Toxic Masculinity - Behind The Mask Shari Lewison-Frisch

Keeper tells a powerful story of growing up as one of eight siblings – 4 brothers and 4 sisters. They were a tight-knit family who were about to launch a successful music career replacing the Jackson 5 when the
unthinkable happened.

The bombshell announcement by his mother of what his
step-father had done would end up having a devastating effect on the entire family for decades to come until, that is, Keeper decided to break the silence and share his story with the world.

Listen now to Keeper's heart-breaking story of despair and shame.

Simon is a philosophy & applied ethics lecturer, creator of academic online courses and passionate about all topics exploring modern man and masculinity in today’s society.
Simon writes blogs on positive masculinity which can be found on medium.com.
In this episode we discussed why the traditional role of men is dead and how patriarchy has had a devastating effect on men.
Men can no longer rely on relationships to get their need to be strong and needed validated as women have their own well-paid jobs and can provide for themselves.
So what do men need to do? Listen now to find out.
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Cass is a coach who has helped thousands of men save their marriages which were on the brink of collapse due to constant fighting, lack of sex, adultery etc.

Cass had been in an abusive marriage for years and openly admits that he abused his wife emotionally, physical and sexually. He had a restraining order against him and a 12-month probationary order and his wife had left him 7 times!

So how was Cass able to turn his own abusive marriage around and convince his wife that the relationship was savable and that he had the power to change?

Normally, being verbally and physically abusive to your
partner would signal the end of the relationship which most people would struggle to come back from.

It was a great conversation, so listen here to find out how Cass was able to turn his life around and help so many other men and women do the same.

Enjoy!

Rachel is a child psychotherapist working in schools and in this episode she talks to me about the significant rise in the number of boys and young men who are coming to see her.  

Rachel has a wealth of experience in school settings supporting students with their mental
health. She advises schools on their mental health strategies and setting up counselling provisions in schools.

Rachel supports young people with issues such as anxiety, eating disorders, depression and trauma.

We spoke about the difference between how boys approach mental health and respond to therapy compared with girls. Although the issues aren’t that different, the language we use needs to be quite different, and learning how to interact with them to unlock what is really going on beneath the anger, rage, despondency or moodiness.

Rachel gives us some valuable insights and tips on how to talk about mental health with men.

I hope you enjoy the episode

In this episode Gavin talks about the toxicity within the gym culture and the over-whelming need to look good and impress others. We spoke about the growing use of steroids amongst young men and boys to bulk up their muscle mass instead of working with the body as it is. We also talked about the collective, generational trauma in the south-Asian community and why they don’t want to talk about mental health issues for fear of shame or blame.

In this episode, I spoke to Anthony about what it is that men want in a relationship. What qualities do they value and part active part are they willing to take in supporting their partner with cooking, cleaning and taking care of the kids? Or is it the woman’s role as the nurturer despite maybe working a full-time job? It’s time to challenge those age-old perspectives and ask ourselves is there a different way men can show up and still remain masculine? Have a listen now.