Totally Not Unbothered

Alyssa Colwell

Totally Not Unbothered is a hot mess of a podcast about navigating your 20s, mental health, friendships, healing, and all the chaos in between. Hosted by a 21-year-old figuring it out in real time, it’s honest, unfiltered, and full of relatable moments. It’s like a FaceTime call with your funniest, most introspective friend—raw, messy, and real. Because let’s be honest… we’re all pretending we’re fine sometimes, but we’re totally not unbothered.

Episodes

  1. 09/24/2025

    This Episode Makes No Sense (But Somehow Works)

    I can’t even tell you what this episode is about… because I don’t know either. It’s a mix of ranting, oversharing, and whatever my brain decided to serve up today. Chaotic? Absolutely. Entertaining? Hopefully.

    33 min

  2. 09/11/2025

    You Can't Plan for Everything and That's Okay

    This week, we’re talking about the reality check we all need sometimes: you can’t plan for everything. As much as we try to have it all figured out, life has a way of throwing curveballs that remind us we’re not in control of every detail. In this episode, I get into why that’s not always a bad thing, how to loosen the grip on needing certainty, and the beauty that can come from things not going as planned.

    37 min

  3. 09/03/2025

    No Filter, No Plan… What Could Go Wrong? (ft. Samantha DaCruz)

    This episode is exactly what happens when you put me and my older sister in front of microphones with zero plan. Total chaos. We’re everywhere all at once — jumping from random stories to hot takes to inside jokes that probably only make sense to us. One minute we’re laughing about something random, the next we’re spiraling into the most unhinged conversations you could imagine.If you’ve ever wondered what it’s like to be in the middle of our sibling banter, this episode is basically a front-row seat. No script, no filter, just pure sister energy: messy, hilarious, and kind of comforting in its own weird way.

    57 min

  4. 08/27/2025

    Senior Year Reflections: College Doesn't Define You

    In this episode of Totally Not Unbothered, I get real about the pressure around choosing the “perfect” college. Back in high school, I thought this one decision would make or break my future — but now, starting my senior year of college, I’ve realized the truth. I talk about the stress, the comparisons, and the reality check I’ve had over the past four years, plus what I wish I could tell my younger self. College isn’t the end-all be-all — it’s about what you make of it.

    42 min

  5. 08/13/2025

    Failure Is the Beginning of the Story (Do You Believe Me?)

    Failure is something everyone experiences, but it’s often misunderstood and feared. In this episode, we explore why failure feels so hard and why it’s actually a crucial step toward growth and success.We discuss the difference between failing and simply not reaching a goal yet, how failure affects confidence, and why it’s unrealistic to expect success without setbacks. You’ll also hear practical tips on changing your mindset around failure, overcoming the fear of trying again, and building resilience.Plus, I share a personal story about turning a tough failure into a win, and challenge you to take a step forward — even if it means failing along the way.

    40 min

  6. 08/06/2025

    Not Everyone Deserves a Seat at Your Table

    This week, we’re getting into it, why the people you surround yourself with matter more than you think. I’m talking about draining friendships, outgrowing people (without the guilt), and learning to protect your peace. Just because someone’s been in your life for years doesn’t mean they still deserve access to you. If you’ve been feeling off lately, maybe it’s not you… maybe it’s who you’re around. Let’s talk about it.

    44 min

  7. 07/30/2025

    Little Steps Still Move You Forward

    Let’s talk about something real: Showing up when you're tired.In this episode of Totally Not Unbothered, I’m unpacking the pressure to be “on” all the time and what it looks like to give yourself credit—even on the days you feel like you’ve got nothing left in the tank. We’re told that success means showing up at 100%, looking good, feeling good, having your life together. But what about the days when you’re running on 10% and still show up anyway? That’s strength too. I’m sharing my own experience with exhaustion, self-doubt, and the quiet wins we don’t always celebrate. From fitness goals to mental burnout, this one’s for the overachievers, the perfectionists, and the people just trying to keep it together.

    43 min

  8. 07/23/2025

    Why Are We Impressing Everyone But Ourselves?

    We talk a lot about “being ourselves,” but no one really talks about how hard it is to actually do that when we’re constantly trying to impress everyone else. In this episode, I’m getting honest about the pressure to be liked, the ways I lost myself trying to fit in, and the turning point that made me start living for me again.From changing your personality to get approval, to putting on a full face just to feel worthy — it’s exhausting. If you’ve ever felt like you’re performing instead of just existing, this one’s for you.

    40 min

  9. 07/16/2025

    What No One Talks About: Trying to Make Ends Meet

    We always hear about the “college experience,” but no one really talks about the stress of just trying to survive. In this episode, I’m getting real about what it’s like to juggle bills, jobs, school, and mental health—all at once. From skipping meals to skipping sleep, from energy drinks to emotional burnout, I’m unpacking the quiet chaos that so many of us are living through. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything you can just to stay afloat—you’re not alone. This one’s for you!!

    44 min

  10. 07/09/2025

    How Confidence Shapes Who You Are

    This week, I’m diving into how confidence shapes the way we see ourselves, show up, and make decisions. From a bikini moment to deep-rooted self-worth, I’m sharing how my confidence grew, what held me back, and how you can build yours too. Let’s talk insecurity, mindset shifts, and why owning your uniqueness is your greatest power.

    42 min

  11. 07/02/2025

    The Pressure to Have it All Figured Out (Spoiler: I Don't)

    Welcome to the very first episode of Totally Not Unbothered! In this intro episode, I’m sharing why I started this podcast, who it’s for, and what you can expect from the chaos. I’m also diving into the pressure to have your life “figured out”—especially in your 20s—and why I’m done pretending to have it all together. If you’ve ever felt behind, overwhelmed, or like everyone else has the answers but you… you’re not alone. This is your safe space to feel it all.

    30 min

  12. Trailer

    Trailer: Welcome to Totally Not Unbothered

    Welcome to Totally Not Unbothered! In this trailer episode, I’m giving you the lowdown on what this podcast is all about—real talk, mental health, messy moments, and everything in between. Whether you’re navigating your 20s, needing a safe space to vent, or just here for the relatable chaos, you’ve found your new favorite spot. Tune in and embrace the mess with me

    1 min

Trailer

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About

Totally Not Unbothered is a hot mess of a podcast about navigating your 20s, mental health, friendships, healing, and all the chaos in between. Hosted by a 21-year-old figuring it out in real time, it’s honest, unfiltered, and full of relatable moments. It’s like a FaceTime call with your funniest, most introspective friend—raw, messy, and real. Because let’s be honest… we’re all pretending we’re fine sometimes, but we’re totally not unbothered.

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  • Creator
    Alyssa Colwell
  • Years Active
    2K
  • Episodes
    12
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Alyssa Colwell
  • Show Website
    Totally Not Unbothered