The Soul Enchilada

Laura Busse and Christine Ruth M.Div., MS, LMFT
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The Soul Enchilada

Are you a hot mess? Well, welcome to the club! We asked over 500 women for questions they would ask a therapist, and were blown away by their responses. They asked about everything... pretty much "the whole enchilada" of the issues women are facing today. So welcome to "The Soul Enchilada," where we'll talk about anything... Your $hitshow is our $hitshow, and NOTHING is off limits. Thanks for listening! Please LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and SHARE this. Learn more about Laura and The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call: https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth: http://www.christineruth.com/ Learn more about Laura’s Faith Studies: https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/bible-studies Download the free 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call App: https://subsplash.com/the3oclockwakeupc/app

  1. 1D AGO

    SE 112: Bridging the Gaps By Leading With Love, with special guest Dina Bucholz

    This Week’s Listener Question: This week, Laura talks with longtime friend, author, and Orthodox Jewish woman Dinah Bucholz about how to love our neighbors in a world where antisemitism is ever present for Dinah and her family. They share real stories, raw emotions, and highlight how we can lead with love, even when our neighbors have different faith practices or worldviews.   SOUL Group Questions: Ask each other these questions to build a stronger connection with a friend or in your Soul Group.   1. What about Laura and Dinah’s conversation encouraged or challenged you?   2. Have you ever experienced or witnessed racial and religious cruelty similar to Dinah’s daughter being shoved off the subway? If so, how did you feel, and what did you learn?   3. In what ways can we take the time to learn more about our neighbors who may hold different beliefs or view the world through a unique lens?   4. Dinah explained that love is about doing, not necessarily about feeling. When have you witnessed loving your neighbor in action?   5. Million Dollar Question: How can we look past a person’s appearance and see them as made in “God’s image”? (Email Laura if you have any Ah-ha thoughts ;)   Connect with Laura: Have a question for us? Please send them to questions@soulenchilada.com. Check out our new cool and cozy t-shirts at soulenchilada.com To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit griefandhope.org     To ask Laura to speak at your event – laurabusse.com Learn more about Laura’s ministry, The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE   Scripture Mentioned: Hear O Israel, the LORD our God, the LORD is One. Love the LORD God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. – Deuteronomy 6:4-5   Love your neighbor as yourself. – Leviticus 19:18   Good Samaritan Story – Luke 10:25-37

    34 min

  2. JUN 24

    SE 111: What NOT to say, with special guest Mick Juarez

    SOUL Group Questions: Ask each other these questions to build a stronger connection with a friend or in your Soul Group.   1.   What did you hear from Laura and Mick’s conversation that surprised you about grief?   2.  When have you walked through the D’s Laura brought up (death, divorce, devastation, disease, debt…)? How did that experience impact how you see the world today?   3.  What are ways we can support people who are grieving? Why is it important to be careful with the words we choose and the language we use around grief and loss?   4.  Who needs your presence, listening ear, or loving-kindness because they are walking through a dark valley or along a tough road? How will you show up for them?   Connect with Laura:   Have a question for us? Please send them to questions@soulenchilada.com. Check out our new cool and cozy t-shirts at soulenchilada.com   To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit griefandhope.org    To ask Laura to speak at your event – laurabusse.com Learn more about Laura’s ministry, The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE

    36 min

  3. JUN 10

    SE 110: Let's Talk About a Tough Topic

    This Week’s Listener Question: My child came home from college and says he now identifies as gay and has a boyfriend. I was raised in a church that believes homosexuality is a sin. What do you think I should do?   SOUL Group Questions: Ask each other these questions to build a stronger connection with a friend or in your Soul Group.   1.  What are your first thoughts and emotions after listening to this podcast? What comes up for you?   2. When you’re faced with a tough topic, how do you usually prepare for the conversation and carry it out?   3.  If you grew up in the church or attend one now, why do you think some sins are talked about more than others?   4.  Laura and Christine referred to the Bible passage Micah 6:9 – What does the LORD require of you? To act justly to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God. How might this call help us to have the courage to engage in tough conversations?   Connect with Laura & Christine:   Have a question for us? Please send them to questions@soulenchilada.com. Check out our new cool and cozy t-shirts at soulenchilada.com   To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit griefandhope.org    To ask Laura to speak at your event – laurabusse.com Learn more about Laura’s ministry, The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE   Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

    38 min

  4. MAY 27

    SE 109: Speak Up, or Shut Up? Guidance For a Divided World.

    This Week’s Listener Question: It seems that we’re living in a time when family and friends disagree significantly on important issues. I find myself arguing with some people and ignoring others because I’d rather live in unity and everyone get along. Do you have any advice?   SOUL Group Questions: Ask each other these questions to build a stronger connection with a friend or in your Soul Group.   1.  How has judgment, categorizing, or labeling wounded you or someone you care about in the past?   2.  How can we step back from judging others and open up curious conversations? What does that look and sound like?   3.  Even when you disagree with someone, how can you maintain a connection of love or friendship?   4.  When have you welcomed people into your home or life who have different beliefs or lifestyles than you? Share your stories to encourage others to do the same.    Connect with Laura & Christine:   Have a question for us? Please send them to questions@soulenchilada.com. Check out our new cool and cozy t-shirts at soulenchilada.com   To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit griefandhope.org    To ask Laura to speak at your event – laurabusse.com Learn more about Laura’s ministry, The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE   Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

    32 min

  5. MAY 13

    SE 108: Can't Decide? Here's Some Help if You're Stuck.

    This Week’s Listener Question: I just got a job offer to move to Portland, Oregon. I’ve always lived in the Midwest. If I go, I’ll leave family, friends, and everything familiar. But this is a great opportunity for my career, and it could really feed my adventurous soul. How do I decide?      SOUL Group Questions: Ask each other these questions to build a stronger connection with a friend or in your Soul Group.   1.  What intelligence center (head, heart, or gut) did you use to make decisions as a child? Which one was prioritized in your family of origin?   2. How have you cultivated or practiced an intentional time of stillness? Where do you tend to go? What do you do during this time?   3.  Let’s practice! Think about one decision you need to make. Now imagine each option you could take. How does each one feel in your body? Do you have a sense of pressure, delight, or expansion? Does this help you make your decision?   4.  When have you done something afraid where you were trembling with fear? What did you learn about yourself, God, or others from this experience?   Save the Date: Laura and Christine are planning a Soul Enchilada Live (SEL) event in Boulder, Colorado, on June 13 – 14, 2025. More information will be coming soon!   Connect with Laura & Christine:   Have a question for us? Please send them to questions@soulenchilada.com. Check out our new cool and cozy t-shirts at soulenchilada.com   To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit griefandhope.org    To ask Laura to speak at your event – laurabusse.com Learn more about Laura’s ministry, The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE   Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

    29 min

  6. APR 29

    SE 107: Do You Make Hard Decisions With Your Head, Your Heart, or Your Gut?

    This Week’s Listener Question: I just got a job offer to move to Portland, Oregon. I’ve always lived in the Midwest. If I go, I’ll leave family, friends, and everything familiar. But this is a great opportunity for my career, and it could really feed my adventurous soul. How do I decide?      SOUL Group Questions: Ask each other these questions to build a stronger connection with a friend or in your Soul Group.   1.  What’s one decision you need to make in this season of your life?   2. Check in with what your head, heart, and gut are saying. How are they communicating with you in similar and different ways?   3.  Use your body as a resource. What is your “felt sense” when you envision the various options? How does your body help you make decisions?   4.  After these exercises, what decision are you leaning towards? What’s the first step you need to take?   Resources   Christine mentioned her brother’s church, Substance Church in Minneapolis. You can check it out here – substancechurch.com    Connect with Laura & Christine:   Have a question for us? Please send them to questions@soulenchilada.com. Check out our new cool and cozy t-shirts at soulenchilada.com   To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit griefandhope.org    To ask Laura to speak at your event – laurabusse.com Learn more about Laura’s ministry, The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE   Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

    27 min

  7. APR 15

    SE 106: Don't Judge Me, Don't Fix Me

    This Week’s Listener Question: I appreciate your podcast because, to be honest, I’m afraid to share the real details of my life. When I do share with my Christian friends, I feel judged, and they usually try to fix me. How do I find a safe community of Christians like the Soul Enchilada?      SOUL Group Questions: Ask each other these questions to build a stronger connection with a friend or in your Soul Group.   1. How would you describe a safe faith community? Have you found one?   2. When someone shares messy details about their lives with you, do you have fixer parts that jump into action?   3.        How does it make you feel when someone tries to control or fix your problems?   4. What about Christine and Laura’s conversation about Jesus resonated, fascinated, or perplexed you?   5.  What traditions or practices strengthen your faith or draw you closer to God during Holy Week?   You Are Invited! Good Friday Prayer Walk Friday, April 18th, 3:00 p.m. (MT) Wanaka Lake, Lafayette, CO, or wherever you live Register to receive the Prayer Walk Guide – REGISTER BY 4/18/25   Connect with Laura & Christine:   Have a question for us? Please send them to questions@soulenchilada.com.   To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit griefandhope.org    To ask Laura to speak at your event – laurabusse.com Learn more about Laura’s ministry, The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE   Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

    31 min

  8. APR 1

    SE 105: Dealing With Adultery, Part 2

    This Week’s Listener Question: My sister found out that her husband had an affair and he is promising to stop and wants to save the marriage. Can people truly get over an affair?   SOUL Group Questions: To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.   1.   When has triangulation effected one of your relationships?   2.  What boundaries or expectations do you have in your most intimate relationship?   3.   Think of a time when you were able to rebuild trust or reconcile a relationship. What were the steps you took?   4.   How could you become a “better student” and learn more about your key relationships?   5.   What is a relationship “master class” you’d like to take with someone you love? How could your invite them to lean in and learn with you?    Resources:   The State of Affairs by Esther Perel Book   Connect with Laura & Christine:   Have a question for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com    To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit griefandhope.org    To ask Laura to speak at your event – laurabusse.com Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE   Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

    30 min
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Are you a hot mess? Well, welcome to the club! We asked over 500 women for questions they would ask a therapist, and were blown away by their responses. They asked about everything... pretty much "the whole enchilada" of the issues women are facing today. So welcome to "The Soul Enchilada," where we'll talk about anything... Your $hitshow is our $hitshow, and NOTHING is off limits. Thanks for listening! Please LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and SHARE this. Learn more about Laura and The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call: https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/ Learn more about Christine Ruth: http://www.christineruth.com/ Learn more about Laura’s Faith Studies: https://www.3oclockwakeup.com/bible-studies Download the free 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call App: https://subsplash.com/the3oclockwakeupc/app

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  • Creator
    Laura Busse and Christine Ruth M.Div., MS, LMFT
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2025
  • Episodes
    116
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2025 The 3 O'Clock Wake Up Call
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    The Soul Enchilada

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