Unmasking Mum

Ana Bonasera
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Unmasking Mum - your go to podcast for the real, raw answers late-discovered ADHD mums are searching for.

Episodes

  1. 5D AGO

    The Grey Area of ADHD Thinking

    In this episode of Unmasking Mum, host Ana Bonasera explores the concept of black and white thinking, particularly in the context of ADHD and parenting. She discusses the challenges of shifting from negative to positive self-perceptions and introduces the idea of a 'grey area' as a more balanced perspective. Through relatable examples, Ana emphasises the importance of self-reflection, emotional regulation, and finding a middle ground in various aspects of life, including productivity and parenting. The episode concludes with a reminder that every day is a learning experience and encourages listeners to embrace their journey with ADHD. Takeaways Black and white thinking can lead to negative self-perceptions.Finding a grey area helps in balancing thoughts.Self-reflection is crucial for emotional regulation.Parenting involves continuous learning and adaptation.It's okay to acknowledge challenges without spiraling into negativity.ADHD can feel debilitating, but it can also be managed.Emotions can be impulsive, and that's part of the journey.Every day presents new opportunities for growth.Creating affirmations can help shift mindset.It's important to recognise that not every day is perfect.

    10 min

  2. FEB 17

    Why do ADHDers struggle with routine?

    In this episode of Unmasking Mum, Ana Bonasera discusses the challenges of maintaining routines, particularly for those with ADHD. She shares her personal experiences with routines, emotional dysregulation, and the importance of understanding one's own brain. Ana emphasises the need for practical strategies to create effective routines, especially in the context of parenting and managing daily tasks. The conversation explores the concept of inflow theory and how it can help in establishing smoother routines. Takeaways: Routine is often seen as a struggle for many, especially those with ADHD.Understanding ADHD can help in managing expectations around routines.The need for dopamine makes routine tasks feel boring and unmotivating.Small, incremental changes to routines can lead to sustainable habits.Morning routines can be particularly challenging for parents with multiple children.Creating a vision for future self can motivate routine changes.Burnout can be a significant trigger for reevaluating routines.Inflow theory suggests maintaining a flow in tasks to reduce overwhelm.Habit stacking can be an effective strategy for managing routines.It's important to reflect on personal struggles and adapt routines accordingly.

    17 min

  3. FEB 10

    What School can do to help your ADHD Kid

    In this episode Ana Bonasera discusses the importance of reasonable adjustments for children with ADHD and other special educational needs. She highlights the recent pause in the ADHD pathway in Oxfordshire and emphasizes that support can be provided even without a formal diagnosis. The conversation covers various adjustments schools can implement to support learning, sensory needs, emotional regulation, and communication, ultimately advocating for a more inclusive educational environment. Takeaways Reasonable adjustments are based on needs, not diagnoses.Schools can provide support even without a formal diagnosis.Visual aids and clear instructions can significantly help children with ADHD.Movement breaks can benefit all children, not just those with special needs.Emotional regulation strategies should be integrated into the school day.Communication should be simple and direct to aid understanding.Involving children in decisions about their support is crucial.All behavior is a form of communication that needs to be understood.Adjustments made for neurodivergent children can benefit the entire class.Parents must advocate for their children's needs in educational settings. Ordinarily Available Provision https://schools.oxfordshire.gov.uk/sites/default/files/2024-10/OrdinarilyAvailableSENDProvision.pdf

    20 min

  4. FEB 3

    Right to Choose: Kids V Mum

    In this episode of Unmasking Mum, host Ana Bonasera shares her personal journey navigating ADHD and autism within her family. With five children, four of whom are neurodivergent, Ana discusses the challenges and insights gained from her experiences, including the Right to Choose pathway for assessments and the importance of understanding neurodivergence. She emphasises the need for support and the impact of mental health on both parents and children, advocating for open conversations about these topics. Takeaways Ana has five children, four of whom are neurodivergent.She initially misinterpreted her son's anxiety as typical childhood behaviour.The importance of trusting one's gut instinct in parenting decisions.Ana's journey through the Right to Choose pathway for assessments.The long waiting times for ADHD and autism assessments can be frustrating.She emphasises the need for better communication from schools regarding children's needs.Ana reflects on the stigma surrounding ADHD and autism diagnoses.Understanding neurodivergence has helped Ana support her children better.She encourages parents to prioritise their own mental health alongside their children's.Ana advocates for open discussions about neurodivergence within families.

    33 min

  5. JAN 27

    Recovering from burnout

    In this episode of Unmasking Mum, Ana Bonasera shares her personal journey of overcoming burnout and reconnecting with her spirituality. She discusses the importance of gratitude, the concept of the 'bare minimum effect' and how lowering expectations has helped her navigate challenging times. Ana emphasises the significance of community support, self-care and enjoyable movement, while also highlighting the power of affirmations and visualisation techniques. She encourages listeners to reach out for help and reminds them that they are not alone in their struggles. Takeaways Ana shares her journey of overcoming burnout.Reconnecting with spirituality has been crucial for her.Gratitude plays a significant role in her recovery.The 'bare minimum effect' helps manage daily tasks.Lowering expectations has been a key strategy.Asking for help has relieved some of her burdens.Movement and enjoyable exercise are essential for her well-being.

    17 min

  6. JAN 20

    I'm not okay

    In this heartfelt episode of "Unmasking Mum," Ana Bonasera opens up about her struggles with burnout and the overwhelming challenges of motherhood. She candidly shares her feelings of exhaustion, the pressure to meet everyone's needs, and the emotional toll of balancing family responsibilities. Ana reflects on her personal experiences, including the impact of her father's passing and the difficulties of managing her children's needs. Through her vulnerability, she hopes to connect with listeners who may be experiencing similar feelings and encourages them to acknowledge their own needs and seek support. Takeaways Burnout can manifest as a lack of ability to bounce back.Acknowledging personal struggles can be a step towards healing.Balancing family responsibilities can be overwhelming.The loss of a loved one can have a lasting emotional impact.It's important to recognise and address mental health needs.Seeking support from others can be beneficial.Setting boundaries can help prevent burnout.Vulnerability can foster connection with others.Taking time for self-care is crucial.Sharing personal experiences can help others feel less alone.

    16 min

  7. JAN 13

    10 ADHD hacks that actually work!

    In this episode of Unmasking Mum, host Ana Bonasera shares her personal experiences and practical hacks for managing ADHD as a parent. She emphasises the importance of finding systems that work for neurodivergent brains and provides 10 actionable strategies that have made a significant difference in her daily life. From organising household items to managing schedules and expectations, Ana offers insights that resonate with many parents navigating similar challenges. Takeaways ADHD requires personalised systems that cater to individual needs.Small changes can lead to significant improvements in daily life.Establishing homes for items reduces clutter and confusion.Protein-rich breakfasts can enhance focus and motivation.Having duplicates of essential items simplifies daily routines.A structured washing system can alleviate laundry stress.Visual schedules help keep track of family activities and reduce anxiety.Using a digital calendar can prevent missed appointments.Asking what your future self would appreciate can motivate better habits.Lowering expectations can lead to more achievable goals.

    21 min

  8. JAN 6

    Back to School & Emotional Hangovers

    In this episode of Unmasking Mum, Ana Bonasera discusses the challenges faced by ADHD parents during the back to school transition, the emotional toll of the holiday season and the importance of setting boundaries and lowering expectations for the new year. She emphasises the need for emotional regulation and self-care, encouraging listeners to take it slow and celebrate small wins. Takeaways The back to school transition can be overwhelming for ADHD parents.Routine is essential for emotional regulation, despite a dislike for it.Emotional hangovers from the holidays can affect mental health.Parents often prioritise their children's needs over their own.Finding an emotional outlet is crucial for managing stress.Setting boundaries is important to avoid burnout.Lowering expectations can lead to more achievable goals.The bare minimum effect allows for small wins without pressure.Taking time for self-care is essential for well-being.Celebrating small achievements can boost motivation. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Unmasking Mum Podcast 05:11 Emotional Hangover from the Holidays 09:17 Setting Boundaries and Self-Care in January 13:50 Lowering Expectations for the New Year 17:34 Embracing the Bare Minimum Effect

    19 min

  9. 12/30/2025

    5 most common ADHD challenges in mums

    In this episode of Unmasking Mum, I share my own journey of realising I’m ADHD and gently walk through five of the most common traits we see in ADHD mothers: emotional dysregulation, executive functioning challenges, time blindness, sensory overload and forgetfulness. I explain how these traits show up in everyday mum life, from feeling overwhelmed and emotionally reactive, to struggling with time, routines and the mental load of parenting. I also connect these experiences back to the DSM-5 criteria, helping you understand that these challenges aren’t personal failings, but part of how an ADHD brain works. This episode is about awareness, self-compassion and recognising yourself without judgement, so you can begin to support yourself more kindly, both as a parent and as a person. Takeaways Emotional dysregulation can make feelings intense and fast-moving.Executive functioning challenges impact planning, organisation and follow-through.Time blindness can make everyday tasks feel harder to manage.Sensory overload is a real and exhausting part of ADHD mum life.Forgetfulness adds to the already heavy mental load of motherhood.Understanding ADHD traits through the DSM-5 can bring clarity and validation.ADHD mums often face unique pressures and expectations.Support systems and simple routines can help ease daily challenges.Self-acceptance is a powerful part of living well with ADHDTalking openly about emotions helps children feel understood too. Sound Bites “I realised I was ADHD around four years ago, and suddenly so much made sense.”“The mental load of motherhood is heavy, ADHD just adds another layer.”“These aren’t flaws; they’re traits of an ADHD brain.”“Understanding yourself changes how you parent.” Chapters 00:00 Welcome & My ADHD Realisation  08:34 Five Common ADHD Traits in Mothers  25:55 How These Traits Link to the DSM-5

    24 min

  10. 12/22/2025

    Weird is your Magic! With Guest Holly Matthews

    In this episode of Unmasking Mum, I’m joined by Holly Matthews for a deeply honest and compassionate conversation about ADHD, neurodivergence and the ongoing journey of unmasking who we really are. We talk about what it’s like to grow up not knowing why you feel different and how late understanding of ADHD can bring both clarity and grief. Together, we explore how grief can reshape you, how embracing your “weirdness” is actually a pathway to authenticity and why self-acceptance is a practice, not a destination. We also dive into the realities of motherhood and running a business with a neurodivergent brain, especially during overwhelming seasons like Christmas. This episode is a gentle reminder that you don’t need to do life perfectly to be doing it well. Lowering expectations, creating support around you and allowing yourself to be fully you can make all the difference. Takeaways Many of us grew up feeling different before ADHD was widely understood. Unmasking is part of the self-discovery journey — and it can be both freeing and emotional. Grief often opens the door to deep personal growth and change. Your “weirdness” is not something to fix — it’s part of your authenticity. Neurodivergent mums and business owners face unique pressures, especially around productivity. Lowering expectations can make Christmas (and life) feel more manageable. Joy can still exist in the chaos of motherhood. Self-acceptance is ongoing — and that’s okay. Supportive environments help neurodivergent people thrive. Having coping strategies matters, especially during overwhelming seasons. Chapters 00:00 — Welcome to Unmasking Mum05:35 — Understanding ADHD & Neurodivergence10:34 — Self-Discovery, Late Understanding & Grief20:08 — Unmasking & Embracing Authenticity30:05 — Business, Motherhood & the Neurodivergent Brain33:53 — Coping With Christmas Overwhelm Links Christmas guide and prep https://the-happy-me-project.kit.com/828c358f76 Christmas Bingo https://the-happy-me-project.kit.com/1b190362e4

    38 min
  11. How to get an ADHD diagnosis

    12/19/2025

    How to get an ADHD diagnosis

    In this episode, I discuss the three different pathways to getting a diagnosis and speak directly to anyone who has ever felt dismissed, unheard or made to doubt themselves when seeking support from healthcare professionals. I talk about the importance of trusting yourself, advocating for your needs, and remembering that you have every right to ask questions, seek answers and pursue a diagnosis. We explore the reality that the healthcare system doesn’t always get it right, especially for women and neurodivergent people and why it’s okay to push back, seek second opinions and choose providers who truly listen. This conversation is about reclaiming your voice, standing in your truth and knowing that your experiences are valid. Your health is your life and you deserve care that reflects that. Please note since I've recorded this there have been some areas who have closed the right to choose pathway and your best to check the ADHD UK website (linked below) to find out about your local area. Sound bites: You are allowed to seek a diagnosis if you feel something isn’t right. Being dismissed doesn’t mean you’re wrong, it means you may need different support.Self-advocacy is not being difficult; it’s being informed and empowered.You can change providers if you’re not being heard.Your struggles are real and worthy of acknowledgement.Your health decisions belong to you.This is your life, not theirs.You are not asking for too much.You know your body better than anyone else.Being heard is a right, not a privilege.Advocating for yourself can feel hard, but it matters.Links https://adhduk.co.uk/right-to-choose/ Screening tool: https://adhduk.co.uk/adult-adhd-screening-survey/

    18 min
  12. Why we're here

    12/18/2025

    Why we're here

    In this episode, I open up about the real-life struggle so many of us ADHD mums face, being full of creativity, passion and purpose… but not always having the executive functioning skills to actually finish the projects we’re excited about. I talk about my own journey of searching for kinder, more sustainable strategies to help me move from “big idea energy” to completion, without burning out or beating myself up along the way. Some days it clicks, some days it absolutely doesn’t and honestly, that’s just life with an ADHD brain. But together, we can learn to work with our brains, not against them and celebrate every messy, colourful step in between. ✨ Takeaways  ADHD mums are incredibly creative, passionate, purpose-driven people.Our executive functioning doesn’t always keep up with our ideas and that’s okay.Strategies, support and self kindness can help us actually finish the work we care about.Some projects flow; some don’t, that’s part of being human, not a failure.You’re not alone in the ups and downs of getting things done with an ADHD brain.🎙️ Sound Bites  “We’re bursting with creativity, it’s the finishing part that can feel like climbing Everest.”“It’s not a lack of passion. It’s a need for support, strategy, and kindness toward ourselves.”“Some days the strategies land, and some days they don’t and that’s okay.”“We can learn to work with our brains, not against them.”“Completion doesn’t have to be perfect it just has to be possible.”📚 Chapters 00:00: Welcome to Unmasking Mum00:28: Creativity, Executive Function, and the Art of Finishing ProjectsClosing: What’s Coming Next on the Podcast

    18 min
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Unmasking Mum - your go to podcast for the real, raw answers late-discovered ADHD mums are searching for.

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  • Creator
    Ana Bonasera
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    12
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Ana Bonasera
  • Show Website
    Unmasking Mum