MAR 30

DTF Better with Sage and Sara: Planting Pleasure Seeds | How Intimacy and Connection Grow

Welcome back to Truth Meets Taboo and to another episode of DTF Better with Sage and Sara, the series where we explore how to become more connected, more expressed, and more turned on by life itself. In this conversation, Sara and I continue unpacking pleasure, but not in the way you’ve been taught to think about it. This isn’t about performance, perfection, or peak experiences. It’s about the small, intentional ways you build a life that actually feels good. We introduce the idea of “planting pleasure seeds"; tiny, everyday practices that expand your capacity for joy, creativity, and self-expression over time. Because pleasure isn’t something you stumble into. It’s something you cultivate. We move through everything from self-expression in your space, to creativity, to relationships, to the way you’ve been conditioned to prioritize others over yourself. And I share more about my own process of learning how to choose what I actually want—without filtering it through anyone else. This is not just about seggs. It’s about becoming someone who is deeply available; for pleasure, for truth, and for life. This episode is an invitation to slow down, get present, and start building a relationship with yourself that actually feels good. Themes Explored in This Episode Pleasure as something you cultivate, not chase “Planting pleasure seeds” and building capacity over time Why pleasure is often externalized instead of self-led The difference between performing pleasure vs. experiencing it Self-expression through space, creativity, and environment How your environment reflects your internal world Relearning joy through small, intentional practices The role of curiosity in accessing pleasure Jump to the Part That Calls You 0:00 Intro 7:34 Planting Pleasure Seeds in Our Lives 16:49 The Importance of Self-Pleasure and Self-Care 27:31 Embracing Self-Governance and Intimacy Skills 36:04 Exploring Personal Desires and Whimsy 46:40 The Importance of Presence in Experiencing Life 1:01:35 The Vulnerability of Sharing Personal Experiences 1:14:34 Seeking Community in Non-Monogamous Spaces Connect with Sara: IG: https://www.instagram.com/confidentpelvicrehabWebsite: http://www.confidentpelvicrehab.comConnect with me: Instagram desiretheforbidden justasuccugirl Tiktok desiretheforbidden | pleasure professor 🍒 sage Website https://www.desiretheforbidden.com/

1h 23m

FEB 9

DTF Better with Sage and Sara: Moving Beyond Pain Management in Sex, Intimacy, and Pelvic Health

I’m officially opening the first-ever Truth Meets Taboo series—a six-month conversation (two episodes per month) on pelvic floor physical therapy, sexual wellness, and healing painful sex without treating pain as the point of sex. For this series, I’m joined by my co-host Dr. Sara Sohn, a pelvic floor physical therapist, sex counselor, mentor, and professional belly-letting-outer. Sara helps people stop leaking, stop hurting, have better sex, and feel at home in bodies that have changed after weight loss, surgery, or big life shifts—and she talks about bodies and sex the way real people actually live in them. In this first episode, we talk about moving from pain-centered sex to pleasure-centered sex, pelvic health and pleasure, nervous system regulation, sexual counseling, kink and intimacy, intentional abstinence, watering the rose garden metaphor, choosing 2026 mantras, and staying authentic while identity and desire evolve. This series is where truth meets taboo—and where pleasure finally gets a seat at the table. 🌹 In This Episode We Explore: The difference between moving away from pain vs. moving toward pleasureWhy our nervous systems often cling to sufferingHow shame shapes our relationship to seggs, bodies, and worthinessThe connection between pelvic floor pain and emotional safetySelf-abandonment, resentment, and boundary collapseBurlesque as body reclamationAbstinence as self-authority and erotic agencyRitual vs routine: cultivating pleasure intentionallyRewriting body narratives after weight loss or surgeryLiving “many lives in one lifetime”Listen & Connect Follow the podcast for new episodes in this six-month Truth Meets Taboo seriesShare this episode with someone navigating pleasure, pelvic health, and identity shiftsConnect with Sara: IG: https://www.instagram.com/confidentpelvicrehabWebsite: http://www.confidentpelvicrehab.comConnect with me: Instagram desiretheforbidden justasuccugirl Tiktok desiretheforbidden | pleasure professor 🍒 sage Website https://www.desiretheforbidden.com/

56 min

JAN 26

Reclaiming My Body: Intentional Abstinence, Discernment, and Self-Governance

After a year of grief, endings, and major life shifts, this episode opens a new chapter for the podcast. In this episode, I share why I began a vow of intentional abstinence as an act of self-authority rather than restriction. After everything that unfolded last year, I realized I needed to slow down, put clear boundaries around my body, and rebuild trust with my own discernment. Growing up in a highly structured military household taught me how to obey, but not how to choose for myself. Over time, that loss of agency showed up in my relationships, my boundaries, and my relationship with sex. Now 21 days into my abstinence journey, I reflect on reclaiming autonomy, ending cycles of self-betrayal, and coming back into relationship with my body from a place of choice. This episode marks a shift — into deeper self-authority, clearer boundaries, and a more intentional relationship with desire, agency, and self-trust. This conversation is for anyone navigating self-authority, sexual boundaries, and learning how to trust themselves again. Themes Explored in This Episode Choosing abstinence as a path to self-authority Growing up with structure vs. developing personal discernment How obedience disconnects you from your own decision-making Losing and reclaiming agency over your body The relationship between boundaries and self-trust Sex as validation, coping, and emotional avoidance Why removing a pattern creates space for awareness Building new nervous system responses through abstinence Self-governance and learning to make aligned decisions Key Takeaways Abstinence can be a tool for self-awareness—not restriction You can lose connection to your own authority through over-structure Boundaries rebuild trust with yourself over time Sex can become tied to worthiness and validation without awareness Removing a pattern reveals what’s underneath it Discipline creates self-trust and confidence You don’t need to give your body to receive love Reflection Questions Where in my life am I outsourcing my decisions? Can I hold a boundary with myself consistently? What would it look like to fully trust my own choices? Closing Note Self-authority isn’t about control. It’s about trust. And sometimes the strongest thing you can do is choose yourself even when everything in you wants to reach outside. Jump to the Part That Calls You 0:00 Intro 4:51 The Journey of Abstinence: Reclaiming Self-Authority 11:30 Breaking the Link Between Sex and Validation 18:11 Why a Boundary Comes Before Discernment 25:09 When Intimacy Became Armor Connect with me: Instagram desiretheforbidden justasuccugirl Tiktok desiretheforbidden | pleasure professor 🍒 sage Website https://www.desiretheforbidden.com/

31 min

12/29/2025

Truth, Trauma, and Authenticity: Why We Hide and How We Heal

This episode is about the truth I kept dancing around. I talk about how hiding became second nature for me. How silence felt safer than honesty. How telling the truth was something my nervous system learned to associate with danger, conflict, and loss. As I reflect on this year, I share what grief, breakups, and major life transitions have taught me about authenticity. About emotional honesty. About the cost of not being real with myself. I explore how trauma shapes our relationship with truth, why environments need to feel safe for honesty to exist, and what it looks like to build relationships that can actually hold the truth without punishment. If you’ve ever felt afraid to name what you really want, this episode is for you. Themes Explored in This Episode How childhood shapes your relationship with truth and honesty Why people learn to hide instead of express The connection between truth, safety, and nervous system response Lying as a protection mechanism rooted in trauma How hiding from others leads to hiding from yourself The “web of lies” and how patterns build over time Truth as a pathway to authenticity and self-awareness Why truth disrupts and creates change Letting go of identities that no longer align Fear of abandonment, over-giving, and emotional patterns Key Takeaways Your relationship with truth is shaped early in life Hiding becomes a learned strategy for safety Avoiding truth creates disconnection from yourself One lie often creates multiple layers of avoidance Truth is disruptive—but necessary for growth Being honest requires a safe and regulated environment The only way out of avoidance is through it Reflection Questions What truths have I been avoiding about myself? When did I learn that telling the truth wasn’t safe? Truth doesn’t just reveal who you are. It changes what you’re willing to accept. And the more honest you are with yourself, the harder it becomes to stay in what no longer fits. Jump to the Part That Calls You 0:00 Intro 6:09 Childhood Influences on Truth and Honesty 12:26 The Role of Environment in Truth-Telling 18:25 The Evolution of Identity and Truth 27:25 The “Web of Lies” Pattern Connect with me: Instagram desiretheforbidden justasuccugirl Tiktok desiretheforbidden | pleasure professor 🍒 sage Website https://www.desiretheforbidden.com/

36 min

12/01/2025

When Safety Turns You On: Secure Attachment, Intimacy & Energy Transference

This episode is the sound of my pleasure breathing through my grief. I’ve been having the kind of energetic seggs that makes my chest open, my legs shake, and my past dissolve. The kind of intimacy where a securely attached man looks me in the eyes and says, “Interrupt me. Tell me what you feel. I want you in real time.” And the moment he does, my nervous system softens. My grief loosens. My whole body remembers I’m still alive. I talk about seggs as spiritual energy exchange, the raw heat of being met in my insecurity, the way his voice in my ear helps me regulate, breathe, and surrender. I talk about being Dickmatized in the most conscious, intentional, divine way — where the pleasure isn’t a distraction from the pain, but the portal that moves me through it. If you crave episodes on grief and pleasure, secure attachment co-regulation, self-discovery through seggs, and the ritual of letting someone inside your energy field… press play. Themes Explored in This Episode Sex and intimacy as energy transference between people Pleasure as a tool for healing, regulation, and emotional processing Moving through grief while experiencing pleasure and joy The importance of attunement to your own body and desires How curiosity builds safety and deeper connection Setting boundaries around who has access to your body Sexual liberation as choice—not unlimited access Being intentional and selective with your energy Using pleasure (with self or others) to regulate the nervous system Key Takeaways Sex is not just physical—it is an energetic exchange Pleasure can be a powerful tool for healing and transformation Healing does not always have to come through suffering Who you share intimacy with impacts your emotional and energetic state Secure attachment creates safer and more connected intimacy Lack of self-attunement leads to miscommunication and dysregulation Sexual liberation is about choice, not availability Reflection Questions How do I feel after being intimate with someone—energized or drained? Am I intentional about who I share my body with? Pleasure isn’t a distraction from your healing. It can be part of it. What you allow into your body has the power to move you— so choose it consciously. Jump to the Part That Calls You 0:00 Intro 4:46 The Power of Pleasure and Intimacy 16:25 The Role of Communication in Intimate Relationships 23:31 Setting Boundaries and Choosing Partners Wisely Connect with me: Instagram desiretheforbidden justasuccugirl Tiktok desiretheforbidden | pleasure professor 🍒 sage Website https://www.desiretheforbidden.com/

29 min

09/29/2025

Beyond Banana Condoms: When Sex Ed Meets Soulwork

Intimacy is more than mechanics or performance. It is the sacred art of being fully present with ourselves and with each other. It is laughter and play, tenderness and courage, the softening of shame, and the opening into pleasure. What I witnessed in this workshop felt like pure magic. Partners leaning into one another until the whole room exhaled. Blindfolded explorations where trust unfolded. A pleasure circle where joy and desire moved like electricity through community. This is the intimacy education we should have received. A space where connection feels playful, healing is shared, and the body is honored as sacred. A place where we learn to ask, to listen, to touch with reverence, and to allow ourselves to be witnessed in truth. May these reflections stir something within you. May they remind you that your body is worthy, your desire is holy, and your intimacy is yours to reclaim. Themes Explored in This Episode What an intimacy workshop actually is (beyond traditional s*x ed) The role of community in healing and transformation Why connection and shared experience deepen self-awareness The structure of a workshop: arrival, intention-setting, and grounding Using play and lightness to open up intimacy Somatic work and why the body must be included in healing Shame, conditioning, and emotional patterns around the body Healing relationships with g******s and s*xual expression The difference between knowing how something works vs. knowing how to feel it Why healing in community can be more powerful than healing alone Key Takeaways Intimacy is a skill that can be learned and practiced Traditional s*x ed often lacks emotional and relational depth Being in community creates validation, connection, and expansion The body must be included in any real healing process Reflection Questions What comes up for me when I think about being seen in intimacy? Do I feel safe exploring my body and my desires? Intimacy isn’t something you “just know.” It’s something you learn, practice, and grow into. And sometimes, the shift you’re looking for happens when you stop doing it alone. Jump to the Part That Calls You 0:00 Intro 1:44 What An Intimacy Workshop Actually Is 7:26 Creating Safe Spaces for Connection 12:30 Exploring Somatic Healing and Intimacy 19:02 Grounding and Reflection in Intimacy 23:29 Embracing Vulnerability and Growth Connect with me: Instagram desiretheforbidden justasuccugirl Tiktok desiretheforbidden | pleasure professor 🍒 sage Website https://www.desiretheforbidden.com/

29 min

09/01/2025

The Sacred Slut: Reclaiming Sexuality & Feminine Power

The sacred slut archetype has been one of the most liberating discoveries on my journey. For years, I carried shame around my sexuality, shaped by purity culture and the stories women are told about desire. Reclaiming the word slut has allowed me to heal, to prioritize my pleasure, and to step into unapologetic self-acceptance. This episode is an invitation to see your sexuality as sacred, to release the shame, and to embody your own erotic wholeness without apology. Themes Explored in This Episode The cultural meaning and history of the word “sl*t” How the term shifted from neutral to a tool of sexual shame The role of religion, purity culture, and colonialism in policing desire Why women are shamed for the same behaviors men are praised for The “sl*t” as a feminine archetype tied to pleasure and liberation The shadow side of desire: shame, secrecy, and suppression How repression of erotic energy shows up in everyday life The connection between desire, identity, and self-expression Reclaiming the “sl*t” as a sacred and empowered identity Key Takeaways The word “sl*t” has historically been used to control, not describe Shame around desire is culturally constructed and reinforced Suppressing desire leads to secrecy, disconnection, and internal conflict Your erotic desires are not separate from your identity—they are part of it Reclaiming pleasure is an act of personal and cultural liberation Desire is not dangerous—it is a source of truth and direction The “sl*t” archetype represents freedom, not shame Reflection Questions What does the word “sl*t” bring up for me? Where have I been taught to feel shame around desire? What parts of my desire have I been suppressing? Your desire isn’t something to hide. It’s something to listen to. The parts of you you were taught to suppress might be the very parts meant to set you free. Jump to the Part That Calls You 0:00 Introduction and Personal Updates 7:21 Cultural Context of the Word 'Sl*t' 12:10 The Slut as a Feminine Archetype 16:28 The Sacred Slut and Liberation 21:15 Exploring the Sacred Slut through Lilith 30:31 Practices for Embracing the Sacred Slut Connect with me: Instagram desiretheforbidden justasuccugirl Tiktok desiretheforbidden | pleasure professor 🍒 sage Website https://www.desiretheforbidden.com/

34 min

08/04/2025

Touch Starved: The Epidemic No One Talks About

Touch is where we first learn we are safe, loved, and alive. In this episode, I open up a conversation about the kind of touch that goes beyond the surface. The touch that calms your nervous system, that says you belong here, that reminds you of your humanity. We explore why so many of us are starved for it, how cultural conditioning has made touch feel unsafe or performative, and what happens to our bodies and hearts when connection is missing. I share how touch can heal not just in intimacy but in the simple, intentional moments we offer ourselves and others. This is about reclaiming touch as your birthright, understanding your boundaries, and letting yourself receive what you have always needed. Themes Explored in This Episode Touch as the first sense and the body’s original language Why touch is foundational for safety, connection, and regulation The biological impact of touch (cortisol, dopamine, serotonin, immune health) Touch as a form of co-regulation in the nervous system The effects of touch deprivation on mental and physical health Cultural differences in touch and Western touch aversion How masculinity and gender norms restrict physical affection The impact of race, identity, and social conditioning on touch How childhood experiences shape your relationship with touch Touch as a transaction vs. a safe, mutual experience Key Takeaways Touch is a primary form of communication and regulation Your body is biologically wired to need touch Lack of touch contributes to both emotional and physical dysregulation Touch is not weakness—it is a core part of wellbeing Cultural and social conditioning shape how safe touch feels Trauma can rewire the body to reject or fear touch Safe, repeated experiences can rebuild trust with touch Reflection Questions How does my body react when I am touched? Do I crave touch but resist it at the same time? What would safe, supportive touch look like for me? Touch isn’t extra. It’s foundational. The more you allow yourself to experience it safely, the more your body remembers what connection feels like. Jump to the Part That Calls You 0:00 Intro 4:09 Touch as your first language 7:45 The science: how touch regulates your body 12:58 Cultural conditioning around touch 20:02 Childhood experiences and touch trauma 26:30 Touch starvation + loneliness Connect with me: Instagram desiretheforbidden justasuccugirl Tiktok desiretheforbidden | pleasure professor 🍒 sage Website https://www.desiretheforbidden.com/

36 min

07/13/2025

The Intimacy of Receiving: Boundaries & Emotional Openness

Receiving sounds simple, but for so many of us, it’s one of the hardest things to actually do. In this episode, I’m diving into what makes receiving feel so unsafe — how our nervous system, old wounds, and social conditioning teach us to block love, compliments, abundance, and guidance even when we’re desperate for them. I’m sharing the real difference between taking and truly receiving — how surrender, boundaries, and trust open us up to more pleasure, more connection, and more freedom. You’ll hear personal stories, honest truths, and practical ways you can start softening resistance, expanding your capacity to receive, and reclaiming your worthiness. Themes Explored in This Episode Receiving as an energetic opening, not just taking The different forms of receiving: emotional, energetic, sensual, and spiritual Why receiving requires capacity, not effort How self-worth and “not enoughness” block receiving The link between receiving and control vs. vulnerability Why receiving can feel unsafe in the nervous system How trauma and past experiences shape your ability to receive Somatic signs that you are rejecting what you want The difference between performative pleasure and real surrender Key Takeaways Receiving is about openness, not effort or earning You can only receive what your nervous system feels safe to hold Resistance to receiving is often rooted in protection, not incapability Being the giver can be a way to maintain control and avoid vulnerability Boundaries make receiving safer, not harder Receiving without regulation can feel overwhelming or threatening Performative pleasure disconnects you from real experience Reflection Questions What do I feel when I receive something without earning it? Where in my life do I deflect or minimize what I’m given? Receiving isn’t passive. It’s a choice your body has to feel safe making. The more you build capacity for it, the more you expand what you can hold. Jump to the Part That Calls You 0:00 Intro 12:22 Barriers to Receiving 22:11 The Somatic Experience of Receiving 36:52 Regulating the Nervous System for Receptivity 48:05 Receiving as a Liberatory Practice Connect with me: Instagram desiretheforbidden justasuccugirl Tiktok desiretheforbidden | pleasure professor 🍒 sage Website https://www.desiretheforbidden.com/

56 min

06/23/2025

What My Desires Taught Me About Truth

I used to think desire was something to be feared or managed—especially as a woman raised to be desired, not to desire. In this episode, I unpack how I began to tell the difference between what I truly want and what I was taught to want. From cultural conditioning to gendered expectations to the psychology of desire, this conversation is an invitation to explore the raw truth beneath our wants. Because desire isn’t just a feeling, it’s a force. Themes Explored in This Episode Desire as both a feeling (noun) and an action (verb) Why desire + emotion determines action or inaction The difference between true desire and conditioned desire How marketing, media, and culture influence what you want The role of discernment in identifying aligned desires Why desire is labeled as “dangerous” and how that creates repression How avoiding desire actually makes it more destructive The connection between desire, control, and systems of oppression The tension between logic vs. emotion in decision-making How people socialized as women are conditioned to be desired, not to desire Performing desirability vs. expressing authentic desireKey Takeaways Desire is not indulgence. It is directional information.Suppressing desire does not eliminate it. It distorts it.Many women are socialized to be desired, not to desire. That conditioning shapes how we relate to power and agency.Cultural narratives influence what we think we want, often before we consciously choose it.There is a difference between authentic desire and inherited desire. Learning to distinguish them is critical.Desire is closely tied to power. Reclaiming it requires examining where you were taught to shrink.When desire feels unsafe, it often reflects conditioning — not truth.Reconnecting with desire restores agency, alignment, and self-trust.Desire can function as a compass when you are willing to listen without moralizing it.Reflection Questions Do I actually feel safe wanting what I want? Is this desire mine—or something I was taught to want? How do I feel about the things I desire? Where am I avoiding desire instead of exploring it? Am I performing desirability, or expressing what I truly want? Desire isn’t something to control. It’s something to understand. The more clearly you can hear it, the more honestly you can live. Jump to the Part That Calls You 0:00 Intro 6:00 Desire: A Life Force 12:00 Cultural Narratives Around Desire 20:07 Desire and Gender Dynamics 28:58 Desire and Power Dynamics 40:25 Desire As Compass Connect with me: Instagram desiretheforbidden justasuccugirl Tiktok desiretheforbidden | pleasure professor 🍒 sage Website https://www.desiretheforbidden.com/

52 min

06/09/2025

How Sexual Liberation Saved My Life

For most of my life, pleasure felt like something I had to earn—or apologize for. But claiming pleasure has become a radical part of my healing. In this episode of Truth Meets Taboo, I explore how I went from body disconnection to embracing my sexual desires as sacred. We talk about community support for relationships, the role of sexuality education, and how prioritizing pleasure has changed my relationship with myself. This is more than a personal journey—it’s a form of protest, a reclaiming of everything I was told to suppress. Themes Explored in This Episode The first moment shame enters the body—and how it shapes identity Why desire can feel unsafe, even when it’s natural The disconnect between cultural messaging and lived experience around sexuality How trauma, coercion, and lack of consent awareness impact self-trust Performing intimacy vs. actually being present in your body The link between attention, validation, and self-abandonment How community and education create safety for exploration Key Takeaways Shame around the body is often learned early and reinforced over time Disconnection from the body makes it harder to recognize and communicate boundaries Being desired is not the same as feeling safe or seen Performing pleasure is often a response to fear, not desire Healing requires safe environments where curiosity is allowed Consent requires awareness, communication, and responsibility from all parties Community and education are essential for navigating intimacy in a healthy way Pleasure and safety are not opposites—they can coexist Sexual liberation is about autonomy, not validation Coming back to your body is a continuous process Reflection Questions When was the first time your body was met with shame instead of curiosity? When did desire start to feel unsafe for you? This episode invites you to move gently with yourself. To question what you’ve been taught. And to begin noticing what your body has been trying to tell you all along. Jump to the Part That Calls You 0:00 Intro 7:45 Exploring the Past and Shame 17:38 The Journey of Sexual Liberation 26:42 Healing Through Connection and Intimacy 39:00 Finding Community and Kink 45:27 Sexual Liberation as a Life-Saving Force Connect with me: Instagram desiretheforbidden justasuccugirl Tiktok desiretheforbidden | pleasure professor 🍒 sage Website https://www.desiretheforbidden.com/

50 min

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Welcome to Truth Meets Taboo

No filters. No pretending. This is where truth collides with everything we were told not to say. Welcome to Truth Meets Taboo. Connect with me: Instagram desiretheforbidden justasuccugirl Tiktok desiretheforbidden | pleasure professor 🍒 sage Website https://www.desiretheforbidden.com/

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DTF Better with Sage and Sara: Planting Pleasure Seeds | How Intimacy and Connection Grow

DTF Better with Sage and Sara: Moving Beyond Pain Management in Sex, Intimacy, and Pelvic Health

Reclaiming My Body: Intentional Abstinence, Discernment, and Self-Governance

Truth, Trauma, and Authenticity: Why We Hide and How We Heal

When Safety Turns You On: Secure Attachment, Intimacy & Energy Transference

Beyond Banana Condoms: When Sex Ed Meets Soulwork

The Sacred Slut: Reclaiming Sexuality & Feminine Power

Touch Starved: The Epidemic No One Talks About

The Intimacy of Receiving: Boundaries & Emotional Openness

What My Desires Taught Me About Truth

How Sexual Liberation Saved My Life

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