Together- The Sacred We

Michael Elliott and Courtney Wren
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A conscious relationship podcast for couples and individuals exploring intimacy, somatic healing, sacred love, and conscious parenting. Hosted by Somatic Therapist & Mystic, Courtney Wren and Relationship Coach, Mike Elliott, Together blends real-life vulnerability with expert tools for growth, connection, and devotion. Deepen trust, navigate parenting, and experience the relationship you’ve always dreamed of.

  1. 5D AGO

    Why Couples Wait Too Long To Get Support

    Curious about Evolutionary Relationship — The Initiation? If something's pulling you toward this program, let's talk. Book a free, no-pressure call to explore whether it's the right fit for you and your partner - Book Your Call → Schedule Here Most couples don't ask for help until the relationship is already bleeding. In this episode, Mike and Courtney Elliott get personally vulnerable about what it actually costs to wait — and what becomes possible when you don't. Courtney shares her experience across two long-term relationships where support came too late: years of patterns piling up, distance quietly hardening, and by the time help arrived, the gap had grown too wide. Mike shares how he showed up to couples therapy in his first marriage completely emotionally unavailable — and didn't even know it. His therapist told him she'd never met anyone like him. He took it as a compliment. It wasn't. This episode covers: Why the "wait until it's bad enough" pattern isn't just cultural — it's wired into us from childhood How couples slowly normalize disconnection until the numbness becomes the relationship The three phases of relational consciousness — Me, You-Me, and We — and what it takes to evolve into the third How the inner child unconsciously steers the relationship toward its oldest wounds A real couple who'd been struggling for 10 years — and reconnected in a single session Why strong, thriving couples invest in support before crisis, not because of it BONUS: The exact "We Language" framework to invite a resistant partner into support If this is landing, the Evolutionary Relationship Program is open now. Don't wait for the crisis to decide you deserve something better. If you’re ready to practice these tools inside a community of couples doing the work, we invite you to join us inside Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation. 👉 Learn more here:⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⭐ We love you. We see you. ❤️ Follow: @sacredrelating | sacredrelating.com If this episode supported you, please leave a 5-star review. 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠ Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠ Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠ 📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠ 🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠ 💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠ Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏 ⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠ ⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.sacredrelaring.com⁠ ⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠ Instagram: @MikeElliott.Relating @courtneywren.sacredrelating **MINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: **⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠Promo Code: TOGETHER THE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠ Promo Code: Together15

    56 min

  2. MAR 20

    The Attachment Truth Every Parent Needs to Know

    If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but also have some specific questions please connect with us. Book Your Call →⁠ https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call⁠ The Attachment Truth Every Parent Needs to Know What if the moment your child seems "totally fine" without you is actually the most important sign to pay attention to? In this solo episode, Courtney — attachment therapist, somatic therapist, and mama — shares the developmental science that changed everything about how she parents her son Cedar. It's the information she wishes she'd had from day one. And it's something most parents have never heard. You'll Learn: What "defensive attachment" is — and why a happy, unbothered child may actually be in distressThe age children can actually hold connection while you're away (most parents are shocked)Why our culture gaslights mothers about their own instinctsHow to repair attachment ruptures — even ones that have already happenedThe 4 principles to anchor you as a conscious parent right nowTimestamps: [0:00] — Introduction from Mike[1:30] — Sacred We community update: almost 100 five-star ratings![3:00] — The gem Courtney wishes she'd known as a new mama[4:30] — How to receive this without shame[8:00] — What attachment really is: the GPS system for connection[11:00] — The retreat story: Courtney leaves at 6am and what her body said[16:30] — The sacred developmental sequence of attachment explained[18:00] — The 4-hour rule: what age can kids hold connection with distance?[20:00] — Defensive attachment: why your child looks "totally fine"[26:00] — Watching defensive attachment unfold in real time[29:00] — The repair: what Cedar finally said ("You left me. I thought you were gone forever.")[35:00] — Cultural myths that get in the way of this landing[38:00] — The real sacrifices — and the real rewards[45:00] — What it looks like when a child IS ready to be away[47:00] — 4 key principles to anchor you[49:00] — Free PDF download + Gordon Neufeld Institute recommendation Resources: 📥 Free PDF Guide — https://drive.google.com/file/d/1HIDD6eC6_9fdVbE8UFmBtwvzAhuOZqDy/view?usp=drive_link 📖 Gordon Neufeld Institute — Power to Parent online course - https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/ 📅 Book a free call with Mike or Courtney — https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call⁠⁠ 💫 Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation — https://www.sacredrelating.com/ Loved this episode? We're SO close to 100 five-star ratings on Spotify — screenshot your review and email it to us so we can celebrate with you! 💛 If you’re ready to practice these tools inside a community of couples doing the work, we invite you to join us inside Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation. 👉 Learn more here:⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⭐ If this episode supported you, please leave a 5-star review. 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠ Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠ Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠ 📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠ 🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠ 💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠ Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏 ⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠ ⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.sacredrelaring.com⁠ ⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠ Instagram: @MikeElliott.Relating @courtneywren.sacredrelating **MINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: **⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠Promo Code: TOGETHER THE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠ Promo Code: Together15

    52 min

  3. MAR 13

    The Great Change - Navigating the Chaos with Grace

    If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but have some questions, let's hop on a no- pressure call to feel into it together so that you and your partner can get clear on what the program is and whether it's a good fit for you. Book Your Call →⁠ https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call⁠ Are you feeling like the world is spinning faster than ever — and wondering how to keep up without burning out? In this episode, Mike and Courtney dive deep into what ancient prophecies, astrology, and spiritual teachers have long called The Great Change — a cosmic shift that's accelerating everything: technology, relationships, consciousness, and the structures of society itself. From the Hopi prophecy to Gene Keys, from Peru's ancient stone portals to Richard Rudd's teachings on the new human, Mike and Courtney weave together timeless wisdom and modern insight to help you understand why the world feels so chaotic right now — and what you can do to not just survive it, but thrive within it. In this episode, you'll discover: Why time is speeding up — and what ancient cultures predicted about this exact moment in history The difference between the electromagnetic energy system (old) and crystalline energy (new) — and how this shift is affecting your nervous system The Hopi prophecy's powerful metaphor of "getting in the canoe" and letting go of the banks How the ego tries to keep you gripping for certainty — and why letting go actually feels better Why your intimate relationships are your greatest resource for navigating collective chaos The Gene Keys concept of your vocation key — and how your deepest wound is actually your greatest gift to the world What Richard Rudd revealed at his 2024 London talk about the "new human" and the significance of 2027 Why interdependence — not hyper-independence — is where we truly thrive Whether you're navigating uncertainty in your relationship, your career, or your inner world — this episode is an invitation to stop fighting the current and start riding it. Hit play, get in the canoe, and let's go. Timestamps: 00:00 — Introduction 02:00 — About Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation 04:30 — Ancient prophecies & Peru 07:00 — Crystalline energy vs. electromagnetic energy 09:30 — The Hopi prophecy 11:00 — The ego's grip: Certainty vs. trust 13:00 — Splitting into two dimensions of experience 20:00 — Gene Keys & Richard Rudd 22:00 — Your vocation key 31:00 — Why the great change will strain relationships 35:00 — The initiation: Tools AND transformation Resources & References Mentioned: Gene Keys by Richard Rudd — genkeys.com The Hopi Prophecy — search 'Hopi Blue Star Prophecy' to read the full teaching If you’re ready to practice these tools inside a community of couples doing the work, we invite you to join us inside Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation. 👉 Learn more here:⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⭐ If this episode supported you, please leave a 5-star review. 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠ Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠ Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠ 📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠ 🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠ 💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠ Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏 ⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠ ⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.sacredrelaring.com⁠ ⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠ Instagram: @MikeElliott.Relating @courtneywren.sacredrelating MINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: ⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠ Promo Code: TOGETHER THE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠ Promo Code: Together15

    38 min

  4. MAR 5

    Jealousy, Partnership, and the ‘Not Enough’ Wound — Healing Side by Side

    If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but also have some specific questions, or want to know more, let's hop on a no- pressure call to feel into it together so that you and your partner can get clear on what the program is and whether it's a good fit for you. Book Your Call → https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call Jealousy in relationships isn’t just about insecurity — it often reveals a deeper wound of feeling “not enough.” In this episode of the Together Podcast, Mike and Courtney explore how jealousy, comparison, and fear of replacement arise inside intimate partnerships. Beneath the surface reactions of control, accusation, or emotional withdrawal often lives a deeper story: the not-enough wound. Drawing from their own relationship experiences and years of working with couples, Mike and Courtney unpack how jealousy can become either destructive or transformative depending on how partners meet it. In this conversation you’ll learn: What jealousy is really trying to reveal in relationshipsHow the “not enough” wound shows up in both partnersWhy comparison creates distance and disconnectionHow couples can turn jealousy into deeper intimacyWhat it means to heal side by side rather than aloneRather than seeing jealousy as something to eliminate, Mike and Courtney explore how it can become a doorway into vulnerability, truth, and deeper partnership. Chapters:  00:00 Jealousy Is Not The Threat 00:30 Three Part Roadmap 01:43 Postpartum Insecurity Story 08:48 Naming Needs And Safety 10:55 The Cabin Reassurance Moment 19:51 Why Being Fine Disconnects 24:59 Thirds And Paper Cuts 29:26 Polyamory And Capacity 31:24 Social Settings Coping Pattern 32:40 Coping With Jealousy 34:11 Reaching For Vulnerability 36:42 Love Is Tender 37:47 Creating Safety Together 39:22 Support And Practice 43:17 Self Responsibility And Growth 48:02 Jealousy Versus Disconnection 51:12 Mike’s Temple Trigger 57:42 Needs Under The Jealousy 01:05:05 Program Invitation And Closing If you’re ready to practice these tools inside a community of couples doing the work, we invite you to join us inside Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation. 👉 Learn more here: ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/ ⭐ If this episode supported you, please leave a 5-star review. 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠ Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠ Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠ 📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠ 🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠ 💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠ Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏 ⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠ ⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.sacredrelaring.com⁠ ⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠ Instagram: @MikeElliott.Relating @courtneywren.sacredrelating MINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: ⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠Promo Code: TOGETHER THE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠ Promo Code: Together15

    1h 9m

  5. FEB 26

    Frustrated By A Partner Who Is Angry and Demanding — Understand Anxious Attachment So You Can Invite Real Connection

    Are you in a relationship where your partner feels angry, demanding, or never satisfied — yet underneath it all, you know they just want connection? In this episode, we unpack anxious attachment in relationships — and why it often doesn’t look like anxiety at all. Instead, it shows up as rage, ambivalence, push-pull dynamics, emotional outbursts, and demands for connection that paradoxically push intimacy away. We explore: The “rage–ambivalence loop” of anxious attachment Why anxious partners can look avoidant at times The illusion of presence (“I’m the only one showing up”) The demand stage vs. self-initiation How to soothe anxious attachment without losing yourself Whether you identify as anxious, avoidant, or secure, this conversation will help you understand what’s really happening beneath conflict — and how to move from blame into embodied partnership. Chapters: 00:00 When Love Feels Repetitive 01:08 Program Invitation The Initiation 02:24 Rate And Share Request 02:57 Anxious Avoidant Setup 05:32 Anxious Looks Like Anger 06:54 Rage Ambivalence Loop 10:10 Anxious Versus Avoidant 12:35 Working With Inner Anger 18:22 How To Stay Present 21:38 Parenting Tantrum Parallel 24:33 Hard Work For Everyone 25:41 Only One Showing Up 26:16 Anxious Presence Illusion 28:28 Embodied Connection Skills 31:37 Hyperfocus Isn’t Attunement 33:18 True Presence Breakthroughs 35:33 Demanding vs Self Initiating 38:36 Reaching Through Old Wounds 44:33 What Anxious Partners Need 46:04 Relational Authority Framework 48:26 Invitation to Go Deeper 52:34 Closing Love and Support If you’re ready to stop looping the same pattern and actually transform it, our signature couples program Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation is where this work becomes lived practice. 👉 Join the program or book a call via the link below.For Couples: If you're ready to move from "unconditional acceptance" to "conditional devotion," join Mike and Courtney's flagship program, Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/ If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but also have some specific questions, or want to know more, let's hop on a no- pressure call to feel into it together so that you and your partner can get clear on what the program is and whether it's a good fit for you.  Book Your Call → https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠ Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠ Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠ 📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠ 🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠ 💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠ Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏 ⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠ ⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.sacredrelaring.com⁠ ⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠ Instagram: @MikeElliott.Relating @courtneywren.sacredrelating MINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: ⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠Promo Code: TOGETHER THE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠ Promo Code: Together15

    54 min

  6. FEB 19

    Masculine Shame: The Part of You That Pushes Love Away

    What if the part of you that feels weak is actually the key to emotional maturity, intimacy, and relational freedom? In this deeply personal solo episode, Mike explores how avoiding weakness, shame, and shadow parts of ourselves creates projection, defensiveness, and disconnection in relationships. Many of us try to build confidence, strength, discipline, and success to outrun the parts of ourselves that feel inadequate — but the more we resist weakness, the more it quietly shapes our behaviour. Drawing from personal stories, including childhood trauma, overcompensation, addiction patterns, masculine identity, and relational conflict, Mike introduces a powerful three-part framework inspired by Gene Keys shadow work: Allow. Accept. Embrace. He unpacks how unintegrated weakness leads to projection, criticism, gaslighting, emotional defensiveness, and the inability to attune in partnership — and why true intimacy begins when we stop fighting the parts of ourselves that feel small. This episode is about masculine vulnerability, shadow integration, relational accountability, and how loving your weakest parts increases your capacity to love others. For Couples: If you're ready to move from "unconditional acceptance" to "conditional devotion," join Mike and Courtney's flagship program, Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/ If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship but also have some specific questions, let's hop on a no pressure call to feel into it together so that you and your partner can get clear on what the program is and whether it's a good fit for you → https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call 🎁 Free Gift: Click here to grab your FREE Masculine & Feminine Essence resource  ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/offers/tnF5MFbN/checkout⁠ 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠ Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠ Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠ 📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠ 🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠ 💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠ Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏 ⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠ ⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.sacredrelaring.com⁠ ⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠ Instagram: @MikeElliott.Relating @courtneywren.sacredrelating MINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: ⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠Promo Code: TOGETHER THE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠ Promo Code: Together15

    40 min

  7. FEB 12

    Why Mature Love is Actually Conditional (And Why That's Safer)

    Most of us have been told that unconditional love is the highest expression of a spiritual relationship. But what if that belief is actually killing your chance at true intimacy? In this episode, Mike and Courtney challenge the cultural narrative around unconditional love and propose something radical: that mature, evolutionary love is actually conditional. And here's what they discovered—this understanding creates MORE love, not less. If you've been feeling drained, unseen, or losing yourself in the name of love, this episode is for you. What You'll Learn: Why unconditional love often masks neglect, enabling, and soul death The difference between love as a feeling vs. love as an action How the lack of conditions actually makes us MORE selfish and less loving The moment Mike realized unconditional love was hurting his relationship How "fierce love" and clear conditions transformed their partnership Why boundaries and conditions are actually deeply loving How to identify YOUR conditions for feeling truly loved Real examples: parenting, marriage, and supporting clients through this shift Key Moment: Mike shares the powerful realization of honoring his own inner child and the vow he made to never abandon his own needs for love again—and how this actually deepened intimacy with Courtney. For Couples: If you're ready to move from "unconditional acceptance" to "conditional devotion," join Mike and Courtney's flagship program, Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation. Early bird pricing available until February 19th—$2,000 savings. https://www.sacredrelating.com/ Timestamps: 0:01 The problem with unconditional love2:11 Introducing the radical idea: love is conditional5:01 Bell Hooks changed everything: "Love is an action"7:04 Why this matters in relationships11:47 The story: How Mike's unconditional love was actually hurting them14:47 Courtney's fierce love and what shifted15:49 The river needs banks: why conditions create safety17:34 Parenting example: How boundaries created more love19:40 Client example: How clarity on conditions changed everything20:28 Gordon Neufeld's insight: No boundaries = neglect21:52 True mature love has limits24:05 The paradox: Love as action + unconditional self-love27:42 Why knowing your conditions attracts the right partner28:27 The Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation programIf you are feeling the pull to join  our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but also have some specific questions, or want to know more, let's hop on a no- pressure call to feel into it together so that you and your partner can get clear on what the program is and whether it's a good fit for you. Book Your Call → https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call 🎁 Free Gift: Click here to grab your FREE Masculine & Feminine Essence resource  https://www.sacredrelating.com/offers/tnF5MFbN/checkout 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples Work with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching Work with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth 📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast 🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist 💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏 ⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠ Email: ⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠ ⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠ Website: ⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠ www.sacredrelaring.com www.courtneywren.com Instagram: @MikeElliott.Relating @courtneywren.sacredrelating MINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: https://mindfulmeds.io/Promo Code: TOGETHER THE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠ Promo Code: Together15

    33 min

  8. FEB 5

    Why Self Regulation Is Killing Your Intimacy

    🌱 If you’re feeling called to practice this work in real time, our flagship offering Evolutionary Relationship - The Initiation, price is increasing in two weeks—join at the current rate here. → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-we If you’ve been told to take space, go into another room, and self-regulate before reconnecting with your partner, this episode may completely change how you understand intimacy.In the conscious relationship and nervous-system world, self-regulation is often treated as the gold standard for healing conflict. But what if focusing on self-regulation alone is actually creating more separation, loneliness, and disconnection in your relationship? In this deeply embodied episode, Mike & Courtney challenge the self-regulation myth and introduce a radically different approach: co-regulation as the foundation of intimacy. Drawing from attachment science, developmental psychology, and real moments from their own relationship, they explain why humans learn regulation through connection — not isolation — and why intimacy deepens fastest when partners become regulation buddies. They share how ruptures that once lasted days now resolve in minutes, why taking space too soon can reinforce attachment wounds, and how learning to stay together in dysregulation builds trust, safety, polarity, and desire. ✨ In this episode: Why self-regulation alone can deepen separation How co-regulation actually builds nervous-system resilience Why taking space too quickly can backfire The concept of becoming “regulation buddies” The golden rule: connection before communication Chapters:00:00 Introduction to the Self-Regulation Myth00:51 Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation01:23 Special Offer Announcement02:13 Challenging Relationship Myths03:00 The Self-Regulation Myth Explained04:01 The Power of Co-Regulation05:11 Personal Experiences and Insights08:00 The Sacred We Space23:29 Practical Applications and Success Stories42:24 Conclusion and Invitation 🎁 Free Gift: Click here to grab your FREE Masculine & Feminine Essence resource  https://www.sacredrelating.com/offers/tnF5MFbN/checkout 💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples Work with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching Work with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth 📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast 🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist 💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏 ⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠ Email: ⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠ ⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠ Website: ⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠ www.sacredrelaring.com www.courtneywren.com Instagram: @MikeElliott.Relating @courtneywren.sacredrelating MINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: https://mindfulmeds.io/Promo Code: TOGETHER THE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠ Promo Code: Together15

    45 min
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A conscious relationship podcast for couples and individuals exploring intimacy, somatic healing, sacred love, and conscious parenting. Hosted by Somatic Therapist & Mystic, Courtney Wren and Relationship Coach, Mike Elliott, Together blends real-life vulnerability with expert tools for growth, connection, and devotion. Deepen trust, navigate parenting, and experience the relationship you’ve always dreamed of.

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  • Creator
    Michael Elliott and Courtney Wren
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    87
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Michael Elliott and Courtney Wren
  • Show Website
    Together- The Sacred We

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