Unprocessed

Lia Avellino
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We have access to more mental health information than at any other point in history, and yet anxiety & depression rates are growing. Mental health advice is tricking us into believing that we are self-improvement projects, which ironically is creating more disconnection as we hide our flaws to avoid judgment when we can't "work" our way out of our struggles. The truth is: we experience freedom by being honest about who we are, not changing who we are. I will be a therapist who risks something--revealing my least impressive sides to you, shifting the shame, and not fixing the problem.

  1. Aug 19

    Resolving Sibling Conflict With My Daughters As Special Guests!

    My daughter’s, ages 8 and 5, wanted to join this week’s episode to share about how having siblings is both “hard and fun.” We got into how conflict is a normal and necessary part of closeness, how they express anger without harming each other with it, the bubbles they create when they need space from each other and the unique gift they received that helped them connect to their own and each other’s humanity in the hard moments. This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional mental health treatment, diagnosis, or therapy. Listening to this podcast does not establish a therapist-client relationship. The views and opinions expressed are based on my lived personal and professional experience but are general in nature. Individual situations vary, and listeners are encouraged to seek appropriate professional support for their specific needs. By listening to this podcast, you acknowledge that you are responsible for your own mental health decisions and actions. I am not responsible for any outcomes resulting from the use or misuse of information discussed on this podcast. The content of this podcast should not be relied upon as personalized mental health advice, crisis support, or a treatment plan. If you are experiencing distress or a mental health emergency, please contact a licensed mental health professional, local emergency services, or a crisis hotline in your area.

  2. Aug 12

    Why Asking Why Takes Us Away, Not Closer To, The Answer

    In this episode I talk about how going up into our heads distracts from the knowing in our hearts and bodies, and how asking "why," has taken me away from what I know deep down in an effort to understand and justify the motives of others. The underlying intention is to try to "understand" to cope better, but in reality understanding can sometimes prevent feeling and allowance. I am learning that the "why" often emerges later in the process, not before.  This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional mental health treatment, diagnosis, or therapy. Listening to this podcast does not establish a therapist-client relationship. The views and opinions expressed are based on my lived personal and professional experience but are general in nature. Individual situations vary, and listeners are encouraged to seek appropriate professional support for their specific needs. By listening to this podcast, you acknowledge that you are responsible for your own mental health decisions and actions. I am not responsible for any outcomes resulting from the use or misuse of information discussed on this podcast. The content of this podcast should not be relied upon as personalized mental health advice, crisis support, or a treatment plan. If you are experiencing distress or a mental health emergency, please contact a licensed mental health professional, local emergency services, or a crisis hotline in your area.

  3. Aug 5

    We Listen To Those We Love The Least

    This week I dig into closeness communication bias--where we overestimate our skills as good listeners and assume closeness with what's familiar. I reveal the 3 ways people express what's true for them: affect, narrative, and body language, and what I learned about not assuming I know the people I love--I ask my husband how he feels about our marriage every few months--and how I like to be listened to (the whole of me, not just my words).

  4. Jul 22

    How Being a “Helpful” Partner Kills Desire In Your Relationship 

    I talk about a moment when my husband asked me for support and I said no. I said no to preserve my own desire for him, and to ensure he figured out his journey with his own tools, not my tools. In this episode, I put on my couples therapist hat and share personal experience about how not going into helper/parent mode keeps my marriage spicy and fun, and ultimately a relationship I want to be in. Helping sometimes leads others around us to atrophy and then we get mad about it, which hurts doesn't help the union. This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional mental health treatment, diagnosis, or therapy. Listening to this podcast does not establish a therapist-client relationship. The views and opinions expressed are based on my lived personal and professional experience but are general in nature. Individual situations vary, and listeners are encouraged to seek appropriate professional support for their specific needs. By listening to this podcast, you acknowledge that you are responsible for your own mental health decisions and actions. I am not responsible for any outcomes resulting from the use or misuse of information discussed on this podcast. The content of this podcast should not be relied upon as personalized mental health advice, crisis support, or a treatment plan. If you are experiencing distress or a mental health emergency, please contact a licensed mental health professional, local emergency services, or a crisis hotline in your area.

  5. Jul 15

    Is Healing Really Possible? A Dive Into My Genetics

    I recently did genetic testing and learned that some of what I thought were struggles that I thought were solely related to learned behaviors were written in my genetic code. Listen as I contemplate the line between working on ourselves to grow and accepting that there are some wounds that will never fully heal. The struggle is real, my fellow unprocessors!  This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional mental health treatment, diagnosis, or therapy. Listening to this podcast does not establish a therapist-client relationship. The views and opinions expressed are based on my lived personal and professional experience but are general in nature. Individual situations vary, and listeners are encouraged to seek appropriate professional support for their specific needs. By listening to this podcast, you acknowledge that you are responsible for your own mental health decisions and actions. I am not responsible for any outcomes resulting from the use or misuse of information discussed on this podcast. The content of this podcast should not be relied upon as personalized mental health advice, crisis support, or a treatment plan. If you are experiencing distress or a mental health emergency, please contact a licensed mental health professional, local emergency services, or a crisis hotline in your area.

  6. Jul 1

    Procrastination: Delaying Reality for Possibility

    We often think procrastination is about avoiding a task, when in reality it's about avoiding feelings associated with those tasks. In this episode, I explore how the more I care about something, the more something or someone is important to me, the bigger my urge to procrastinate is. Listen in to learn about why this is and what I am doing to address it. This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional mental health treatment, diagnosis, or therapy. Listening to this podcast does not establish a therapist-client relationship. The views and opinions expressed are based on my lived personal and professional experience but are general in nature. Individual situations vary, and listeners are encouraged to seek appropriate professional support for their specific needs. By listening to this podcast, you acknowledge that you are responsible for your own mental health decisions and actions. I am not responsible for any outcomes resulting from the use or misuse of information discussed on this podcast. The content of this podcast should not be relied upon as personalized mental health advice, crisis support, or a treatment plan. If you are experiencing distress or a mental health emergency, please contact a licensed mental health professional, local emergency services, or a crisis hotline in your area.

  7. Jun 24

    We Keep Ourselves From Evolving To Hold Onto People

    I reflect on a time when I used loyalty and dedication as a way to self-abandon. How I rebranded familiarity as authenticity to avoid leaving my “home” (the people and places most familiar) and how “homelessness” to find a home where everyone could be and no one had to leave themselves behind. In this episode I dig into why it’s hard to chose growth and why most of us ditch to return to what we know. This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional mental health treatment, diagnosis, or therapy. Listening to this podcast does not establish a therapist-client relationship. The views and opinions expressed are based on my lived personal and professional experience but are general in nature. Individual situations vary, and listeners are encouraged to seek appropriate professional support for their specific needs. By listening to this podcast, you acknowledge that you are responsible for your own mental health decisions and actions. I am not responsible for any outcomes resulting from the use or misuse of information discussed on this podcast. The content of this podcast should not be relied upon as personalized mental health advice, crisis support, or a treatment plan. If you are experiencing distress or a mental health emergency, please contact a licensed mental health professional, local emergency services, or a crisis hotline in your area.

  8. Jun 10

    Why we gossip and what it reveals/conceals

    This episode explores how gossip is actually the substitute for connection and why it feels both so good and so bad. I get into the ways that gossip historically allowed me to feel close to authority figures and also what it hid me from knowing. Don't miss this short, sweet and juicy endeavor into talking shit! This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional mental health treatment, diagnosis, or therapy. Listening to this podcast does not establish a therapist-client relationship. The views and opinions expressed are based on my lived personal and professional experience but are general in nature. Individual situations vary, and listeners are encouraged to seek appropriate professional support for their specific needs. By listening to this podcast, you acknowledge that you are responsible for your own mental health decisions and actions. I am not responsible for any outcomes resulting from the use or misuse of information discussed on this podcast. The content of this podcast should not be relied upon as personalized mental health advice, crisis support, or a treatment plan. If you are experiencing distress or a mental health emergency, please contact a licensed mental health professional, local emergency services, or a crisis hotline in your area.

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We have access to more mental health information than at any other point in history, and yet anxiety & depression rates are growing. Mental health advice is tricking us into believing that we are self-improvement projects, which ironically is creating more disconnection as we hide our flaws to avoid judgment when we can't "work" our way out of our struggles. The truth is: we experience freedom by being honest about who we are, not changing who we are. I will be a therapist who risks something--revealing my least impressive sides to you, shifting the shame, and not fixing the problem.

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  • Creator
    Lia Avellino
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    65
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Lia Avellino
  • Show Website
    Unprocessed

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