This Wasn't My Plan

Ashlee Hayes
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This Wasn’t My Plan is the career podcast for high-achievers who’ve checked all the boxes (and done all the right things!) but still feel something’s missing. Hosted by Career Strategist and Performance Consultant and Advisor, RX Ashlee, it’s your no-BS roadmap to redefining success on your terms. Whether you’re pivoting, scaling your business, or ready for work that works for you, this show delivers sharp strategy, smart scripts, and real talk. No fluff, no filler, just focused guidance to help you lead, own your voice, and win with intention.

  1. 2d ago

    Why Teams Don’t Have a Talent Problem...They Have a Clarity Problem

    Episode 28: Why Teams Don't Have a Talent Problem… They Have a Clarity Problem In this episode, Ashlee breaks down the most misdiagnosed problem in modern organizations — and it's not disengagement, poor culture, or lack of talent. It's unclear communication stacked on top of unclear expectations. She explains what's really happening inside teams that feel stuck, and what leaders must do to fix it. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN * Why disengagement, low performance, and "bad culture" are often just clarity problems in disguise * What thousands of interview prep sessions revealed about how professionals actually communicate under pressure * How ambiguity — not workload — is driving most team burnout * Why communication is not about speaking — it's about reducing ambiguity * How clarity becomes the single most important leadership skill when pressure rises Most organizations aren't struggling because their people are incapable. They're struggling because nobody has clearly defined what success looks like, who owns what, how decisions get made, or what "done" actually means. Leaders think they were clear. Employees think they understood. And two weeks later, everyone is frustrated. In this episode, Ashlee draws on thousands of high-stakes conversations — from interview prep sessions with physicians, attorneys, and executives to her work inside leadership teams — to show why clarity isn't a soft skill. It's the operational standard that determines whether teams execute or spin. KEY MOMENTS * (02:00) What organizations are actually calling "bad culture" and "poor performance" * (05:30) What interview prep revealed about how smart people communicate under pressure * (09:45) How ambiguity — not workload — is the real source of team burnout * (13:15) Why clarity matters more under pressure, not less * (17:00) The shift from trying to sound impressive to trying to sound clear CALL TO ACTION If you're leading a team and want to improve clarity, decision-making, and execution, learn more about Ashlee's leadership workshops here: 🔗 https://www.rxashlee.com/executive-team-workshops ABOUT ASHLEE Ashlee is a leadership strategist and executive workshop facilitator who helps teams communicate with clarity so decisions move forward and performance improves. She works with founders, operators, and leadership teams to build simple, repeatable systems that strengthen alignment, ownership, and execution under pressure. Connect with Ashlee * Follow Ashlee on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ashleeklevenshayes/ * Follow Ashlee on IG: https://www.instagram.com/rxashleehayes/ * Learn more about Ashlee's workshops: https://www.rxashlee.com/executive-team-workshops KEYWORDS leadership communication, team alignment, organizational clarity, decision-making, team performance, executive leadership

    13 min

  2. May 18

    How RX Ashlee Defines Leadership

    Episode 27: How RX Ashlee Defines Leadership In this episode, Ashlee plants a flag around what leadership actually means inside RX Ashlee, and it's not the corporate, title-driven, or performative version. She breaks down why leadership has been wildly overcomplicated, who it's really for, and why clarity is the single most important leadership skill you can build. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN - Why leadership has nothing to do with titles, status, or visibility - The real cost of poor leadership communication — on teams, businesses, and relationships - How the clearest leaders outperform the loudest ones every time - Why most teams don't have a talent problem — they have a clarity problem - What it actually means to lead: creating clarity that moves people forward Most leaders aren't struggling because they lack intelligence, ambition, or capability. They're struggling because they can't communicate clearly under pressure. They overexplain, avoid hard conversations, leave meetings without ownership, and confuse motion with leadership. In this episode, Ashlee draws on two decades of working inside hospitals, businesses, and executive teams to redefine leadership from the ground up, not as a personality trait or a title, but as a practiced, repeatable skill anyone can build starting today. KEY MOMENTS - (02:00) Why leadership has become too performative and too theoretical - (05:30) Who leadership is actually for — and it's not just CEOs - (09:15) The behaviors that signal poor leadership communication - (13:40) Ashlee's simple definition: leadership is your ability to create clarity that moves people forward - (18:00) Why the higher you rise, the more your communication matters CALL TO ACTION If you're leading a team and want to improve clarity, decision-making, and execution, learn more about Ashlee's leadership workshops here: 🔗 https://www.rxashlee.com/executive-team-workshops ABOUT ASHLEE Ashlee is a leadership strategist and executive workshop facilitator who helps teams communicate with clarity so decisions move forward and performance improves. She works with founders, operators, and leadership teams to build simple, repeatable systems that strengthen alignment, ownership, and execution under pressure. Connect with Ashlee - Follow Ashlee on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ashleeklevenshayes/ - Follow Ashlee on IG: https://www.instagram.com/rxashleehayes/ - Learn more about Ashlee's workshops: https://www.rxashlee.com/executive-team-workshops KEYWORDS leadership communication, team alignment, decision-making, executive leadership, organizational clarity, team performance

    17 min

  3. May 11

    Communication is THE Leader's Work

    Episode 26: Communication is THE Leader's Work In this episode, Ashlee makes the case for why communication isn't a soft skill to revisit later — it's the core discipline that determines whether teams move forward or stay stuck. She breaks down exactly where clarity breaks down, why it happens, and what leaders need to do differently. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN Why unclear communication — not lack of talent or motivation — is what stalls teams What actually happens when leaders don't get to the point under pressure How assumptions and misalignment form when conversations aren't closed clearly Why slowing down and being direct is harder than it sounds — and why it matters The system high-performing teams use to create traction and real movement Most teams don't struggle because people aren't capable or motivated. They struggle because what's in someone's head never fully lands with the person they're talking to. Expectations stay fuzzy, ownership stays undefined, and meetings end without real decisions. In this episode, Ashlee draws on her background in healthcare — where communication was never optional or vague — and her work with thousands of leaders to lay the foundation for what clear communication actually requires: discipline, directness, and a repeatable system. KEY MOMENTS (01:30) Why this season is fully focused on communication (04:45) The real reason teams feel stuck — and it's not capability (08:10) What happens when leaders talk more instead of communicating clearly (12:20) How Ashlee's background in healthcare shaped her communication standard (16:00) The shift from winging it to building a system that creates movement CALL TO ACTION If you're leading a team and want to improve clarity, decision-making, and execution, learn more about Ashlee's leadership workshops here: 🔗 https://www.rxashlee.com/executive-team-workshops ABOUT ASHLEE Ashlee is a leadership strategist and executive workshop facilitator who helps teams communicate with clarity so decisions move forward and performance improves. She works with founders, operators, and leadership teams to build simple, repeatable systems that strengthen alignment, ownership, and execution under pressure. Connect with Ashlee Follow Ashlee on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ashleeklevenshayes/ Follow Ashlee on IG: https://www.instagram.com/rxashleehayes/ Learn more about Ashlee's workshops: https://www.rxashlee.com/executive-team-workshops KEYWORDS leadership communication, team alignment, decision-making, executive leadership, team performance, organizational clarity

    14 min

  4. May 8

    Why This Show Exists

    Original Air Date: 2/6/26 This episode is about what happens when your plan falls apart, and you stop treating that as a problem to fix. It’s about the quiet, unglamorous moments where identity shifts, careers reroute, and life asks you to grow up faster than expected. And what becomes possible when you stop performing a polished narrative and start telling the real one. This isn’t a highlight reel. It’s the throughline behind the pivots, losses, relocations, and decisions that shaped who I am and why this show exists. This episode is for you if: You’re realizing your life or career didn’t follow the blueprint you once trusted You’ve made choices that didn’t make sense to other people You’ve outgrown an identity that once fit, but no longer does You’re standing at a decision point and questioning what comes next After listening, you will understand: Why plans falling apart often create more alignment than success ever could How non-linear paths quietly build leadership, resilience, and perspective What most people miss about identity when titles, roles, or stability disappear The shift from chasing the “right” path to building something that can’t be taken away Follow This Wasn’t My Plan. Share this episode with someone navigating a pivot they didn’t ask for.

    31 min

  5. May 8

    Redefining Success

    Original Air Date: 1/30/26 If you’ve done everything “right” and it still doesn’t feel right… listen to this.  Season Two opens with a reset.  Not because something broke.  Not because I’m burned out.  But because the version of success I was chasing no longer fits the life I’m living.  And if you’re feeling that same quiet tension—this episode is for you.  This episode is about one distinction that changes everything  Most high-achievers are incredibly accomplished.  They’ve stacked credentials. Titles. Wins. Proof.  But accomplishment isn’t the same as success.  This conversation is about learning the difference—and what happens when you stop measuring your life by what looks impressive and start paying attention to what actually feels sustainable.  You’ll resonate with this episode if:  • You’ve built a career that works, but something still feels off  • You’re not lost or starting over—you’re just recalibrating  • You’re standing in the in-between, questioning old definitions of success  • You know your values, but your life availability has changed  What this episode will shift for you  • Why accomplishment can feel safe—but still leave you unsettled  • How to recognize when you’re chasing validation instead of alignment  • What “life leadership” actually looks like in this season  • Why redefining success isn’t failure—it’s growth  What Season Two is really about  This season is built around real conversations with people whose lives didn’t go according to plan.  Founders. Leaders. Professionals. Partners.  People who honored the pivot instead of fighting it.  No polish. No pretending. Just honest conversations about evolution, recalibration, and building a life that fits.  Before you go  Season Two episodes will be released as they’re recorded—there’s no fixed drop day.  Make sure you’re following or subscribed so you don’t miss a conversation.  Share this episode with someone navigating their own in-between season.  And DM @rxashleehayes with this question:  What does success feel like for you right now?

    21 min

  6. May 8

    Your Career Identity: Understanding Who You Are and Where You Belong

    Original Air Date: 12/22/25 Your Career Identity: Understanding Who You Are and Where You Belong  Season One Finale of This Wasn’t My Plan  In the final episode of Season One, Ashlee closes the year with a conversation every high-achiever needs but rarely makes space for: career identity.  If you’ve ever wondered:  Who am I professionally?  What do I actually bring to the table?  Where do I truly belong?  This episode is your mirror.  Ashlee takes you inside the mindset shifts, patterns, and lived experiences that shape how we show up in our careers — and why so many ambitious people feel mislabeled, misunderstood, or stuck in roles that no longer fit.  Through personal stories, client examples, and the emotional evolution behind her own career pivots, Ashlee breaks down:  1. What career identity really is and why it has nothing to do with your job title.  2. Why high-performers struggle to see their own strengths because adaptability becomes a double-edged sword.  3. How to identify the roles you naturally step into even when no one formally assigns them  4. The difference between skill and identity and why being good at something doesn’t mean it should define your life.  5. Why your next chapter requires letting go of outdated versions of yourself and how to recognize when it's time to pivot  This episode blends reflection, strategy, and storytelling including powerful identity shifts from real clients, plus Ashlee’s own journey from pharmacist to founder, operator, and clarity expert.  It’s the perfect closing chapter to a season built on evolution, ambition, and the  courage to rewrite your path.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn:  • How to recognize your real career identity  • What your behaviors reveal that your title doesn’t  • The three questions that help you define your next chapter  • Why proving yourself keeps you stuck  • How to trust your instincts when they feel risky  • What to do when your professional identity stops fitting  • Why nonlinear paths are becoming the new normal  Listener Takeaways:  • Your title doesn’t tell the full story — your patterns do.  • You’re not stuck — you’re evolving.  • You’re allowed to outgrow roles, labels, and expectations.  • Your career identity is already inside you — you’re learning how to name it.  Season Two Preview:  Next year, Ashlee brings on more than one hundred guests with real This Wasn’t My Plan stories — people who pivoted, rebuilt, paused, left, returned, and reinvented their careers in ways that don’t fit the traditional mold.  Consider this your permission to evolve.  Special Thank You:  Brittany — the creative engine and heartbeat behind Season One — thank you for shaping every episode behind the scenes.  And to every listener: every share, every message, every moment you pressed play… you built this season with us.  Stay Connected:  • Follow the show so you never miss a new episode  • Share this episode with someone navigating a pivot or identity shift  • DM Ashlee on Instagram @rxashleehayes and tell her:  What part of your career identity are you starting to outgrow?

    21 min

  7. May 8

    The Bridge: Why All Businesses Need an Integrator

    Original Air Date: 12/15/25 If you’ve ever worked inside a business—big or small—and thought, “Why does everything feel so chaotic?” or “Why are we always reacting instead of leading?” this episode is going to make everything click.  Today we’re talking about the most overlooked role in organizations: the Integrator.  The bridge between the people dreaming about the future… and the people responsible for building it.  Most leaders don’t know this role exists.  Most teams don’t realize they’re missing it.  But everyone feels the impact when it’s gone.  In this episode, I break down:  • What an Integrator actually is —not in MBA language, but in a way you can bring straight back to your team.  • Why big ideas fall flat without a translation layer and why execution suffers even when the talent is strong.  • The signs your organization is missing a bridge (overwhelm, rework, shifting priorities, recycled goals, decision fatigue).  • What changes when this role is in place  alignment, accountability, clarity, steadiness, and real momentum.  • How my entire career unknowingly trained me to be an Integrator  long before I had language for it— and how EOS finally gave me the name for the way my brain has always worked.  Whether you’re a high-achieving employee trying to understand why your team feels stuck… or a business owner wondering why your organization can’t seem to scale without burning your people out… this episode will help you identify the gap and understand what’s been missing.  Because every business—every single one—needs someone who:  • Translates the vision  • Creates the plan  • Holds the team accountable  • Removes obstacles  • Clarifies priorities  • Connects communication  • Protects momentum  That’s the Integrator.  That’s the bridge.  And once you see it, you can’t unsee it.  Mentions in this Episode:  • EOS (Entrepreneurial Operating System)  • The Visionary + Integrator dynamic  • My journey into operations, systems, and leadership clarity  Episode Takeaways:  • Big ideas aren’t the problem—lack of ownership is.  • Alignment is a leadership choice, not a mood.  • Businesses don’t burn out from growth—they burn out from unclear roles.  • You might already be acting like an Integrator without realizing it.  • Clarity is what makes execution sustainable.  Before you go:  If this episode hit home, here’s your next step:  • Follow the show so you never miss an episode.  • Share this with a friend, colleague, or teammate who’s navigating growth.  • DM me on Instagram @rxashleehayes and tell me: What part of your career are you beginning to outgrow?

    19 min

  8. May 8

    If You Feel Behind, This Episode Is For You

    Original Air Date: 12/8/25 If you’ve been walking around with that quiet pressure in your chest, the “I should be further along by now” pressure, this episode is for you.  Today, we’re talking to the part of you that’s tired, overstretched, and holding yourself to timelines that don’t match who you are anymore. The part of you comparing yourself… to an older version of you. The part of you grieving an identity or a plan you’ve outgrown.  In this episode, Ashlee shares why feeling behind often means you’re actually evolving, not failing. You’ll hear stories from ambitious employees and business owners who all feel the same pressure—and the question that changes everything:  “What version of you created that expectation—and does that version even exist anymore?”  Whether your life is shifting because of aging parents, changing responsibilities, new opportunities, or a career identity that no longer fits, this episode will help you release the outdated timelines, reconnect with who you are now, and acknowledge the invisible progress you’ve been building all along.  If you feel behind… come closer. You might be further along than you think.  What You’ll Learn in This Episode  1. Why feeling “behind” is a signal, not a failure  How pressure shows up when your identity, responsibilities, and values evolve.  2. How timelines you created years ago quietly turn into cages  And why those expectations need to evolve with the person you’ve become.  3. Why employees and founders struggle with the exact same narrative  Different roles, different stakes, same internal story: “I should be further than this.”  4. The question that snaps high achievers out of self-judgment  “What version of you made that expectation?” and what to do when the answer is “someone I’m not anymore.”  5. The invisible progress you keep overlooking  The internal upgrades such as clarity, resilience, and courage that never show up on a résumé but change everything.  Key Takeaways  • You’re not late. You’re evolving.  • Outdated expectations create unnecessary pressure.  • Feeling behind usually means you’re outgrowing your current chapter.  • You can’t measure growth with old metrics.  • Progress isn’t always visible, but it’s always accumulating.  • You’re allowed to rewrite your path at any age, in any season, for any reason.  Power Questions to Ask Yourself  Use these to check your story and reclaim your timeline:  1. Am I actually behind or grieving an older version of me?  2. Is this expectation coming from who I was… or who I am now?  3. What pressure am I carrying that was never mine to carry?  4. If I removed the timeline, what would I be free to pursue?  Episode Resources  Follow Ashlee on Instagram: @rxashleehayes  Work with Ashlee: rxashlee.com  Join the newsletter for career clarity, leadership growth, and communication tools.  If This Episode Spoke to You…  • Follow the show so you never miss what’s next  • Share the episode with a friend or teammate who feels “behind”  • Send Ashlee a DM: What part of your timeline are you ready to rewrite?

    13 min
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This Wasn’t My Plan is the career podcast for high-achievers who’ve checked all the boxes (and done all the right things!) but still feel something’s missing. Hosted by Career Strategist and Performance Consultant and Advisor, RX Ashlee, it’s your no-BS roadmap to redefining success on your terms. Whether you’re pivoting, scaling your business, or ready for work that works for you, this show delivers sharp strategy, smart scripts, and real talk. No fluff, no filler, just focused guidance to help you lead, own your voice, and win with intention.

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  • Creator
    Ashlee Hayes
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    31
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Ashlee Hayes
  • Show Website
    This Wasn't My Plan