Trauma Free Relationship Tom Philp

Join me in this episode where we break down trauma cycles that couples get stuck in, and the negative messages that gets sent through their protection. We dissect how the fear networks in our brain generalize and struggle to tell the difference between imagination and reality. They often conflate the message that is sent by our partner's defensive behavior and their intent, and we look at the protective message that get interpreted by the anxious and avoidant attachment style of each partner.



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Join me in this episode when I discuss how to balance independence with togetherness. This is something all couples must negotiate, regardless of whether they have a secure or insecure attachment style. We discuss what make balancing these two needs difficult, and historically why independence was favored over togetherness.

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Join us in this episode when we explore gaslighting. We discuss the differences between gaslighting as intentional manipulation, versus your partner having a difference experience. We identify what gaslighting looks and feels like, to help you understand whether you are being gaslight in your relationship. And finally, we talk about strategies to consider if you are in an unsafe relationship due to gaslighting.



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Join us in this episode where we explore a new tool for couples by learning to use present process reflection. This tool allows the couple to bring into fucus what is happening in the interaction in the present moment. Couples usually get bogged down in the words they are saying to one another and end up stuck in patterns of communication that go no where. By using this technique, it allows the couples to understand the nonverbal interaction that is reflecting more of what is happening than just the words. By doing so the couple learns to identify the old communication patterns and address the implicit ways they get stuck.



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Join us in this episode where we talk about how to have difficult conversations, not only with your partner, but with anyone. This is an essential life skills, being able to discuss something emotional with someone else, whether that is a colleague, a friend, or your spouse, learning to have healthy and productive difficult conversations can go a long way in helping you navigate your world. Not only do we define what a difficult conversation is, but we walk through some bullet points to help guide you in those conversations. This is an episode you don't want to miss.

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In this episode we discuss the hard to reach places that we hold inside ourselves that causes such difficulties. Those raw scars that we feel about ourselves and usually never show to anyone. What if those places get triggered in our interactions with our partner? How do we open ourselves up to get a response from our partner that can have a healing effect on our past traumas. I provide a case example to illustrate those hard to reach places and beliefs we have about ourselves that were born out of trauma. Those traumatic meanings that we carry into our adult relationships and make it difficult to connect.



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