The Strong and Capable Brigette Heller

After waking up feeling heart broken over the shootings in Texas, Brigette takes a moment to encourage and lift her audience.

Feel the feelings and then choose what to do with them.

In this episode Brigette  invitees you into her free monthly class as she shares the secret recipe that has guided her since she was a young adult, enabling her to over come fear and choose the life she wants to live. 

"The secret recipe is all about mindset and mental health. Its all about tuning into your mind and heart so you can make a plan for how to take care of yourself."

when we tell ourself negative things, when we choose to put ourself down and tell ourselves negative things " I am no good, very bad and horrible, it makes us weak. The way me make ourselves strong is the opposite, I am good, strong, capable, passionate..."

"I have been on a mission for 8 years- what is strong and capable, what does that mean and why does it matter if we believe it."

We are born with all the best ingredients, the perfect recipe for success, but life makes us doubt that and so we start switching up the ingredients a bit.. if we would just follow the recipe we would be good.. but we switch up the recipe as we experience life which makes us doubt ourselves.

We start telling ourselves every time we have a failure, or we THINK we have a failure, we tell ourself that we are doing something WRONG, our brain is trying to keep us safe- which is good, but we were never in danger, and what happens is by the time we are a teenager we don't know who wee are and we start desperately to lash out and find ourselves again.

The things of our heart, we just don't want to give up on them.

While music is something I love, It became something I did in secret..

We can evolve and we can change

when I started to rewrite my thoughts I realized that maybe I am not a professional singer, but its something I love, its part of who I am, its part of my DNA, part of my perfect recipe.

I accept myself unconditionally right now- Becky Kemp

Say "I am learning", We are always learning, always growing... Everything you do is a content process of learning and growing and as soon as you accept that, life gets easier.

You think 70-80,000 thoughts a day and if you don't know what recipes are going, what code is being written for your actions, you don't have the power over your life you want to have.

What you are doing a thought inventory- Write WHATEVER comes to your mind, it take practice to tune into your thoughts.

Look at your thoughts, positive, negative and everything in between and start to look for patterns because a Thought + belief = Feeling

Limiting beliefs hold you back. when your consistently telling yourself "I have no control over my life" then that becomes a belief and it holds you back.

your brain is going to search for evidence of every living belief, so the new belief has to be something you ACTUALLY believe 

so you have to take those patterns and negative thoughts and rewrite them, literally- write them down and create a new belief that is positive and give it evidence to take root in your mind and heart. One (negative thought) is stopping and draining me and one (positive thought) is powerful and gives me purpose

you can put your new beliefs on your mirror, on your phone screen, on a 3 by 5 card and take it with you wherever you go.

take your new belief "evidence" from outside sources that are trusted. "I used to be afraid of the dark until I learned that I AM A LIGHT and the dark is afraid of me (Ephesians 5:8)

The evidence should be clean, clear and something you can trust, there will be times when life is hard and the anxiety pops up to tell you that your new belief is bad and wrong, but you will be able to say "no, no" I know the truth because you have the new belief you have rewritten.

Some women Fear the fire, some become it R.H Sin

Desperation does not bring victory, what does bring victory is Passion, hope, knowledge.

Katie and Brigette take to opportunity to speak about mental health and Abuse, how the two correlate, how we can teach our children and how to act if they become victims of abuse. 

Katie Hastings is a pediatric nurse, author of children’s book Your Safe Body, mother, wife, child abuse survivor and creator of SHOUT™️. SHOUT is a body safety acronym taught in her book to help parents educate and prevent sexual abuse in children. She lives in Hawaii on the island of Oahu with her husband and four sons. She also is founder and owner of company SHOUt which is dedicated to abuse prevention. She loves getting outside to enjoy the island, watching her boys participate in sporting activities, and taking it easy too with a good book, travel, or visiting with family and friends.

Quotes from the Episode:

" 1 in 5 before the age of 18 are sexually abused "- Katie

S.H.O.U.T:

Stop

Help

Out

Unsafe

Tell

The ways the child's brain will think, a lot of victims are with someone they know so it comes with shame, confusion, embarrassment, betrayal and they are afraid they will get in trouble, so they don't know what to do.- Katie

"I got to tell, I can't get help if I don't tell"- Katie

"We have to have tools to talk about hard things" - Brigette

there are so many victims out there- it shouldn't be taboo to talk about, we need to talk about it.- Brigette

You can only power through, not tell, not address, for so long and thats what we are seeing is the effect of mental health on abuse survivors- Katie

"I want SHOUT to become a household name for body safety"- Katie

"I wrote the book based on conversations I had with them (her kids)"- Katie

"Kids need to know all the anatomical names of private parts so that there is no question no questions so that if there was someone of abuse coming to you and its so important to hold abusers accountable.- Katie

It's a really easy tool: "Remember S.H.O.U.T"-- Katie

the FBI said there are 500,000 active online pedophiles a day now.- Katie

Teach them, we can't ever get things back that we send out- Katie

When a child is coming to you- the statistic is that 80-90% of people physical, sexual abuse of a child, its someone the child knows, which means its someone you know, so it can be really hard to want to believe that. When a child is coming to you its usually just the tip of the iceberg for what has taken place and it takes a lot of courage.

Stay calm, Stay focused on the child, reestablish safety-- Katie

Ask yourself "what do I have to do to create safety again in my home?"- Brigette

To Connect with Katie:

Instagram link @katiethemomthenurse 

Book: https://store.bookbaby.com/book/your-safe-body

To Connect with Brigette:

Instagram: Www.instagram.com/brigette.heller

Website: www.thestrongandcapable.com

In this Conversation Brigette and Kristen talk about why it matters to have a spiritual identity and how Kristen views herself because of having one. They talk about how it impacts your life, helps you through struggles and gives you purpose.

Kristen Walker Smith is a co-host of the One Minute Scripture Study podcast, a Deseret Book masterclass teacher, BYU Education Week speaker, EFY teacher, former seminary teacher, and bestselling author.   Kristen graduated with a Bachelor of Arts from Brigham Young University where she met her darling husband of almost 20 years; they are the parents of three wonderful, rascally children.  When Kristen isn’t teaching the gospel you can usually find her rock climbing, listening to Elder Holland talks, or eating peanut butter– frequently all at the same time.

Quotes from the podcast:

I am purpose driven.. and there is something for me to do for God every single day- Kristen

I am a daughter of God and I am here for a purpose- Kristen

(A spiritual identity) is the foundation on which you build your life with- Brigette

but I know who I am, and I have a purpose, so I can't give up- Brigette

when you see that God has a purpose for your whole life but also for each season of your life, I can look back and see the purpose in that, how it changed me and it made me more empathetic, it also made me more capable of reaching people I wouldn't be able to reach if my life was just la-dee-da all the time and it also brought me to God in other ways that it couldn't have. Knowing your life has purpose and that God has a purpose for each difficult thing you go through- the is so strengthening for me. - Kristen

There is just a level of compassion that God wants us to have for ALL of his children.- Kristen

He loves people and its not in spite of their weaknesses and difficulties, but because he sees their power and strength as they fight through it- Kristen

"the greatest leaders of all time have compassion"- Joey Heller

Compassion is the truest expression of love- Brigette

We think we are one thing, but when we open our mimd and our heart to our spiritual identity, when that happens we begin to understand who we really are- Brigette 

our true self is much more aware then our frontal lobe- Kristen

I have a spirit that reminds my brain what it true- Kristen

I am amazed at how I can be in a class of 500 on the internet, we do a meditation, and all the sudden everyone is crying. It's because for 2 seconds they let go of what their brain thought and they tune into what their spirit thought. your spirit will call you out but it will love you infinitely.- Brigette

If did not believe God created me and I had a purpose and I am accountable to him, I would probably have reacted to my circumstances very differently- Kristen

If I didn't believe that God had wanted me on earth, I might have ended that option- Kristen

I learned that it was a season and that things will always, always get better... Waiting for 7 years is a long time, but I recognized that I was in a waiting period.- Kristen

God had waiting periods, and growing periods and be patient periods.- Kristen

there is a clear difference when your living with the spirit and a spiritual identity and not.- Brigette

be patient with yourself, its o.k if all you can do today is survive.- Kristen

To connect with Brigette and Kristen:

Kristen:

https://kristenwalkersmith.com/  or

https://www.instagram.com/kristenwalkersmith/

Brigette:

www.thestrongandcapable.com

IG: Brigette.Heller

FB: The Strong and Capable Page

In this solo cast, Brigette walks her favorite people (YOU) the listeners through the process of transformation. Why it matters and what will happen in your life when you choose to transform it.

Host Brigette Heller and Cody Sanders talk about how to transform our health and specifically how women can transform their health by giving practical tips and ideas for women to apply to their busy life.

Cody Sanders- HHP, AADP, FN

Cody Sanders is a Board Certified Holistic Health Practitioner, Functional Nutritionist and women's hormonal health expert. She specializes in root cause approaches to healing through holistic nutrition and lifestyle strategies. Cody founded Soul Happy and Healthy Wellness Center and has been in practice for over 25 years teaching women to take charge of their health and happiness. She works with women in areas of reproductive and hormonal health and helps them to connect to and express their powerful feminine energy and embrace their monthly flow. She is the co-owner and co-founder of Mixhers, an all natural nutritional therapy supplement company that focuses on supporting women's hormonal health. She is the creator and formulator of Hertime, the first all-natural nutritional therapy supplement designed to heal the root causes of hormonal imbalances and end period problems for good. Cody is also the host of the weekly published It's Hertime Podcast, where she debunks myths around women's chronic gynecological issues and inspires women to have better health by regaining their hormonal balance naturally. She speaks on many subjects like how to get pregnant naturally, lose weight, clear skin, heal cystic ovaries, eliminate PMS, heal fibroids, regulate periods, and increase energy and libido.

Symptoms are simply our bodies way of telling us we need a little extra TLC- Cody

Sometimes we don't realize how crappy we feel until we start feeling good- Cody

there are over 100 symptoms associated with periods- Cody

when we just medicate everything we are just putting a bandied on the symptoms - Cody

acne on your face is like a big red light telling you there is something going on- Cody

how to learn the language of symptoms- 1. Education, 2. practice checking in with your body- notice what's going on with your skin, your thought and sleep

stress burns though magnesium

most of the issues women were coming to see Cody about could be stemmed back to their periods- too Cody started looking for solutions to help these women.

we need to feel like we are capable every single day- Cody

that consistent effort is what really makes the difference and we can't forget that- Cody

find the things that work for you and make it EASY and doable. It's when we go too extreme one way or the other that it's not going to work. It takes practice to make it feel easy and natural. 

I think sometimes we build thing up a little bigger I our head and we think its going to be a little more difficult than it actually is, but if we can just start putting one foot in front of the other, often it just kind of falls Into place.- Cody

for every change your making in your health, its getting you closer to be the person you need to be to do the things you want to do.- Brigette

It wasn't until 2005 that women were included in health and fitness studies- Cody

we have been eating and exercising like men- and we are not just little men- Cody

we have super powers with every phase of our cycle- Cody

I think we as women instinctually know and have these nudges, but we put them aside- Cody

we want to be able to live our life with ease- Cody



Connect with Cody:

IG: Mixhers

IG: soulhappyandhealthy

Podcast: Hertime Podcast

www.mixhers.com

Connect with Brigette:

IG: Brigette.Heller

FB Thestrongandcapable

www.thestrongandcapable.com