This vs. That

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A podcast where we have conversations that explore what we think and why we think it.

  1. Professional Counseling vs. Everyday Counseling - Kristin Kellen

    12/31/2025

    Professional Counseling vs. Everyday Counseling - Kristin Kellen

    On this episode of This vs. That, we explore the relationship between professional counseling and everyday counseling with Dr. Kristin Kellen, associate professor of biblical counseling at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary. We discuss how these two forms of counseling exist on a spectrum, examining the differences in formality, reciprocity, and structure. We consider the biblical foundation for everyday counseling through the "one another" passages that call all believers to care for each other, while also addressing how professional counseling fits within a Christian framework. We tackle common objections to using counseling language for informal relationships and clarify definitions that help distinguish between professional therapy and everyday discipleship. We also discuss practical guidance on discerning when to seek help from your local church community versus when professional counseling may be needed. Kristin shares insights on how both levels of care can work together in a care team model, and offers wisdom on cultivating a culture of vulnerability and openness within church communities. Finally, we explore the various levels of training available for those who want to grow in their counseling abilities—from reading and observing to certificate programs and formal degrees—and how to discern when it's time to pursue further training. ----- You’re going to love what our partner organization, Rode Leadership, is offering: the Pastor’s Wives Cohort — an eight-week virtual experience designed to nourish, connect, and equip women in ministry. Craving connection? Need support? Just want to breathe and grow alongside others in ministry? Sign up today at ⁠⁠rodeleadership.com/pwc⁠⁠ ---- For more information about Anchored Virtual, visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠anchoredvirtual.com

    48 min
  2. Unhurried Ministry vs. Anxious Ministry - Ronnie Martin

    12/17/2025

    Unhurried Ministry vs. Anxious Ministry - Ronnie Martin

    On this episode of This vs. That, we sit down with Ronnie Martin, pastor and Director of Leader Care and Renewal for the Harbor Network, to explore unhurried ministry versus anxious ministry. We dig into why so many ministry leaders find themselves overextended and running ragged. Ronnie shares insights from his book "The Unhurried Pastor," co-authored with Brian Croft, which draws on Eugene Peterson's work to address the burnout epidemic in ministry today. We discuss the "superhero pastor" mentality and how pastors can actually become addicted to being everything to everybody, even while intellectually knowing it leads to burnout.We explore the unique pressures pastors face—the flexibility of their schedules, the invisible nature of much of their work, and the constant pressure to prove their worth to their congregations. We also tackle the tension of feeling like we're never doing enough while simultaneously doing too much, and how the question "what are you spending your time doing?" can feel like a shame-throwing question. Ronnie offers practical wisdom on discernment, the importance of the "holy pause" before saying yes to every request, and how to avoid unhealthy stacking of commitments. This conversation offers valuable insights for anyone in ministry—or really anyone feeling overwhelmed—about finding sustainable rhythms, practicing humility, and learning to distinguish between a full calendar and one that's suffocating us.

    49 min
  3. Understanding Trauma vs. Simplistic Responses to Trauma - Darby Strickland

    12/10/2025

    Understanding Trauma vs. Simplistic Responses to Trauma - Darby Strickland

    On this episode of This vs. That, we sit down with Darby Strickland, faculty member and counselor at CCEF, to discuss understanding trauma versus simplistic responses to trauma. We explore what trauma really is and how it impacts people—disrupting their sense of self, safety, and ability to connect with others and the Lord. Darby helps us recognize common simplistic responses that can unintentionally harm trauma survivors, like suggesting time will heal the wound, questioning someone's faith when they continue to struggle, or doubting their story when details emerge in a fragmented way. We discuss why people respond to the same events differently and how the label of "trauma" matters less than the pain someone is experiencing and their need for healing. We also talk about how to love friends who are suffering from trauma—emphasizing a ministry of presence over having the right words, not taking things personally, and being willing to remain with someone even when it's difficult. Throughout our conversation, Darby reminds us that God's care isn't measured by how we categorize our pain, and that He meets us in our subjective experiences just as the Psalms model for us. ----- You’re going to love what our partner organization, Rode Leadership, is offering: the Pastor’s Wives Cohort — an eight-week virtual experience designed to nourish, connect, and equip women in ministry. And just for our This Versus That listeners — there’s a super early bird deal: Get 25% off the regular $375 registration with code RODESUPER — but only through December 4th. Craving connection? Need support? Just want to breathe and grow alongside others in ministry? Sign up today at ⁠rodeleadership.com/pwc⁠ ---- For more information about Anchored Virtual, visit ⁠⁠⁠anchoredvirtual.com

    43 min
  4. Healing from Betrayal: Ideal Expectations vs. Intentional Process - Brad Hambrick

    12/03/2025

    Healing from Betrayal: Ideal Expectations vs. Intentional Process - Brad Hambrick

    On this episode of This vs. That, we sit down with Brad Hambrick, pastor of counseling at the Summit Church in Durham, North Carolina, to discuss one of the most painful experiences a marriage can face: betrayal. We explore the tension between idealized expectations of quick healing and the reality that recovery requires an intentional, patient process. Brad shares why "rarely is the first story, the whole story" and how incomplete information at the beginning can derail restoration efforts. We discuss the importance of full disclosure versus discovery, and why marriages often die from "a death of a thousand confessions" rather than the initial betrayal itself. We examine the early stage work that must happen before forgiveness—gaining an accurate history of what occurred and assessing the unfaithful spouse's level of transparency and cooperation. Brad offers the profound insight that "there is as much hope for the marriage as there is honesty," helping us understand how to gauge realistic hope in the restoration process. Throughout our conversation, we address how helpers can better support those who've experienced betrayal, why the betrayed spouse is often the most neglected individual in these situations, and how God's character speaks to this devastating reality. ----- You’re going to love what our partner organization, Rode Leadership, is offering: the Pastor’s Wives Cohort — an eight-week virtual experience designed to nourish, connect, and equip women in ministry. And just for our This Versus That listeners — there’s a super early bird deal: Get 25% off the regular $375 registration with code RODESUPER — but only through December 4th. Craving connection? Need support? Just want to breathe and grow alongside others in ministry? Sign up today at rodeleadership.com/pwc ---- For more information about Anchored Virtual, visit ⁠⁠anchoredvirtual.com

    51 min
5
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