Truth & Transformation

Kirsty Dee

Truth AND Transformation is a podcast on authenticity. It's about living in your truth. It's the messy journey of being human. Expect a lot of vulnerability as we talk about trauma, sex, mental health, parenting, relationships, marriage, emotional wellness, femininity, the divine feminine and everyday life. Plus some woo shit, coz the woo is wise and I'm a witch, so of course, we'll go there. Season 1 kicked off in 2020 with me 'Living In My Truth' and coming out as bisexual after hiding it in fear of what people would think. I cried. It truly was liberating, but also so hard losing people over it, and yet, here I am five years later with season 5, choosing to walk this path of living my truth still. It's the work of creating a life that you actually frigging like. A life that's emotionally well for you and creating the very best relationships with yourself and others as you go. Things have evolved since the early days. After going on my own trauma healing journey, I'm now on a mission to get as many women as possible to step into their Divine Feminine Power, as it was that work that changed the game for me.  It's explicit, raw, unedited, and vulnerable. It's my heart to yours. I hope you enjoy. New episodes drop every Monday at 7 am GMT/BST.  Your host, Kirsty Dee

  1. 1D AGO

    FEMININE POWER, ALCHEMY & TAYLOR SWIFT

    Big shifts need brave choices. We’re pressing pause to relaunch Truth and Transformation in spring 2026 with a cleaner, deeper format—and before we go, we’re unpacking the feminine power skills that change lives. Using Taylor Swift as a clear reference point, we explore how to turn pain into power, name what you truly want, and hold success without shrinking. We start with alchemy: the practice of transforming backlash, shame, or heartbreak into fuel. Think of “snake” headlines becoming a stadium era—reputation as reclamation. That’s not luck; it’s craft. From there, we move into desire and vulnerability. When you admit you want more—love that cherishes, work that fits, money that supports—you stop leaking energy into denial. Owning the ache is confronting, but it’s the doorway to momentum, cleaner choices, and results that feel aligned rather than performed. Then we lean into receptivity, the most undertrained muscle of all. Receiving praise, help, money, and opportunities without deflecting requires boundaries and discernment. Watch how a great performer can stand in silence and drink in 60,000 voices; that same capacity can be practised in everyday life by accepting compliments, letting support land, and saying a clean no to what isn’t for you. We also talk structure as a supportive container for feminine flow—systems that free creativity—and the role of adornment and beauty as devotion, not vanity: small rituals that pull you into your body and make your days feel richer and more magnetic. If you’re ready to stop pretending you don’t care, to channel emotion into creation, and to welcome the good that wants to find you, this conversation is your nudge. Follow along on Instagram, Threads, or Facebook for the relaunch date, and visit kirstyd.com to join workshops or book a session. If this resonates, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review to help the show return stronger than ever. More from me at KirstyDee.com IG @KirstyDeeShares Text the show. Ask a question 😁

    59 min
  2. FEB 2

    SUBTLE WAYS INTERNALISED MISOGYNY ERODES SISTERHOOD & SELF-WORTH

    What if the traits we celebrate as “strong” are quietly burning us out? This episode digs into the subtle mechanics of internalised misogyny—the invisible scripts that tell women to do it all, to be easy to please, to hide emotion, and to downplay anything coded as feminine. We unpack how those scripts shape friendships, work, money, and boundaries, and why the praise for being “low maintenance” often masks a refusal to value women’s time and labour. I share candid stories from recent years—being judged for sexual expression, having femininity dismissed as unserious, and learning to spot projections early. We look at the trust gap between women, how competition and comparison take hold, and what to do when evidence seems to confirm “you can’t trust women.” Rather than withdraw into isolation, we explore discernment: noticing the patterns in ourselves and others, naming unfair dynamics, and choosing relationships with real reciprocity. That means raising standards without shaming, offering grace without abandoning ourselves, and refusing the invisible job of emotional manager. You’ll hear concrete cues to watch for—haggling with women but not men, calling boundaries “too much,” labelling emotion as weakness—and practical ways to respond. We talk about valuing feminine aesthetics without apology, charging fairly for women’s work, and supporting those who speak up even when truth is uncomfortable. Healing sisterhood wounds is possible when we invest in safe, secure connections, set clear limits, and honour the full spectrum of womanhood—softness and fire included. If this resonates, share it with a friend who’s ready to unlearn old scripts. Subscribe for more raw, real conversations, and leave a review to help others find the show.  More from me at KirstyDee.com IG: KIRSTYDEE.COM Text the show. Ask a question 😁

    27 min
  3. JAN 26

    ENDING SYSTEMIC PATTERNS OF INVISIBLE LABOR & FATHER/MOTHER WOUND

    Ever felt like you’re doing everything and still being told you’re “lucky”? Let’s name what culture keeps invisible: the mother and father wounds that train women to carry the emotional and mental load while men are praised for “helping.” Digging into how these patterns form, why your nervous system might read imbalance as normal, and what it takes to build fair, loving homes without martyrdom. I share how “we never argue” can hide suppression, why repair beats perfection, and how trained tolerance stealthily shapes who we choose and how we relate. We talk about weaponised incompetence, the praise economy that centres men for basics, and the subtle scripts that teach children Dad rests and Mum compensates. Then we move to solutions: shifting from “just tell me what to do” to proactive noticing, running weekly logistics councils, auditing the mental load, and raising kids who see and act. This is trauma-aware work, with space for nuance if anger once meant danger; we practise boundaries, co-regulation, and small wins that compound. You’ll hear a reframe on healthy feminine and masculine energies as capacities we all hold—attunement and structure, receptivity and initiation—used not to excuse imbalance but to create presence, accountability, and ease. Awakening can be messy and grief-filled, yet it opens room for better agreements and genuine reciprocity. If you’re ready to stop tolerating what drains you and start building a household where contribution is shared and seen, this conversation is your map. If it resonates, follow the show, share it with a friend, and leave a review. More from me at KirstyDee.com Text the show. Ask a question 😁

    1h 4m
  4. JAN 19

    I FAILED ALL MY GOALS; FAILING FORWARD

    Want the truth about failure without the fluff? Well in this episode I go there. I share the three big goals I missed this year—a book deadline that expanded beyond its container, a business target that didn’t land, and a fitness milestone tied to turning 40—and what each miss reveals about timelines, resources and integrity. No euphemisms, no toxic positivity. Just real talk about consequences and the choices we make when the result actually impacts our lives. We explore the tension between journey and destination and why holding the and matters more than ever. I unpack how alignment isn’t a pretty slogan but a set of constraints that shape your methods and pace. We talk money and stability without shame, why misaligned tactics aren’t wins even when they “work,” and how to build foundations through micro changes that compound into meaningful progress. You’ll also hear how the book took on a life of its own, why pushing for a photo-ready fitness peak would be unsafe, and how reframing goals can protect both body and creativity. Comparison gets a reality check too. Different bodies, skills, inner critics and privileges create different baselines, so measure against your truth, not someone else’s highlight reel. And if public failure makes you want to hide, here’s your nudge to let people see you try, miss, and try again. Resilience builds self-trust—and it’s the quiet engine behind sustainable success. If you’re ready to set clearer navigation points, name what didn’t work, and go again with better methods, this one’s for you. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review—then tell me: what goal will you risk failing for next? More from me at KirstyDee.com Text the show. Ask a question 😁

    53 min
  5. JAN 12

    AWAKENING IN THE ALCHEMY BELLY

    A broken microphone led to a bigger truth: I’ve been called into the alchemy belly, that messy middle where certainty dissolves and something wiser takes root. I open up about receiving help, resisting hyper‑independence, and trusting a season that looks like stillness from the outside but feels like honest, necessary change from the inside. Naming what so many feel yet rarely articulate: the split between divine feminine and masculine work when nuance goes missing. I share why I’m building containers that hold both softness and structure, inclusion and sacred exclusivity, personal responsibility and systemic context. I talk about the mental load, weaponised incompetence, and the quiet costs of bypassing. I also explore eroticism and spirituality as partners, not opposites—how integrating desire with consent, boundaries, and shadow work can reduce harm, grow compassion, and turn raw energy into repair. This is not a neat blueprint; it’s a real‑time movement forming. I reflect on why some teachings erase difference, why others demonise the masculine, and how both miss the deeper medicine. Along the way, we look at power dynamics, anger as fuel rather than poison, and the courage to create spaces that are potent without being careless. If you’ve been sensing a shift—tired of hustle yet hungry for depth, wary of clichés yet willing to do the work— then this is for you. Subscribe, share this episode with a friend who needs the language for their own awakening, and leave a review if you enjoyed this episode (it helps this work reach more people). Your ripple matters. More from me at KirstyDee.com & IG @KirstyDeeShares Text the show. Ask a question 😁

    1h 20m
  6. JAN 5

    CONTEXT, BOUNDARIES, AND THE ART OF HEALTHY COMMUNICATION

    Ever felt the whiplash between over-explaining yourself and refusing to say anything at all? I'm digging into the messy middle—where a little context can protect your boundaries and strengthen your closest relationships. This isn’t about justifying your choices or handing over your power. It’s about clear, concise communication that stops unhelpful stories before they start. I unpack why the popular mantra “no is a complete sentence” is both helpful and, at times, quietly harmful. For people recovering from people-pleasing, it’s a lifeline. But when applied to partners, kids, close friends or trusted colleagues, total silence can feel like a wall. You’ll hear a practical example of setting a boundary with a family member: a few heartfelt lines that shifted a tense dynamic into support, without debate or over-explaining. That small, strategic dose of context became an act of care—connection without collapse. I explore the biology behind why this works. The brain hates uncertainty and fills gaps with guesses, which often become drama. Offering a short, grounded explanation reduces confusion and prevents resentment. You’ll learn how to pair vulnerability with self-trust: speak it once, stop selling it and let actions reveal the next step. If your truth is honoured, lean in. If it’s dismissed, step back and set a boundary that doesn’t require anyone else to change. Along the way, we address old wounds of silence, the trap of over-functioning and the importance of discernment—who has earned your context and who hasn’t. If you’re ready to build relationships that feel secure and honest, press play. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs this reframe and leave a review if you enjoyed this episode. More from me and to book a 1:1 session go to KirstyDee.com Text the show. Ask a question 😁

    34 min
  7. 12/29/2025

    YEAR-END RESET, DONE RIGHT

    Ready to end the year with something deeper than hype? Here's a grounded reset that ditches quick fixes and builds a life that actually fits: it's taking an honest review of the last twelve months, choosing a single word to anchor your choices, and having simple daily rituals that keep you steady when life is loud. No perfection, no performative resolutions—just clarity, courage, and a plan you can sustain. Starting with reflection that tells the truth: the wins you want more of, the pain that still lingers, and the patterns that quietly drain you. From that clarity, we go into talking alchemy—keeping the lessons while laying down the weight. Then we choose a word with intention and caution, because embodiment invites initiation. You’ll hear how sisterhood tested me this year and why “poise” is becoming the compass for 2026: less reactivity, more rooted confidence. From there, we reframe attitude as a daily lever, not a personality trait, and get honest about values and desires that are truly yours—truth, vitality, simplicity, creativity—so you can set a GPS you’ll actually follow. We translate vision into one to three concrete coordinates, build a plan that flexes with real life, and highlight sacred practices that are small enough to stick: mindful walks, three-breath resets, weekly check-ins, and other anchors that bring you back to yourself. Fulfilment isn’t luck; it’s carved from the inside out, then echoed by results. If you’re craving a sustainable way to step into 2026—clear-eyed, steady, and self-led—press play. Then share your guiding word and one ritual you’ll commit to. Subscribe, leave a review, and send this to a friend who’s ready to craft a year on purpose. More from me at KirstyDee.com Text the show. Ask a question 😁

    1 hr
  8. 12/22/2025

    RAGE INTO GOLD: EMOTIONAL ALCHEMY

    Ever wished your anger could do more than burn bridges? I dive into emotional alchemy—the practical art of turning heavy feelings into clear boundaries, grounded choices, and honest desire. Rather than chasing quick fixes or bypassing pain, we build a container where rage, grief, and fear can be felt fully, safely, and usefully. Think music rituals, movement to complete the stress cycle, and simple journalling to let the body speak before the mind explains. I share how explosive emotions often sit on top of sadness and unmet needs, and why acknowledging that softer layer is the turning point. Rage isn’t a flaw; it’s a loving protector saying not okay. When we honour it without letting it run the show, the charge disperses and a deeper truth emerges: what we actually want. That focus point becomes the channel for your energy, shifting attention from avoiding hurt to moving toward love, fulfilment, and aligned action. You’ll learn a repeatable practice: choose a song that matches the mood, root down through breath and body, feel without fixing, move to release, then write whatever is real. Go at your capacity—some processes complete in one sitting, others unfold over weeks. The goal is steadiness, not speed. Along the way we talk nervous system regulation, shadow work, the paradox of holding anger and joy together, and how desire clarity turns chaos into momentum. If this resonates, subscribe, share the episode with a friend who needs it, and leave a review to help others find the show. Ready for deeper support? Book a one-to-one alchemy session and let’s build your mind, body, and soul hygiene together. For more & 1:1 sessions go to KirstyDee.com Text the show. Ask a question 😁

    1 hr

About

Truth AND Transformation is a podcast on authenticity. It's about living in your truth. It's the messy journey of being human. Expect a lot of vulnerability as we talk about trauma, sex, mental health, parenting, relationships, marriage, emotional wellness, femininity, the divine feminine and everyday life. Plus some woo shit, coz the woo is wise and I'm a witch, so of course, we'll go there. Season 1 kicked off in 2020 with me 'Living In My Truth' and coming out as bisexual after hiding it in fear of what people would think. I cried. It truly was liberating, but also so hard losing people over it, and yet, here I am five years later with season 5, choosing to walk this path of living my truth still. It's the work of creating a life that you actually frigging like. A life that's emotionally well for you and creating the very best relationships with yourself and others as you go. Things have evolved since the early days. After going on my own trauma healing journey, I'm now on a mission to get as many women as possible to step into their Divine Feminine Power, as it was that work that changed the game for me.  It's explicit, raw, unedited, and vulnerable. It's my heart to yours. I hope you enjoy. New episodes drop every Monday at 7 am GMT/BST.  Your host, Kirsty Dee