THULI TALKS

Thuli Dube

"Thuli Talks" is a vibrant and engaging podcast that dives into thought-provoking topics with a fresh and unique perspective. Hosted by Thuli, the podcast explores a wide range of themes, from societal issues and personal development and beyond. With a mix of insightful discussions, insightful interviews, and captivating storytelling, "Thuli Talks" aims to inspire, inform, and challenge listeners to think critically about the world around them. Whether you're seeking meaningful conversations or curious about new ideas, "Thuli Talks" offers a safe space to learn, grow, and connect

  1. JAN 22

    Im Afraid Of Repeating Old Patterns

    In this deeply personal and vulnerable episode of Thuli Talks, I open up about the quiet fear many of us carry but rarely name the fear of repeating old patterns after healing. This isn’t about ignorance. It’s about awareness. It’s about knowing better… and still feeling scared you might fall back. I share raw personal stories about overstaying in relationships and friendships, shrinking myself to belong, choosing familiar pain over unfamiliar peace, and learning that healing doesn’t mean temptation disappears it means you finally pause before repeating cycles. This episode is also a reminder that environment matters. You can pray, journal, fast, and grow but staying in spaces that constantly trigger survival mode can slowly kill what God placed inside of you. We talk about: Why familiar pain feels safer than unknown peaceHow old patterns sneak back in disguised as loneliness and nostalgiaThe spiritual roots of cycles and emotional agreementsThe loneliness that comes with choosing differentlyBreaking self-abandonment and protecting your future selfFaith, discernment, boundaries, and obedience over comfort If you’ve ever thought: “What if I end up back there again?”“What if I heal but still choose the same people?”“What if my environment pulls me back?” This episode is for you. You are not weak for being cautious. You are not behind for moving slowly. You are learning how to protect what God put in you and that takes courage. 🤍 Welcome to Thuli Talks where healing is honest, growth is uncomfortable, and peace is non-negotiable.

    17 min
  2. 12/03/2025

    Soft Love vs. Struggle Love — Knowing When Love Shouldn’t Hurt

    In this two-part, soul-stretching episode of Thuli Talks, Thuli opens her heart wide to explore one of the most misunderstood truths about love: real love is not supposed to hurt. But sometimes, when you grow up surviving chaos, you confuse struggle for loyalty, pain for passion, and turbulence for intensity. Thuli takes you on a deeply personal journey — one where she admits something many of us are scared to say out loud:“I was so used to toxic, inconsistent, painful love… that I didn’t know how to receive safe love. I didn’t know how to trust softness.” 💗 PART 1: Romantic Love — Choosing Softness Over Survival In this first half, Thuli reflects on how her past shaped her definition of love, how normalised struggle became, and how her heart was trained to brace for impact instead of receiving care. She shares how her current relationship gently challenged her wounds, offering her something she never had before: safe love, consistent love, learning love, soft love. She speaks about: mistaking chaos for chemistryconfusing anxiety for connectionwhy peace felt unfamiliarand how her partner’s presence helped her grow, heal, and redefine what love should feel likeThis isn’t a fairy tale — it’s a testimony. A reminder that soft love is real, safe love is possible, and you deserve love that doesn’t require you to shrink, bleed, or fight to be chosen. 🤝 PART 2: Friendships — When Community Becomes Either Soft or Struggle Love Love isn’t only romantic, and Thuli goes deeper by exploring friendships — the ones that felt like home, and the ones that drained her soul. She opens up about: friendships that were built on trauma bondingfriendships that expected emotional labour but never gave it backfriendships that equated loyalty with sufferingand the power of friendships that feel soft, safe, and honestShe reflects on how friendship breakups can hurt more than romantic ones, how we outgrow even the people we love, and how choosing soft love also means choosing friendships that don’t drain your spirit. 💬 A Conversation for Anyone Relearning Love This two-part episode gently guides listeners through: how to recognise when love has become strugglehow to embrace healthy relationships without sabotaging themhow to stop romanticising painhow to choose softness again and againand how to create a life where love doesn’t feel like survivalFilled with personal stories, emotional honesty, scriptural grounding, and gentle encouragement, this episode is for anyone healing from toxic patterns, learning to trust again, or rediscovering themselves in soft spaces. 💖 Final Message This episode is an invitation — to release struggle love, accept safe love, nurture soft friendships, and remember:Love will stretch you, but it should never break you.Love will challenge you, but it should never consume you.Love should make you better — not smaller. Welcome to Thuli Talks. Let’s talk about when love shouldn’t hurt.

    18 min

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"Thuli Talks" is a vibrant and engaging podcast that dives into thought-provoking topics with a fresh and unique perspective. Hosted by Thuli, the podcast explores a wide range of themes, from societal issues and personal development and beyond. With a mix of insightful discussions, insightful interviews, and captivating storytelling, "Thuli Talks" aims to inspire, inform, and challenge listeners to think critically about the world around them. Whether you're seeking meaningful conversations or curious about new ideas, "Thuli Talks" offers a safe space to learn, grow, and connect