69 episodes
Unlearned Jaime Mahler and CA Rhoades
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- Health & Fitness
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4.9 • 76 Ratings
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This is a podcast all about deconstructing who we are and exploring who we are becoming.
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Ep 68: Dissociation and Avoidant Attachment
Are dissociation and disengagement the same thing? Is it ever healthier to more or less walk away to protect yourself? In this episode, CA and Jaime explore both dissociation and disengagement, using the analogy of a snowstorm. Join us to discover when we need to tough it out, put on a coat, or stay inside.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Notes:
Emotional Support water bottles and missing walls
The difference between consciously and respectfully disengaging and dissociation
Is there a way to healthily disengage when there is too much pain?
The mistakes we make while learning to protect ourselves in a good way
What happens if the other person isn’t safe
Learning to trust your limits in a healthy way
Links:
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
CA’s Voxer Coaching: http://tinyurl.com/434fs8zd
Jaime’s Coaching: https://recollectedself.com/workwithme
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
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Ep 67: Recalibrating our Thresholds
We all know that healing isn’t linear, but there does tend to be a moment when a corner is turned - where we begin to live our life again. What do we do then? Season 1 of the show focused on healing and trauma recovery. Join Jaime and CA as they introduce Season 2, which will focus on what happens after.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Notes:
Introducing Season 2 - Life After Healing
What trauma healing really looks like
Societal beliefs and trauma recovery
Why should you learn and then honor your thresholds
How it feels to shift out of survival mode
How to approach recovery safely
Honoring your body and mind during the recovery process
Links:
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
Over 50 Club!
Amanda B.
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Ep 66: Do they tolerate you?
In this episode, CA and Jaime explore how relationships can serve as protective factors for trauma processing and healing. Especially relationships in which we are not merely tolerated, but rather accepted and, ideally, celebrated.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Notes:
Sweater weather!
Changing energy and changing seasons
What are protective factors and how do they affect us?
Beginning the process of processing trauma
How relationships can be protective factors for trauma processing
What normal relationships look like
The importance of knowing whether you are being tolerated, accepted, or celebrated in a relationship
Links:
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
Over 50 Club!
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Ep 65: Angels and Demons
Join Jaime and CA as they delve into the complexities of spirituality. They question whether religion has exclusive control over our spiritual experiences, provide a clear definition of spirituality, and dive into the topic of secular spirituality. Additionally, they explore the themes of self-righteousness, self-sovereignty, authority within the spiritual domain, and more.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Notes:
Does religion own spirituality?
What is spirituality?
What is secular spirituality?
An example of an experience of secular spirituality versus an experience of religious spirituality
Fear-based spirituality and trauma
The source of spiritual power
Self-righteousness, self-sovereignty, and authority
Links:
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
Over 50 Club!
Amanda B.
Plamen S.
Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher) -
Ep 64: The Cringest Episode We've Ever Done
Join CA and Jaime as they dive into the concept of "cringe." They'll dissect its nature, explore why it makes us squirm, and reveal how trauma recovery can shift our understanding. Get ready for an eye-opening discussion that will change the way you think about cringe.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Notes:
Super cringy opening
March Madness - but with kittens!
What is cringe?
What can cringe teach us?
Is it weird or is it a social contract
When do we begin to feel cringe?
Where perception comes into play
The link between cringe and trauma recovery
Links:
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
Over 50 Club!
Amanda B.
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Ep 63: Exploring Personal Evolution with Audrey Assad
Join CA and Jaime as they explore personal evolution with the internationally recognized singer, Audrey Assad. Discover the transformative power of music, delve into profound discussions on faith, suffering, and self-acceptance, and gain valuable insights into the art of living in the moment. Audrey's wisdom and experiences make for a truly inspiring conversation you won't want to miss.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Notes:
Introducing Audrey Assad
The power of music - specifically with praise and worship music
Being ok with not having an answer
OCD and Black-and-White Thinking
The relationships between Christianity and suffering
The importance of radical self-acceptance
Learning to just live for the sake of living
Links:
Part 1: Ep. 27: Religious Trauma: Part 1
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0YoXD8jlj6RZ2i3qyUytzr?si=235516c3dd384d13
Audrey’s New Single: https://ffm.to/betteriscoming
Her substack: https://thevioletfields.substack.com/
Monica Martin: Go Easy Kid: https://open.spotify.com/track/50hN4KDpQILZpTejaifHZK?si=CWxhlOreT9aqcaAzgMVMlA
Website: http://www.audreyassad.com
Audrey’s Instagram: http://instagram.com/audreyassad
The liturgists podcast Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/scrupulosity/id903433534?i=1000447501709
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6hXrkFJoM55UKJY9COQsMw?si=Bv2Zj5pST6KrSKbx-AY7Lg
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
Over 50 Club!
Amanda B.
Plamen S.
Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)
Customer Reviews
Great topics!
I could’ve benefited from this podcast 20-25 years ago but I’m glad I found it now. So informative for those raised by an oppressive and narcissistic parent, or family.
Amazing Book and helpful podcast
Thank you so much for writing Toxic Relationship Recovery. I heard about your book on another pod cast “ a little bit culty” and ordered your book. It’s helping me heal and process what happened to me and recognize my own dysfunction and how to move past the toxicity that I have unknowingly been seeking out. I also just started listening to your podcast and am finding that helpful as well. Thanks Jamie!
Trauma Healing With Intention
Over the years I started a lot of podcasts with enthusiasm and feeling connected to the ideas shared, and somewhere along the way my attention wanes. UNLEARNED has only pulled me in more as I keep listening. I find their presentation to be extremely engaging and the topics covered hit most of my desired areas to address. I appreciate their reminders to be gentle with myself, and to recognize the nuance in how I and others experience things.