Trial & Error & Error Podcast

Trial & Error & Error Podcast

Two work besties thriving in their late 20s, (or attempting to). Relationships, work, family, society expectations... And the return of Lindsay Lohan. You know what they say: ”3rd time’s the charm!” Our goal is to make ”Fetch” happen.

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    45. Highs and Lows: Substance Use in the Modern Era

    In Highs & Lows: Substance Use in the Modern Era 🎙️✨, we’re taking a clear-eyed, non-judgmental look at what “substance use” really means today. From the 1990s prescription opioid boom 💊 to the 2020s rise of synthetic drugs like fentanyl ⚠️, we trace how the landscape has shifted and why the risks can look so different now. We also dig into the generational changes: why Gen Z is drinking less 🍷⬇️, why vaping is up 🚬⬆️, and how mental health awareness 🧠 and digital life 📱 are reshaping choices and behaviors. Along the way, we cover: Definitions: use vs misuse vs substance use disorder (SUD) ✅ What’s changing in legal, prescription, illicit, and emerging substances 🌍 The real physical, psychological, and social risks 🧩 Cultural shifts like “sober curious” 🥤, wellness alternatives 🌿, and new therapy research 🔬 If you or someone you know needs support, we’ve included resources below  Resources ❤️ If in immediate danger call your local emergency number: EU 112; Austria Ö3 Kummernummer 116 123, Rat auf Draht (for young people) 147, Suchthilfe Wien https://suchthilfe.wien, Gesundheit Österreich: Suchtberatung directory https://www.gesundheit.gv.at/leben/sucht/suchtberatung; International SAMHSA National Helpline (US) 1-800-662-HELP https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline, FindTreatment.gov https://findtreatment.gov, UK FRANK https://www.talktofrank.com and NHS services https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/addiction-support, Canada https://www.canada.ca/en/health-canada/services/substance-use.html, Narcotics Anonymous https://www.na.org, Alcoholics Anonymous https://www.aa.org, SMART Recovery https://www.smartrecovery.org. 🔗 References American Psychiatric Association (DSM-5 criteria for SUD) Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) – overdose statistics Monitoring the Future Study (University of Michigan) National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA) World Health Organization (WHO) reports on substance use Volkow, N. et al. (2021–2024). Trends in opioid and stimulant use Twenge, J. (2017–2023). Generational behavioral research Patrick, M. E., & Schulenberg, J. (2020). Adolescent substance trends Johns Hopkins Psychedelic Research Unit publications

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    43. Should I open my relationship?

    In this episode of Trial & Error & Error, LJ and Ale unpack the truth behind open relationships and consensual non-monogamy. From definitions and common relationship styles to what the research says about satisfaction, jealousy, stigma, and mental health, they lay out the potential benefits and real risks so listeners can decide what fits their values. In this episode, we cover: 💬 What an open relationship is (and what it is not) 🧩 Different types of consensual non-monogamy: swinging, polyamory, open relationships, and relationship anarchy 📊 What research says about relationship satisfaction and sexual satisfaction 🧠 Why jealousy still shows up, and how some couples manage it ⚠️ Common risks: unequal desire, boundary violations, and communication breakdowns 🧭 When opening a relationship might help, and when it can backfire 🛠️ A science-based approach to opening a relationship with clear boundaries and check-ins ✨ Listener takeaway: Open relationships are not a shortcut to fixing problems. They tend to amplify whatever is already present, so success depends on honesty, trust, and ongoing communication. 📚 REFERENCES (ACADEMIC & MEDIA) Rubel, A. N., & Bogaert, A. F. (2016). Consensual nonmonogamy: Psychological well-being and relationship quality. Journal of Sex Research. Conley, T. D., et al. (2013). A critical examination of popular assumptions about the benefits and outcomes of monogamous relationships. Personality and Social Psychology Review. Moors, A. C., et al. (2017). Stigma toward consensual non-monogamy. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. Sheff, E. (2014). The Polyamorists Next Door. Haupert, M. L., et al. (2017). Prevalence of experiences with consensual nonmonogamous relationships. Archives of Sexual Behavior. Podcast: Multiamory Podcast (relationship science & CNM communication) Podcast: Esther Perel’s Where Should We Begin? YouTube: Talks by relationship therapist Esther Perel on modern intimacy

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    41. The Philosophy of Burnout

    Ever feel like you’re one slightly-too-optimistic to-do list away from spontaneously combusting? Same. In this episode, Ale and LJ take on the philosophy of burnout: why “we work less than ever” can still somehow feel like “I have 37 jobs and they all hate me.” We unpack how modern achievement culture turns us into our own boss, our own employee, and our own extremely judgmental HR department. Expect big thoughts, small jokes, and at least one spiritual attack on hustle culture. 😌🔥 ✅ Key Takeaways Burnout is not just tiredness. It is chronic exhaustion plus cynicism and that creeping “I’m failing at life” feeling. 🫠 Achievement culture hands you the whip. Nobody has to pressure you when your inner critic is working overtime. 🧠⚡ Individualism can make everything transactional. Friends become “networking,” dating becomes a job interview, and vulnerability becomes a risk assessment. 🧍‍♀️📉 Rest becomes suspicious. If your hobby does not monetize itself by Tuesday, capitalism is disappointed in you. 😭🧘 The irony: the “freer” you are to become anything, the less free you feel while chasing an impossible perfect version of yourself. 🪞🏃 🔗 Resources Mentioned in the episode Unsolicited Advice (YouTube) — inspiration for the episode’s philosophical framing Byung-Chul Han — The Burnout Society (key idea: the “achievement society” and self-exploitation) Extra resources for listeners Christina Maslach & Michael P. Leiter — research on burnout (incl. the Maslach Burnout Inventory) World Health Organization (WHO) — “Burn-out” (ICD-11) definition and overview Cal Newport — Slow Productivity (and related talks on sustainable work) Emily & Amelia Nagoski — Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle Johan Hari — Lost Connections (on disconnection, meaning, and well-being)

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    40. When to start Couples Therapy?

    Couples therapy is not just for relationships on the brink. In this episode, LJ and Ale unpack when to start couples therapy, what research says about timing, and the signs that “we’re fine” might actually mean “we’re stuck.” 💬🧠 You’ll hear about: Early intervention and why it works ✅ The “Four Horsemen” warning signs ⚠️ High-risk transition seasons that can test any relationship 🔁 Different therapy styles, from EFT to the Gottman Method 🧩 How to find a therapist that fits you (not just the internet) 🔍 If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s “bad enough” to go to therapy, this episode is your gentle nudge: you do not have to wait for a disaster to get support. 🫶🏽 🎛️ Editor’s note: The audio quality in this recording is not our best. We’re sorry about that, and we appreciate your patience while we keep improving our setup. 📚 References American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (2015). Consumer Update Survey. Doss, B. D., et al. (2009). The effect of the transition to parenthood on relationship quality. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. Gottman, J. M. (1994). Why Marriages Succeed or Fail. Simon & Schuster. Johnson, S. M., et al. (1999). Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: Status and challenges. Clinical Psychology: Science and Practice. Wiebe, S. A., & Johnson, S. M. (2016). A review of the research in Emotionally Focused Therapy. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy. Williamson, H. C., et al. (2016). Timing and effectiveness of couple therapy. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology. Perel, E. (2017). Mating in Captivity. Harper. Gottman Institute research summaries (various publications). Showtime. (2019–2025). Couples Therapy.

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    38. Will my internet history come to haunt me in the future? A closer look into cancel culture

    This week on Trial & Error & Error, we’re diving into cancel culture: what it actually means, where it came from, and why “accountability” online can sometimes turn into a full-blown pile-on. ⚠️ Trigger warning: This episode includes mention/discussion of rape/sexual violence. Please take care while listening. 🔊 Quick audio note: The sound quality in this episode isn’t the best in parts (sorry!) — thank you for bearing with us. 📅 New episode out Wednesday — listen wherever you get your podcasts 🎙️ 💬 Question of the week: Have you ever deleted an old post out of fear? 😬 🎧 Episode Overview We talk about digital footprints, screenshots being forever, and the very real anxiety of feeling like one old post could resurface and define you. We explore the gray areas: Does time passed matter? Does intent matter? Are apologies ever “enough”? And should different public figures (politicians vs. reality TV stars vs. comedians) be judged by different standards? Plus, we get into the psychology behind ostracism, outrage algorithms, group polarization, and what all of this does to creativity, growth, and the way Gen Z shows up online. 📚 Resources & References Research Articles & Studies: Ng, E. (2020). No grand pronouncements here…: Reflections on cancel culture and digital media participation. Television & New Media, 21(6), 621–627. Clark, M. D. (2020). DRAG THEM: A brief etymology of “cancel culture.” Communication and the Public, 5(3–4), 88–92. Ronson, J. (2015). So You’ve Been Publicly Shamed. Riverhead Books. Williams, K. D. (2007). Ostracism. Annual Review of Psychology, 58, 425–452. Williams, K. D., & Nida, S. A. (2011). Ostracism: Consequences and coping. Current Directions in Psychological Science, 20(2), 71–75. Brady, W. J., Wills, J. A., Jost, J. T., Tucker, J. A., & Van Bavel, J. J. (2017). Emotion shapes the diffusion of moralized content in social networks. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences (PNAS), 114(28), 7313–7318. Crockett, M. J. (2017). Moral outrage in the digital age. Nature Human Behaviour, 1, 769–771. Sunstein, C. R. (2002). The law of group polarization. Journal of Political Philosophy, 10(2), 175–195. Myers, D. G., & Lamm, H. (1976). The group polarization phenomenon. Psychological Bulletin, 83(4), 602–627. Edmondson, A. (1999). Psychological safety and learning behavior in work teams. Administrative Science Quarterly, 44(2), 350–383. Haimovitz, K., & Dweck, C. S. (2016). What predicts children’s fixed and growth intelligence mind-sets? Not their parents’ views of intelligence but their parents’ views of failure. Psychological Science, 27(6), 859–869. boyd, d. (2011). Social network sites as networked publics: Affordances, dynamics, and implications. In A Networked Self (pp. 39–58). Routledge. Marwick, A. E., & boyd, d. (2011). I tweet honestly, I tweet passionately: Twitter users, context collapse, and the imagined audience. New Media & Society, 13(1), 114–133. American Psychological Association (2022–2023). Stress in America Reports. Twenge, J. M., Joiner, T. E., Rogers, M. L., & Martin, G. N. (2018). Increases in depressive symptoms, suicide-related outcomes, and suicide rates among U.S. adolescents after 2010. Clinical Psychological Science, 6(1), 3–17. Nesi, J. (2020). The impact of social media on youth mental health. Current Opinion in Psychology, 31, 125–129. Massanari, A. (2017). #Gamergate and The Fappening: How Reddit’s algorithm, governance, and culture support toxic technocultures. New Media & Society, 19(3), 329–346. Gillespie, T. (2018). Custodians of the Internet. Yale University Press. CareerBuilder (2018, 2021). Social Media Screening Studies. Society for Human Resource Management (SHRM). Reports on social media screening in hiring.

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Two work besties thriving in their late 20s, (or attempting to). Relationships, work, family, society expectations... And the return of Lindsay Lohan. You know what they say: ”3rd time’s the charm!” Our goal is to make ”Fetch” happen.