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I can't sing so I'm doing the next best thing with my voice. Podcasting! This space is for my solo thoughts, sitting with friends to laugh, vent, and reflect on the beautiful chaos that is life, as a Nigerian or human. From personal stories to laugh-out-loud hot takes. It’s honest. It’s messy, sometimes spicy. Just like us. Plug in your AirPods, grab your headphones, and hit subscribe—new episodes drop twice a month. Got any hot takes you want to share, or something you think I should talk about? Send an email to: thisnigerianlifepod@substack.com Cover art by me. thisnigerianlifepod.substack.com

  1. Tobi's Thoughts: on Solitude and Knowing Thyself

    12/04/2025

    Tobi's Thoughts: on Solitude and Knowing Thyself

    What if the key to knowing yourself better is simply sitting still? It’s hard, I know! In this episode, I explore why solitude matters and how our thoughts shape the direction of our lives. With so much noise competing for our attention, creating quiet time helps us define who we really are on our own terms. I’m sharing my personal journey with solitude and why I believe it deserves more of our attention. My essay on the quiet that comes from making better choices is linked here : I’ve also linked my favorite episode on the topic of solitude from another podcast, it’s a conversation worth hearing if this topic resonates with you. That’s a wrap for 2025! I’ll be back in 2026 with the new new. Until then, catch me on TikTok 😉 @thisnigerianlifepod 💫On my playlist this season The Best Man Holiday is my go-to holiday watch, without fail. Sharing a song from the soundtrack that always hits just right this time of year. Enjoy! This podcast is best enjoyed on Substack.com so download the app and follow me there for the full experience. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thisnigerianlifepod.substack.com

    9 min
  2. Tobi's Thoughts: on Self Sabotage

    11/27/2025

    Tobi's Thoughts: on Self Sabotage

    If you asked me whether I believe in myself, I’d confidently say yes. But the truth is, that’s not always the case. In this episode, I dive into the quiet ways we sabotage our own progress: fear disguised as perfectionism, and the little lies we tell ourselves to stay comfortable. Real growth is doing what you said you would do, even when the circumstances aren’t great. For me, recording this podcast is part of moving through my fear of being seen. My voice matters, I trust my wisdom and I’m committed to carving my own path with courage, applause or not. I believe in myself, fully and it feels awesome. So I’ll ask you: how are you getting in your own way? And what are you doing to change that? This podcast is best enjoyed on Substack.com, so download the app and follow me there for the full experience. I’m also on TikTok @thisnigerianlifepod. 💫 What I’m enjoying: Caroline Myss on the Saboteur archetype This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thisnigerianlifepod.substack.com

    7 min
  3. Tobi's Thoughts: on Therapy & Counselling

    11/20/2025

    Tobi's Thoughts: on Therapy & Counselling

    This episode discusses counselling and therapy and why I believe they’re often conflated. They are similar but the key difference is that counselling is short term, offering quick relief while therapy is longer and deals with root causes of issues. Therapy requires deep vulnerability from the patient in a safe space created by the practitioner- so it’s not just vibes and as popular as it may seem, I don’t think we are quite there yet. Therapy services are not mainstream in Nigeria with crucial mental health services still out of reach for majority, this is where self-help comes in. Self-help may get a bad rap, but when done well, it can be beneficial. I encourage using the free resources within your disposal but remember, discernment is key. What are your go-to self-help resources? tell me in the comments. My Substack chat is OPEN, come and say hi! As always, the podcast is best experienced on Substack, so download the app and follow me there for all the good stuff. 💫 Recommended Resources: aka some of my “therapists” lol Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love Lovers by Shan, The School of Life, Francesca Hogi, Psychology Demystified P.S: I am currently obsessed with Yellowstone TV Series with Kevin Costner. I’m late to the party, but if you haven’t do check it out. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thisnigerianlifepod.substack.com

    13 min
  4. Tobi's Thoughts: On being a Soft, Independent Woman

    11/13/2025

    Tobi's Thoughts: On being a Soft, Independent Woman

    This episode explores self-worth, enlightenment, and releasing old identities. As a self-proclaimed independent woman, unemployment has helped me reconnect with my softer side- the part of me that isn’t constantly in survival mode. You know, that space where you can breathe a little- where you’re not “always guiding” (Nigerian slang for being tough, guarded, and completely self-reliant) and allow yourself to simply be. Not everything to yourself. Not the woman who never needed anyone. Unlike Lady Gaga, I wasn’t born this way. Like many hyper-independent women, I learned to depend on me because I had to, for self preservation. But I’ve come to see it as a trauma response, rooted in early experiences with money and self-worth. Now, I’m learning to show up fully as myself, to soften, and to receive, simply because I am worthy of it. How do you navigate your own feelings of self-worth and receiving? Tell me in the comments, and remember to subscribe if you haven’t already! My Substack chat is OPEN, come and say hi! As always, the podcast is best experienced on Substack, so follow me there for all the good stuff. Study with Caroline Myss [here] or at the link below: This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thisnigerianlifepod.substack.com

    14 min
  5. Tobi's Thoughts: on Intuition, Accountability & Healing Family Wounds

    11/06/2025

    Tobi's Thoughts: on Intuition, Accountability & Healing Family Wounds

    Hey listeners, How do we break free from family trauma patterns? In this episode, I share my personal experience with family trauma. Exploring the combination of trusting my intuition and listening to my inner wisdom; taking personal accountability and responsibility for my healing without blame or shame. This episode is for anyone navigating the messy, beautiful work of healing generational wounds while staying true to themselves. My essay on the same topic can be found below for Substack listeners, and [here] for other apps. As always, thanks for listening. Please subscribe and say hi to me on Substack. ❤️ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thisnigerianlifepod.substack.com

    17 min
  6. Tobi's Thoughts: on Being a Published (Essay) Writer 🤓

    10/30/2025

    Tobi's Thoughts: on Being a Published (Essay) Writer 🤓

    In this episode, I read an excerpt from my essay in We Will Lead Africa Volume 5: Technology, Science, and Innovation. This is easily the most exciting and affirming thing to happen to me so far this year- seeing my name in print. Whoo hoo! 🎉Buy your copy [here] and enjoy my essay along with the other inspiring stories. Now, a behind-the-scenes moment: my voice was so tense while recording this episode that I had to stop midway for some vocal exercises and a bit of dancing. My song of choice? Oh Happy Day from Sister Act II — especially the “la-la-la-la-la-la” part by Whoopi’s character. It turned into a two-for-one: vocal warm-up and dance break. Those vocal warm ups actually work. You might ask, “What do vocal exercises have to do with podcasting?” Everything! My voice is my tool, and it deserves the same care as singers give theirs. 📣 Announcement! My Substack private chat is now OPEN! If you’re a subscriber, you should have received a notification. Come in, get comfy, and share your dreams, recommendations, or even your fears. Let’s lament, laugh, and comfort each other. What do you do when you feel tense? Tell me in the comments and remember to subscribe if you haven’t already! Follow me on Substack for all the good stuff. Album recommendation: This one is Personal by Tiwa Savage. Tiwa poured her heart into this and I love it. 😮‍💨 This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thisnigerianlifepod.substack.com

    8 min

  7. 10/23/2025

    Tobi's Thoughts on Hopelessness

    In this episode I talk about hope with a sprinkle of delusion which is my fuel on most days. Other days I wallow in hopelessness, but not for too long. When I say friends, it includes my amazing sister who has been a rock despite the physical distance between us. Recommended resources: Daring Greatly by Brené Brown, Alain de Botton’s YouTube, The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho; here’s a free version if you can’t buy your copy. I’m on a YouTube detox because of payment issues resulting from the outage, so until this is resolved, Spotify recs is what you get for now. Speaking of music, rest in peace to D’Angelo whose music I discovered in my early 20s and still listen to. Brown Sugar is my forever favourite- I think of it as an ode to my gorgeous dark skin. 🕊️ India Arie is my go-to for when I need something healing, her music just speaks to the situation anytime. Her album SongVersation: Medicine has been on replay, give it a listen and be blessed. I can’t shut up about 👉🏾 Olamide’s self titled album which I strongly recommend bass headphones, for maximum enjoyment. Until next time. Thank you for listening. Please subscribe and come talk to me on Substack. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thisnigerianlifepod.substack.com

    10 min

  8. 10/16/2025

    Tobi's Thoughts

    Hiya! My plan was to relaunch the podcast in a neat and polished way, forgetting that I needed an outlet to share my thoughts. A wave of inspiration led to this recording which I have the pleasure of sharing with you- in spite of the many doubts scrambling in my head. Welcome to my thoughts! 😁 This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thisnigerianlifepod.substack.com

    15 min
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I can't sing so I'm doing the next best thing with my voice. Podcasting! This space is for my solo thoughts, sitting with friends to laugh, vent, and reflect on the beautiful chaos that is life, as a Nigerian or human. From personal stories to laugh-out-loud hot takes. It’s honest. It’s messy, sometimes spicy. Just like us. Plug in your AirPods, grab your headphones, and hit subscribe—new episodes drop twice a month. Got any hot takes you want to share, or something you think I should talk about? Send an email to: thisnigerianlifepod@substack.com Cover art by me. thisnigerianlifepod.substack.com

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  • Creator
    Oluwatobiloba
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  • Episodes
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    © Oluwatobi Asekun
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    This Nigerian Life.