The Tutor Podcast

Neil Cowmeadow

The Tutor Podcast the weekly show that’s all about the business of helping people. If you’re a tutor, a teacher or a coach, join your host Neil Cowmeadow for news, tips and insights to help you Start, Grow and Love your tutoring business. Plain English, no buzzwords and no BS. So, if you want to make more money - and make more of a difference - The Tutor Podcast will be with you, every step of the way.

  1. 6d ago

    Shokunin, The Way of The Master Craftsman

    Hi, it’s Neil Cowmeadow here with episode 440 of The Tutor Podcast, the Monday morning shot of uncommon sense for anyone who wants start, grow and love their own tutoring, teaching and coaching business – the same way I love mine.  I’m here to share ideas that have helped me in my business journey as a teacher, entrepreneur, investor and mentor in  a no-nonsense, No BS kind of way... in the hope that it helps you have as much fun at work and in life as I do. And – of course - I’m listening: so if you have any ideas that you think might be worth exploring on the show – get in touch info@neilcowmeadow.com or on X where I am @TutorPodcast, and maybe you can help me to learn something new, something better? Because I’m smart enough to realise that I don’t have all the answers – nobody does - and if I rely on my own tiny, pea-sized brain to solve all of my problems…. Well..... If you’re good with that, let’s crack on...  Now as many of you know, I'm massively influenced by Japan and Japanese culture. This is a post that's quite personal to me because it resonates deeply with something I've been living in for a long time. It's the idea of teaching or any kind of job really being a craft. I connect that with the Japanese idea of Shokunin, which is a Japanese word that means artisan or craftsman. It's actually any person who is in work or a professional. Superficially that's fine as good as it goes but there is a kind of reverence attached to this. True Shokunin are revered within Japanese society. Maybe it's the depth of what they do, the spirituality and the commitment to mastery of the craft, which means every day trying to do the craft a little bit better. Now I also connect this with the daily exercise, the daily practice of constant never-ending improvement, which is epitomized to me by the Japanese word Kaizen. Kaizen has been responsible for many of the incremental improvements that have made companies like Toyota such a powerhouse in the world. Every day they strive to do what they do a little bit better every single day and everyone involved in the production of, say, a Toyota car has the power to stop production to make an improvement. Everybody gets listened to because they're the people with their hands on the tools who are bolting things together, putting trims into place, who could maybe tweak a process and save a few seconds here, a few seconds there. Make something a little bit better, a bit neater, to constantly improve the production process. That's Kaizen. It's the way of constant improvement. Now tied into Kaizen is this idea embodied within Shakunin of having a social duty to do your very best and to become the very best at the thing you're supposed to do, to take pride in the work that you do, pride in your products, whether you're a manual laborer or a master craftsman. Shakunin is the same path. It's lifelong dedication to the craft itself. For me that's just like teaching. I'm dedicated to it. I love it. I love the act of teaching. When someone gets it, it lights me up. When they realize that they were never the problem after all and maybe after 50 years of wrestling with a guitar, they finally get the thing that makes them go, "Oh gosh, it wasn't me all these years. It wasn't me. I'm not the problem." Give them the gift of being able to see themselves better. That's why I'm still teaching. That's why I show up for it every day I can because I'm dedicated to the craft of being a remarkable teacher. This is how it rolls in martial arts, business, and life. The core of the activity is the same but we're always working to just nuance it that little tiny bit. Do it that little bit better. Use Kaizen in the process to develop it to be a little bit better today than it was yesterday and tomorrow to do that improvement. We'll cycle all over again. In my opinion as your nuance within your craft, within your profession, develops, then your own understanding of the craft, the depth of it, and the way you interpret and implement the craft itself will also change. This explains for me completely the daily practice of a skill you already are extremely good at, something that comes so naturally to you, you embody it. Your body is thinking rather than your brain. You just want to do it that teeny tiny little bit better, an imperceptible improvement stacked on another imperceptible improvement. Suddenly it starts to make a difference because they compound up over time. This is the cycle of daily practice, followed by reflection on how it went today, adding a new nuance or a slight tweak to it, implementing and testing that, and then repeating that modified behavior over and over again until it becomes the new norm. For myself the moral aspect of it is simple: it's the work ethic. Don't do anything half-assed. If you're committed to the profession you're in, the business you're in, the job you're in, the work you're in, don't go off half-cocked. Give it your everything. Get balls deep in what you do and stay balls deep in it for life. Keep on refining the craft and in turn that will refine you, the practitioner. If the practitioner gets better maybe the family gets better. If the family gets better maybe the village gets better and so on up to the level of the universe getting better. Maybe not for everyone but for you because you did it better. Take pride in what you do, execute it as well as you can, and try tirelessly to do it that little bit better. Just summing that up I guess my take on it is: get to the point where what you do is absolutely exquisite, where it's grateful, elegant, perhaps even classy. The effort of performing your professional role appears effortless because it is effortless. It's not something you actually notice doing anymore. It's simply an embodied process. It's part of you in the same way that your leg is. It just is. It's like performing a martial arts movement set, a kata or, say, the Sunim Tao from Wing Chun Kung-Fu. Initially these movements are incredibly clunky but you try to do it a little bit better every time. After a while these movement patterns, the kata, are felt more than done. They're thought and enacted by the body itself and to do them any other way than the right way feels uncomfortable, feels morally out of character. It's a jarring incongruity or maybe a fracture of the smooth running of the skill of the master craftsman or the master martial artist. I believe that bliss is in the craft. You can lose yourself in it. It becomes intrinsically rewarding. You don't need anyone else's approval to do this. Doing it is reward enough. That in turn can become addictive, compelling, and alluring. If this resonates with you, you are not alone.  There’s probably a proverb somewhere that says “the craftsman who dies with a chisel in his hand dies happy though wishing for another day to use the chisel with more skill”. That's the path of the master craftsman, the path of the master teacher, the master business person, the master writer. I believe it doesn't matter what job you are in, whether you are sweeping the streets or running a business empire. The idea of Shakunin is a consistent principle you can apply. If you recognize this in yourself, get in touch. I'd love to hear from you. What do you think? I’d love to hear from you, so get in touch! Drop me an email to info@neilcowmeadow.com and  if you have any comments, questions or problems,  get in touch  - again it’s info@neilcowmeadow.com    or on X where I am @The Tutor Podcast Let’s leave it there for today – I hope this show has got you thinking and has been some help to you and that you’ll join me next time on The Tutor Podcast for more No-BS tips and ideas of how to Start, Grow and Love YOUR Tutoring Business – just like I love mine. Till then, remember that your time is precious, your life is largely what you make it, so always make it good. Be excellent to yourselves - stay healthy, stay useful, and Have a Fabulous Day!

  2. Aug 16

    The Shrinking Book - Error Journals

    Hi, it’s Neil Cowmeadow here with episode 439 of The Tutor Podcast, the Monday morning shot of uncommon sense for anyone who wants start, grow and love their own tutoring, teaching and coaching business – the same way I love mine.  As usual I’ve been rummaging through the ragbag of my mind and my notebooks, the ones I’ve made during all the courses, seminars, classes, webinars, conferences, field trips, research projects, books, trade press, videos and a ton of other stuff I’ve done over the years… Boiling it down to get at the good bits so I can give them to you in a no-nonsense, No BS kind of way... So I’m squeezing a little more juice out of it for myself, and –at the same time - sharing it with you here in the hope that it helps you have as much fun at work and in life as I do. And – of course - I’m not just here to talk, I’m listening - so if you have any ideas that might be worth sharing via the show – get in touch info@neilcowmeadow.com or on X where I am @TutorPodcast, and maybe you can help me to learn something new, something better? Because I’m smart enough to realise that I don’t have all the answers, and if I rely on my own tiny, pea-sized brain to solve all of my problems…. Well..... If you’re good with that, let’s crack on...  Today I want to share an idea I stumbled on an idea last week – not something I’d heard of before, despite being incredibly nosey and annoyingly inquisitive about learning and how people teach As we all know, there’s no one system of teaching or learning that suits everyone, all of the time. So I figure that by sticking my nose into other people’s methods I might learn how to teach – if not better – then at least different. What I stumbled on was somewhat counter-intuitive for me, being dragged-up in the West in a system that stigmatises failure to learn. But on reflection, what I’m going to share with you now makes perfect sense – since we all know that success leaves clues…. And so does failure…. SO - In Chinese and many other Asian schools – the students have an ERROR JOURNAL I did a double-take when I heard it: to me the idea of recording what went wrong was ridiculous - - -don’t we want our students to get it  right? Well, so do the Chinese and Asian education departments do this and why are their students at the top of the world’s learning scoreboard? And yes – the data are compelling: Rank Mathematics Reading Science  1 Singapore Singapore Singapore 2 Macau Ireland Japan 3 Taiwan Japan Macau 4 Hong Kong South Korea Taiwan 5 Japan Taiwan South Korea That is INCREDIBLE – the only non-Asian country on the list is Ireland – but only placing second for reading alone. So the results are n and it’s the journal-fiddlers who appear to have destroyed just about everyone else in the field. Their kids learn really well – across the region. And a part of what every student learns is the use of their own  "error journals" ( cuòtíběn, or mistake notebooks) – a personal logs where the student records, analyzes, and re-solves questions they got wrong on homework or exams to prevent them from repeating the same mistakes. Purpose and Benefits Targeted Review: Focuses study time only on weak spots instead of repeating known material. No glossing-over the rough bits: this is bare-naked exposure to the weak areas of a student’s knowledge Pattern Recognition: repeated looking at their c**k-ups helps students spot recurring conceptual or calculation errors. Active Learning: Moves passive test-taking into active correction and reflection. That’s not what we do here in the UK: not by a long shot How it Works The Wrong Answer: the student begins by copying the original question AND the incorrect steps or response. The student then writes out the Correct Solution: Writing out the proper method step-by-step. Allows pattern-spotting and identification of where their thinking went off the rails Error Analysis: Categorizing and understanding why the mistake happened (e.g., misreading, formula forgot, calculation slip).and reflection on how to prevent the same error happening again Key Takeaway: A short summary rule to remember for the future Ownership and Honesty: Chinese students man-up and deal with their failures, rather than moan about it It is brilliant. Those kids in Shanghai or Guanjong own their own learning process and tell themselves the truth about why stuff went wrong. They review and practice doing better… and – over time – the number of entries going into the Mistake Journal dwindles…  The ultimate aim is to make the book obsolete… a skinnier book is envisioned as the frequency of errors falls to near-zero over time…  What would our own school system look differently if the average British kid did that? What do you think? I’d love to hear from you, so get in touch! Drop me an email to info@neilcowmeadow.com and  if you have any comments, questions or problems,  get in touch  - again it’s info@neilcowmeadow.com    or on X where I am @The Tutor Podcast Let’s leave it there for today – I hope this show has got you thinking and has been some help to you and that you’ll join me next time on The Tutor Podcast for more No-BS tips and ideas of how to Start, Grow and Love YOUR Tutoring Business – just like I love mine. Till then, remember that your time is precious, your life is largely what you make it, so always make it good. Be excellent to yourselves - stay healthy, stay useful, and Have a Fabulous Day!

  3. Aug 9

    Just Say No

    Hi, it’s Neil Cowmeadow here with episode 438 of The Tutor Podcast, the Monday morning shot of uncommon sense for anyone who wants start, grow and love their own tutoring, teaching and coaching business – the same way I love mine.  As usual I’ve been rummaging through the ragbag of my mind and my notebooks, the ones I’ve made during all the courses, seminars, classes, webinars, conferences, field trips, research projects, books, trade press, videos and a ton of other stuff I’ve done over the years… Boiling it down to get at the good bits so I can give them to you in a no-nonsense, No BS kind of way... So I’m squeezing a little more juice out of it for myself, and –at the same time - sharing it with you here in the hope that it helps you have as much fun at work and in life as I do. And – of course - I’m not just here to talk, I’m listening - so if you have any ideas that might be worth sharing via the show – get in touch info@neilcowmeadow.com or on X where I am @TutorPodcast, and maybe you can help me to learn something new, something better? Because I’m smart enough to realise that I don’t have all the answers, and if I rely on my own tiny, pea-sized brain to solve all of my problems…. Well..... If you’re good with that, let’s crack on...  and today, we're diving into a topic that many of us struggle with but is incredibly important for our well-being: the power of saying "no." "no" is a simple word, yet it carries a weight that can shift the dynamics of our relationships, our time management, and even our self-esteem. And such a simple word can be very hard to actually say – mostly because humans are wired for co-operation and mutual help. In a world that often encourages us to say "yes" to every opportunity and demand, learning how to say "no" can be a rebellious, even a revolutionary act of self-care.  Why do we often find it difficult to say no?  Many people fear disappointing others or missing out on potential opportunities.  There’s also the cultural pressure to be accommodating and agreeable – to fit-in and do what is considered “normal” by the masses. That’s the “what will the neighbours say?” effect – and this fear can lead us to overcommit, which in turn causes stress and burnout.  But what happens when we say "yes" to everything?  It’s what a friend of mine describes as “your maiuth writing cheques that your body can’t cash” We try, of course, but we end up stretching ourselves too thin, neglecting our own needs, and ultimately feeling resentful. Instead, when we learn to say "no," we protect our time and energy, allowing us to focus on what truly matters. Let’s break down the benefits of saying "no": 1.It Builds Confidence:  Every time you say "no" to something that doesn’t serve you, you affirm your values and priorities. This builds self-esteem and reinforces your ability to make decisions that are right for you. 2.  It Creates Space for What Matters:  Saying "no" allows you to say "yes" to the things that truly align with your goals and passions. Whether it’s spending time with loved ones, pursuing a hobby, or simply resting, saying "no" can help prioritize what really matters in your life. Remember that every YES to something is going to mean you have to say NO to something else – the opportunity cost of saying yes to a low-value or low priority request could be the high-value activity or outcome that could change your whole life. Stay on Target. 3: It Reduces Stress:  When you decline commitments that don't fit into your life, you create a manageable schedule. This leads to less stress and more time for self-care and relaxation. 4.  It Sets Boundaries:  Establishing boundaries is essential for healthy relationships. When you say "no," you communicate your limits, helping others understand and respect your needs. YOU get to specify what you’ll put up with – and what you absolutely won’t put up with from someone else. So – how to be a badass at saying NO? Here are a few strategies to help you say "no" effectively and gracefully.   Be Direct but Respectful:  You don’t need to provide a lengthy explanation for your decision. A simple, "I appreciate the offer, but I can’t commit right now," is often sufficient.  Personally, I’m fine just saying NO. No explanation, no apology or justification needed.   Use "I" Statements:  Frame your response in a way that reflects your feelings. For example, "I have too much on my plate at the moment," emphasizes your perspective without placing blame on the other person. Practice Saying "No": It might feel uncomfortable at first, but practice makes perfect. Try role-playing scenarios with a friend or in front of a mirror to build confidence. Offer Alternatives: If you’re inclined to help but can’t take on the request, suggest another way you can support them. For instance, "I can’t help with this project, but I can connect you with someone who might." This is a very effective exit from a proposed commitment… Remember Your Own Priorities: When faced with a request, take a moment to assess whether it aligns with your goals. If it doesn’t, it’s okay to decline, and absolutely should decline anything that doesn’t align with your own goals and aims, your moral code or your ethical compass Now, there’s a possibility that you might experience a twinge of guilt when you say NO to a reasonable but unaligned request – it often accompanies saying "no." It’s completely natural to feel that twinge of guilt, but remember: you are not responsible for other people's feelings.  Prioritizing your own well-being is not selfish; it’s survival – and it is totally necessary. By saying "no," you’re not only taking care of yourself but also laying-out healthy boundaries which inform others how to behave around you. To wrap up, let’s recap on how we can incorporate saying "no" into our daily lives. Start small. Maybe it’s declining an invitation to an event you’re not excited about or saying no to an extra task at work that may overwhelm you. I do this a lot! If you’re all twisted up about it – write it up in your journal…. As we’ve said before on the show – I’m a big fan of keeping a journal to track your feelings – so think on paper if saying NO messes with your mind and feelings.  Then get over it. I promise You that, over time, it becomes easier and more empowering.  Remember, every time you choose to say "no," you’re saying "yes" to yourself. You’re taking control of your life, your time, and your energy. Embrace the power of saying "no," and watch how it transforms your life for the better. I hope today’s discussion inspires you to embrace the power of saying "no." and do Let me know when you’ve had a bash at this and how you got on – I’d love to hear from you if you have a long line of disappointed mendicants stretching around the block, get in touch! Drop me an email to info@neilcowmeadow.com and  if you have any comments, questions or problems,  get in touch  - again it’s info@neilcowmeadow.com    or on X where I am @The Tutor Podcast Let’s leave it there for today – I hope this show has got you thinking and has been some help to you and that you’ll join me next time on The Tutor Podcast for more No-BS tips and ideas of how to Start, Grow and Love YOUR Tutoring Business – just like I love mine. Till then, remember that your time is precious, your life is largely what you make it, so always make it good. Be excellent to yourselves - stay healthy, stay useful, and Have a Fabulous Day!

  4. Aug 2

    The Failure Manual

    Hi, it’s Neil Cowmeadow here with episode 437 of The Tutor Podcast, the Monday morning shot of uncommon sense for anyone who wants start, grow and love their own tutoring, teaching and coaching business – the same way I love mine.  As usual I’ve been rummaging through the ragbag of my mind and my notebooks, the ones I’ve made during all the courses, seminars, classes, webinars, conferences, field trips, research projects, books, trade press, videos and a ton of other stuff I’ve done over the years… Boiling it down to get at the good bits so I can give them to you in a no-nonsense, No BS kind of way... So I’m squeezing a little more juice out of it for myself, and –at the same time - sharing it with you here in the hope that it helps you have as much fun at work and in life as I do. And – of course - I’m not just here to talk, I’m listening - so if you have any ideas that might be worth sharing via the show – get in touch info@neilcowmeadow.com or on X where I am @TutorPodcast, and maybe you can help me to learn something new, something better? Because I’m smart enough to realise that I don’t have all the answers, and if I rely on my own tiny, pea-sized brain to solve all of my problems…. Well..... If you’re good with that, let’s crack on...  As you know – I’m a big fan of doing things differently – maybe I’m just contrary, odd, “unusual” or some other fancy-pants name for being open to being wrong. I’d settle for “contrarian”, because I’ve often found that doing the exact opposite of what miserable people do makes me happy, doing the opposite of what poor people do has made me money, and doing the opposite of what unsuccessful people do has made me successful… in my own terms. What that looks like is a very busy life which is mostly spent with people I love, doing things I enjoy…  Years ago I worked with a couple of guys who were quite depressed. Being my usual, ridiculously optimistic self, I bounced around and tried to lift them up a bit – this was long before I got into NLP, coaching and hypnosis – before – even – I started my teaching business… ancient history! I used to watch what they did, how they moved when they were having good or bad days, how they eld themselves and the way they spoke…  I was a nosey bugger, even back ten. You see I had an idea – not a very bright one, but hang in there with me, because I was young and uneducated then… The idea was that if I could see what they did, maybe I’d figure out why they were depressed… My brilliant idea worked!! I experimented with moving, standing, sitting, talking just like my two colleagues – and I got depressed!! Genius. After a while my little old brain decided it was bored with being a bit depressed and suggested (in one of my unguarded moments) that I should do the opposite of what I was doing – INVERT THE PROCESS that produced depression and start to study happy people, successful people… I did, and it worked… I got happier. Double-genius! They say that success leaves clues – well, so does failure. If you can figure out what it is that someone does that causes them to fail, thwarts their ambitions and steals their dreams, you can write a Failure Manual, based on your research. Likewise, figure out what successful people do, happy people do, healthy people do… and you can write a Success Manual, based on That research. The process is INVERSION – doing the opposite of normal. I mention this because it popped up during a mentoring session a couple of weeks ago: the mentee was frustrated by her progress and had begun to blame herself for the current state of things… I’m all for accountability, but not if it turns inward to self-blame and self hate. I stopped her, mis-flow. Handed her a pen and paper, put on my grown-up face and asked her to write me a failure guide for her business. “a what?” she asked “A Failure Guide” I said. “Write down everything you are currently doing in life and business that is guaranteeing that you can’t get what you want. You have ten minutes – GO!” “Go!” I repeated… Her head went down and the pen started skipping across the page. Five minutes, and the pen was still dancing. Ten minutes, and the page was full, along with half of a second page… I let the clock run… When her head came up, she was smiling. “That’s really clever” she said… “all I have to do now is stop doing everything on this list, right?” “Yep. Start with just one thing that you can eliminate, today, and stop doing it. You can start with a small thing, to get used to the idea, or head straight for one of the bigger ones. The important thing is that you get comfortable not doing it, then move on to the next thing on the list.”   Whenever I’ve done this with students or mentees, they all knew what they were doing that was holding them back, and the results have been very positive. Somehow, writing it all down really held up their nonsense for scrutiny. They got honest witht ehmselves and made changes. How cool is that? If you’re stuck, frustrated, blocked, thwarted and/or frustrated, take a little time to draw up your own failure manual… When you do this, you only have to do the opposite of what’s on the list to experience radically different outcomes. Nice… Let me know when you’ve had a bash at this and how you got on – I’d love to hear from you. Drop me an email to info@neilcowmeadow.com and  if you have any comments, questions or problems,  get in touch  - again it’s info@neilcowmeadow.com    or on X where I am @The Tutor Podcast Let’s leave it there for today – I hope this show has got you thinking and has been some help to you and that you’ll join me next time on The Tutor Podcast for more No-BS tips and ideas of how to Start, Grow and Love YOUR Tutoring Business – just like I love mine. Till then, remember that Life is largely what you make it, so make it good. Be excellent to yourselves - stay healthy, stay useful, and Have a Fabulous Day!

  5. Jul 26

    Death in The Comfort Zone

    Hi, it’s Neil Cowmeadow here with episode 436 of The Tutor Podcast, the Monday morning shot of uncommon sense for anyone who wants start, grow and love their own tutoring, teaching and coaching business – the same way I love mine.  As usual I’ve been rummaging through the ragbag of my mind and my notebooks, the ones I’ve made during all the courses, seminars, classes, webinars, conferences, field trips, research projects, books, trade press, videos and a ton of other stuff I’ve done over the years… Boiling it down to get at the good bits so I can give them to you in a no-nonsense, No BS kind of way... So I’m squeezing a little more juice out of it for myself, and –at the same time - sharing it with you here in the hope that it helps you have as much fun at work and in life as I do. And – of course - I’m not just here to talk, I’m listening - so if you have any ideas that might be worth sharing via the show – get in touch info@neilcowmeadow.com or on X where I am @TutorPodcast, and maybe you can help me to learn something new, something better? Because I’m smart enough to realise that I don’t have all the answers, and if I rely on my own tiny, pea-sized brain to solve all of my problems…. Well..... If you’re good with that, let’s crack on...  Ah….. summer holidays are here, and many people take the opportunity to kick back, go somewhere or (most hated phrase) CHILL OUT… That’s all well and good – for them. Maybe they’re not on their mission and need to escape from te real world into the fantasy life basking on a beach somewhere, sipping margheritas by the poolside or some other cliché version of somebody else’s best life. Maybe… And maybe that’s you – if it is, all power to you – do what makes you happy. Frankly, we should all do whatever makes us happy – as long as we hurt no-one else in the process. For myself – and some of my friends and associates – that’s not a version of reality we care to embrace… we are The Odd Squad, the difficult ones, the misfits and screw-ups… the driven, the drawn and the ever-so-slightly-peculiar ones. We’re the ones who fidget after ten minutes under a parasol, who recoil at a loved one’s attempt to smear us in a dubious chemical concoction which will “protect us from the sun’s harmful radiation”…  We’re the arsey, grumpy curmudgeons who’d much rather be doing something useful than baking our brains in a socially-enforced estrangement from what makes our lives fun and makes us useful. If that’s you, I’m pleased to meet you; welcome to the tribe. This summer, man of us will squirm and inch through other people’s idea of a good time… you’re not alone… Our hands are restless, the book that looked interesting isn’t enough to hold our attention, alcohol holds no lure…. We doodle, scribble, scroll – trying to find ways to channel our unbounded energy… We are sometimes uncomfortable being comfortable… the discomfort of challenge is our natural domain, we crave the pushing of boundaries, the struggle is our everyday life. And the place that others call “comfortable” does nothing for us. Whilst other dream of chilling out   (grrrrrr) or taking a break (because I deserve it…) we shake our heads and think “they don’t get it, do they?” Their comfort zone is an alien land to us, and the comfort zone is where dreams go to die. The clocks of our lives tick relentlessly. Our days are few in number. We have a deadline. Days spent in aimless stupor are days lost forever, regardless of whether it’s a holiday or simply adding up all the hours you spent doing nothing that you consider valuable or useful. So, my dysfunctional friends – never take your foot off the gas, because you will lose momentum and – having chilled out – you will have to work harder than ever to recover that momentum. And the usual structures and habits of your normal (!) life take a hit too…  If you still want to chill out – go for it. But me, I’ll keep on being uncomfortable and pushing myself to do a little bit better every day, if that’s alright with you. And if it ain’t alright with you, well….  What do you think – are you all for chilling out or keeping your foot on the gas? Let me know Drop me an email to info@neilcowmeadow.com and  if you have any comments, questions or problems,  get in touch  - again it’s info@neilcowmeadow.com    or on X where I am @The Tutor Podcast Let’s leave it there for today – I hope this show has got you thinking and has been some help to you and that you’ll join me next time on The Tutor Podcast for more No-BS tips and ideas of how to Start, Grow and Love YOUR Tutoring Business – just like I love mine. Till then, remember that Life is largely what you make it, so make it good. Be excellent to yourselves - stay healthy, stay useful, and Have a Fabulous Day!

  6. Jul 19

    The Daily Shutdown

    Hi, it’s Neil Cowmeadow here with episode 435 of The Tutor Podcast, the Monday morning shot of uncommon sense for anyone who wants start, grow and love their own tutoring, teaching and coaching business – the same way I love mine.  As usual I’ve been rummaging through the ragbag of my mind and my notebooks, the ones I’ve made during all the courses, seminars, classes, webinars, conferences, field trips, research projects, books, trade press, videos and a ton of other stuff I’ve done over the years… Boiling it down to get at the good bits so I can give them to you in a no-nonsense, No BS kind of way... So I’m squeezing a little more juice out of it for myself, and –at the same time - sharing it with you here in the hope that it helps you have as much fun at work and in life as I do. And – of course - I’m not just here to talk, I’m listening - so if you have any ideas that might be worth sharing via the show – get in touch info@neilcowmeadow.com or on X where I am @TutorPodcast, and maybe you can help me to learn something new, something better? Because I’m smart enough to realise that I don’t have all the answers, and if I rely on my own tiny, pea-sized brain to solve all of my problems…. Well..... If you’re good with that, let’s crack on...  This is an idea I’ve used for years, and I highly recommend it to anyone who can’t get away fast enough... It’s one of those simple, effective routines that makes so much sense, takes very little effort, and makes life significantly better, right off the bat. It’s a few minutes, last thing at night – and it can remove oceans of stress and anxiety, letting you sleep better and get more epic stuff done. Here it is: Open up your diary or organiser – PAPER, please – to the page where you run the week or day. Paper, please - because it will make things more immediate and improve your thinking.  Previous ep 426 – exploring how writing longhand with a real pen improves brain function and learning Empty your brain out onto the page – simple note to yourself of all the things that are whizzing round in your tiny, pea-sized brain. Don’t sort or judge – just dump everything onto the page Now go to sleep. Simple – but powerful... you see, your brain is for thinking with, not for storing large amounts of data. Forcing that data – all the stuff – out onto paper relieves the pressure on the brain to NOT FORGET STUFF. Reducing the load on your brain’s limited resources by externalising cognition (getting it out into a different location) is like cleaning the desktop after a busy day, putting everything where it should go, ready to begin tomorrow with a clear desktop, uncluttered by yesterday’s chaos. Write down EVERYTHING: jobs and tasks you suddenly remembered, the slides for tomorrow’s lesson or presentation, a reminder to pay the cleaner.... everything. We’ve all had the experience of turning out the light, snuggling down for a good night’s sleep and then – ooh!   Something pops up in your mind – usually minor but important. You now have to decide whether to turn the light on and find something to scribble it down on, or risk that sleep you were just drifting into... or – worst of all – swiping your phone and making a note to yourself on it... This CLOSEDOWN procedure is common in many high performance environments – including armed forces, intelligence services, spaces agencies and the like. So if it’s good enough for them.... You can also use your brain dump to set up your most important 1-3 things to do tomorrow - once you’ve finished your dump.  I know a few of you will now be smirking like naughty schoolboys because I said “finished your dump”. You know who you are!  Running this routine every night ensures that less important STUFF slips through the net, and – perhaps more important than that – promotes better sleep whilst giving a feeling of being more in control of your life. So get started with this one if you want to do better work, forget fewer important things, sleep better and enjoy a more relaxed life with less stress... And let me know how it works for you via email to info@neilcowmeadow.com  AND if you have any comments, questions or problems,  get in touch  - again it’s info@neilcowmeadow.com    or on X where I am @The Tutor Podcast Let’s leave it there for today – I hope this show has got you thinking and has been some help to you. Join me – Neil Cowmeadow – for the next episode of The Tutor Podcast for more No-BS tips and ideas of how to Start, Grow and Love YOUR Tutoring Business – just like I love mine. Till then, remember that Life is largely what you make it, so make it gorgeous. Be excellent to yourself and to those you love - stay healthy, stay useful, and Have a Fabulous Day!

  7. Jul 13

    Crushing Decision Fatigue: How Systems Can Save Your Sanity

    In this episode, Neil Cowmeadow dives deep into the subtle but exhausting phenomenon of decision fatigue. From the morning struggle of choosing what to wear to the end-of-day impulse buys, the tiny, unstructured choices we make constantly drain our mental energy.  KEY TAKEAWAYS Willpower Is a Finite Resource: Much like a muscle, your willpower fatigues throughout the day with every single decision you are forced to make. Embrace Automated Defaults: Establishing fixed routines for minor daily tasks—such as a default wardrobe or a set weekly menu—significantly preserves your mental bandwidth. Internal vs. External Locus of Control: Cultivating an internal locus of control (the belief that you run your own life rather than being controlled by external factors) is vital for happiness and mental well-being. Stop Firefighting Your Day: Without structured systems, you spend your entire day reacting to external forces, leaving you stressed, exhausted, and feeling unproductive by bedtime. Systems Take Upfront Effort but Deliver Freedom: Designing habits that work for you requires patience and thought initially, but it ultimately spares you from the daily agony of constant choice. BEST MOMENTS "If I'm relying on my own brain power to solve all my problems, well... that ain't gonna end well." "Willpower's a scarce commodity, and it wears out throughout the day with every decision you make." "Save that decision-making muscle for the iPhone product launch." "Don't let daily life buffet you one way and then the next, heaving you from incident to incident, firefighting along the way." "That rail full of purple shirts means that I don't have to decide which shirt I'll wear today. So today, I think I'll wear the purple." VALUABLE RESOURCES www.neilcowmeadow.com — info@neilcowmeadow.com HOST BIO Neil Cowmeadow is a maverick peripatetic guitar teacher from Telford with over 19 years' experience in the business of helping people. Learn how to start, grow and love your business with Neil's invaluable advice and tips — without the buzzwords and BS! This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

  8. Jul 5

    Your Strategic Intent: Why Every Habit Needs a Destination

    In this episode, Neil Cowmeadow turns his own restless, ever-learning mind into the starting point for a bigger question: what's the actual point of all this self-improvement? He unpacks the idea of a "strategic intent" — a defined, personal direction for your life that every daily habit and routine should be quietly working towards — and challenges listeners to sit down and write theirs. KEY TAKEAWAYS Learning Is a Licence, Not a Chore: Neil frames his own compulsive curiosity — reading, courses, research, "nibbling away the rubbish to get at the good bits" — as permission to keep learning simply because it's interesting, not because it ticks a box. Collateral Uplift: Genuine self-improvement is inwardly directed and done for yourself first. Any inspiration it sparks in the people around you is a welcome side effect, not the goal — the opposite of "collateral damage." A Good Life Is Built, Not Found: A good life (capital G, capital L) is the intentional pursuit of becoming better at being yourself — a daily, largely invisible process rather than a single destination. Strategic Intent Sets the Trajectory: Borrowing the military concept, Neil argues everyone needs a strategic intent for their life — the big-picture direction that all your short-term tactics, habits and daily actions should serve. Write It Down, Say It Out Loud: Don't just think your strategic intent — write it, speak it, rewrite it until it feels right. It's the exercise, not the wording, that matters. BEST MOMENTS "I get fascinated by things. Lots of things. Hell, I get fascinated by just about everything." "A good life is one spent in the intentional pursuit of becoming better at being yourself." "Collateral uplift. You're doing your thing and people around you get a bit better." "Your strategic intent governs the trajectory of your life." "Today would be a really fabulous day to dream one up and write it down." VALUABLE RESOURCES www.neilcowmeadow.com — info@neilcowmeadow.com HOST BIO Neil Cowmeadow is a maverick peripatetic guitar teacher from Telford with over 19 years' experience in the business of helping people. Learn how to start, grow and love your business with Neil's invaluable advice and tips — without the buzzwords and BS! This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

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The Tutor Podcast the weekly show that’s all about the business of helping people. If you’re a tutor, a teacher or a coach, join your host Neil Cowmeadow for news, tips and insights to help you Start, Grow and Love your tutoring business. Plain English, no buzzwords and no BS. So, if you want to make more money - and make more of a difference - The Tutor Podcast will be with you, every step of the way.

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