Truth & Tone

Erik & Bekah Buchterkirchen
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In a cultural moment marked by noise and reaction, Truth & Tone creates space for careful reflection grounded in Scripture, shaped by the historic Christian faith, and attentive to the lived realities of the local church. Hosted by Erik Buchterkirchen, a pastor theologian, and Bekah Buchterkirchen, a writer and communicator, the show engages thoughtful conversation, believing how we speak matters as much as what we say. Through honest conversations on marriage, ministry, culture, and Christianity, Truth & Tone is for Christians who want to think clearly, speak charitably, and live faithfully in a fractured world.

Episodes

  1. 1H AGO

    Pornography in Marriage: Shame and the Long Work of Healing

    Pornography is one of the most difficult subjects to talk about honestly, especially within the church. It often lives at the intersection of secrecy, shame, and pain. Avoiding the conversation does not protect people. It leaves many isolated, confused, and quietly suffering. In this episode, Erik and Bekah are joined by researcher and friend, Dr. Jessica Journaey, whose work examines the impact of pornography within heterosexual, monogamous relationships. They discuss what current research is revealing about pornography’s relational cost, including patterns of secrecy, betrayal, diminished intimacy, increased conflict, and long term dissatisfaction. The episode pays particular attention to how women often experience a partner’s pornography use, not only as a sexual issue, but as a relational rupture marked by deception and loss of trust. The conversation also addresses shame and moral incongruence within Christian contexts. Many believers experience deep internal conflict when behavior contradicts deeply held convictions. When churches lack safe, informed spaces for honesty, that tension often drives people further into hiding rather than toward healing. The episode also emphasizes the necessity of community. Lasting change rarely happens in isolation. Healing accelerates when secrecy gives way to shared honesty, accountability, and embodied empathy. In a culture marked by loneliness and digital substitution, the church has an opportunity to respond with wisdom, compassion, and hope. This episode invites listeners to move beyond shame and silence toward truth, care, and the long work of healing that leads to genuine freedom. Resources mentioned in this episode include: Research by Dr. Jessica Journaey Dr. Paul J. Wright’s study on media consumption and pornography: Paul J. Wright, Robert Tokunaga & Debby Herbenick (2023) But Do Porn Sites Get More Traffic than TikTok, OpenAI, and Zoom?, The Journal of Sex Research, 60:6, 763-767 Barna Group research on pornography use among Christians: Barna Group. (2024). Over half of practicing Christians admit they use pornography. Subscribe to the show to receive future episodes, and visit www.truthandtone.com to learn more. You can follow us on Substack to take the conversation further.

    1h 6m

  2. MAR 31

    Artificial Intelligence and the Christian Life: Formation in an Age of Speed

    Artificial intelligence has entered everyday life with remarkable speed. Tools powered by large language models now shape writing, research, planning, and even ministry contexts. The deeper question for Christians is not simply whether these tools are useful, but what their use is doing to us. In this episode, Erik and Bekah explore AI through the lens of spiritual formation. They reflect on how technology shapes our habits of attention, our patience, and our desires, and why wisdom cannot be automated. The conversation draws a careful distinction between using tools to assist our work and outsourcing the work of thinking, discernment, and creation itself. The episode examines how speed, efficiency, and ease often compete with the slow practices through which formation takes place. Drawing from Scripture and the history of Christian wisdom, the conversation emphasizes that formation rarely happens at the pace of our devices. What God forms in us often requires slowness, restraint, and sustained attention. They also consider the ethical and pastoral implications of AI in teaching, writing, and ministry. AI can be articulate and confident, but it can also flatten nuance, reinforce bias, and mirror back what we want to hear rather than what we need to face. The concern is not the technology alone, but the human heart behind its use. Resources Mentioned in This Episode: John Piper’s ChatGPT prayer example Slow Theology: Eight Practices for Resilient Faith in a Turbulent World by Nijay K. Gupta and A.J. Swoboda Dune by Frank Herbert Christianity Today’s article on Five Questions Pastors Should Ask Before Using AI Subscribe to the show to receive future episodes, and visit www.truthandtone.com to learn more. You can follow us on Substack to take the conversation further.

    50 min

  3. MAR 24

    How to Build Spiritual Intimacy in Marriage: Learning to Listen for God Together with Curate Ministries

    Many couples experience deep physical and emotional intimacy long before they ever experience spiritual intimacy. They share life, conflict, affection, and routines of faith, yet often struggle to name what God is actually doing in their inner lives. In this episode, Erik and Bekah are joined by Bryan Hehr and Rachel Hehr of Curate Ministries for a thoughtful conversation about spiritual intimacy within marriage. Together, they explore what it means to listen for God in one another’s lives and why spiritual intimacy requires more than shared practices. The conversation clarifies common misconceptions about spiritual intimacy, including the assumption that couples must experience God in the same way or move at the same pace. Spiritual intimacy is not about sameness or comparison. It is about curiosity, attentiveness, and a willingness to move toward one another with care. A central theme of the episode is listening as the primary practice. Not listening to fix or correct, but listening to notice where God feels near or distant, where questions are forming, and where hope or dryness is present. This kind of listening allows couples to know not just about each other’s faith, but to know each other’s faith. Bryan and Rachel also share from their work through Curate Ministries and their podcast, The Curated Marriage Podcast, which invites couples into deeper attentiveness to God and one another through spiritual direction and formation. You can follow them on Substack, too, at Rooted Together. Be sure to check out their incredible resources and offerings! Erik's Nerd Article on Righteousness in Romans (for the nerds): Oliver, Willem H. “Faith, Righteousness and Salvation in Romans.” HTS Theological Studies 74, no. 4 (December 2018): 1–6. ATLAn4391636, pp. 1–6. Atla Religion Database with AtlaSerials PLUS. https://hts.org.za/index.php/hts/article/view/5068/11897 Subscribe to the show to receive future episodes, and visit www.truthandtone.com to learn more. You can follow us on Substack to take the conversation further.

    44 min

  4. MAR 17

    Christian Call Out Culture: When Correction Builds or Breaks the Church

    Correction is meant to be a gift within the Christian community as a means of growth in humility, clarity, and faithfulness. In a cultural moment shaped by social media, public critique, and constant commentary, that gift is often distorted. What should form the church instead fractures relationships and erodes trust. In this episode, Erik and Bekah examine how call out culture and cancel culture shape the way Christians engage disagreement. They name the difference between public critique and outright exclusion, and how both practices can quietly reshape disciples into commentators rather than participants in the life of the body. The episode also explores the role of relationship, authority, and discernment in correction. Correction is most fruitful where trust and shared life already exist. Public correction without relationship rarely forms anyone. It often hardens hearts and short circuits repentance. Stillness, prayer, and restraint are not avoidance. They are practices of formation. Resources mentioned in this episode include: • Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen • Truth Unites episode featuring Gavin Ortland and Francis Chan • Under the Unpredictable Plant: An Exploration in Vocational Holiness by Eugene Peterson Subscribe to the show to receive future episodes, and visit www.truthandtone.com to learn more. You can follow us on Substack to take the conversation further.

    48 min

  5. MAR 10

    Life as a Pastor and Pastor’s Wife: The Quiet Weight of Shepherding Souls

    Pastoral ministry is often visible, but rarely well understood. From the outside, it can appear simple. A sermon on Sunday. A prayer at the hospital. A calm presence in moments of crisis. What remains unseen is the emotional and spiritual weight of shepherding souls, the long conversations, the discernment shaped by prayer, and the quiet sacrifices that shape both pastors and their families. In this episode, Erik and Bekah reflect on more than a decade of life inside a pastoral calling. They talk honestly about the sacred responsibility of pastoral leadership, the danger of placing pastors on pedestals, and the unseen work that happens far beyond sermon preparation. They also discuss the unique weight carried by pastors’ wives. The loss of uncomplicated vulnerability. The need for discernment in relationships. The informal yet real pastoral influence many women carry within the church, and the importance of stewarding that influence with wisdom and humility. This conversation also addresses the necessity of rest, boundaries, and sustainable rhythms. Pastoral ministry cannot be sustained by intensity alone. Burnout harms not only pastors, but entire congregations. Faithful shepherding requires care for the long haul. Resources mentioned in this episode include: The Care of Souls by Harold Senkbeil The Preacher’s Wife by Kate Bowler The Book of Pastoral Rule Gregory the Great Subscribe to the show to receive future episodes, and visit www.truthandtone.com to learn more. You can follow us on Substack to take the conversation further.

    53 min

  6. MAR 10

    Introducing Truth & Tone

    Truth & Tone exists because faithful Christian witness requires both conviction and care. In a culture where strong opinions are everywhere, and careful Christian reflection can feel rare, this podcast was created to offer a different kind of space. Not a platform for hot takes or false balance, but a place to thoughtfully explore theology, culture, communication, and everyday Christian life with pastoral concern and intellectual honesty. In this introductory episode, Erik and Bekah Buchterkirchen share the heart behind Truth & Tone. They reflect on why both truth and tone matter for Christian discipleship, how this project grew out of years of real conversations around their kitchen table, and the posture that will shape the conversations going forward. Subscribe to the show to receive future episodes, and visit www.truthandtone.com to learn more. You can follow us on Substack to take the conversation further. To read more of Bekah’s writing, you can check out her Substack, The Middle Moments. To read more of Erik’s writing, you can check out his Substack, The Sacred Wayfarer.

    6 min

  7. TRAILER

    Trailer

    Welcome to Truth & Tone! This is a podcast for Christians who want to think clearly, speak charitably, and live faithfully in a fractured world. In a time marked by noise and reaction, Truth & Tone offers thoughtful conversation grounded in Scripture, shaped by the historic Christian faith, and attentive to the lived realities of the local church. The goal is not hot takes or easy answers, but faithful reflection that holds conviction and charity together. Hosted by Erik and Bekah Buchterkirchen, husband and wife, pastor and writer, and parents raising three kids, the show explores theology, culture, and everyday Christian life with a posture that resists both hardening and retreat. These conversations are meant to form patient, discerning Christians who remain present and faithful in complex times. Like what you heard? Visit www.truthandtone.com for more information, and follow us on Substack to take the conversation further.

    2 min

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In a cultural moment marked by noise and reaction, Truth & Tone creates space for careful reflection grounded in Scripture, shaped by the historic Christian faith, and attentive to the lived realities of the local church. Hosted by Erik Buchterkirchen, a pastor theologian, and Bekah Buchterkirchen, a writer and communicator, the show engages thoughtful conversation, believing how we speak matters as much as what we say. Through honest conversations on marriage, ministry, culture, and Christianity, Truth & Tone is for Christians who want to think clearly, speak charitably, and live faithfully in a fractured world.

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  • Creator
    Erik & Bekah Buchterkirchen
  • Years Active
    2K
  • Episodes
    7
  • Rating
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