Thriving Twogether Ryan Davis

How do you know if you love someone? Because you spend time and money and work towards their happiness. Melissa and I discovered The Adventure Challenge: Couples Edition which helps us to invest time and money into our relationship. There's also the family edition of The Adventure Challenge which is very fun too.

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Do you remember what Cinderella said at the end of the most recent Cinderella movie? I forgive you. Those words and probably even more importantly that belief is one of the most critical things in marriage. Do you remember how Scotty Pippen responded to the criticism of his migrane game? Did he retaliate or seek revenge or blame? Nope! What's the secret behind the responses of Cinderella and Scottie Pippen? Did you know that Josh Waitskin, the inspiration behind The Search For Bobby Fisher, also had a similar method?

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What is something your spouse would really, really love?


-It's hard to stay angry long with someone for whom you're praying.

-Sequoia: unlike many trees, they reach out and interlock their roots with the Sequoias around them.

-make a commitment to daily let go of unrealistic expectations and become your spouse's greatest encourager.
Dreams: Imagineer at Disney World. In the World Book.

Humility: Randy's dad's Bronze Star for valor. 50 years and no mention of it.

Does a car matter? Arguing about a double charge?

Brick walls & Tenacity. His wife and Brown University.

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The Arbinger Institute packed The Anatomy of Peace with transformative tips. Below are my notes. 
When hearts are at war we can’t see clearly. How we disagree is more important than if we disagree. Don’t horribleize others.  Justification: Do you need enemies more than you need peace? Create a out-of-the box safe place for others by not blaming others. Care enough about others to be curious. Judging happens when we care more about our self than others. If continuous correction isn’t fixing the problem, then more correction won’t work. Fix your way of  being instead. Invite not incite change. Invite cooperation. Strengthen the relationship if your teaching doesn't seem to work.


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A phenomenal book called Fierce Conversations offers several insights. For instance option Q might be better than my current three options. And where there is anger there is fear, so replace fear with faith. How we enter conversation is how we emerge from them. Learn how to deliver the message without the load. Life is curly. Confront means to search for truth. Multiple truths exist for each problem. Become a crucible: a strong, resilient vessel in which profound change can take place.

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1. His Needs, Her Needs
2. The 5 Love Languages
3. Intended For Pleasure
4. Crucial Conversations
5. The Last Lecture
6. The Love Dare
7. Rock Solid Relationships
8. Change Your Questions, Change Your Life
9. Purity and Passion
10. Anatomy of Peace
11.Fierce Conversations
12. Dealing With Differences In Marriage
13. Parenting The QBQ Way
14. Essentialism
15. The Family You've Always Wanted
16. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families
17. Boundaries In Marriage

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