The Second Shift

Patrick LaRose

The Second Shift is a newsletter plus podcast for nurses who carry the weight of caring for 12 to 14 hours, then come home to begin a second shift. This is the shift no one sees, one that is equally important. I have lived this story. As a coach, I create space for nurses built on real, honest conversations: a plan that moves you from chaos to a life you feel alive inside of again. lifenursecoach.substack.com

  1. 1d ago

    Dismissed: The Nursing Instructor on a Unit That Is Not Hers: E#20

    It is 7 AM on a busy med-surg unit, right in the middle of shift change, when a clinical instructor walks in with eight nursing students on their first day of the semester. The charge nurse looks up from the assignment board with three admissions coming in, asking her to keep the students out of the way. By 0945, a careful student named Hannah is still working through her 0900 med pass, checking every right twice with hands that shake a little as she spikes the IV bag. Her nurse finally steps in with five words: I will just do it. Hannah steps back against the wall, red-faced, apologizing. In this episode, I walk through what is really happening on that unit, why the two easy options fail, plus what an instructor can do differently from the very first morning. I spent years as the nurse bringing students onto a unit that was not mine, which taught me how much the relationships you build there shape the way your students are seen, supported, or held back. This one is for every clinical nurse educator who has felt like a guest on someone else’s floor, as well as every nurse who was once a student. The Key Lessons for The Nursing Instructor: * Arrive before day shift. Ask night shift which patients are best for your students. Review the care needs and assign them to your students. * Meet the day nurses at the desk. Tell them your name, your students, your plan, and your promise to be on the floor. * Send every student to take report face to face, then stay beside the one who needs you most. The Key Takeaways For The Listener: * The unit is not the enemy. A short-staffed day shift that never asked for students sees eight more things to manage. * Silence costs your students their belonging. Sharpness costs you the unit. Neither one works. * A slow student is a student trying to do her best. Many strong nurses started out exactly that way. * Confidence gets built at the pace of the student, not the pace of the unit. * Trust is the real change. Not every nurse warms up, yet the unit starts making room for an instructor it sees as a fellow nurse. Your One Thing This Week Before your next clinical day, arrive before day shift begins. Find the night nurses during their last rounds, ask which patients offer the best learning today, then assign them in a way that fits what your students need. Meet the day nurses at the desk with your name, your students, your plan, along with your promise to stay on the floor all day. Send every student to take report face to face, then have each one give report back to you. Stay beside them through meds, procedures, every moment that calls for teaching. If you are not a nurse educator, think of the instructor who stood beside you. Picture her face. Remember what she did that helped you most, because you can be that nurse for the next student who lands on your unit. From The Nurse Collection I recently asked nine nurses how nursing has shaped them as human beings, along with the advice they would give our readers. Jess, The Creator wrote about how nursing taught her to look beyond diagnoses toward the person, meeting people with curiosity instead of judgment. Her words fit this episode well, since our students are being shaped every day by what they experience with us on the floor. You can read every contribution here: Come Into The Break Room If you have spent a semester feeling like a guest on someone else’s unit, you do not have to figure this out by yourself. The Break Room is our monthly live gathering for paid subscribers of The Second Shift, a place where nurses at every level talk through exactly this kind of moment with people who understand it. Our next gathering opens on November 13, with the event calendar here. When you are ready for one-on-one support, the Nurse Clarity Quick Start gives you three 60-minute sessions focused on your next step. Share This Episode If you are a dean, associate dean, or faculty member who knows a clinical instructor who needs this message, send her the link with one simple line: “You do not have to choose between the students and the staff.” She will understand. Tell Me Your Strategy I would love to hear what you do when you walk onto a unit that is not yours with eight students in tow. Leave your strategy in the comments so other educators can learn from it too. The Second Shift is a newsletter, podcast, plus resource library for nurses. The first shift ends at the time clock. The second one starts on the drive home: the replaying, the worrying, the weight you carry into your own kitchen. I work with nurses who can calm a family, catch a mistake, carry the weight nobody else sees. Nursing changes you. I coach nurses through nursing, not out of it. Ready to talk? Book a 30-minute nurse-to-nurse call. Not ready yet? Send me a DM. I want to hear your story. No need to arrive with an answer. Patrick LaRose, RN, NC-BCBoard-Certified Nurse Coach | Many years at the bedsidelifenursecoach.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit lifenursecoach.substack.com/subscribe

  2. 4d ago

    How To Prevent Burnout When You Can't Take Time Off

    A special thanks to those in attendance at the Live. Some weeks ask everything of us. A deadline will not move. A parent needs help. A child needs college applications reviewed. Everyone still expects dinner. In this episode, metabolic advisor Stacey Naugle, founder of Executive Metabolism, sits down with nurse coach Patrick LaRose, creator of The Second Shift on Substack. Together they bring 76 years of healthcare experience to one question: how do we find our way back to vitality when life refuses to slow down? Stacey opens with a personal story. Nearly one year ago, her father died while she was in flight to Munich with her family. She kept every commitment with a smile. Once home, her body sent the bill: aching knees, fatigue on the stairs, hot flashes she had not felt in years. She applied her own Five Forces framework to herself, returned to a mindfulness practice, regulated her nervous system, used food as medicine, allowing her grief to take its course. Within weeks, she pulled back from the edge of burnout. Patrick speaks to a pattern he has seen from the bedside to the boardroom. Nurses, therapists, pharmacists, social workers: the helping professions put everyone else first. He shares the image of the whiteboard on the refrigerator. One marker for her son’s baseball games. Another for her daughter’s recitals. Another for her husband’s golf outings. She never bought a marker for herself. Rather than handing a client one more task, Patrick begins every first coaching conversation with a single question: What has changed for you? In that safe space, nurses often say out loud what they have never told anyone, revealing whether the struggle lives in the schedule, the body, perhaps both. Stacey walks through the Five Forces of metabolism: energy, fuel, focus, flow, freedom. She shares that 80 percent of women who take her assessment feel guilty about resting. Patrick recalls his nightly three-mile walks at 7 p.m. in North Carolina while raising his kids. Stacey describes a one-minute morning practice on her yoga mat that grew into ten minutes woven around making coffee. The conversation closes on a shared truth: lasting change comes from small, consistent steps, not dramatic transformation. Key Points * Rest is not the same as rejuvenation. Rest gives you a break from demands. Rejuvenation restores your capacity to meet them. * Helping professionals put their own needs last. From ICU to executive leadership, nurses value everyone else’s needs above their own. Change begins when she sees her own worth. * Start with what has changed. Patrick’s coaching opens with this question to uncover whether exhaustion is a schedule issue, a physiologic issue, or perhaps both. * Find the bottleneck first. Generic wellness advice rarely fits women in perimenopause. Stacey’s Five Forces assessment identifies the weakest area, the true starting point. * One degree of change adds up. One minute each morning. One food swap. One walk. Small steps practiced consistently place you somewhere entirely different by the end of the year. Your Next Steps Join Patrick with The Second Shift by subscribing and joining his nurse community called The Break Room. Join Stacy with The Physiology of Ambition™ Stacy’s Free Metabolic Capacity Assessment Executive Metabolism Salon application (cohorts begin January, April, September): About The Second Shift The Second Shift is a newsletter, podcast, and resource library for nurses in transition. For the nurse who has spent hours caring for others and carries that weight home to begin her second shift with her family. I work with nurses who can calm a family, catch a mistake, and carry the weight nobody else sees. Nursing changes you. I coach nurses through nursing, not out of it. If this message speaks to you and you are ready to explore your options, book a discovery call or DM me. I want to hear your story. Patrick LaRose, DNP, MSN/Ed., RN, NC-BC Board-Certified Coach | Life Coach lifenursecoach.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit lifenursecoach.substack.com/subscribe

  3. Oct 26

    Live with Patrick LaRose - The Second Shift and Cyndi Bennett - Resilient Career Coach

    Patrick sits down with Cyndi Bennett, career coach, founder of the Resilient Career Academy on Substack, for her very first Substack LIVE. Together they explore how childhood trauma follows us into the workplace. The safety protocols we learned as children still make career choices for us as adults. They kept us safe once. Now they keep us small. From the nurse at the station wondering how much longer she can do this, to the CNO shrinking at the executive table, this conversation names the patterns, honors the strengths hiding inside them, then lights a path forward one small step at a time. Special thanks to those in attendance. Key Highlights * The duck on the water. A successful career can look effortless on the surface. Underneath, the feet never stop paddling. People pleasing, perfectionism, hypervigilance began as protection for a child with no way out. As adults, we have choices. * The suit at the table. When a CNO shrinks her voice to stay acceptable in the C-suite, the silence travels down to every nurse she represents. * Success is not proof of healing. Overachievement can be overcompensation. Cyndi shares how her trauma surfaced at the height of her finance career. Patrick shares how a childhood moment drove decades of proving his worth. Peace came with one realization: it was never about them. * Cutting new trail. A panic response to change means the bite is too big. Real change comes one degree at a time, at a pace that feels comfortable, courageous, sustainable. * Your superpower deserves a celebration. Hypervigilance lets survivors read a room within five seconds. Few ever pause to celebrate a win. Cyndi’s closing words: you are not broken, your voice matters, your career matters. Resources Mentioned Cyndi offers a free Workplace Trigger Tracker Toolkit to help you see where trauma shows up at work. Find her at resilientcareers.substack.com/subscribe. Her redesigned podcast, The Resilient Career with Cyndi Bennett, launches Tuesday, October 27. Every step below is clear. Pick the one that fits where you are today. 🔔 Subscribe to The Second Shift. A new essay plus podcast episode every week.Subscribe now 💬 Tell me where this landed for you. Upgrade to Paid 🚪 The Break Room is your way in. Once a month, we gather live. No agenda. No toxic positivity. Real talk with nurses who understand where you are, led by a nurse who spent many years standing there too. Your paid membership also includes: * Between Shifts, a guided meditation series * The Premium Resource Library * Nurse-led workshops at 50% off as each one launches, including the new leader series for nurses promoted into management or academic roles * First notice of gifted coaching opportunities Join The Break Room Work With Me One on One - See the full path ☕ Start with a conversation. Thirty minutes, nurse to nurse. Honest. Tell me where you are at in your life.Book a Call, Nurse to Nurse 🧭 The Nurse Clarity Pack. Three 60-minute coaching sessions over three weeks, built around your life. We find what has changed. We build a plan that survives. You take report on your own life. The Second Shift is a newsletter, podcast, plus resource library for nurses. The first shift ends at the time clock. The second one starts on the drive home: the replaying, the worrying, the weight you carry into your own kitchen. I work with nurses who can calm a family, catch a mistake, carry the weight nobody else sees. Nursing changes you. I coach nurses through nursing, not out of it. Ready to talk? Book a 30-minute nurse-to-nurse call. Not ready yet? Send me a DM. I want to hear your story. No need to arrive with an answer. Patrick LaRose, RN, NC-BCBoard-Certified Nurse Coach | Many years at the bedsidelifenursecoach.com Are you sitting in your car right now wondering how to made it through your shift? Maybe this conversation helped you realize you want to feel better about your life and where your career is going. There is a space for you here. Subscribe to The Second Shift today and lets talk about it. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit lifenursecoach.substack.com/subscribe

    Live with Patrick LaRose - The Second Shift and Cyndi Bennett - Resilient Career Coach
  4. Oct 25

    What If Your Safety Is Keeping You Small? (with Cyndi Bennett): E#19

    This week The Second Shift steps outside its usual format. Patrick sits down with Cyndi Bennett, career coach, founder of the Resilient Career Academy on Substack, for her very first Substack LIVE. Together they explore how childhood trauma follows us into the workplace. The safety protocols we learned as children still make career choices for us as adults. They kept us safe once. Now they keep us small. From the nurse at the station wondering how much longer she can do this, to the CNO shrinking at the executive table, this conversation names the patterns, honors the strengths hiding inside them, then lights a path forward one small step at a time. Key Highlights * The duck on the water. A successful career can look effortless on the surface. Underneath, the feet never stop paddling. People pleasing, perfectionism, hypervigilance began as protection for a child with no way out. As adults, we have choices. * The suit at the table. When a CNO shrinks her voice to stay acceptable in the C-suite, the silence travels down to every nurse she represents. * Success is not proof of healing. Overachievement can be overcompensation. Cyndi shares how her trauma surfaced at the height of her finance career. Patrick shares how a childhood moment drove decades of proving his worth. Peace came with one realization: it was never about them. * Cutting new trail. A panic response to change means the bite is too big. Real change comes one degree at a time, at a pace that feels comfortable, courageous, sustainable. * Your superpower deserves a celebration. Hypervigilance lets survivors read a room within five seconds. Few ever pause to celebrate a win. Cyndi’s closing words: you are not broken, your voice matters, your career matters. Resources Mentioned Cyndi offers a free Workplace Trigger Tracker Toolkit to help you see where trauma shows up at work. Find her at resilientcareers.substack.com/subscribe. Her redesigned podcast, The Resilient Career with Cyndi Bennett, launches Tuesday, October 27. Every step below is clear. Pick the one that fits where you are today. 🔔 Subscribe to The Second Shift. A new essay plus podcast episode every week.Subscribe now 💬 Tell me where this landed for you. Upgrade to Paid 🚪 The Break Room is your way in. Once a month, we gather live. No agenda. No toxic positivity. Real talk with nurses who understand where you are, led by a nurse who spent many years standing there too. Your paid membership also includes: * Between Shifts, a guided meditation series * The Premium Resource Library * Nurse-led workshops at 50% off as each one launches, including the new leader series for nurses promoted into management or academic roles * First notice of gifted coaching opportunities Join The Break Room Work With Me One on One - See the full path ☕ Start with a conversation. Thirty minutes, nurse to nurse. Honest. Tell me where you are at in your life.Book a Call, Nurse to Nurse 🧭 The Nurse Clarity Pack. Three 60-minute coaching sessions over three weeks, built around your life. We find what has changed. We build a plan that survives. You take report on your own life. The Second Shift is a newsletter, podcast, plus resource library for nurses. The first shift ends at the time clock. The second one starts on the drive home: the replaying, the worrying, the weight you carry into your own kitchen. I work with nurses who can calm a family, catch a mistake, carry the weight nobody else sees. Nursing changes you. I coach nurses through nursing, not out of it. Ready to talk? Book a 30-minute nurse-to-nurse call. Not ready yet? Send me a DM. I want to hear your story. No need to arrive with an answer. Patrick LaRose, RN, NC-BCBoard-Certified Nurse Coach | Many years at the bedsidelifenursecoach.com Are you sitting in your car right now wondering how to made it through your shift? Maybe this conversation helped you realize you want to feel better about your life and where your career is going. There is a space for you here. Subscribe to The Second Shift today and lets talk about it. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit lifenursecoach.substack.com/subscribe

    What If Your Safety Is Keeping You Small? (with Cyndi Bennett): E#19
  5. Oct 11

    I Do Not Want to Quit Nursing. I Just Want to Stop Feeling So Bad: E#18

    Show Notes: E#18 It is 7:50 in the morning. You are sitting in your car on level three of the parking garage after twelve hours in the ICU, maybe a little longer. The engine is running. A patient on two pressors fought you all night. Lunch was a granola bar at four in the morning. Your phone buzzes with the group text asking for one more nurse on Saturday. Across town, your sister is getting your kids on the bus again. You put your hand on the gear shift, then you do not move it. This episode stays in that car with you. It names the sentence so many nurses hold in their chest: I do not want to quit nursing. I just want to stop feeling so bad. Both halves of that sentence are true. You are allowed to hold both. For the nurse sitting in her car right now, wondering what comes next. Subscribe to The Second Shift and join us in The Break Room. This is where the conversation begins. In this episode * Why the heavy feeling in the garage is not a character flaw. It is information worth listening to. * Nursing has always been hard. Hard was never the issue. Impossible is. * How the job quietly changed shape: fewer hands, higher acuity, tasks that used to belong to other departments, and a group text that never stops. * Why “Should I leave?” is the wrong question, since both of its answers hurt. * The question you already ask at every shift report, turned toward your own life: What has changed? * How to separate one heavy feeling into three honest answers: what changed in the job, what changed in you, what changed in your life. * A case study of an ICU nurse who sat in that same garage, decided to stay in nursing, and did something entirely different. The Tool: Keep and Cost This takes two minutes. You can do it before you pull out of the garage. Before you drive home: * Open your phone. Start a note titled Keep and Cost. * Keep: What is one moment from this shift I want to keep? The moment that still felt like why you became a nurse. The hand you held. The catch nobody else saw. The new grad you talked through her first rapid response. * Cost: What is one moment from this shift that cost me too much? Not the hardest moment clinically. The one that took something from you. The third page to a provider who never called back. Eating standing up. The group text. * Say both answers out loud. Thoughts you only think stay tangled. Words you say get a shape. * Then drive home. Do it three shifts in a row. Day Four: Watching for the Pattern On the fourth day, read your note from top to bottom. You are not looking for one bad shift. You are looking for what repeats. Look at your Keeps. * Where do they happen? At the bedside, in the teaching, in the catch, with families? * If your Keeps live inside nursing, nursing is not what is wearing you down. * Your Keeps point toward the work worth protecting, and sometimes toward a role built around it. Look at your Costs. * Do they cluster around the same thing? The hours. Nights. A yes you gave before you slept. A task that was never yours. * If your Costs live in the schedule, the workload, or the yes, that is the shape of the job talking. It is not you. Ask one question across both lists:What has changed? In the job. In you. In your life outside the job. What it looked like for one nurse: Every Keep was the clinical catch, plus teaching the newer nurse next to her. Every Cost was the hours, the rotations, the yeses said before she ever left the garage. She read her own list and said, “I do not hate the ICU. I hate the shape of my life around it.” Nobody handed her that answer. She found it in her own words. What Staying Differently Can Look Like Her list pointed to a day rapid response role. She still reaches the patient going sideways, and she still teaches the nurse at the bedside. She did not quit on a hard Tuesday. She made one move at a time: she shadowed the team on two days off, asked her manager for a reference, then applied when the day position posted. The honest part matters too. She gave up her night differential, which was real money, and she had to rework her budget. For three months she felt like a new grad again. Her hospital is still short-staffed. The job did not get easier. It fit her life better. Today she drives home in daylight, sits at the dinner table with her family, and teaches other nurses how to see what she sees. She did not leave nursing. She did not settle. She decided. Try This Before Your Next Shift Ends Start the note now so it is waiting for you. One Keep. One Cost. Out loud. Three shifts. Then look for the pattern. Know a nurse sitting in her car right now?Text her this episode with two lines: I do not want to quit nursing. I just want to stop feeling so bad. Ready to talk it through?The Nurse Clarity Quick Start is three 60-minute sessions that flex around your schedule. We start with your Keep and Cost answers and one question: What has changed for you? By the third session, you leave with a decision you made yourself and a plan that fits the nurse you are today. Three seats are open for October, and they close October 23. Nurse Clarity Quick Start Prefer to start with a message? Send a Substack DM with two words: in motion. Share your thoughts about this episode and what your Keep and Cost said. The Second Shift is a newsletter, podcast, plus resource library for nurses. The first shift ends at the time clock. The second one starts on the drive home: the replaying, the worrying, the weight you carry into your own kitchen. I work with nurses who can calm a family, catch a mistake, carry the weight nobody else sees. Nursing changes you. I coach nurses through nursing, not out of it. Ready to talk? Book a 30-minute nurse-to-nurse call. Not ready yet? Send me a DM. I want to hear your story. No need to arrive with an answer. Patrick LaRose, RN, NC-BCBoard-Certified Nurse Coach | Many years at the bedsidelifenursecoach.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit lifenursecoach.substack.com/subscribe

    I Do Not Want to Quit Nursing. I Just Want to Stop Feeling So Bad: E#18
  6. Sep 27

    For The Nurse Running On Empty: The Cupcake Story - E#17

    It is 9:40 at night. You are standing at the stove after one of the worst shifts in a long time, baking cupcakes for your daughter’s class party tomorrow. You were short-staffed from the first hour. Lunch was a cracker from the nutrition pantry. As the batter goes into the pan, the questions pour in. Is there a way to pay my bills on a schedule that does not leave me baking at ten o’clock at night? Is there a version of my life where I actually get to be at that party? This episode stays at the stove with you. It names the thought most nurses never say out loud: I make a good living. Why do I feel like I have no control over my life? In this episode * The money guilt underneath the exhaustion, and why wanting a good salary does not make you less of a nurse * The story that keeps so many good nurses stuck, “It would not work anyway,” and why it feels responsible when it is really hopelessness * What nursing actually offers when you want to change your entire day without leaving the work you love * Why real change starts in the quiet, not with a five-year plan * The clarity question you ask at every shift report, turned toward your own life: What has changed for you? * Jess, a step-down nurse who could no longer recover on her days off, the sentence that changed everything for her, and the decision she reached by her third session * What the other side of change can look like: cupcakes on a Sunday afternoon, a paycheck with room for a family trip, and work and family that each have their own space Try this tonight Say out loud the thing you have been saying to yourself. Then ask one question: What has changed for me? No plan. No spreadsheet. One honest answer. Know a nurse standing at her own stove tonight?Copy the link to this episode. Text it to her with one line: I do not need a whole new life. I just need some relief. Ready for the next step?The Three-Pack Nurse Clarity Quick Start begins with the same conversation you heard in this episode. It is three 60-minute sessions that flex around your schedule. The Second Shift is a weekly podcast for nurses, by a nurse. Subscribe so you never miss an episode. Take the Next Step ☕ The Three-Pack Nurse Clarity Quick Start begins with the same conversation you heard in this episode. It is three 60-minute sessions that flex around your schedule. 🚪 The Break Room: Community. Your way in. Upgrade to paid for full access. Once a month, we gather live. There is no agenda and no toxic positivity. This is just real talk with nurses who understand where you are, led by a nurse who has spent many years standing there too. 💬 Join the conversation: leave a comment on this post. ☕ Upgrade to the paid tier. The paid tier is a space that provides you with resources and support as a premium member of The Second Shift. These resources include: * The Break Room, a monthly gathering space for nurses. * Interactive Nurse-Driven Workshops designed for nurses in transition and nurse managers, provided at no additional cost. * Nurse Resources - all part of your premium membership. * First to hear about gifted coaching opportunities. The Second Shift is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. About The Second Shift The Second Shift is a newsletter, podcast, and resource library for nurses in transition. For the nurse who has spent hours caring for others and carries that weight home to begin her second shift with her family. I work with nurses who can calm a family, catch a mistake, and carry the weight nobody else sees. Nursing changes you. I coach nurses through nursing, not out of it. If this message speaks to you and you are ready to explore your options, book a discovery call or DM me. I want to hear your story. Patrick LaRose, DNP, MSN/Ed., RN, NC-BC Board-Certified Coach | Life Coach lifenursecoach.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit lifenursecoach.substack.com/subscribe

    For The Nurse Running On Empty: The Cupcake Story - E#17
  7. Sep 20

    One Degree of Change: E#16

    The episode opens with a question that sits underneath the whole story: does change have to be dramatic to count? Two options are laid out, ones every nurse eventually faces. Option one is leaving today with no real plan. Option two is building a plan that lets you decide how you experience nursing. Most nurses would choose option two, not because it is safer, but because it makes room for a family, for financial obligations, for a life that has to keep running while the change happens. The story turns to Cynthia, a nurse on a tele-step-down unit at a large metropolitan hospital. She was getting older, feeling the twelve-hour shifts differently, and she knew something needed to shift. She just did not know what yet. Naming that uncertainty out loud was her actual first move. Through the work, she landed on teaching, then found out she needed an MSN to make it real. She enrolled right away. The coursework was never the hard part. The hard part was asking her manager for a schedule that could hold work, school, and family in the same week, a request Cynthia was not used to making for herself. Midway through her program, a new manager arrived and the schedule she had negotiated left with the old one. Cynthia moved into a clinic role with a steadier schedule inside three weeks. The plan did not survive intact. It bent, the way every real plan eventually has to. Today Cynthia is a nurse educator in a BSN pre-licensure program, and she has said it was the small changes, the ones that felt too minor to mention at the time, that actually got her there. Cynthia’s story reveals a shape underneath every real change: five moves, whether or not anyone ever names them. That method lives in the show notes for anyone who wants to see the full version. The episode closes on the same question it opened with. If money were not a factor, what would your life look like? Naming the rough shape of the answer is the whole first step. Three key points this episode illustrates * Change does not require a dramatic exit to count. Small, deliberate moves, compounded over time, carry more weight than one radical leap. * A real plan has to bend. Cynthia’s schedule fell apart under a new manager, and the plan survived only because it flexed around her actual life instead of demanding she follow it exactly. * Naming the want, even in its roughest form, is the actual starting point. Cynthia could not build a plan until she let herself say “teaching” out loud. Take the Next Step ☕ Schedule a Conversation, Nurse to Nurse: thirty minutes, real, honest, no fancy frameworks. Let’s talk about your version of Cynthia’s story. 🚪 The Break Room: Community. Your way in. Once a month, we gather live. There is no agenda and no toxic positivity. This is just real talk with nurses who understand where you are, led by a nurse who has spent many years standing there too. Jopin is September and get 50% off the paid annual upgrade. 💬 Join the conversation: leave a comment on this post. 🔔 Subscribe to The Second Shift for a new essay plus episode every week. ☕ Upgrade to the paid tier. The paid tier is a space that provides you with resources and support as a premium member of The Second Shift. These resources include: * The Break Room, a monthly gathering space for nurses. * Interactive Nurse-Driven Workshops designed for nurses in transition and nurse managers, provided at no additional cost. * Nurse Resources - all a part of your premium membership. * First to hear about gifted coaching opportunities. About The Second Shift The Second Shift is a newsletter, podcast, and resource library for nurses in transition. For the nurse who has spent hours caring for others and carries that weight home to begin her second shift with her family. I work with nurses who can calm a family, catch a mistake, and carry the weight nobody else sees. Nursing changes you. I coach nurses through nursing, not out of it. If this message speaks to you and you are ready to explore your options, book a discovery call or DM me. I want to hear your story. Patrick LaRose, DNP, MSN/Ed., RN, NC-BC Board-Certified Coach | Life Coach lifenursecoach.com The Second Shift is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit lifenursecoach.substack.com/subscribe

  8. Sep 13

    How Do You Want to Experience Nursing Now? E15

    Leaving nursing can seem like the obvious answer when exhaustion, stress, schedule, and changing priorities begin to collide. But sometimes the problem is not nursing. Sometimes the problem is that the way nursing is being experienced no longer fits the person who has grown through years of doing it. A nursing career changes more than a résumé. Bedside practice, leadership, education, advanced practice, specialization, mentorship, advocacy, and countless difficult decisions shape how a nurse thinks, responds, leads, communicates, and solves problems. That experience does not disappear when the role changes. Yet a transition can make an experienced nurse question everything. A new position may feel unfamiliar. Expertise may no longer receive immediate recognition. The impact of the work may look different. The confidence that once came naturally can become harder to access. That discomfort can easily be mistaken for evidence of having made the wrong decision. The more useful question is often not, “What job comes next?” It is: What has changed? That question creates space to separate dissatisfaction with a role from dissatisfaction with nursing itself. It also creates room to recognize what still matters, what needs to change, and what valuable experience deserves to move forward. The initials RN do not tell the whole story. They do not capture the years of clinical judgment, leadership, problem-solving, teaching, advocacy, relationships, resilience, or wisdom accumulated along the way. A nurse is not starting over. A nurse is starting from experience. Perhaps the next question is not whether nursing should end. How do I want to experience nursing now? That question opens a different kind of conversation. One that considers career alongside family, time, identity, priorities, financial realities, and the person who exists beyond the job description. The work of The Second Shift begins in that space. Not coaching nurses out of nursing. Coaching nurses through nursing. A question to carry forward What has changed? Not just in the job. In the career.In life.In priorities.In identity.In the way work needs to fit. The answer may reveal that the next chapter is not about starting over at all. It may be about using everything already learned to create a way of working that fits the nurse who exists today. Join The Break Room The Break Room is a monthly gathering for nurses navigating the space between where nursing has been and where nursing might go next. A place for conversation, connection, and nurses asking many of the same questions. The next Break Room is October 9. Go deeper For nurses ready for focused support around what comes next, the Three-Pack Quick Start provides three 60-minute coaching sessions centered on creating clarity around the next chapter. The starting point is simple: What has changed? Only you can answer that question, but I am here if you want to say it out loud to someone. What are people saying about The Second Shift? Take the Next Step ☕ Schedule a Conversation, Nurse to Nurse: thirty minutes, real, honest, no fancy frameworks. 🚪 The Break Room: Community. Your way in. Once a month, we gather live. There is no agenda and no toxic positivity. This is just real talk with nurses who understand where you are, led by a nurse who has spent many years standing there too. 💬 Join the conversation: leave a comment on this post. 🔔 Subscribe to The Second Shift for a new essay plus episode every week. ☕ Upgrade to the paid tier. The paid tier is a space that provides you with resources and support as a premium member of The Second Shift. These resources include: * The Break Room, a monthly gathering space for nurses. * Meditation Series Designed For You! * Interactive Nurse-Driven Workshops designed for nurses in transition and nurse managers, provided at no additional cost. * Nurse Resources - all a part of your premium membership. * First to hear about gifted coaching opportunities. About The Second Shift The Second Shift is a newsletter, podcast, and resource library for nurses in transition. For the nurse who has spent hours caring for others and carries that weight home to begin her second shift with her family. I work with nurses who can calm a family, catch a mistake, and carry the weight nobody else sees. Nursing changes you. I coach nurses through nursing, not out of it. If this message speaks to you and you are ready to explore your options, book a discovery call or DM me. I want to hear your story. Patrick LaRose, DNP, MSN/Ed., RN, NC-BC Board-Certified Coach | Life Coach lifenursecoach.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit lifenursecoach.substack.com/subscribe

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The Second Shift is a newsletter plus podcast for nurses who carry the weight of caring for 12 to 14 hours, then come home to begin a second shift. This is the shift no one sees, one that is equally important. I have lived this story. As a coach, I create space for nurses built on real, honest conversations: a plan that moves you from chaos to a life you feel alive inside of again. lifenursecoach.substack.com