True Identity Nikki Houseman (Romani)

Maybe you think the reason you are not dating the people you want or aren't dating at all is because of who you are. Maybe you feel you need to change aspects of who you are in order for people to want to date you. I'm here to tell you this is not true!

If you feel this way, maybe it's because you are lacking self confidence. In this episode I share pratical tips for you to boost your self confidence and start attracting the people you want/should date!

I have created a document for you to read through with all these tips. Click here to get that free guide.

One thing I share about is creating healthy habits for yourself. In order to be in a healthy relationship, you must come from a healthy place yourself. I have a highlight on my instagram with videos I've created with healthy habits you too can start implementing. Click here to view those.



Here is a link to the dry brush I use.

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You may be wondering, what is dating coaching? I want to share what dating coaching is and what it looks like to have a coach. Stay tuned until the end of the episode where I will share 2 health tips with you!

You may be unsure what life coaching is and certainly what it means to have a dating coach. In this episode, I hope to answer some of those questions and give you a glimpse as to what it may look like to have a dating coach / working with someone like me. 











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The is the salt I suggest for the lemon salt water combo,

Celtic salt



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What is the hardest part about being single? 

This is a question I’ve been reflecting on recently. It has brought up some hard moments for me and I share these with you. This is a vulnerable question and I give you an honest answer. I had moments of crying myself to sleep because I was so sad and disappointed. 

I decided I needed Jesus in those moments. I also chose to dwell on what I did have not what I didn’t have. I share what those are with you.

If you haven’t already, listen to the episode about preparing to be a wife while being single. I give practical tips in how to prepare while also enjoying the season you are in. Click here to listen to that episode. 

There is still time to join the Accelerated Dating Program. This is one month group coaching for single women. The things I share in this episode, we will work on inside this program, and you will get results! You will come out the other side better than when you started. Click here to learn more and to sign up. We will begin the 2nd week of April. There are still spots left, but sign up now!

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Green flags, much like a green light, are the go ahead. They are good signs things are going in the correct direction in your relationship. Green flags are what you want in a partner and things to look for when you are dating.

1. Self Confidence

2. Respectful

3. Integrity

4. Relationship with God

5. Own hobbies

6. Solid group of friends

7. Driven and Hardworking

8. Asks good questions

9. Healthy Boundaries

10. Emotionally Mature

11. Intentional and Takes Initiative

12. Knows how to have fun

13. Good listener and communicator

14. Nonjudgmental

15. Takes responsibility for own needs



If you are a single woman and want to join a group of like-minded women to learn how love and respect yourself, to have self confidence, to learn how to be content in the season you are in, the Accelerated Dating Program is for you. This is an exclusive offer- from now until March 10th you will receive $40 off! Click here to learn more.

If you have questions, DM me on instagram @nikki.houseman or sign up for a free 20 minute consultation here!



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Did you miss the episode, "15 Red Flags in a Relationship," click here to listen to that episode.

Free document with all 15 red flags and explanations.



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Today we are going to discuss red flags, what they are and how to determine if there is a red flag in your relationship. If you are not in a relationship, these are good to keep in mind when you do enter into a relationship or start dating.

Red Flags are a warning sign. They may not be deal breakers, but definitely a discussion would need to be had. There are some red flags that would be deal breakers. Today I am going to share 15 red flags with you. I have created a document with these red flags along with an explanation.

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How to Determine Red Flags in a Relationship Guide. Click here!



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Questions to ask yourself:


Am I making excuses for his behavior?

Do I feel uneasy about a behavior of his?

Is something inside me trying to tell me I am not in a healthy relationship?

Do I feel convicted that something is wrong?

Are my friends and family trying to warn me about something in this relationship?
Am I looking out for these red flags as I navigate the dating world?
What are other red flags I need to be aware of? Write them down.


Red Flags:


He is not pursuing you
you see his potential, but he’s not walking in it
Lacks follow through
Doesn’t have a relationship with God
Says all the right things, but doesn’t act on it. He’s all talk.
He asks you to do things for him when he doesn’t do much for you and makes you feel bad about it.
Doesn’t treat you with respect and pushes your boundaries
Talks about other girls while he is on a date with you or around you
He is on his phone most of the time you are together, and isn’t engaging with you.
Talks about himself the whole time you are on a date and/or always brings the conversation back to himself
He is a jealous type
He gets angry or raises his voice at you or others
Prioritizes himself and his feelings over you.
Talks down to you and doesn’t elevate and uplift you and who you are
He doesn’t have a solid group of guy friends

In this episode, I discuss the foundations of marriage according to a book I've been reading. It's call "Happy Wives Club" by Fawn Weaver. If you are a wife and haven't read this book, I encourage you to do so. She visits 12 countries, 6 continents, with 1 mission, to find the secret of marriage. She interviews a number of married couples and they all say the same secret!



I dive into what the Bible says the role of a husband and wife are. I mention Ephesians 5:22, 25 saying wives submit to your husbands, and husbands love your wives as Christ loves the church. The world has taken these verses out of context. Women think they don't need a man and can stand in the role of a man. This is a wrong way of thinking. According to scripture, both play important roles in a marriage.



If you are single, what I talk about in this episode is important to keep in mind and prepare your heart for what is to come. The way you can prepare is to have an intimate relationship with Jesus.



Here is a link the the book "Happy Wives Club," by Fawn Weaver



I offer one on one coaching for single women. If this is of interest to you, let's hop on a call to see if working together would be a good fit. Click here to choose a time that works for you.



The Accelerated Dating Program is in full swing. We are in week 3 of 4. I had many women interested, so I am going to have a season 2 starting in the spring! This is a group coaching program for single women to learn to love and respect yourself while preparing for a relationship. Click here to sign up for the waitlist so you will be the first to know when the season is available.



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