This Seems Personal

Leigh Gall

This Seems Personal is not a perfectly packaged self-help space. It's me, Leigh Gall, telling the truth in real time and saying the things most of us are too scared to say out loud. I'm done hiding, done performing, done pretending any of us have it all together. This is for anyone who has ever worn a mask in their own life. The overthinkers. The achievers. The people pleasers. The ones who read every room, anticipate every need, and still feel disconnected from themselves even when everything looks fine on the outside. If you've ever wondered whether everyone else is faking it too, you're not alone, and you're in the right place. Here's what I keep coming back to. Your brain is a keep-you-alive machine running on outdated software. So we overthink. We over-function. We abandon ourselves without ever noticing, because by now it's as easy as breathing. We ran these survival responses so many times they stopped being reactions and became who we are. A skillset you never asked for but somehow mastered. And here's the part nobody tells you: it's also your superpower. So across these episodes I get into the real stuff. Self-abandonment, the nervous system, the inner critic, people-pleasing, overthinking, self-sabotage, and all the things we quietly do for everyone else without realizing it. I share the stories I used to hide. Nothing polished. Nothing perfect. Just the truth, the way I actually learned it. What you won't get here is "just go do it." I'm not interested in toxic positivity or faking it till you make it. I'm interested in what's actually getting in your way, and how to put that fire out instead of white-knuckling your way through it. I'm putting myself out here raw because someone has to go first. If you hear something and think, finally, someone is saying what I've been feeling, welcome. This is This Seems Personal. It always is.

  1. Aug 10

    Why You Do Things You Hate - The Rules Nobody Questions

    Send us Fan Mail Why You Do Things You Hate (The Rules Nobody Questions) — Ep. 5 There you are, standing in the card aisle, buying a card for someone you're not even that crazy about, who might not even read it — because you feel like you're supposed to. This episode is about all of it: the shoulds and the supposed-tos we do on autopilot, with a chest full of resentment, and never stop to question. I had AI hand me a list I hadn't read yet, and we go through it live — the matching towels nobody uses, the guest room nobody visits, the impossible beauty math (look effortless, but spend two hours), the pressure to snap back to your pre-baby body, "let's get together" that never gets scheduled, being the family's emotional manager. And the ones men get handed too: be the provider, be the rock, never let anyone see what it costs you. Underneath the fun, it's the same thread that runs through this whole show — these rules aren't yours. You absorbed them. And you have a choice. The real supposed-to is that we're not supposed to talk about any of it. So let's talk about it. 🗓️ FREE WORKSHOP — HAVE YOUR OWN BACK: August 20th, 11am Central.  LINK HERE: https://www.leighgall.com/event-details/have-your-own-back-2 💬 LET'S CONNECT: Website: leighgall.com Instagram: @theleighgall TikTok: @thisseemspersonal LinkedIn: @LeighGall  🎤 WORK WITH ME: I speak and coach on the inner critics, perfectionism, and survival patterns that masquerade as drive. If your team or audience is full of high performers quietly exhausting themselves to look okay, that is exactly what I talk about. Find me at leighgall.com. 👉 SUBSCRIBE: If this one hit, hit subscribe and send it to the person in your life who still hides their phone. It helps more than you know.

    Why You Do Things You Hate - The Rules Nobody Questions
  2. Aug 3

    Fear of Being Seen Pt. 2- The Native You

    Send us Fan Mail The fear of being seen does not always look like stage fright. You can nail a big presentation and still freeze when someone watches you parallel park, do math out loud, or share your screen on a Zoom call. That is the fear of being judged for the unrehearsed you, the one you never practiced. In this episode I get into why you can be great at your thing and still panic over the "native" moments: no makeup, a messy house, reading out loud, hitting post. I break down how childhood conditioning taught you that being watched meant being graded, why approval got wired to safety, and how that turns into constant self-monitoring. I also share my own silly examples, from hiding Block Blast on airplanes to face masks to the task robot who lives in my house. This one is for anyone who performs beautifully and still fears being caught just being themselves. 🗓️ FREE WORKSHOP — HAVE YOUR OWN BACK: August 20th, 11am Central.  LINK HERE: https://www.leighgall.com/event-details/have-your-own-back-2 💬 LET'S CONNECT: Website: leighgall.com Instagram: @theleighgall TikTok: @thisseemspersonal LinkedIn: @LeighGall  🎤 WORK WITH ME: I speak and coach on the inner critics, perfectionism, and survival patterns that masquerade as drive. If your team or audience is full of high performers quietly exhausting themselves to look okay, that is exactly what I talk about. Find me at leighgall.com. 👉 SUBSCRIBE: If this one hit, hit subscribe and send it to the person in your life who still hides their phone. It helps more than you know.

    Fear of Being Seen Pt. 2- The Native You
  3. Jul 27

    I'm the Problem, How You're Gaslighting Yourself

    Send us Fan Mail Gaslighting yourself is when someone upsets you and within seconds you've built the case for why you were actually the problem. It's the quietest form of self-blame — apologizing to the person who hurt you, deciding you overreacted, insisting "he'd never do that" — and if you grew up learning to keep the peace, you probably don't even notice you're doing it. In this episode I break down what self-gaslighting really is, why blaming yourself once kept you safe as a kid, and the environments that train it — conflict-avoidant homes, emotionally inconsistent ones, gendered conditioning, and the "responsible kid" who grew up to be the fixer. I get into why the charming, well-liked people are the hardest to see clearly, what this pattern quietly costs you (boundaries you never set, jobs and relationships you stayed in too long), and I share my own story of becoming the scapegoat in a leadership role and calling it my fault. The bigger truth: you were never the problem. You were just the only person you could safely blame. — 🗓️ FREE WORKSHOP — HAVE YOUR OWN BACK  Thursday, August 20th at 11am Central. One hour, free, and interactive. LINK: https://www.leighgall.com/event-details/have-your-own-back-2 — Let's connect:  Website — leighgall.com  Instagram — @theleighgall  TikTok — @thisseemspersonal  LinkedIn — @leighgall I speak and coach on all of this — the inner critics, the conditioning, the survival patterns that masquerade as being reliable. If this episode landed, come find me at leighgall.com.

    I'm the Problem, How You're Gaslighting Yourself
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This Seems Personal is not a perfectly packaged self-help space. It's me, Leigh Gall, telling the truth in real time and saying the things most of us are too scared to say out loud. I'm done hiding, done performing, done pretending any of us have it all together. This is for anyone who has ever worn a mask in their own life. The overthinkers. The achievers. The people pleasers. The ones who read every room, anticipate every need, and still feel disconnected from themselves even when everything looks fine on the outside. If you've ever wondered whether everyone else is faking it too, you're not alone, and you're in the right place. Here's what I keep coming back to. Your brain is a keep-you-alive machine running on outdated software. So we overthink. We over-function. We abandon ourselves without ever noticing, because by now it's as easy as breathing. We ran these survival responses so many times they stopped being reactions and became who we are. A skillset you never asked for but somehow mastered. And here's the part nobody tells you: it's also your superpower. So across these episodes I get into the real stuff. Self-abandonment, the nervous system, the inner critic, people-pleasing, overthinking, self-sabotage, and all the things we quietly do for everyone else without realizing it. I share the stories I used to hide. Nothing polished. Nothing perfect. Just the truth, the way I actually learned it. What you won't get here is "just go do it." I'm not interested in toxic positivity or faking it till you make it. I'm interested in what's actually getting in your way, and how to put that fire out instead of white-knuckling your way through it. I'm putting myself out here raw because someone has to go first. If you hear something and think, finally, someone is saying what I've been feeling, welcome. This is This Seems Personal. It always is.