A Christian podcast for purposeful and peaceful parenting. We want to understand children's hearts, reach parents' hearts, and see God with new eyes.
We believe in a loving, empathetic God who has shown us by His example how to live a relationship based on love, trust and peace with others.
This podcast has started out in Germany in September 2020. Feel free to write to theBond@mail.de. You can also find us on YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMHsVGk7oSzkRjLeZKHgdHA) and on Instagram (@thebondpodcast)!
7.2 Toddlers: going from mad to sad (why this is a good thing!)
Doesn't frustration have to be nipped in the bud? Does a child learn self-control and social behavior if we allow them to have emotional outbursts? And how can a child who is raging with frustration find their way to their sadness and tears of futility? In this episode, we will look at this topic from the viewpoint of attachment theory and the Bible.
7.1 Tantrums - how your child learns to accept boundaries
Anger is one of the most exhausting things in everyday life - both the child's and our own as parents. This episode looks at why we react frustrated to limits that we encounter, and which process must take place in the brain to accept these limits or "futilities" of life from the inside out. Adaptation is one of the processes that helps us do this. Learn about "the roundabout of frustration" and understand your child's anger better!
6. Baby's first year - what they really need
Today we are once again talking about the first level of attachment, closeness. Closeness is most important during the first year of the child's life; children at this age can initially only bond through this level.
Nevertheless, many people recommend that should children get used to separation and being alone as soon as possible. This is often related to the topic of "sleep". Programs that are supposed to "train" children to sleep are still recommended. But what is behind this? Why do we see this as an ideal? What do sleep training programs do to our children?
We will also briefly discuss another important topic in baby's first year of life: food. First, you're not supposed to breastfeed too much, then you try to get the baby to eat spoonful after spoonful of porridge. We will blast some myths here, too!
5.6 I want to tell you everything! - 6th stage of attachment
The last stage of attachment is that of familiarity, of being fully known by another person. Unfortunately, only few people reach this last stage, because in order to do so, you must show yourself vulnerable to the other person to an extent that most of us shy away from. We have been hurt too many times and thus have armored our hearts. This accounts both for children and for adults.
But only this last stage of attachment – if reached – can lead us into relationships with our children, with each other and with God that are truly fulfilling, give us inner peace and help us grow more and more into the loving image of Christ. Listen to this episode to find out how this is possible – in ALL of your relationships!
5.5 I love you! - 5th stage of attachment
From the age of five, children bond over love. If the four preceding stages have been successfully saturated, they now give their hearts to their caregivers. They learn what love is and how it is lived in their families. They adopt this without reflection and transfer it to God.
Learn how you can love God with all your heart yourself and thus live a fulfilled life as a parent with your child!
5.4 I want you to see me! - 4th stage of attachment
“Look, mommy, looooook!!”, “Daddy, pleeeease, loooooook what I can do!!”
These sentences can sometimes be quite annoying, especially when you are just in the middle of writing an important email or discussing next week’s schedule with your partner.
When your children enter stage four of attachment, they want to be seen and appreciated for what they do and who they are. This can constitute a problem for parents who themselves have never really experienced this kind of appreciation. So how can we show appreciation and esteem for our children? And how can we, as parents, see the appreciation and esteem God has in store for us? Let’s find out!