselling author, futurist, and international keynote speaker whose insights on generations, culture, and the future of work have been featured in Forbes, Financial Times, ABC, NBC, and CBS. His research helps leaders understand emerging generational patterns and anticipate societal shifts before they fully unfold. Join 20,000+ Leaders for Weekly InsightsIf you want deeper research and behind-the-scenes insights on generations and the future of culture and society, join Ryan’s weekly newsletter: 👉 https://ryanvet.com/collide

    35 min

  2. 4d ago ·  Video

    America Turns 250: They Signed the Declaration Without Agreeing - United Not Uniform, the Generational Pendulum, and the Middle Ground We Never Lost

    On July 4, 1776, fifty-six men who agreed on almost nothing signed the Declaration of Independence anyway. Two hundred fifty years later, we have forgotten how they did it. Generational futurist, USA TODAY bestselling author, and international keynote speaker Ryan Vet marks America's 250th anniversary by walking back into the Pennsylvania State House on Chestnut Street. The signers ranged in age from 26 to 70. They were lawyers and ministers, immigrants and planters, men of different faiths and fortunes who disagreed about nearly everything. This episode of The Ryan Vet Show makes the case that the founders were united, not uniform, and asks what shapes us as a people when we lead with our labels instead of the common ground that was there the whole time. Key Takeaways The 56 signers ranged in age from 26 to 70, averaging around 44 (National Archives). More than two generations stood shoulder to shoulder, and they argued the whole way.The pen went to Jefferson at 33, not to Franklin at 70. Franklin's restraint, knowing when to step back, was its own kind of leadership.Jefferson's one pre-Adams edit changed "sacred and undeniable" to "self-evident" (Becker, 1922). Common ground never required shared belief. It required a willingness to reason together.41 of the 56 signers owned slaves at some point, beneath the line "all men are created equal." The promise was freedom. The practice was not. It took a war, a proclamation, and a march on Washington to start closing that distance.The Generational Pendulum: every generation reacts against the one before it, overcorrects, and hands its children a fresh set of problems to correct in turn.Americans still agree more than we are told. In May 2026, 69% said the country has achieved at least a fair amount of its founding ideals, across party lines and age groups (Gallup, 2026). Ask what unites us and the most common answer is simply freedom (AP-NORC, 2026).Adams and Jefferson were enemies for eleven years, then exchanged more than 150 letters late in life, and died within hours of each other on July 4, 1826, fifty years to the day. They chose each other again without ever agreeing.Research and Sources Cited Jefferson's Weather Records and the National Archives signer factsheet on the room, the ages, and the dayCarl Becker (1922) and Michael Zuckert (1987) on "self-evident" versus "sacred" truthMartin Luther King Jr. (1963) reading the country its own sentence back at the Lincoln MemorialYascha Mounk (2023), The Identity Trap, on letting the category stand in for the personGallup (2026) and AP-NORC (2024, 2026) on founding ideals, shared values, and what unites usCultural touchstone: John Trumbull's Declaration painting (the calm image we inherited that was never the room)Connect with Ryan Vet Read the full Collide essay: https://ryanvet.com/collide/america-turns-250-they-signed-the-declaration-without-agreeing/Subscribe to the Collide newsletter: https://ryanvet.com/collideLearn more and book Ryan to speak: https://ryanvet.comSend us Fan Mail About Ryan VetRyan Vet is a USA TODAY bestselling author, futurist, and international keynote speaker whose insights on generations, culture, and the future of work have been featured in Forbes, Financial Times, ABC, NBC, and CBS. His research helps leaders understand emerging generational patterns and anticipate societal shifts before they fully unfold. Join 20,000+ Leaders for Weekly InsightsIf you want deeper research and behind-the-scenes insights on generations and the future of culture and society, join Ryan’s weekly newsletter: 👉 https://ryanvet.com/collide

    21 min
  3. Weh'yee Barkon: The Millennial Digital Nomad, Africa Rising, and Building a Borderless Life

    Jun 29 ·  Video

    Weh'yee Barkon: The Millennial Digital Nomad, Africa Rising, and Building a Borderless Life

    What happens when you trade a fast-rising San Francisco startup job for a one-way ticket to Casablanca and no plan past three nights in a hostel? Weh'yee Barkon found out. He joins Ryan Vet, a friend of more than two decades, to talk about the digital nomad life, rediscovering his roots, and building businesses across Africa. Weh'yee was employee number seven at a fast-growing electronics-recycling startup, helping it climb from roughly one million to nearly seven million in annual revenue. He was traveling constantly and climbing the ladder, but he wasn't fulfilled, and the pace was wearing on his health. Single, no kids, and standing in front of an open window of time, he bought a one-way ticket from San Francisco to Casablanca and spent the next twelve months moving through eleven countries, much of it overland. As a first-generation Liberian-American whose parents were born and raised in Liberia, the trip was about more than travel. It was about rediscovering where he comes from. Along the way he lived on a Workaway program, farmed in the Sahara, hosted a hostel in Seville, and eventually crossed into Senegal, where an accidental moment with a refugee family and a bag of charcoal became the spark for everything that came next. Today he runs Africa Rising, a recruitment firm that connects skilled African talent to global companies, alongside on-the-ground businesses including short-term rentals in Dakar, a poultry farm, and a butcher shop in Kigali, Rwanda. This conversation is really about the future of work. Weh'yee and Ryan dig into why a lean team of two to five people plus AI can now do what once took fifty, why the return-to-office fight is the same push and pull that follows every period of change, and why, in the age of AI, the real edge is getting back on the ground and shaking hands. In this episode: Why Weh'yee left a fast-rising San Francisco startup at the top of his climbThe one-way ticket to Casablanca, eleven countries, and traveling overland with about ten thousand dollarsRediscovering his Liberian roots as a first-generation Liberian-AmericanWorkaway, a month farming in the Sahara, and hosting a hostel in SevilleWhy we become "country club visitors" of other countries, and how to actually experience a placeThe charcoal-bag moment in Senegal that became his entrepreneurial sparkAfrica Rising: connecting elite African talent to global companies, and why it is a win-win-winHedging online income with real-world businesses: rentals in Dakar, a farm, a butcher shop in KigaliWhy a team of two to five people plus AI can now do what once took fiftyThe return-to-office push and pull, and Ryan's advice to leaders afraid of distributed workWhy the age of AI is sparking a renaissance of in-person, on-the-ground connectionConnect with Weh'yee Barkon: Africa Rising: africarising.workLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/wehyeebaConnect with Ryan Vet: Website: ryanvet.comCOLLIDE Newsletter: ryanvet.com/collideLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/ryanvetInstagram: instagram.com/ryancvetBook Ryan as a Keynote Speaker: ryanvet.com/generational-speakerSubscribe to The Ryan Vet Show on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, and wherever you get your podcasts. The guest era continues every Monday at 6am ET. Next week: Nicki Petrosi on "Scrolling to Death," and what always-on screens are doing to all of us. The COLLIDE essay podcast continues every Thursday at 7am ET. Send us Fan Mail About Ryan VetRyan Vet is a USA TODAY bestselling author, futurist, and international keynote speaker whose insights on generations, culture, and the future of work have been featured in Forbes, Financial Times, ABC, NBC, and CBS. His research helps leaders understand emerging generational patterns and anticipate societal shifts before they fully unfold. Join 20,000+ Leaders for Weekly InsightsIf you want deeper research and behind-the-scenes insights on generations and the future of culture and society, join Ryan’s weekly newsletter: 👉 https://ryanvet.com/collide

    37 min

  4. Jun 25 ·  Video

    Is America Going Black and White Again? - The Wizard of Oz, Gen Z's Grayscale Rebellion, and the Overstimulation Era

    The Wizard of Oz taught a generation to gasp when the world turned to color. Now Gen Z is deliberately turning its phones back to black and white. Generational futurist, USA TODAY bestselling author, and international keynote speaker Ryan Vet starts with a viral photo, two rows of cars sixty years apart, captioned "America is losing its color," and goes looking for the numbers. What he finds is a culture draining toward white, black, and gray, from cars to countertops to the grayscale screens Gen Z is choosing on purpose. This episode of The Ryan Vet Show asks whether all that restraint is peace or avoidance, and what the overstimulation era is really signaling. Don't miss this week's Monday guest episode with Lenore Skenazy, founder of Free-Range Kids, on why overprotection is the real danger. Key Takeaways By 2024, roughly four out of five new passenger cars worldwide were white, black, gray, or silver (BASF, 2024). White and off-white together make up about 70% of US countertop choices (Houzz, 2024).71% of Americans report overstimulation, and Gen Z carries the heaviest load at 85%, nearly twice the rate of Boomers at 47% (Best Therapies, 2026).Students who switched their phones to grayscale used them about 40 minutes less per day, with the steepest drops in social media (Holte and Ferraro, 2020). Bright color is the reward. Take it away, and the slot machine goes dark.Gen Z is the only age group actively shrinking its digital footprint (PYMNTS Intelligence, 2024), and built a movement around buying less called underconsumption core (McKinsey and Company, 2024). It cut overall spending about 13% in early 2025 (PwC, 2025).The bare white room and the dim gray phone may be the same instinct aimed at two screens: when the input will not stop, you turn down the part you can.The open question is whether this is calm or avoidance. A grayscale screen reads as discipline in one hand and exhaustion in the other.Research and Sources Cited BASF (2024), Houzz (2024), and Fixr (2024) on the neutral drift across cars, countertops, and home palettesBest Therapies (2026) and the American Psychological Association (2023) on overstimulation and Gen Z stressCenters for Disease Control and Prevention (2023) on teen screen timeHolte and Ferraro (2020) and Dekker and Baumgartner (2024) on grayscale smartphone interventionsPYMNTS Intelligence (2024), McKinsey and Company (2024), and PwC (2025) on Gen Z's shrinking footprint and underconsumption coreNortheast Recycling Council (2024), EPA (2018), and McDonald's (2021) on the recycling era that shaped MillennialsCultural touchstone: The Wizard of Oz (1939)Connect with Ryan Vet Read the full Collide essay: https://ryanvet.com/collide/gen-z-is-turning-its-phones-black-and-white/Subscribe to the Collide newsletter: https://ryanvet.com/collideLearn more and book Ryan to speak: https://ryanvet.comSend us Fan Mail About Ryan VetRyan Vet is a USA TODAY bestselling author, futurist, and international keynote speaker whose insights on generations, culture, and the future of work have been featured in Forbes, Financial Times, ABC, NBC, and CBS. His research helps leaders understand emerging generational patterns and anticipate societal shifts before they fully unfold. Join 20,000+ Leaders for Weekly InsightsIf you want deeper research and behind-the-scenes insights on generations and the future of culture and society, join Ryan’s weekly newsletter: 👉 https://ryanvet.com/collide

    10 min
  5. Lenore Skenazy: Free Range Kids and Why Overprotection Is the Real Danger

    Jun 22 ·  Video

    Lenore Skenazy: Free Range Kids and Why Overprotection Is the Real Danger

    We convinced ourselves that childhood is more dangerous than ever, right as crime hit historic lows. Lenore Skenazy, founder of Free Range Kids and president of Let Grow, joins The Ryan Vet Show to explain why overprotection became the actual threat, and how to give kids their independence back. In 2008, Lenore Skenazy let her nine year old ride the New York City subway home alone. He had begged for it. He made it back levitating with pride. She wrote a column about it, and within two days she was on the Today Show, MSNBC, Fox News, and NPR defending herself against the title that stuck: America's Worst Mom. She turned that moment into Free Range Kids, and then into Let Grow, the nonprofit she co-founded with psychologists Jonathan Haidt and Peter Gray to make childhood independence normal and easy again. In this conversation with host Ryan Vet, Lenore unpacks how American fear got so distorted. She traces the spike to the 1980s: the arrival of 24 hour cable news, a handful of high profile abductions, and missing kid photos on milk cartons that left out the context. The result is a culture where, by one University of Michigan finding she cites, half of parents of nine to eleven year olds will not let their child walk to a different aisle in a store. Meanwhile the data points the other way. Lenore cites figures putting the American homicide rate back to where it was around 1900, and notes that a genuine stranger kidnapping is so rare you would have to leave a child outside for hundreds of thousands of years for it to become statistically likely. The cost of all that protection is not neutral. Drawing on Peter Gray's work, Lenore argues that as children's real world independence has declined over decades, anxiety and depression have climbed, because independence is how kids build an internal locus of control, the felt sense that they can handle things. Ryan connects this to his Generational Pendulum, from latchkey kids to helicopter parents to today's digital leash. Lenore's sharpest point lands on tracking apps: with around 86 percent of children now tracked, she argues we are replacing faith with certainty, and certainty is more fragile because you have to keep checking it. The episode closes on what actually works. The only thing that changes anxiety, Lenore says, is action. She walks through Let Grow's free programs, the Reasonable Childhood Independence laws now passed in 13 states, and a Harris finding that kids themselves rank free play first and time online last. They are there by default, not by desire. In this episode: The subway story that made Lenore America's Worst Mom, and what her son actually learned that dayWhy American fear spiked in the 1980s: 24 hour cable news, high profile abductions, and the milk carton effectThe University of Michigan finding that half of parents of nine to eleven year olds will not let them go to a different aisle in a storeWhy a stranger kidnapping is statistically so rare, and the homicide rate's return to roughly 1900 levelsInternal versus external locus of control, and how independence builds resiliencePeter Gray's research linking the decades long decline in independence to rising anxiety and depressionThe tracking trap: why around 86 percent of kids are now monitored, and why certainty is more anxious than trustRyan's Generational Pendulum: latchkey kids, helicopter parents, and the digital leashLet Grow's free programs: the Let Grow Experience, the Let Grow Play Club, and the Independence KitThe 13 states that have passed Reasonable Childhood Independence laws, usually with bipartisan supportThe Harris finding that kids rank free play first and online last when choosing how to spend time with friendsReferenced in this episode: Let Grow: letgrow.orgFree-Range Kids by Lenore Skenazy (2009, re-released 2021)Jonathan Haidt and Peter Gray, co-founders of Let GrowPeter Gray's research on declining independence and rising youth anxietyThe Anxious Generation by Jonathan HaidtKevin Stinehart and the Let Grow Play Club (last week's episode)Connect with Ryan Vet: Website: ryanvet.comCOLLIDE Newsletter: ryanvet.com/collideLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/ryanvetInstagram: instagram.com/ryancvetBook Ryan as a Keynote Speaker: ryanvet.com/generational-speakerSubscribe to The Ryan Vet Show on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, and wherever you get your podcasts. The guest era continues every Monday at 6am ET. Next week: Weh'yee Barkon on the millennial digital nomad, work without borders, and what a location independent life really costs. The COLLIDE essay podcast continues every Thursday at 7am ET. Send us Fan Mail About Ryan VetRyan Vet is a USA TODAY bestselling author, futurist, and international keynote speaker whose insights on generations, culture, and the future of work have been featured in Forbes, Financial Times, ABC, NBC, and CBS. His research helps leaders understand emerging generational patterns and anticipate societal shifts before they fully unfold. Join 20,000+ Leaders for Weekly InsightsIf you want deeper research and behind-the-scenes insights on generations and the future of culture and society, join Ryan’s weekly newsletter: 👉 https://ryanvet.com/collide

    40 min
  6. There Is No Such Thing as a Fragile Child: What We Created When We Tried to Keep Kids Safe

    Jun 18 ·  Video

    There Is No Such Thing as a Fragile Child: What We Created When We Tried to Keep Kids Safe

    We didn't raise a fragile generation. We renamed discomfort as danger, then removed the very experiences that make kids strong. The contrarian case for why there is no such thing as a fragile child. Generational futurist, USA Today bestselling author, and keynote speaker Ryan Vet makes a contrarian case: there is no such thing as a fragile child. Kids learn to walk by falling. They are built to fall, fail, recover, and grow stronger. So what changed? Over a few decades we did not simply parent differently. We renamed the experience of discomfort itself. Ryan traces the language shift that quietly rewired childhood. Psychological safety, introduced by Carl Rogers in the 1950s and redefined by organizational scholars before going mainstream in the 2010s. Emotional safety, which spread through counseling and parenting literature in the 1980s and 1990s. Safe spaces, born in 1960s social movements and vastly expanded in the 2010s. Trigger warnings, which migrated from late-1990s internet forums into academia by the early 2010s. Linguistic change is a leading indicator of cultural change. The pain of emotional hurt was not new. It just got a new name. And once discomfort was framed as harm, kids learned to avoid the wet paint entirely. Then he turns to Nassim Nicholas Taleb's idea of anti-fragility, the observation that some systems grow stronger under stress. "Some things benefit from shocks; they thrive and grow when exposed to volatility, randomness, disorder, and stressors." A healthy immune system is anti-fragile. So is a child. Scraped knees, risky play, and low-stakes failure are not threats to development. They are the mechanism of it. Ryan names three forces that combined to strip those experiences away: technology, media, and parenting. Nursery cameras, GPS trackers, and smartphones gave parents total visibility for the first time in history, and visibility created the obligation to manage everything. Media turned statistically rare fears into constant ones. And new language relabeled "challenging" as "dangerous." The cost is now measurable. Research on risky play shows children need age-appropriate exposure to uncertainty to build resilience (Sandseter & Kennair, 2011), and a 2023 review in The Journal of Pediatrics ties the decades-long decline in children's independent activity directly to the rise in anxiety, depression, and helplessness among young people (Gray, Lancy & Bjorklund, 2023). This is the Generational Pendulum at work. Every generation overcorrects for the one before it. Free-range childhood gave way to the helicopter, and the helicopter, for all its love, gave us fragility. But the pendulum is already swinging back. The generation we raised most carefully is the same one now choosing the mall, the bookstore, and the face-to-face over the screen. Kids are not fragile. They just have not been given enough chances to prove it. In this episode: The bear trap parable, and why the trap sometimes has to tighten before it releasesThe "wet paint" test: how kids actually learn, and what happens when we remove the lessonHow four words rewired childhood: psychological safety, emotional safety, safe spaces, and trigger warningsWhy linguistic change is a leading indicator of cultural changeFragility vs. anti-fragility, and what Nassim Taleb got right about stressThe three forces behind overprotection: technology, media, and parentingWhy total parental visibility created the obligation to manage everythingThe data: risky play, independent activity, and the rise in youth anxiety and depressionThe Generational Pendulum: how every generation overcorrects for the one before itWhy there is no such thing as a fragile child, and how the pendulum is swinging backReferenced in this episode: Nassim Nicholas Taleb, Antifragile: Things That Gain from DisorderCarl Rogers (1954), Toward a Theory of CreativityAmy C. Edmondson (1999), psychological safety and learning behavior in work teamsSandseter & Kennair (2011), children's risky play from an evolutionary perspective, Evolutionary PsychologyGray, Lancy & Bjorklund (2023), decline in independent activity and children's mental well-being, The Journal of PediatricsCOLLIDE Newsletter by Ryan Vet: ryanvet.com/collideConnect with Ryan Vet: Website: ryanvet.comCOLLIDE Newsletter: ryanvet.com/collideLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/ryanvetInstagram: instagram.com/ryancvetBook Ryan as a Keynote Speaker: ryanvet.com/generational-speakerSubscribe to The Ryan Vet Show on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, and wherever you get your podcasts. New COLLIDE essay episodes release every Thursday at 7am ET. Guest era episodes release Monday mornings at 6am ET. Join the COLLIDE newsletter at ryanvet.com/collide for the research, reflections, and frameworks behind every episode. Send us Fan Mail About Ryan VetRyan Vet is a USA TODAY bestselling author, futurist, and international keynote speaker whose insights on generations, culture, and the future of work have been featured in Forbes, Financial Times, ABC, NBC, and CBS. His research helps leaders understand emerging generational patterns and anticipate societal shifts before they fully unfold. Join 20,000+ Leaders for Weekly InsightsIf you want deeper research and behind-the-scenes insights on generations and the future of culture and society, join Ryan’s weekly newsletter: 👉 https://ryanvet.com/collide

    14 min
  7. Kevin Stinehart: Rebuilding Recess and Why Play Is a Developmental Need, Not a Want

    Jun 15 ·  Video

    Kevin Stinehart: Rebuilding Recess and Why Play Is a Developmental Need, Not a Want

    We engineered the friction out of childhood, then acted surprised when kids could not handle it. Kevin Stinehart, the third grade teacher and play advocate featured in chapter 11 of Jonathan Haidt's The Anxious Generation, joins The Ryan Vet Show to make the case that play is not a want. It is a developmental need. Kevin Stinehart teaches third grade at Central Academy of the Arts in Pickens County, South Carolina. He is a District Teacher of the Year, a South Carolina State Teacher of the Year candidate, and a Golden Apple Award winner. He also founded his school's Let Grow Play Club, a before and after school program with no budget and no curriculum. He opens the playground and lets kids play. In this conversation with host Ryan Vet, Kevin walks through what happens when you give children back unstructured time, and why the results are anything but soft. The data is the part that stops people. Inside the Play Club, physical incidents dropped from about 65 in one year to 32 the next, cut by more than half. The school hit 100 percent parent approval on its report card, a number that almost never happens in public education. And Kevin reframes the behavior conversation entirely. A lot of what gets labeled a discipline problem, he argues, is really a design problem. The third grader who cannot sit still after an hour of math is not misbehaving. He is doing what a developing brain is wired to do inside a system that was never built around healthy child development. Ryan connects this directly to his Loss of Friction thesis. Every scraped knee, every argument with a friend, every game where the rules break down is a rep. That is where kids build the capacity to adapt. Remove the friction and you remove the practice. Kevin's fix is not expensive, it is a mindset shift: stop being the cruise director, start being the park ranger. As he puts it, he is not there to control the wildlife, he is there to cultivate what is already growing. The conversation closes on why this matters more now, not less. AI will do the fast, factual work faster than any human brain. The capacities built through play, creativity, adaptability, and self direction, are exactly the things that get more valuable from here. Play was never frivolous. It is how kids become capable. In this episode: Why protection can quietly turn into overprotection, and how to tell the differenceThe Let Grow Play Club model: no budget, no curriculum, just unstructured play before and after schoolThe data behind the club: physical incidents cut from about 65 to 32 in a single year, and 100 percent parent approval on the school report cardWhy a lot of behavior issues are not behavior issues at all, but a consequence of school systems not designed around healthy child developmentFinland's 45-15 model: 45 minutes of instruction, 15 minutes of recess, all day longThe American Academy of Pediatrics recommendation of 60 minutes of play a dayThe park ranger versus cruise director mindset for parents and teachersHow friction in play builds the capacities kids cannot learn any other wayWhy play and the skills it builds, creativity and adaptability, become more important in the age of AI, not lessWhat it means to treat play as a fundamental need rather than a reward to be earnedReferenced in this episode: The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt (Kevin is featured in chapter 11)Let Grow: letgrow.orgCentral Academy of the Arts, Pickens County, South CarolinaFinland's 45-15 recess modelAmerican Academy of Pediatrics: 60 minutes of play a dayConnect with Ryan Vet: Website: ryanvet.comCOLLIDE Newsletter: ryanvet.com/collideLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/ryanvetInstagram: instagram.com/ryancvetBook Ryan as a Keynote Speaker: ryanvet.com/generational-speakerSubscribe to The Ryan Vet Show on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, and wherever you get your podcasts. The guest era continues every Monday at 6am ET. Next week: Lenore Skenazy, founder of Free Range Kids and president of Let Grow, on why we stopped trusting kids with independence and how to give it back. The COLLIDE essay podcast continues every Thursday at 7am ET. Send us Fan Mail About Ryan VetRyan Vet is a USA TODAY bestselling author, futurist, and international keynote speaker whose insights on generations, culture, and the future of work have been featured in Forbes, Financial Times, ABC, NBC, and CBS. His research helps leaders understand emerging generational patterns and anticipate societal shifts before they fully unfold. Join 20,000+ Leaders for Weekly InsightsIf you want deeper research and behind-the-scenes insights on generations and the future of culture and society, join Ryan’s weekly newsletter: 👉 https://ryanvet.com/collide

    38 min
  8. The Mothers Who Kept the Window Open: What We Lost When We Took Away the Village

    Jun 11 ·  Video

    The Mothers Who Kept the Window Open: What We Lost When We Took Away the Village

    The hardest part of modern motherhood isn't the work. It's that we now do it alone. The work was always going to be hard. The village was the part we could have kept. Generational futurist, USA Today bestselling author, and keynote speaker Ryan Vet starts at a high school production of Peter Pan, with the image of a mother lying on a windowsill, waiting fifty years for her son to come home. That ache is old. The conditions around it are not. In this episode, Ryan traces what happened to motherhood across the last half-century and makes a quiet, data-backed case: mothering has always been hard, but a century of trying to make it easier has, in many ways, made it lonelier. For most of human history, mothers did not raise children alone. The work was distributed across siblings, aunts, grandparents, and neighbors, with a baby passed from one set of arms to the next. Ryan walks through what replaced that village: a child daycare industry now worth roughly $74.7 billion a year, early-care enrollment for three- and four-year-olds climbing from 9.5% in 1964 to 52.4% by 2011, and a $1.7 billion universal childcare plan announced in New York in 2026. When the family, church, and community leave the room, somebody has to fill the chair. Increasingly, that somebody is paid, scheduled, and unrelated to the family. Then he takes on the cost of being alone. A 2024 Ohio State University survey found 66% of parents say parenthood sometimes or frequently feels isolating and lonely, and 38% report no support at all. Postpartum depression diagnoses nearly doubled between 2010 and 2021, from 9.4% to 19.0%. The first mothers carrying both loneliness and PPD at scale are also the first cohort who came of age inside social media. And Ryan applies the Friction Doctrine to mothering: every tool we built to remove the difficulty, from fertility apps to delivery services to overnight monitors and milestone trackers, carried a quiet weight in return. We now have more information about our babies than any generation in history, and we have often mistaken that information for wisdom. In this episode: The Peter Pan windowsill image that reframes love, loss, and hope in motherhoodWhy mothering has always been hard, and why a century of making it "easier" made it lonelierWhat we lost when we traded the village for institutions, apps, and convenienceThe loneliness epidemic among parents, and why mothers report it most acutelyThe doubling of postpartum depression, and the first generation of mothers raised on social mediaThe Friction Doctrine, Mother's Edition: how every labor-saving tool carried a hidden costWhy we now have more data about our children than ever, and have mistaken data for wisdomMotherhood happening later and less often, and the question hidden inside the fertility declineWendy, the Lost Boys, and why children look for mothers even when they pretend not to need oneWhat it actually looks like to become part of someone else's villageReferenced in this episode: Hunt, Gather, Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff (2021)The Ohio State University Wexner Medical Center, National Survey on the Loneliness Epidemic Among Parents (Gawlik et al., 2024)Trends in Postpartum Depression, JAMA Network Open (Bruno et al., 2024)Pew Research Center, survey on U.S. adults who don't have children (2024)CDC/NCHS, Births: Final Data for 2023 (2025)COLLIDE Newsletter by Ryan Vet: ryanvet.com/collideFull essay version of this episode: https://collide.ryanvet.com/p/the-mothers-who-kept-the-window-openConnect with Ryan Vet: Website: ryanvet.comCOLLIDE Newsletter: ryanvet.com/collideLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/ryanvetInstagram: instagram.com/ryancvetBook Ryan as a Keynote Speaker: ryanvet.com/generational-speakerSubscribe to The Ryan Vet Show on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, and wherever you get your podcasts. New COLLIDE essay episodes release every Thursday at 7am ET. Guest era episodes release Monday mornings at 6am ET. Join the COLLIDE newsletter at ryanvet.com/collide for the research, reflections, and frameworks behind every episode. Send us Fan Mail About Ryan VetRyan Vet is a USA TODAY bestselling author, futurist, and international keynote speaker whose insights on generations, culture, and the future of work have been featured in Forbes, Financial Times, ABC, NBC, and CBS. His research helps leaders understand emerging generational patterns and anticipate societal shifts before they fully unfold. Join 20,000+ Leaders for Weekly InsightsIf you want deeper research and behind-the-scenes insights on generations and the future of culture and society, join Ryan’s weekly newsletter: 👉 https://ryanvet.com/collide

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To lead well today, you have to understand the forces that shaped yesterday and the ones reshaping tomorrow. You were made to Inspire Forward...and every episode helps you do just that. The Ryan Vet Show is where leaders come to understand why the world, and the people in it, work the way they do. Hosted by Ryan Vet, USA Today bestselling author, generational futurist, and contrarian leadership thinker, the show blends research, lived experience, and narrative to help you navigate tomorrow with more insight, perspective, and practical wisdom. Each week, Ryan explores the ideas shaping today’s workplace and culture: Generational dynamics and the behaviors that form each cohortLeadership and organizational psychologyChange management and the forces driving adaptationEntrepreneurship and real-world decision makingCommunication, influence, and human behaviorHow the past explains the present and the present shapes the future The show features two core formats: Long-form interviews with leaders, thinkers, entrepreneurs, and creators whose stories reveal the “why” behind their work, decisions, and impact.Weekly readings of the COLLIDE newsletter, where Ryan breaks down cultural shifts, generational insights, and leadership lessons with a story-rich, research-backed lens. Whether you’re an executive, a manager, an entrepreneur, an educator, or simply navigating cross-generational tension, The Ryan Vet Show gives you the insight and tools to lead with clarity, curiosity, and intentionality. If you want a show that’s intellectually grounded, practically useful, and deeply human — welcome. This is your place to understand the world more clearly and lead it more thoughtfully.

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    Ryan Vet
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    37
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