Therapy, Coaching & Dreams

Dee Kelley
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Therapy, Coaching & Dreams is cohosted by Dr. Jim Shalley and Dr. Selden Dee Kelley III, a therapist and a coach who love talking about how inner work can help you live with more awareness, purpose and freedom.

  1. 3D AGO

    S2E2 - Dreams, Decisions, And Emotional Weight

    Send a text Your mind doesn’t clock out when you do. It goes to work overnight, sorting stress, rehearsing choices, and resetting emotions so you can meet tomorrow with more capacity. We dig into how that process actually feels—starting with a simple dream about buying a trailer and the hidden worries it carried—and then open a vivid story about a 100‑foot pole, a dropped paint bucket, and the kind of repeating dream that wakes you breathless. Rather than treat these moments as oddities, we use them as a lens on the five core functions of dreams: rehash, rehearse, resolve, recalibrate, and reveal. Along the way, we connect dream life to day life. If you’ve ever snapped at a partner or child and wondered, “Where did that come from?” this conversation offers a compassionate answer. Dreams often surface the feelings we failed to notice. By practicing emotional mindfulness—especially when social media and politics tempt us to vilify others—we can spot projection, own our reactions, and stop the kick-the-cat chain before it starts. Dreams don’t shame; they nudge. When we listen, we move from reflex to choice. The most practical surprise here is that better dream work starts with better sleep. We unpack why deep sleep stacks earlier in the night and REM crowds the final third, which means trimming an hour often slashes dream time and tomorrow’s emotional steadiness. From daylight saving data to simple sleep hygiene, we share clear steps: consistent bedtimes, darker rooms, cooler temps, fewer screens, and a gentle wake. One small shift—even moving bedtime from 10:30 to 9:30—can lift energy, improve mood, and unlock recall that makes morning insights possible. Join us for a grounded, story-rich guide to how the night mind helps the day mind. If this resonated, follow the show, leave a quick review, and share it with a friend who could use better sleep. You can connect with the cohosts through their respective websites: AFCCounselors.com (Dr. Shalley) / https://www.inyourdreams.coach/contact (Dr. Kelley)

    26 min

  2. MAR 5

    S2E1 - Dreams, Neuroscience, And Self-Awareness

    Send a text What if your dreams aren’t random at all but a built-in system for emotional reset, memory sorting, and future rehearsal? We kick off season two by moving dreams from “weird night stories” to a reliable toolkit for self-awareness, drawing on neuroscience and Jungian-informed coaching to make sense of vivid scenes, recurring figures, and those “epic” marathons that leave you buzzing. We unpack why so many people default to external meanings, and how that habit misses the point. Instead, we show how to listen inward: pick one charged character, ask what voice of you it holds, and trace it to real tensions in your day. Along the way, we share a raw personal account of a childhood nightmare that resurfaced in college, revealing how “template dreams” return when the same core emotions rise again. That story opens the door to five dream functions you can work with right away: rehash your day’s emotional weight, rehearse future challenges, recalibrate your emotional capacity, resolve problems when defenses drop, and reveal the dynamics of your personality. You’ll hear simple recall methods that actually help, and how paying attention can flood you with rich dream material. We address overwhelm too, showing how to trim a sprawling dream into a focused, useful thread. From flying and falling motifs to the shift in themes across life stages, we connect symbols to development without forcing one-size-fits-all meanings. The takeaway is practical and hopeful: even if you don’t remember every detail, your night mind is on your side. When you engage with it, you get more bandwidth, clearer patterns, and better choices the next day. If this resonates, follow the show, share it with a friend who loves big questions, and leave a quick review so more curious minds can find us. What recurring dream keeps tapping your shoulder—and what might it be training you for? You can connect with the cohosts through their respective websites: AFCCounselors.com (Dr. Shalley) / https://www.inyourdreams.coach/contact (Dr. Kelley)

    29 min

  3. FEB 25

    S1E22 Four Styles, One Self: Season Summary

    Send a text What if your biggest arguments, stalled projects, and late-night worries aren’t personal failures, but energy mismatches you can learn to navigate? We break down the STIR model—Stabilizer, Transformer, Initiator, Responder—through two lenses: dynamic vs static energy and masculine vs feminine expression.  We dig into competing anxieties that fuel conflict: one partner wants comfort while the other rushes to fix; one teammate needs consensus while another pushes for speed. You’ll hear a grounded case study of pandemic-era drinking reframed as a Transformer in distress, and how activating Initiator discipline and Stabilizer routines created real change without shame. From boardrooms to living rooms, we explore when to widen the circle and when to give a clear directive, and how to build complementary strengths so creativity doesn’t die on the whiteboard. Then we open an unexpected door: dream work as a practical tool for integration. Dream characters often embody neglected parts of ourselves—masculine or feminine voices, or specific STIR energies—acting out what our waking self avoids. By asking “If that character is me, what is it trying to do or protect?” nightmares become maps. You’ll leave with simple practices to identify your default energy, choose the one you need next, and translate insight into daily action. If this conversation sparks something useful, follow the show, share it with a friend, and leave a quick review with your favorite takeaway. Your notes help others find the podcast and keep the work growing. You can connect with the cohosts through their respective websites: AFCCounselors.com (Dr. Shalley) / https://www.inyourdreams.coach/contact (Dr. Kelley)

    27 min

  4. FEB 18

    S1E21 Accusations, Defenses, And The Work Of Love

    Send a text We dig into why simple questions can feel like attacks, how to pause before defenses take over, and what healthy masculine and feminine responses sound like when tensions rise. We connect the dots between conflict, self-love for responders, and dreams that process the emotions we ignore by day. • how interpretation turns questions into accusations • the pause that makes space for truth and choice • toxic vs healthy masculine and feminine patterns • using I-statements without losing your voice • why deep care makes triggers sharper • steps for responders to practice self-love across quadrants • customizing the model with your own language • dreams as emotional recalibration and inner balance cues • applying dream themes to daytime communication If you're enjoying the podcast, we'd love for you to share it with someone who might appreciate it as well. Thanks for being here And until next time, keep growing, stay curious, and take good care of yourself. You can connect with the cohosts through their respective websites: AFCCounselors.com (Dr. Shalley) / https://www.inyourdreams.coach/contact (Dr. Kelley)

    27 min

  5. FEB 11

    S1E20 Mental Health And Personality Styles

    Send a text We explore how mental health concerns intersect with the STIR model and show how balance, flexible thinking, and self-awareness transform relationships. From early dating green flags to parenting stalemates, we lay out practical steps to move toward the middle and reduce projection. We walk through real-world moments—early dating, high-conflict parenting, and long-term partnership—to show how to spot green flags and build healthier patterns. Flexible thinking becomes a north star: can someone hold their view and truly consider yours? Then comes the essential move to the middle. If you lean toward masculine in energy, practice the softer start of validation. If you lean feminine, practice setting clear limits before soothing. That sequencing flip often unlocks calm, trust, and actual behavior change. The game changer is a heart shift away from projection. When you stop needing your partner to be a certain way so you can be okay, pressure dissolves and intimacy returns. Strangely, what you wanted often appears once the demand is gone. We also talk about coping when a partner lacks insight, how to maintain self-respect without ultimatums, and why independence and interdependence aren’t opposites but allies when you’re grounded. If you’re mapping your style, healing through depression or anxiety, or simply craving fewer blowups and more connection, this conversation gives you practical steps: name your base style, anticipate your risk points, and practice the opposite skill set on purpose. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs a hopeful roadmap, and leave a quick review to help others find the show. You can connect with the cohosts through their respective websites: AFCCounselors.com (Dr. Shalley) / https://www.inyourdreams.coach/contact (Dr. Kelley)

    25 min

  6. FEB 4

    S1E19 When The Divine Feels Like A Conversation Within

    Send a text We explore how addictive behaviors can be signals from unbalanced inner energies, how to hear what the unconscious is asking for, and why old issues resurface even after insight. We close with a grounded view of integration, spiritual connection, and practical next steps that honor both emotion and choice. • masculine and feminine energies across dynamic and static styles • addiction as unconscious coping when a part lacks voice • bold moves, dreams, and adjusting outer life to inner truth • interest, insight, integration as a practical sequence • triggers as teachers and faster recovery as a sign of growth • asking what energy you wish others would bring as your inner cue We trace the path from interest to insight to integration, showing how emotional learning completes what the mind knows. A heated moment at a car wash becomes an x-ray: not being believed triggers old wiring, and the body surges to protect. Integration doesn’t look like perfection; it looks like noticing faster, breathing sooner, repairing better, and choosing differently. Dreams and bold moves help translate unconscious signals into aligned action, whether that means renegotiating roles, shifting work, or creating boundaries that let spontaneity thrive without chaos. The goal isn’t to silence parts but to give each a seat at the table. We also open a wider lens on meaning and the divine. Clients bring every kind of belief, from God-within to God-everywhere to none at all. Rather than forcing a box, we use humble curiosity as a bridge to connection. That stance mirrors inner balance: making space for difference without abandoning truth. If you’ve ever wondered why old wounds flash back or how to turn triggers into teachers, you’ll find language, tools, and stories that make the inner landscape livable, honest, and hopeful. If this resonates, share it with someone who needs relief and a reframe. Then subscribe, leave a review, and tell us: what bold move is your unconscious asking for today? You can connect with the cohosts through their respective websites: AFCCounselors.com (Dr. Shalley) / https://www.inyourdreams.coach/contact (Dr. Kelley)

    29 min

  7. JAN 28

    S1E18 Midlife Without The Meltdown

    Send a text We take listener questions on how to “preempt” midlife turmoil, why flexible thinking beats rumination, and what healthy self-sufficiency looks like when you still need people. Along the way we use our four-quadrant model to reframe boundaries, create validation, and speak your partner’s language. • difference between liking change and flexible thinking • turning beliefs back into opinions to reopen options • borrowing strengths across initiator, responder, transformer, stabilizer • replacing negative what-ifs with creative what-ifs • acting versus ruminating when consequences are inevitable • reframing self-sufficiency as interdependence • appreciating traits you once resisted in others • communicating in the other person’s language and validating emotions • holding boundaries with strong personalities without becoming them Are you enjoying the podcast? We’d love for you to follow, rate, or share it with someone who might appreciate it as well You can connect with the cohosts through their respective websites: AFCCounselors.com (Dr. Shalley) / https://www.inyourdreams.coach/contact (Dr. Kelley)

    28 min

  8. JAN 21

    S1E17 Integration Over Perfection: Using Every Part Of You

    Send a text We explore the STIR framework and answer a listener’s question about whether the goal is to stand in the center of all four styles, or to use each style wisely. We map how to grow in a resistant environment, when leaving is healthy, and how to set boundaries without turning conflict into a scorecard. • STIR overview and the four styles • Standing in the middle versus using what you need when you need it • Opposites attract and the strain of those differences • Finding your natural spot by noticing who annoys or attracts you • Borrowing other styles without abandoning your base • Growing when family systems resist change • Stay or leave decisions and the role of likability • Boundaries that are clean, not covert demands • Taking conflict less personally and naming projections If you're enjoying the podcast, we'd love for you to follow, rate, or share it with someone who might appreciate it as well You can connect with the cohosts through their respective websites: AFCCounselors.com (Dr. Shalley) / https://www.inyourdreams.coach/contact (Dr. Kelley)

    28 min
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Therapy, Coaching & Dreams is cohosted by Dr. Jim Shalley and Dr. Selden Dee Kelley III, a therapist and a coach who love talking about how inner work can help you live with more awareness, purpose and freedom.

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  • Creator
    Dee Kelley
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    24
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Therapy, Coaching & Dreams
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