Two Queens And A Joker: My Narcissist's Ex And Me

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Two Queens and a Joker: My Narcissist’s Ex and Me is a bold and deeply personal podcast where two women, both survivors of the same narcissistic partner, come together to share their stories, break the silence, and heal out loud. As parents to children with the same man, we unpack the chaos, confusion, and emotional damage of narcissistic abuse and the powerful friendship and growth that came from our shared truth. With raw conversations, expert insights, and heartfelt support, this podcast is for anyone who’s been gaslit, discarded, trauma-bonded, or left wondering, “Was it really that bad?” We’re here to say: yes, it was. But you’re not alone and healing is not only possible, it’s your right.  Moving forward requires breaking free from old patterns and healing is a gradual process that takes time and self-reflection. We'll get there.Narcissistic abuse leaves deep imprints on trust, relationships, and identity. Survivors often feel reclusive, anxious, and hypervigilant. But healing is possible. By rebuilding self-trust, noticing patterns, and taking small, steady steps toward connection, survivors can slowly allow safe people back into their lives.The scars remain, but they don’t define the future. Survivors are not broken, they are rebuilding.We specialize in helping survivors untangle the patterns of narcissistic abuse and recover their sense of self. Learn more at www.narctrauma.com.Follow for support and resources:Facebook: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CenterTikTok: @narctraumarecoveryInstagram (Podcast): @2queensandajokerInstagram (Recovery): @narcrecoverycenter #RealTalk #WomensVoices #SupportSystems #HealingFromNarcissisticAbuse #NarcissistRecovery #SurvivingNarcissisticAbuse #PodcastSeries #StorytellingPodcast #twoqueensandajokermynarcissistsexandme

  1. Divorcing a Narcissist: Insights From Someone Going Through It Now!

    4D AGO

    Divorcing a Narcissist: Insights From Someone Going Through It Now!

    Send us a text If you need support, Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org/ In this episode, Brenda and Sara dive deep into the tangled intersection of narcissistic abuse and  divorce, unpacking how these dynamics create a perfect storm of emotional exhaustion and legal chaos. Through raw personal stories and professional insight, they shed light on why clear boundaries and strong support systems are essential for survival and recovery. They break down how to maintain meticulous documentation, improve communication, and prepare strategically for court. From navigating complex legal challenges to building emotional resilience, this conversation gives listeners practical tools and validation for one of the hardest battles they’ll ever face. Takeaways Narcissism and addiction can coexist but are not the same.Setting boundaries is crucial for protecting oneself and children.Documentation is key in legal proceedings against a narcissist.Emotional exhaustion can lead to a loss of attraction in relationships.Support systems play a vital role during the divorce process.Communication should be kept in writing to avoid misunderstandings.Expect delays in the divorce process, both financially and emotionally.Narcissists often lack integrity, even in court settings.It's important to prepare mentally for court appearances.Self-care and grounding techniques are essential before court dates.Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Narcissism and Addiction 02:00 Navigating Divorce with a Narcissist 05:06 The Importance of Communication with Your Lawyer 05:55 Documenting Everything: A Key Strategy 08:20 Understanding the Gray Rock Technique 12:17 Preparing for Court: Emotional and Financial Readiness 15:35 Expecting Dishonesty in Court 17:07 Keeping Track of Court Orders 19:26 Utilizing Available Resources and Support 20:33 Establishing a Court Day Ritual Two Queens and a Joker, My Narcissist Ex and Me is sponsored by the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center, where we provide therapy, classes, and support groups for people healing from narcissistic abuse. Contact us at www.narctrauma.com.  Narcissistic abuse leaves deep imprints on trust, relationships, and identity. Survivors often feel isolated, anxious, and hypervigilant. But healing is possible. By rebuilding self-trust, noticing patterns, and taking small, steady steps toward connection, survivors can slowly allow safe people back into their lives. The scars remain, but they don’t define the future. Survivors are not broken, they are rebuilding. We specialize in helping survivors untangle the patterns of narcissistic abuse and recover their sense of self. Learn more at www.narctrauma.com. Follow for support and resources: Facebook: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center TikTok: @narctraumarecovery Instagram (Podcast): @2queensandajoker Instagram (Recovery): @narcrecoverycenter

    25 min

  2. OCT 5

    The Dark Side of Intimacy with a Narcissist

    Send us a text In this episode of Two Queens and a Joker: My Narcissist's Ex and Me @2Queens_Joker Brenda and Sara explore the complexities of relationships with narcissists, focusing on themes of intimacy issues, self-image, and the impact of narcissism on special occasions. They share personal experiences and insights, exploring how these dynamics affect emotional well-being and relationships. The conversation also touches on the prevalence of addiction among narcissists and the underlying psychological factors that contribute to these behaviors. Ready to Take the Next Step in Your Healing? If this article resonated with you, you don’t have to navigate the aftermath of narcissistic abuse alone. Here are ways to connect, learn, and heal with us: Listen to the podcast: Dive deeper into these conversations on Two Queens and a Joker: My Narcissist’s Ex and Me. Every episode combines lived experience with professional insight to help you feel less alone. Join a group: Healing happens in safe, validating spaces. Explore our specialized support groups for survivors of narcissistic abuse (SoNA) https://narctrauma.com/s-o-n-a-support-group/, and ask us about other supports, including programs for those going through divorce and recovery after narcissistic abuse. Work with a specialist: At www.narctrauma.com, I work exclusively with survivors of narcissistic abuse and have personally trained our therapists in working with survivors of narcissistic abuse. Whether through individual therapy, group programs, or guided resources, you’ll find tools to rebuild your sense of safety, self-worth, and identity. You deserve to heal, reclaim your power, and build a future where connection is safe and real. We specialize in helping survivors untangle the patterns of narcissistic abuse and recover their sense of self. Learn more at www.narctrauma.com. Follow for support and resources: Facebook: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center TikTok: @narctraumarecovery Instagram (Podcast): @2queensandajoker Instagram (Recovery): @narcrecoverycenter narcissism, sexual deviance, relationships, intimacy, self-image, addiction, emotional abuse, validation, special occasions, podcast 00:00 Doorknob Confessions and Narcissism 03:41 Sexual Deviance and Relationships 08:17 Self-Image and Control in Narcissistic Relationships 09:58 The Impact of Narcissism on Special Occasions 13:11 Navigating Trust and Betrayal 14:58 The Need for Attention and Validation 16:27 Understanding Narcissism and Its Roots 22:49 The Impact of Addiction on Relationships narcissism, sexual deviance, relationships, intimacy, self-image, addiction, emotional abuse, validati Two Queens and a Joker, My Narcissist Ex and Me is sponsored by the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center, where we provide therapy, classes, and support groups for people healing from narcissistic abuse. Contact us at www.narctrauma.com.  Narcissistic abuse leaves deep imprints on trust, relationships, and identity. Survivors often feel isolated, anxious, and hypervigilant. But healing is possible. By rebuilding self-trust, noticing patterns, and taking small, steady steps toward connection, survivors can slowly allow safe people back into their lives. The scars remain, but they don’t define the future. Survivors are not broken, they are rebuilding. We specialize in helping survivors untangle the patterns of narcissistic abuse and recover their sense of self. Learn more at www.narctrauma.com. Follow for support and resources: Facebook: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center TikTok: @narctraumarecovery Instagram (Podcast): @2queensandajoker Instagram (Recovery): @narcrecoverycenter

    25 min

  3. SEP 29

    The Neuroscience of Narcissism: Understanding Their Lack of Empathy

    Send us a text In this episode of Two Queens and a Joker: My Narcissist's Ex and Me, Brenda and Sara explore the neuroscience of narcissism, exploring how the brain's wiring affects empathy and emotional connection. They discuss the differences between feeling and thinking empathy, the implications for survivors of narcissistic abuse, and the potential for healing through understanding and therapy. The conversation emphasizes that while narcissists may have a different brain structure, it does not absolve them of responsibility for their actions. The episode aims to empower survivors by reinforcing that their experiences are valid and not a reflection of their worth. Takeaways Narcissists have a different brain wiring that affects empathy. Feeling empathy is often broken in narcissists. Narcissism can be on a spectrum, similar to sociopathy. The brain's self-focus circuits are overly activated in narcissists. Narcissists can understand empathy but often use it manipulatively. Neuroplasticity allows for potential change, but requires effort. Survivors should not blame themselves for the narcissist's behavior. Therapy can help survivors but may not change the narcissist. Empathy can show up for narcissists when it serves them. Understanding the brain's role can aid in healing from abuse. Two Queens and a Joker, My Narcissist Ex and Me is sponsored by the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center, where we provide therapy, classes, and support groups for people healing from narcissistic abuse. Contact us at www.narctrauma.com.  Narcissistic abuse leaves deep imprints on trust, relationships, and identity. Survivors often feel isolated, anxious, and hypervigilant. But healing is possible. By rebuilding self-trust, noticing patterns, and taking small, steady steps toward connection, survivors can slowly allow safe people back into their lives. The scars remain, but they don’t define the future. Survivors are not broken, they are rebuilding. We specialize in helping survivors untangle the patterns of narcissistic abuse and recover their sense of self. Learn more at www.narctrauma.com. Follow for support and resources: Facebook: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center TikTok: @narctraumarecovery Instagram (Podcast): @2queensandajoker Instagram (Recovery): @narcrecoverycenter

    28 min
  4. Building New Relationships After Narcissistic Abuse

    SEP 22

    Building New Relationships After Narcissistic Abuse

    Send us a text SUMMARY  In this episode of Two Queens and a Joker: My Narcissist's Ex and Me https://www.youtube.com/@2Queens_Joker  Brenda and Sara discuss the complexities of moving on from narcissistic relationships and the challenges of building new connections. They explore themes of trust, emotional safety, and the impact of introversion on relationships. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-trust and recognizing patterns in relationships to foster healthier connections. Both hosts share personal experiences and insights, highlighting the journey of healing and empowerment after trauma. TAKEAWAYS Trusting yourself is key to trusting others. Building trust in yourself is essential before letting others in. Pay attention to the patterns in relationships to identify red flags. It's okay to be guarded after experiencing trauma. Recognizing your emotional safety is crucial in new relationships. Introversion can impact how we navigate social situations and relationships. Self-care is vital; you can't pour from an empty cup. Empowerment comes from understanding your worth and boundaries. Healing is a gradual process that requires patience and self-compassion. You are not alone in your journey of recovery from narcissistic abuse. Please go to www.narctrauma.com for resources on healing.  Follow for support and resources: Facebook: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center TikTok: @narctraumarecovery Instagram (Podcast): @2queensandajoker Instagram (Recovery): @narcrecoverycenter CHAPTERS 00:00 Trusting Yourself So You Can Trust Others 02:23 Trust Issues and Healing 05:09 The Importance of Authentic Connections 07:32 Building Trust in New Friendships 09:32 The Role of Introversion in Relationships 11:50 Understanding Social Batteries and Personal Boundaries 14:19 Metabolic Bank: Managing Energy and Social Interactions 19:28 Embracing Positive Energy and Self-Trust 20:45 Rebuilding Trust After Toxic Relationships 23:02 Empowerment Through Self-Expression 25:40 Emotional Maturity and Healthy Boundaries 26:57 Recognizing Patterns in Relationships 31:26 Understanding Narcissistic Behavior and Its Impact Two Queens and a Joker, My Narcissist Ex and Me is sponsored by the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center, where we provide therapy, classes, and support groups for people healing from narcissistic abuse. Contact us at www.narctrauma.com.  Narcissistic abuse leaves deep imprints on trust, relationships, and identity. Survivors often feel isolated, anxious, and hypervigilant. But healing is possible. By rebuilding self-trust, noticing patterns, and taking small, steady steps toward connection, survivors can slowly allow safe people back into their lives. The scars remain, but they don’t define the future. Survivors are not broken, they are rebuilding. We specialize in helping survivors untangle the patterns of narcissistic abuse and recover their sense of self. Learn more at www.narctrauma.com. Follow for support and resources: Facebook: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center TikTok: @narctraumarecovery Instagram (Podcast): @2queensandajoker Instagram (Recovery): @narcrecoverycenter

    36 min

  5. SEP 16

    When the Narcissist Sounds Heartbroken (But Isn’t)

    Send us a text In this conversation, Brenda, a therapist, discusses the complexities of relationships with narcissists, emphasizing the confusion and emotional turmoil experienced by those involved. She explains the concept of limerence, the narcissist's manipulative behaviors, and the false promises of change that often follow a breakup. Brenda encourages listeners to recognize patterns of behavior and prioritize their own healing and self-worth, ultimately advocating for empowerment and the importance of leaving toxic relationships. takeaways Being with a narcissist can be confusing and painful.Narcissists often wear a mask to hide their true selves.They manipulate their partners by studying their likes and dislikes.Narcissists may show remorse, but it's often self-serving.Recognizing patterns of behavior is crucial for healing.Narcissists do not change; their behaviors are often superficial.You deserve unconditional love and respect in a relationship.Leaving a narcissist is challenging but necessary for your well-being.Empowerment comes from recognizing your worth and making changes.No one deserves to be treated poorly in a relationship.Chapters 00:00 Understanding Narcissistic Relationships 02:13 The Mask of the Narcissist 05:56 The Illusion of Change 09:23 Self-Interest vs. Love 12:42 Healing and Moving Forward Two Queens and a Joker, My Narcissist Ex and Me is sponsored by the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center, where we provide therapy, classes, and support groups for people healing from narcissistic abuse. Contact us at www.narctrauma.com.  Narcissistic abuse leaves deep imprints on trust, relationships, and identity. Survivors often feel isolated, anxious, and hypervigilant. But healing is possible. By rebuilding self-trust, noticing patterns, and taking small, steady steps toward connection, survivors can slowly allow safe people back into their lives. The scars remain, but they don’t define the future. Survivors are not broken, they are rebuilding. We specialize in helping survivors untangle the patterns of narcissistic abuse and recover their sense of self. Learn more at www.narctrauma.com. Follow for support and resources: Facebook: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center TikTok: @narctraumarecovery Instagram (Podcast): @2queensandajoker Instagram (Recovery): @narcrecoverycenter

    15 min

  6. SEP 8

    The Dark Side of Limerence and Narcissistic Abuse

    Send us a text The Dark Side of Limerence and Narcissistic Abuse https://narctrauma.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/NarcissisticAbuseRecoveryCenter TikTok: @narctraumarecovery Instagram (Podcast): @2queensandajoker Instagram (Recovery): @narcrecoverycenter limerence, narcissistic relationships, love bombing, emotional abuse, trauma bond, addiction cycle, self-worth, parenting, mental health, healing Limerence is a psychological term for intense emotional infatuation.Narcissists use love bombing to create limerence in their partners. The addiction cycle in relationships mirrors substance addiction. Survivors often blame themselves for the relationship dynamics.Children of narcissists experience a form of limerence with their parents.Intermittent reinforcement creates trauma bonds in relationships.Adult children of narcissists may struggle with self-worth and trust. Healthy relationships may feel uncomfortable for those raised in chaos. Breaking the cycle of limerence requires awareness and healing.It's crucial for children to learn about healthy relationships. For classes, support groups, individual therapy, coaching, resources, and more, please visit: https://narctrauma.com/ Takeaways Limerence is a psychological term for intense emotional infatuation.Narcissists use love bombing to create limerence in their partners.The addiction cycle in relationships mirrors substance addiction.Survivors often blame themselves for the relationship dynamics.Children of narcissists experience a form of limerence with their parents.Intermittent reinforcement creates trauma bonds in relationships.Adult children of narcissists may struggle with self-worth and trust.Healthy relationships may feel uncomfortable for those raised in chaos.Breaking the cycle of limerence requires awareness and healing.It's crucial for children to learn about healthy relationships. Two Queens and a Joker, My Narcissist Ex and Me is sponsored by the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center, where we provide therapy, classes, and support groups for people healing from narcissistic abuse. Contact us at www.narctrauma.com.  Narcissistic abuse leaves deep imprints on trust, relationships, and identity. Survivors often feel isolated, anxious, and hypervigilant. But healing is possible. By rebuilding self-trust, noticing patterns, and taking small, steady steps toward connection, survivors can slowly allow safe people back into their lives. The scars remain, but they don’t define the future. Survivors are not broken, they are rebuilding. We specialize in helping survivors untangle the patterns of narcissistic abuse and recover their sense of self. Learn more at www.narctrauma.com. Follow for support and resources: Facebook: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center TikTok: @narctraumarecovery Instagram (Podcast): @2queensandajoker Instagram (Recovery): @narcrecoverycenter

    31 min
  7. The Empathy Gap in Narcissism

    AUG 24

    The Empathy Gap in Narcissism

    Send us a text Sara and Brenda dive into the complexities of narcissism, particularly focusing on the lack of empathy that characterizes narcissistic personalities. They explore the differences between covert and malignant narcissism, the spectrum of narcissistic behaviors, and offer coping strategies for those dealing with narcissists. narcissism, empathy, malignant narcissism, coping strategies, personality disorders Takeaways: All narcissists have lack of empathy. Malignant narcissists do not exhibit empathy. Covert narcissists may feign empathy. Understanding the spectrum of narcissistic behaviors is crucial. Identifying malignant narcissism can help in managing relationships. Coping strategies are essential when dealing with narcissists. Empathy is a key diagnostic criterion for narcissistic personality disorder. Narcissism can manifest in various ways, affecting interpersonal relationships. Recognizing the signs of narcissism is important for self-protection. Effective coping can mitigate the impact of narcissists on one's life. 00:00 Understanding Covert Narcissism 02:34 Signs of Covert Narcissism 03:00 Shared Experiences with Narcissists 03:44 The Impact of Narcissism on Relationships 05:53 Victim Mentality and Lack of Accountability 08:30 Empathy Deficits in Narcissists 11:05 The Emotional Toll of Narcissistic Relationships 13:36 Trusting Your Intuition 21:09 Conclusion and Next Steps Two Queens and a Joker, My Narcissist Ex and Me is sponsored by the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center, where we provide therapy, classes, and support groups for people healing from narcissistic abuse. Contact us at www.narctrauma.com.  Narcissistic abuse leaves deep imprints on trust, relationships, and identity. Survivors often feel isolated, anxious, and hypervigilant. But healing is possible. By rebuilding self-trust, noticing patterns, and taking small, steady steps toward connection, survivors can slowly allow safe people back into their lives. The scars remain, but they don’t define the future. Survivors are not broken, they are rebuilding. We specialize in helping survivors untangle the patterns of narcissistic abuse and recover their sense of self. Learn more at www.narctrauma.com. Follow for support and resources: Facebook: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center TikTok: @narctraumarecovery Instagram (Podcast): @2queensandajoker Instagram (Recovery): @narcrecoverycenter

    23 min

  8. AUG 17

    Embodied Healing From Narcissistic Abuse

    Send us a text In this conversation, Brenda and Sara discuss the journey of healing from narcissistic abuse, emphasizing the importance of connection, support, and self-care. They explore various techniques for managing panic responses, the power of positive thinking, and the significance of small steps in the healing process. The discussion highlights the challenges of self-care and the impact of touch on emotional well-being, ultimately encouraging listeners to take actionable steps towards their healing journey. narcissistic abuse, healing, support groups, self-care, breathing techniques, positive thinking, panic responses, emotional health, connection, personal growth Two Queens and a Joker, My Narcissist Ex and Me is sponsored by the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center, where we provide therapy, classes, and support groups for people healing from narcissistic abuse. Contact us at www.narctrauma.com.  Narcissistic abuse leaves deep imprints on trust, relationships, and identity. Survivors often feel isolated, anxious, and hypervigilant. But healing is possible. By rebuilding self-trust, noticing patterns, and taking small, steady steps toward connection, survivors can slowly allow safe people back into their lives. The scars remain, but they don’t define the future. Survivors are not broken, they are rebuilding. We specialize in helping survivors untangle the patterns of narcissistic abuse and recover their sense of self. Learn more at www.narctrauma.com. Follow for support and resources: Facebook: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Center TikTok: @narctraumarecovery Instagram (Podcast): @2queensandajoker Instagram (Recovery): @narcrecoverycenter

    34 min
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Two Queens and a Joker: My Narcissist’s Ex and Me is a bold and deeply personal podcast where two women, both survivors of the same narcissistic partner, come together to share their stories, break the silence, and heal out loud. As parents to children with the same man, we unpack the chaos, confusion, and emotional damage of narcissistic abuse and the powerful friendship and growth that came from our shared truth. With raw conversations, expert insights, and heartfelt support, this podcast is for anyone who’s been gaslit, discarded, trauma-bonded, or left wondering, “Was it really that bad?” We’re here to say: yes, it was. But you’re not alone and healing is not only possible, it’s your right.  Moving forward requires breaking free from old patterns and healing is a gradual process that takes time and self-reflection. We'll get there.Narcissistic abuse leaves deep imprints on trust, relationships, and identity. Survivors often feel reclusive, anxious, and hypervigilant. But healing is possible. By rebuilding self-trust, noticing patterns, and taking small, steady steps toward connection, survivors can slowly allow safe people back into their lives.The scars remain, but they don’t define the future. Survivors are not broken, they are rebuilding.We specialize in helping survivors untangle the patterns of narcissistic abuse and recover their sense of self. Learn more at www.narctrauma.com.Follow for support and resources:Facebook: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CenterTikTok: @narctraumarecoveryInstagram (Podcast): @2queensandajokerInstagram (Recovery): @narcrecoverycenter #RealTalk #WomensVoices #SupportSystems #HealingFromNarcissisticAbuse #NarcissistRecovery #SurvivingNarcissisticAbuse #PodcastSeries #StorytellingPodcast #twoqueensandajokermynarcissistsexandme

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