Touching Grass

Sofia
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Touching Grass is your escape from the digital noise. In a world full of extremes, Sofia offers grounded, nuanced conversations on identity, friendship, dating, careers, self‑worth, and the pressure of living online. This podcast helps you think for yourself, break out of the internet’s loudest narratives, and reconnect with your own perspective through empathy, clarity, and honest reflection.

  1. 2d ago

    you're not in your feminine energy, you're just finally safe (the truth about gendered energies)

    Being in your feminine energy. Finding a man who lets you relax. Finally leaving survival mode behind. It's one of the most popular ideas on the internet right now. And honestly... I understand why people are drawn to it. In this episode of Touching Grass, we break down the rise of "feminine and masculine energy" content, why millions of people find it empowering, and how a message that sounds liberating may actually be reinforcing the very gender roles it claims to challenge. Because what most people don't talk about is this: The feeling they're describing is real. The explanation isn't. What people call "feminine energy" often has less to do with gender and more to do with safety, trust, emotional security, and the way healthy relationships regulate our nervous systems. We get into: -Why feminine and masculine energy became so popular online -How old gender roles were repackaged as modern empowerment -Why the idea of a man "putting you in your feminine" is more problematic than it sounds -What social buffering and co-regulation actually are -Why healthy relationships create peace, not gendered roles -How these labels affect dating, careers, self-worth, and personal growth -Why women are discouraged from embracing traits like confidence, leadership, and discipline -How men are harmed by expectations that tie their worth to providing and protecting -The difference between partnership and dependence -Why nature doesn't support the gendered narratives people often use to justify these ideas -How social media profits from simplifying complex human emotions into viral labels This episode isn't about attacking femininity. And it's not about criticizing people who find comfort in these ideas. It's about understanding what is actually happening beneath the labels. Because strength isn't masculine. Compassion isn't feminine. And the moment we stop treating human qualities as gendered traits, we gain access to the full range of who we are. The truth is, you don't need to become more masculine or more feminine. You need the freedom to be fully human.

    21 min

  2. Jun 9

    Beans Were a Slur Before They Were a Trend

    This week on Touching Grass, we’re talking about beans… but not really. From “BeanTok” to avocado toast, this episode dives into how certain foods, styles, slang, and trends suddenly become “cool” once they’re adopted by the mainstream, while the communities who created them are still judged, stereotyped, or erased. As a Latina, I wanted to explore the deeper layers behind trends: Who gets to decide what’s socially acceptable? Why do some cultures get mocked for the very things others get praised for? And what happens when culture becomes trendy, but the people behind it are still treated as “other”? We talk about: -BeanTok and wellness culture -The history behind food-related slurs -Why trends often start in minority communities -The “gentrification” of foods like avocado toast -Cultural erasure and social acceptance -Why appreciating culture also means understanding its history -The difference between sharing culture vs profiting from it while ignoring the people behind it This episode isn’t about shaming people for liking trends. It’s about recognizing that trends don’t appear out of nowhere; they come from real people, histories, families, and communities. So yes… this episode may be about beans. But it’s really about human beings :) Welcome to Touching Grass your escape from the digital noise

    12 min

  3. Jun 2

    Love Lessons from an ‘Expired’ 25‑Year‑Old

    Turning 25 as a single woman on the internet apparently means I’m “expired.”So in this episode of Touching Grass, I decided to talk about it.Not just the ridiculous online discourse around women aging, dating, and “market value,” but the real lessons about love, relationships, heartbreak, situationships, timing, and self-worth that I’ve learned over the past 25 years.This is probably the most personal episodes I’ve recorded.We talk about:-Why it’s okay to date people you may not marry-How relationships can still be meaningful even if they end-Why situationships happen so often in our generation-The difference between fireworks and peace in love-Why lifestyle and direction matter just as much as chemistry-Learning what healthy love actually feels like-Breakups that happen without anyone being the villain-Why being single in your 20s is not a failure-And how growing older as a woman is actually a privilege, not a punishmentI also open up about my first real relationship, what it taught me about emotional safety, and why I no longer believe love is supposed to feel like an explosion.Because maybe the goal isn’t to find someone before you “run out of time.”Maybe the goal is to know yourself well enough to choose the right person when they finally arrive.If you’re in your 20s feeling behind in love, pressured by timelines, healing from heartbreak, or trying to figure out what healthy relationships actually look like, this episode is for you.Welcome to Touching Grass, your escape from the digital noise.

    15 min

  4. May 26

    I isolated myself to not be seen as a failure

    There’s a fear a lot of us carry but rarely say out loud.The fear of being seen as a failure.In this episode of Touching Grass, I open up about what it feels like to be in a pause in life that doesn’t look like progress from the outside, especially when you’ve spent years moving from goal to goal, identity to identity, and suddenly find yourself in a chapter that feels uncertain, invisible, and uncomfortable to explain.I’m currently unemployed, and instead of feeling like a “cinematic comeback arc,” this phase has brought up something else entirely: shame, comparison, and the fear of what other people might think.And that fear? It made me isolate myself more than I realized.But the more I sat with it, the more I started to notice something important: this experience isn’t rare, and it isn’t a sign that something is wrong.It’s part of being in your 20s, figuring life out in real time, and learning that the path you were taught to follow was never as linear as it seemed.In this episode, we talk about:-Why unemployment and “in-between” phases feel so emotionally heavy-The shame that comes from not having a clear identity or direction-How fear of judgment isolates us more than reality ever does-The myth of the linear path and why life rarely unfolds the way we expect-Why success is slow, non-linear, and built through confusion, not certainty-How social media distorts timelines and creates unrealistic expectations of progress-The gap between who you were, who you want to be, and who you are right now-Why most people feel lost, even the ones who seem like they have it all figured out-How vulnerability and honesty actually reduce shame instead of increasing it-Why isolating yourself during hard moments makes everything heavier than it needs to be-And how connection can quietly change the way you experience uncertaintyThis isn’t a polished story with a perfect ending.It’s a reminder that feeling behind, embarrassed, or unsure doesn’t make you a failure; it makes you human.Because most people aren’t judging you the way you think they are.And the ones who matter aren’t measuring your worth by your timeline.If anything, they’ve probably been exactly where you are.And if you’re in that place right now: feeling stuck, uncertain, or like your life doesn’t look the way it “should”; you’re not alone in it.There’s more people in this than you think.And this is just one chapter, not the whole story.

    15 min

  5. May 19

    You're Not Nonchalant, You're Insecure

    The internet is obsessed with being “nonchalant.” Don’t care too much. Don’t try too hard. Don’t text first. Don’t be cringe. But in this episode of Touching Grass, we break down why the online obsession with looking cool, detached, and emotionally unavailable is actually rooted in insecurity; and how the fear of being judged is stopping people from becoming who they want to be. Because the truth is, the people who achieve their goals, build meaningful relationships, and create fulfilling lives are rarely the people pretending not to care. They’re the ones willing to try. We get into: -Why social media romanticizes being nonchalant and emotionally detached -How fear of embarrassment keeps people from chasing their goals -Why “trying too hard” became an insult online -How insecurity disguises itself as not caring -The connection between confidence, vulnerability, and success -Why success requires failure, rejection, and being misunderstood -How fear of judgment holds people back from opportunities and growth -The emotional cost of pretending not to care in friendships and relationships -Why people avoid love, vulnerability, and deep connection to protect themselves -How performing for other people slowly disconnects you from your real identity -The regret that comes from never trying, never risking, and never fully living This episode is for anyone who has ever: -held themselves back because they were afraid of looking stupid, -wanted to start something but felt embarrassed to be seen trying, -or felt pressured to act like they care less than they actually do. Because life isn’t meant to be lived on the surface. And the coolest thing you can do isn’t pretending not to care. It’s caring enough to try anyway. To love deeply. To risk failure. To put yourself out there. And to become the version of yourself you’re too scared to admit you want to be. At the end of the day, people are going to talk either way. So you might as well give them something worth talking about.

    9 min

  6. May 12

    “Protecting Your Peace” Is Keeping You Lonely

    The internet loves to talk about boundaries.“Protect your peace.”“Cut people off.”“Match energy.”But what happens when those ideas go too far?In this episode of Touching Grass, we break down how social media has turned boundaries into extremes and how that shift is making us more isolated, more judgmental, and less connected than ever.Because while everyone is craving deeper friendships and a sense of community, the expectations we place on individuals have never been higher.And the truth is…No one person was ever meant to be everything for you.We get into:-How social media distorted the idea of boundaries and “protecting your peace”-The difference between real boundaries vs. emotional avoidance-How unrealistic expectations are ruining friendships and creating isolation-Why not every friend is meant to show up the same way, and why that’s a good thing-The importance of having different types of friends for different parts of your life-How over-relying on one person leads to conflict, insecurity, and disappointment-Why true community comes from a group of people, not one perfect relationship-How empathy plays a role in building stronger, more fulfilling connections-What it actually means to build a “village” in adulthoodThis isn’t about ignoring red flags or staying in unhealthy relationships.Boundaries matter, but so does nuance.Because there’s a difference between protecting your peace…and isolating yourself in the process.Real friendships aren’t perfect.They don’t follow a script.And they don’t look the same across every person in your life.They’re built through showing up, understanding each other, and allowing people to be human.And if you want a real sense of community...You have to stop expecting one person to be everything, and start building a village instead.

    9 min

  7. May 5

    Escaping the 9-5 Isn’t the Freedom They Promised

    Quitting your 9–5. Traveling the world. Slow mornings, financial freedom, and a life that feels like your own.It’s one of the most appealing ideas on the internet right now. And honestly… I get it. In this episode of Touching Grass, we break down the rise of anti–9-to-5 culture, the dream of escaping corporate life, and why the version of “freedom” being sold online isn’t as simple, or as attainable, as it seems. Because what most people don’t talk about is this: You can’t actually escape the system. You can only change your position within it. From tradwife content to digital nomads, from sales influencers to the manosphere, every corner of the internet is pushing its own version of freedom. Different lifestyles, same promise: financial independence and a life outside the system. But who really benefits from that narrative? We get into: -Why anti–9-to-5 messaging is everywhere online right now -How influencers monetize the idea of “escaping” corporate life -What would actually happen if everyone left their 9–5 jobs -The global reality of capitalism and who it depends on -Why financial “freedom” often relies on someone else’s labor -How the system is built on constant growth, consumption, and exploitation -Why we blame jobs, school, and routines instead of questioning the system itself -The difference between changing your life vs. changing your position in the hierarchy -How social media promotes individual escape instead of collective change -Who is actually the most exploited and why their work is essential This episode isn’t about defending the 9–5. And it’s not about criticizing people who want more freedom. It’s about understanding the system we’re all operating in, and why so many people feel stuck, exhausted, and frustrated without fully knowing why. Because the problem isn’t just your job. And it’s not just your lifestyle. It’s the structure that makes both feel impossible to sustain. The truth is, a life of “freedom” as it’s sold online doesn’t exist without someone else paying the price for it. And until we understand that, we continue the cycle we so desperately want to escape.

    14 min

  8. Apr 28

    Paid Promotions Are Rewiring Your Brain | How Money Changes Entertainment

    Most of what you’re watching on social media isn’t just content. It’s marketing. In this episode of Touching Grass, we break down how the line between entertainment and advertising has disappeared, and how the attention economy, influencer marketing, and personal branding have reshaped what you see online. Social media platforms are designed to keep you watching. The longer you stay, the more valuable your attention becomes. That means creators aren’t just making videos for fun anymore, they’re building businesses. From digital products to brand deals, today’s content often acts as a marketing funnel designed to build trust, grow influence, and ultimately sell.The problem is, it doesn’t look like marketing. It looks like lifestyle content, routines, opinions, and entertainment. But behind the scenes, strategy drives what gets posted, what goes viral, and what keeps you engaged. And when money is involved, even ideas, identities, and belief systems can become part of what’s being sold. We get into: -How the attention economy shapes what you see on social media -Why influencer marketing is built on trust, and how that trust is monetized -How content has evolved into a business funnel for digital products and brand deals -The reality behind personal branding and why it’s not the same as a person -How creators are incentivized to post certain lifestyles, opinions, and trends -Why extreme content performs better and spreads faster online -How ideologies and aesthetics are packaged as entertainment but function as marketing -Why it’s getting harder to tell what’s authentic vs. what’s optimized for engagement -How social media subtly influences what you think, want, and believe This isn’t about avoiding social media or assuming every creator is inauthentic. It’s about recognizing how the system works so you can engage with it more intentionally. Because the most effective marketing doesn’t feel like marketing. And when you can’t tell the difference between entertainment and advertising, it doesn’t just influence what you buy. It influences how you see the world.

    11 min
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Touching Grass is your escape from the digital noise. In a world full of extremes, Sofia offers grounded, nuanced conversations on identity, friendship, dating, careers, self‑worth, and the pressure of living online. This podcast helps you think for yourself, break out of the internet’s loudest narratives, and reconnect with your own perspective through empathy, clarity, and honest reflection.

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  • Creator
    Sofia
  • Years Active
    2K
  • Episodes
    23
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © Sofia
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