Undressing Intimacy

Amy and Greg Langford
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A real life couple with real life examples on how to create emotional and physical intimacy in marriage.

  1. 73. From Performance to Presence: Why "Simmering" Beats the 10-Step Checklist

    1D AGO

    73. From Performance to Presence: Why "Simmering" Beats the 10-Step Checklist

    Are you looking for the "10 steps to perfect intimacy"? In Episode 73, Greg and Amy explain why looking for certainty and checklists often kills the very spark you are trying to create. If your sex life feels like a production or a to-do list, this episode reveals why "eroticism hates a job description" and how to shift from doing to being. In this episode, we cover: The "Checklist" Trap: Why couples crave the safety of "steps" (do A, get B) and why this mechanical approach sabotages aliveness and connection,. Simmering vs. Sizzling: We discuss the art of "Simmering"—finding a space to be physically close without an agenda—and why turning up the heat to "sizzling" too fast often backfires,. The "Rinse and Repeat" Failure: Why trying to exactly replicate a great sexual experience ("It worked last night, let's do it again!") kills the mood by turning a living moment into a routine,. Performance to Presence: How to stop trying to "produce" arousal and instead use Dr. Steven Snyder's 2-step approach: 1) Transitioning/Closing mental tabs, and 2) Letting arousal find you,. Navigating Ebbs and Flows: Learning to trust that the low points in intimacy are just part of the cycle, not a sign that your relationship is broken,. 📢 SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: We are looking for a brave couple to be coached LIVE in our next community meeting! If you want to experience a breakthrough and help others by sharing your journey, please email us @ amy@langfordlifecoaching.com Join the Community: Don't miss our next gathering on Tuesday, Feb 24th, where we will connect, share, and learn together.

    53 min
  2. 72. The Art of Forgiveness in Marriage: Overcoming Conflict for Lasting Intimacy

    FEB 3

    72. The Art of Forgiveness in Marriage: Overcoming Conflict for Lasting Intimacy

    Do you find yourself fighting to win arguments rather than fighting for your relationship? In Episode 72, Greg and Amy dive deep into the difficult but necessary work of forgiveness and why holding onto resentment is a barrier to true intimacy. If you are stuck in a cycle of defensiveness or feel like you constantly need your spouse to validate you, this episode offers a roadmap out. Greg and Amy discuss: • The Trap of Validation: Greg shares his personal struggle with being a "validation seeker" and how constantly looking for credit prevents true self-reflection and growth,. • "Unjustifying" Yourself: Why the most important skill in marriage isn't proving you are right, but having the courage to "unjustify" your behavior and look at your own role in the conflict. • Honesty vs. Brutality: How to move from damaging accusations to "healing honesty"—digging a layer deeper to understand why you feel insecure or hurt rather than just listing your spouse's flaws,. • Navigating Betrayal & Pornography: Drawing on insights from Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, they discuss how to look past the behavior of pornography use to understand the deeper meanings and brokenness behind it, rather than just focusing on the act itse

    51 min
  3. 71. Why Expectations Kill Desire & The Trap of "Virtuous" Service

    JAN 27

    71. Why Expectations Kill Desire & The Trap of "Virtuous" Service

    In Episode 71, Greg and Amy break down why "eroticism hates a job description" and how to shift from demanding outcomes to sharing authentic desires. If your intimacy feels like a "to-do list," this episode is for you. Greg and Amy discuss: • Redefining "Wholesome": Why true wholesomeness isn't about moral purity, but operating from a "whole sense of self". • The Expectation Trap: Why "expectation is neediness" and how turning a desire into a dependency kills the erotic spark. • The "Virtue" Defense: How women often hide behind "virtuous service" (doing everything for everyone) to avoid sexual vulnerability, and why this is just as damaging as a husband's neediness,. • Breaking the "If/Then" Cycle: How to stop measuring your spouse's love by whether they meet specific demands (e.g., "If she loved me, she would initiate"). 🎉 WINNER ANNOUNCEMENT: We announce the winner of our 3 Free Coaching Sessions giveaway! Congratulations to Jet Cell Plane—please email us to redeem your sessions. Join the Community: Don't miss our next community gathering on Tuesday, Jan 27th, where we will discuss how to avoid common Valentine's Day traps and navigate holiday expectations,.

    49 min
  4. 70. Empty Nest Marriage: How to Shift From "Parents" Back to "Lovers"

    JAN 20

    70. Empty Nest Marriage: How to Shift From "Parents" Back to "Lovers"

    The kids are gone, the house is quiet... now what? In this milestone episode, Greg and Amy navigate the emotional and relational transition of becoming empty nesters. They open up about their own recent experience dropping their youngest off at college and the identity crisis that often follows. If you are wondering how to fill the void when the "domestic bucket" of parenting shrinks, this episode is for you. Greg and Amy discuss: • The Identity Shift: Moving from "Co-CEOs of the Household" back to being partners and lovers. • The Two Buckets: Why the "erotic bucket" often feels empty after years of parenting and how to refill it. • Navigating Grief: Handling the "happy grief" of children launching while managing your own feelings of loss. • Marriage 2.0: How to intentionally design the next phase of your life so you don't end up as just roommates. Plus: We are celebrating being Empty Nesters with a free giveaway! Tune in to find out how to enter our Empty Nesters Giveaway for a chance to win three free coaching sessions.

    43 min
  5. 69. Is Hyper-Focusing on Sexual Positions Killing Your Intimacy?

    JAN 13

    69. Is Hyper-Focusing on Sexual Positions Killing Your Intimacy?

    Is your sex life becoming a "to-do" list? In this special 69th episode, we are tackling the elephant in the room: sexual positions and the pressure to perform. Many couples think that introducing a specific act—like the 69 position, a new toy, or a fantasy scenario—will magically fix their connection. But often, hyper-focusing on the "act" actually kills the intimacy. Join Greg and Amy as they break down the difference between Production vs. Connection. If you are trying to "produce" an orgasm or "achieve" a position, you aren't present with your spouse. We discuss why setting sexual expectations is a trap and how to move from checking boxes to truly consuming and enjoying your partner. In this episode, we cover: The 69 Trap: Why hyper-focusing on specific positions or toys makes you lose track of your partner.  Production vs. Connection: How to stop trying to "produce" an experience and start actually experiencing it. Killing Expectations: Why measuring success by whether you hit a specific goal (like orgasm or a specific act) destroys eroticism. The "Checklist" Failure: Greg shares his personal failure of having a "checklist" of things he wanted Amy to do, and why it led to disappointment rather than connection. 🎉 SPECIAL GIVEAWAY! 🎉 To celebrate our 69th Episode, we are giving away 3 FREE Coaching Sessions! To enter: 1. Rate and Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts (or leave a comment here on YouTube if you are on Spotify/other platforms). 2. Send us an email letting us know you did it! We will announce the winner in two weeks. Resources Mentioned:  Book a Free Consult: Join our Community:  #MarriageAdvice #Intimacy #SexualPositions #RelationshipGoals #UndressingIntimacy #CouplesTherapy #BetterSex

    39 min
  6. 68.Finding Meaning: From Domestic Routines to Erotic Rituals

    JAN 6

    68.Finding Meaning: From Domestic Routines to Erotic Rituals

    In episode 68, we kick off the new year by reflecting on a rejuvenating holiday in Sedona, Arizona, and delve into the transformative power of rituals in marriage. Inspired by Esther Perel's work, we explore the significance of balancing the domestic and erotic aspects of life with actionable advice for creating meaningful rituals. We share personal stories, including our journey from routine to ritual in various aspects of our relationship, offering insights into how these practices foster deeper connections and intimacy. Join us in discovering ways to make 2026 the year of enriched partnerships through the power of rituals.

    47 min

  7. 12/30/2025

    67. Sexual Intimacy Without Words: Connecting Through the Limbic Brain

    In this episode, we explore the intriguing connections between human and horse nervous systems, particularly the limbic brain. We discuss how calming the limbic system enhances human and horse interactions, making horse riding a more connected and intuitive experience. Reflecting on personal stories and recent articles, we delve into the significance of regulating emotions for deeper connections in marriages and intimate relationships. Join us as we share insights on calming practices, the importance of daily rituals, and how understanding the limbic brain can transform relationships.

    40 min
  8. 66. Waking Up to Sensuality: The Path to Intimate Fulfillment

    12/23/2025

    66. Waking Up to Sensuality: The Path to Intimate Fulfillment

    In episode 66, we dive deep into the topic of body image issues and how they impact intimacy and self-worth. Amy, despite being under the weather, joins us as we explore the emotional and mental barriers women face about their bodies. We discuss how societal expectations and personal criticism often lead to a disconnect from the body and its pleasures. Through personal anecdotes, we share the journey of waking up to one's desires and learning to embody sensuality. We also highlight the importance of a supportive partner in this journey. Join us as we unravel the complexities of body image and intimacy, offering insights and encouragement for couples navigating similar struggles.

    50 min
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A real life couple with real life examples on how to create emotional and physical intimacy in marriage.

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  • Creator
    Amy and Greg Langford
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    73
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2024
  • Show Website
    Undressing Intimacy

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