Unfinished Truths

Jennifer Carraher
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Perspectives on new kinships and the truths they reveal. From misattributed parentage, non-paternity events and donor conception to made or chosen families, these are stories of and by people who gain truth through knowledge and want to share that truth with you. “The truth will set you free. But not until it is finished with you.” David Foster Wallace Contributions email: unfinishedtruths@gmail.com

  1. 10/07/2024

    The Nurse: In The Room

    This is an interim episode: a tribute to a different kind of family.   Perspectives of fellow nurses during the Covid-19 pandemic, two years later.

    14 min
  2. The Half Known Self

    10/07/2024

    The Half Known Self

    Kara  is a 21 year-old egg donor conceived person. She was 10 years-old when her raising parents told her she was donor conceived and she struggled with her biological mother’s anonymity in her teenage years as her conception was never mentioned again. In August 2019, at almost 19, Kara took an AncestryDNA test and matched with her biological mother with whom she now has a close relationship. Kara is on Instagram sharing her perspectives as well as advocating for donor conceived people and educating recipient parents. You can follow her @kara_donorconceived If you are a DCP and are looking for support please visit: www.wearedonorconceived.com You can find Dani Shapiro’s book “Inheritance” at your local bookstore or on Audible and the adoption support podcast we mentioned in this episode is entitled “Pulled by the Root” and can be found at www.pulledbytheroot.com

    1h 2m

  3. 10/07/2024

    I Am Right Here

    Our guest for Episode 7 is Brandy, a 41 year old wife and mother of three who found out her "dad" was not her biological father when she was 10.  It took her 30 years to find out who her biological father was and to put a label on her non-paternity event.  Through finding her biological father and his family, Brandy found solace in the many things she had previously always questioned about herself.  Having a label to place on her parental situation as an NPE has also made her understand herself differently.  She now firmly believes that her experience with both nature and nurture is what makes her who she is.  Brandy found journaling and writing poetry as an outlet for healing and peace through this journey. I feel very grateful to Brandy for her insights and reflections that she shares with us today.

    1h 44m

  4. 10/07/2024

    An Underestimation of My Determination

    This week I would like to welcome Stacy, a thirty-four year old mother of a two year old little girl; Stacy and her husband are expecting a second daughter in August. Living on the central coast of Oregon, Stacy and her family have a dairy farm as well as a footwear manufacturing company. Originally from Kansas, born and raised,  she moved away shortly after college and eventually she and her husband made their way to Oregon. Stacy learned that she was a donor conceived person (DCP) when she was around fourteen or fifteen years old. After their original disclosure, it wasn’t something that her parents ever discussed with her again. Stacy is the only child of her parents aside from her father’s adopted son from a previous marriage; he is fifteen years her elder. Her biological father is an anonymous donor who she was able to identify about a year ago through DNA testing and family research. After confirming his relation to her and divulging his medical history, he requested they have no further contact. She is still searching for answers to understand him..... and to understand herself. If you would like to contact Stacy or have questions or comments about her story, please email unfinishedtruths@gmail.com or DM our Instagram site.   Interested in reading about DCP rights and Colorado Protections for Donor Conceived Persons and Families?  Check out the Center for Genetics and Society where you can search for articles by keyword such as donor conception.

    1h 16m
  5. The Ghost Children

    10/07/2024

    The Ghost Children

    My guest this week is Mirren (she/her), a Missouri adoptee, born and raised in St. Louis. She holds an A.B. in Classical and Near Eastern Archaeology from Bryn Mawr College; a Ph.D. in the History of Art from the University of California, Berkeley; and a B.S. in Nursing from Samuel Merritt University in Oakland, California. She is currently studying to be a women’s health nurse practitioner through Georgetown University. She has worked in adoptee rights advocacy since the late 1990s and has been in reunion for over a decade with various comic and tragic results. She resides in Alameda, California with her family: her husband, two sons, two cats, and a very lazy fast dog.   In sum: She is drawn to intersections between history and family, whether digging Roman ruins, studying 16th century portraiture, or working as a nurse in women’s health. PACER: https://www.pacer-adoption.org/ The Chid Catchers by Kathryn Joyce: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/13587133-the-child-catchers Bastard Nation: http://bastards.org BJ Lifton https://www.thriftbooks.com/a/betty-jean-lifton/222413/

    1h 6m
  6. You Belong Here

    10/07/2024

    You Belong Here

    At 42 years old, Kim was working on her paternal family’s tree via Ancestry when she uncovered a very big secret. A secret that she would also discover most people around her known for years. She always had an underlying feeling that she was different from her 5 siblings...suddenly, it all made sense. Resources mentioned in Episode 10: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson PsyD Missing Pieces - NPE Life podcast with Don Anderson Severance Magazine Who Even Am I Anymore: A Process Journal For the Adoptee, Late Discovery Adoptee, Donor Conceived, NPE, and MPE Community Babies and Their Mothers - D.W. Winnicott (the idea of the "good enough mother")

    1h 3m

  7. 10/07/2024

    I Have a Voice & I Want to Use It

    Jillian always knew she was conceived via an anonymous sperm donor. Raised the only child of an open and supportive single mother, she took a DNA test in October of 2020 in an effort to identify her biological father.  Fairly quickly, Jillian's DNA discovery lead her not only to the medical information that she was seeking, but to another family with whom she discovered she had much in common.  With this genetic information, she has also had the chance to develop a relationship with her younger biological brother.      As vice president of government affairs for the U.S. Donor Conceived Council, Jillian leads efforts to develop legislation that considers the best interests of donor conceived people.  You can contact Jillian at jphillips@usdcc.org  At just 26 years old, Jillian holds a degree in biology, a masters of public health and a masters of business administration. She will begin law school in the fall of 2022. Click here for more information or to get involved with the US Donor Conceived Council Protections For Donor-conceived Persons And Families | Colorado General Assembly Letter from American Society for Reproductive Medicine opposing SB22-224

    49 min

  8. 10/07/2024

    The People I Call Family

    Angie was born into a blended family in a small town in Montana.   With a brother and sister 9 years older - through her dad - and a second sister who was 5 years older - through her mom- she never felt like her family was any different from anyone else's  until an elementary school teacher challenged her ideas of  relatedness.  Angie's kinship experiences have included being raised as the child of an adoptee, living in a blended family, being raised by a parent with a serious, chronic/ terminal illness, coming out and finding chosen family in the gay community and building a family as a same sex couple both through donor conception and the foster system.  As somewhat of a genealogical research expert, she has helped family members through DNA surprises and tracked down multiple family members through diligent research and dedication.  She is currently searching for her niece's biological father.  Angie has been working as a journey(wo)man electrician for over 20 years.   Her favorite pastimes are traveling, golfing, skiing and camping. She and her partner, Liz, have made their home in beautiful (but windy) Helena, Montana for seven years now.

    1h 5m
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Perspectives on new kinships and the truths they reveal. From misattributed parentage, non-paternity events and donor conception to made or chosen families, these are stories of and by people who gain truth through knowledge and want to share that truth with you. “The truth will set you free. But not until it is finished with you.” David Foster Wallace Contributions email: unfinishedtruths@gmail.com

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  • Creator
    Jennifer Carraher
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2024
  • Episodes
    13
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Jennifer Carraher
  • Show Website
    Unfinished Truths