Not Too Sensitive - Empowering Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) To Own Their Sensitivity

Alissa Boyer
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Have you been told you're "too sensitive" or "too emotional"? Do you often feel drained by other people? Are you moved to tears easily? If so... you just may be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). Join host and HSP Mentor, Alissa Boyer, as she breaks the stigma of sensitivity and teaches you how to embrace your sensitivity as a gift. Here, you'll always be welcomed exactly as you are. New episodes every Tuesday!

  1. 5D AGO

    240. You Might Be in an Identity Crisis and Not Even Know It

    Drawing from a recent coaching conversation inside the Not Too Sensitive Club, Alissa walks through the pattern so many highly sensitive women fall into: outsourcing their sense of self to how others respond to them. When that source gets disrupted (e.g., a boundary gets pushback, a workplace stops reflecting your value) it can feel like an identity crisis. Alissa explores what happens when the external validation you've relied on disappears, and why that unraveling is actually the beginning of something more solid. Because the real work isn't getting people to see you differently. It's learning to source your steadiness from within so that outside opinions stop running your life. What you'll hear in this episode: How being the responsible, accommodating, always-available person becomes the thing you can't separate yourself fromWhy life sometimes removes your external sources of worth, and what the growth opportunity actually looks like when it doesThe inner critic that shows up when you try something new…what it sounds like and how to respond without crumblingBeing okay with someone having the wrong idea about you (the skill most sensitive people were never taught)The difference between needing people to see you a certain way and deciding for yourself who you are Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    25 min

  2. APR 14

    239. Coddling Keeps You Comfortable. A Higher Standard Sets You Free

    In this solo episode, Alissa explores the difference between people who tell you what you want to hear and the ones who love you enough to tell you the truth. Because validation feels good, but it can also keep you stuck. Alissa makes the case for honest, loving challenge as one of the most underrated forms of care, and reflects on what changes when you finally have people in your corner who won't let you stay small. In this episode, you'll learn: Why saying what someone wants to hear isn't kindness. It's just comfort in disguise.How a blunt comment from her husband stung, landed, and lit a fire that changed everything.Relating to your struggle and helping you actually move through it are two very different things.What it looks like to hold space AND hold people to a higher standard at the same time.The relationship audit: do you actually have people in your life who will lovingly call you out? Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    19 min

  3. APR 7

    238. The Unexpected Gift in Comparing Yourself to Others

    In this solo episode, Alissa unpacks what's actually happening when you measure yourself against someone else, and how to use those moments as information rather than evidence of your own inadequacy. The reflex most of us have when comparison hits is either self-diminishment or quiet resentment. What Alissa offers instead is a way to get curious. Alissa shares personal examples and client stories to show what it looks like to catch the comparison mid-spiral and redirect it. The more grounded you are in who you are and what you actually care about, the less comparison has to take you out. In this episode: Why the first instinct is often self-criticism or justifying why the other person "doesn't count,"and how that keeps you stuckHow to read what you're comparing yourself to as data pointing toward your desires and valuesA simple question to ask when comparison hits:"Do I actually care about this?", and how it can dissolve the charge almost instantlyWhy staying in frustration or victim energy doesn't just feel bad. It follows you into every conversation and relationshipHow knowing yourself deeply changes the way comparison lands, and how fast you can move through it Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    24 min

  4. MAR 31

    237. Are Your Feelings Keeping You Stuck?

    In this solo episode, Alissa takes an honest look at why validating your feelings too much can be a problem. Your feelings can be completely valid and still not be an excuse to stay stuck. Alissa shares examples from her own life like the overstimulation of motherhood, the chaos of a busy household, the moments where snapping feels like the only option; and gets real about what it actually looks like to validate your experience without letting it run the show. She also opens up about writing her entire 70,000-word book while postpartum, not because she felt inspired and ready, but because she showed up anyway. This episode isn't about pushing through or toxic positivity. It's about the difference between having your feelings witnessed… and hiding behind them. You will learn: Why emotional validation is essential, and where it starts working against youThe "growth gap": the space between who you've been and who you're becoming, and why your biggest triggers live thereWhat it means to hold a higher vision for yourself, even on the hard daysHow sensitive people can get stuck in awareness without action (and what to do about it)Why waiting until you "feel ready" is quietly keeping you from the life you say you wantThe relationship between self-trust and follow-through, and how your actions either build or erode it Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    27 min

  5. MAR 24

    236. The Creative Power of People Who Feel Everything w/ Brianna Pastor

    In this episode, Alissa is joined by poet and author Bri, whose work speaks directly to the experience of being deeply sensitive in a world that often doesn’t understand it. They talk about what it actually feels like to grow up highly sensitive, and how that shapes your identity, your relationships, and your sense of belonging. Bri shares her experience navigating intense emotions from a young age, the pressure to suppress them, and the journey of reclaiming sensitivity as something meaningful rather than something “wrong.” This conversation goes into: The difference between feeling something and carrying itWhy sensitivity isn’t caused by trauma (even if trauma exists)The healing power of creativity and self-expressionNavigating social media as a deeply sensitive personLetting go of the need to be perceived a certain wayLearning to trust your own way of doing things Connect with Brianna: https://briannapastor.com/ https://www.instagram.com/briannapastor/?hl=en https://www.threads.com/@briannapastor https://www.tiktok.com/@briannapastorpoetry Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    57 min

  6. MAR 17

    235. 3 Tips for Clearing Your Channel and Using Your Sensitivity to Your Advantage

    In this episode, Alissa explores how highly sensitive people can keep their “channel clear” so they can access their intuition, creativity, and natural gifts. While sensitivity comes with powerful strengths—like empathy, intuition, and emotional intelligence—many HSPs feel disconnected from those gifts because their inner channel is cluttered by outside noise, old conditioning, and self-doubt. Alissa shares three ways to clear that channel so you can trust yourself more deeply, connect with your authentic perspective, and stop letting insecurity or comparison block your natural strengths. What You’ll Learn: Why consuming too much outside input can disconnect you from your intuitionHow shadow patterns like overthinking, perfectionism, and people-pleasing block sensitive strengthsWhy doing deeper inner work helps highly sensitive people access their giftsHow to develop your own perspective instead of constantly outsourcing answersWhat it means to “keep your channel clear” so your authenticity and wisdom can come through Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    25 min

  7. MAR 10

    234. Emotional Trailblazers: Why The World Needs Sensitive People Right Now w/April Snow

    In this episode, Alissa sits down with therapist and author April Snow to talk about writing books, being seen as a highly sensitive person, and building resilience in a world that isn’t always HSP-friendly. They share what it’s really like to write a full-length book (including the vulnerability of putting your words on a printed page), how confidence is built through discomfort, and why highly sensitive people are uniquely positioned to lead with empathy right now. From fawning and people-pleasing to navigating criticism, creative risks, and visibility online, this conversation is an honest look at what it takes to trust your voice, even when it feels scary. If you’ve ever held yourself back because you’re “too sensitive,” this episode will challenge that narrative in the best way. You’ll learn: Why highly sensitive people need more representation and resourcesThe healing power of being seen (especially after relational trauma)How to stop making visibility “about you” and anchor into purpose insteadWhy discomfort is unavoidable, and how to choose the empowering kindThe difference between confidence and arrogance for HSPsBuilding resilience without burning yourself outHow to create a “supportive bubble” that allows you to show up in the worldThe importance of reducing consumption to reconnect with your intuitionWhy HSPs are emotional leaders and changemakers in subtle but powerful ways Connect with April: https://www.sensitivestrengths.com https://www.instagram.com/sensitivestrengths https://www.tiktok.com/@sensitivestrengths https://www.youtube.com/@sensitivestrengths Sensitive Circles community: an online hub for HSPs to find meaningful connection without the noise of social media. https://www.sensitivestrengths.com/sensitive-circles Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    50 min

  8. MAR 3

    233. Stop Avoiding Hard Things (It’s Keeping You Stuck)

    In this solo episode, Alissa dives into a core pillar of her work: expanding your tolerance for discomfort as a highly sensitive person. She shares how she is navigating an intense season of motherhood with little sleep and full emotional capacity, while also watching clients move through their own challenging chapters. She explores what it actually takes for sensitive people to build resilience and thrive through life’s ebbs and flows. Alissa unpacks how a sensitive nervous system can default to overwhelm, avoidance, and self-doubt, and how those patterns quietly reinforce the belief that “I can’t handle this.” She challenges listeners to see discomfort not as proof of inadequacy, but as evidence of growth. In this episode, she shares: Why avoiding discomfort keeps you stuckThe subtle ways you weaken or build self-trust through your actionsThe “growth gap” between who you are and who you’re becomingWhy empowered action often feels uncomfortable at firstHow perspective, faith, and intentional thinking transform hard seasonsThe importance of choosing expansion over staying small Join us for Sensitive & Steady! My free 3-day workshop for highly sensitive women happening March 2nd, 4th, & 6th. CLICK HERE to register for free. Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is: Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple PodcastsEmail a screenshot of your review to hello@lifebyalissa.com That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Have you been told you're "too sensitive" or "too emotional"? Do you often feel drained by other people? Are you moved to tears easily? If so... you just may be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). Join host and HSP Mentor, Alissa Boyer, as she breaks the stigma of sensitivity and teaches you how to embrace your sensitivity as a gift. Here, you'll always be welcomed exactly as you are. New episodes every Tuesday!

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