Sep 23

Working Mom Overwhelm: How to decide what actually gets Your time when everything feels important

You could list everything you're carrying in your sleep. Some nights you probably do. The camp form due Friday. The work project that got bigger without anyone asking if you wanted it bigger. The birthday you're tracking, the appointment only you remember, the thing you keep meaning to hand off and never do. It all feels equally important, which is exactly why none of it ever gets to go. So you keep carrying it. You tell yourself you'll sort it out when things calm down. They don't calm down. You just get better at carrying more. Here's what nobody hands you along with the job, the kids and the calendar. A way to decide. Episode 10 gave you language for what you're carrying. This one is about what comes after you can see it all laid out and still don't know what to do with it. Andi shares a question a client asked her that she didn't have a quick answer for, and the surprising place they started. From there, she introduces four ways to sort what you're carrying: Keep, Drop, Delegate and Temper—the last one being the place many of us have never learned to recognize. Before the episode ends, Andi walks you through a live sort of one thing you're carrying right now. Pick something small. You may know sooner than you think. What is on your list right now that you've never asked whether it belongs there? Explore The Edit in our website: www.momtoring.com/the-edit And join the waitlist for our next The Edit event. We will have an in person event in Hoboken and an online event during October. https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe3sAH1ndpn-5cGhKNKI1YMCEE9DzmpHkGTUGC4HAOMirccCg/viewform Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you don't miss what's coming next. New episodes every week. If something landed for you, share it with another working mom who needs to hear it. And if you're ready to go deeper, find me at www.momtoring.com or come say hi on Instagram at @andi.momtoring. I'd love to hear what cracked open for you. Questions, reflections, or just want to reach out? Write to me at hello@momtoring.com. Music by prettyjohn1 from Pixabay

Jul 24

Why Delegating Doesn't Fix the Working Mom Mental Load - You're Over-Responsible, Not Burned Out

You hand something off. A task, an errand, a whole afternoon of pickups. And five minutes later you're just as tired as you were before, like nothing moved. If you're a working mother who delegates and still ends every day carrying the exact same weight, this episode is about why that keeps happening, and it's not because your partner isn't capable, and it's not because you didn't ask clearly enough. It starts on an ordinary weeknight, packing up an entire household for a summer move, four birthday parties stacked into ten days, and a question that's supposed to be the nice one. What can I help you with. That question is where this episode begins, and where a much bigger pattern gets named, the difference between the part of a task anyone can see and the two invisible parts that came before it, the noticing and the planning, that never actually get handed to anyone. Andi shares the framework that finally gave her language for what she'd been carrying for years, borrowed from Eve Rodsky's Fair Play, why rest never resolves this kind of tired, and the real difference between taking responsibility and taking over responsibility. There's also a story about the one time she managed to hand the whole thing off, not just the task, and what it took to let it be done differently than she would have done it. This isn't an episode about doing less. It's about noticing what you're still holding that you never actually agreed to hold. If you've ever felt exactly as tired five minutes after asking for help as you did before you asked, this one is for you. A special thank you to Eve Rodsky, whose groundbreaking book Fair Play inspired part of this episode and sparked the beginning of a profound shift in my own life. I'm deeply grateful for the perspective, language, and courage it gave me to start creating change. Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you don't miss what's coming next. New episodes every week. If something landed for you, share it with another working mom who needs to hear it. And if you're ready to go deeper, find me at www.momtoring.com or come say hi on Instagram at @andi.momtoring. I'd love to hear what cracked open for you. Questions, reflections, or just want to reach out? Write to me at hello@momtoring.com. Music by prettyjohn1 from Pixabay

Jul 17

Why working moms feel guilty when their kid is not happy, even when they did nothing wrong

You measure whether you're doing this right by something you don't actually control. A mood. A reaction. Whether your kid is happy with you in this exact moment. And if that's the measure, you're going to fail constantly. Not because you're doing anything wrong. Because moods aren't evidence. They're weather. A few weeks ago, Andi told her daughter she was leaving for the evening, and got a look that landed right in the middle of her chest. What happened next is not the story you'd expect. She didn't cave, and she didn't carry it home with her either. This episode is about two feelings working moms have been treating as one, and what changes the moment you stop confusing them. Topics Covered: working mom guilt, mom guilt, working mom mental health, ambitious working mom, mental load, boundaries working mom, default parent, working mom identity, mom self compassion Meditation music by Natureseye from Pixabay Want to have clarity about your values? Go to www.momtoring.com and download the exercise. Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you don't miss what's coming next. New episodes every week. If something landed for you, share it with another working mom who needs to hear it. And if you're ready to go deeper, find me at www.momtoring.com or come say hi on Instagram at @andi.momtoring. I'd love to hear what cracked open for you. Questions, reflections, or just want to reach out? Write to me at hello@momtoring.com. Music by prettyjohn1 from Pixabay

Jun 16

Why More Achievement Never Makes You Feel “Good Enough”

You have the promotions. The glowing feedback. The degrees. The proof. So why does that quiet voice still whisper, "It's not enough"? In this deeply personal episode of Unscripted, Andi Salcedo explores the invisible filter that causes ambitious women to dismiss their accomplishments while holding tightly to every mistake, misstep, and moment of self-doubt. Through stories from her years at Procter & Gamble, an unexpected realization during a job search in San Francisco, and powerful insights about the relationship between achievement and self-worth, Andi reveals why more evidence of your success has never been enough to silence the inner critic. Because the problem was never the facts. It was the lens. This episode will help you recognize the "paragraph" you've been living inside, understand why confidence isn't the missing piece, and practice a simple visualization to zoom out and reconnect with the fuller truth of who you are. If you've ever felt like a fraud despite everything you've accomplished, this conversation is for you. Because one hard season, one imperfect moment, or one difficult chapter was never the whole book. In This Episode You'll Learn: Why high-achieving women struggle to internalize their successesHow self-doubt and ambition often come from the same placeThe hidden filter that makes praise disappear and mistakes stickWhy more accomplishments don't automatically create confidenceHow to "zoom out" and see the bigger picture of your lifeA guided visualization to reconnect with the truth of your storyTopics Covered: working mom podcast, imposter syndrome, high-achieving women, self-worth, self-doubt, ambitious mothers, working motherhood, confidence, identity, perfectionism, inner critic, achievement, mindset, emotional resilience, personal growth, motherhood and career, women in leadership, self-compassion, career women, success mindset, identity shifts, overachievers, burnout prevention, Momtoring, Andi Salcedo, Unscripted podcast Meditation music by Leigh Robinson from Pixabay Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you don't miss what's coming next. New episodes every week. If something landed for you, share it with another working mom who needs to hear it. And if you're ready to go deeper, find me at www.momtoring.com or come say hi on Instagram at @andi.momtoring. I'd love to hear what cracked open for you. Questions, reflections, or just want to reach out? Write to me at hello@momtoring.com. Music by prettyjohn1 from Pixabay

Jun 4

The Stories You Learned About Yourself and How They’re Still Deciding for You

You probably have a word for yourself. Type A. The one who can handle everything. The helpful one. The strong one. Maybe it arrived as a compliment and stayed as a cage. Maybe it landed so early you stopped noticing it was there at all. But it's running. Underneath the decisions you make before you've thought them through. The things you reach for. The things you quietly write off before anyone else gets the chance to weigh in. In high school, Andi's classmates used one word to describe her. Miedosa. Fearful. And here's the uncomfortable part. They weren't entirely wrong. In this episode, Andi explores what happens when something true becomes too true. When one real thing about you quietly becomes the whole definition, you live inside. And what that definition has been deciding for you, without your permission, without you noticing, ever since. What happens when one true thing about you becomes the only thing that counts? To check out the final exercise we share in this episode go to http://www.momtoring.com/why-working-moms-stay-stuck-episode-7 Topics Covered: working mom identity, limiting beliefs working mom, working mom self-worth, working mom mental health, inherited beliefs, reclaiming identity motherhood, ambitious working mom, overworking, high-functioning moms, over-achiever moms Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you don't miss what's coming next. New episodes every week. If something landed for you, share it with another working mom who needs to hear it. And if you're ready to go deeper, find me at www.momtoring.com or come say hi on Instagram at @andi.momtoring. I'd love to hear what cracked open for you. Questions, reflections, or just want to reach out? Write to me at hello@momtoring.com. Music by prettyjohn1 from Pixabay

May 27

When You Finally Get Time Alone and Don’t Know Who You Are Anymore

You finally get the quiet. The time. The space you've been saying you need. And then something unexpected happens. You don't quite know what to do with it. In this episode, Andi explores identity, working motherhood, and the quiet ways we can slowly lose connection with ourselves... not all at once, but in tiny, reasonable decisions that build over time. If you've ever thought: "I'll get back to myself when life calms down..." This conversation is for you. If something in this season landed for you, this is the episode to share. Topics covered: working mom identity crisis, losing yourself in motherhood, working mom self care, finding yourself after kids, mom mental health, reclaiming identity motherhood, working mom overwhelm, working mom burnout, working mom coach Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you don't miss what's coming next. New episodes every week. If something landed for you, share it with another working mom who needs to hear it. And if you're ready to go deeper, find me at www.momtoring.com or come say hi on Instagram at @andi.momtoring. I'd love to hear what cracked open for you. Questions, reflections, or just want to reach out? Write to me at hello@momtoring.com. Music by prettyjohn1 from Pixabay

May 19

Why Working Moms Can’t Stop Trying to Be Perfect, and what it's costing you

There was a morning in 2018 when I was driving on the highway listening to an audiobook I had been avoiding for weeks. I did not even make it to chapter one. Something about what I heard cracked open a pattern I had spent most of my life calling ambition, high standards, discipline. And once I saw it, I could not unsee it. In this episode, I talk about perfectionism in working mothers. Not the polished version people compliment you for. The quieter version. The one that keeps raising the bar, keeps you performing, keeps you exhausted even when everything looks fine from the outside. We talk about the things perfectionism takes that nobody really warns you about. The moment I realized my daughters were learning something from me I never intended to teach. And the shift that finally made “good enough” stop feeling like failure. If you have ever felt like you are carrying an invisible standard you can never fully reach, this one will probably feel familiar. Topics Covered: working mom perfectionism, perfectionism in motherhood, mom guilt and perfectionism, good enough mother, working mom burnout, high functioning burnout, over-functioning women, self worth and productivity, perfectionism burnout, working mother mental load, fear of failure perfectionism, perfectionism and anxiety, burnout in working mothers, working mom self compassion, identity after motherhood COME SAY HI AND LEARN MORE ABOUT US: Instagram: http://instagram.com/andi.momtoring Website: http://momtoring.com Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you don't miss what's coming next. New episodes every week. If something landed for you, share it with another working mom who needs to hear it. And if you're ready to go deeper, find me at www.momtoring.com or come say hi on Instagram at @andi.momtoring. I'd love to hear what cracked open for you. Questions, reflections, or just want to reach out? Write to me at hello@momtoring.com. Music by prettyjohn1 from Pixabay

May 12

Why Boundary-Setting Advice for Working Moms Doesn’t Work

You’ve read the boundary tips. You’ve tried the scripts. You know what you’re “supposed” to say. And then you’re in the moment… your boss asks, your child needs something, your calendar fills… and you say yes anyway. This episode is about why that keeps happening. Not because you lack discipline. Not because you need better language. But because most boundary advice assumes the decision is happening in your thinking mind. It happens somewhere faster than thought. I share one moment from my time at PayPal where I had the script and still said yes. Because “being ready” with the “how to” tips don’t automatically change response. We also explore what the nervous system is responding to in those moments, and why working moms often find themselves saying yes before they’ve even had time to decide. If you’ve ever felt like you know better but still can’t seem to act differently in the moment, this episode will make that pattern finally make sense. Topics Covered: working mom boundaries, why boundary tips don't work, nervous system boundaries, working mom guilt, saying no working mom, working mom mental health, boundary work, operating system beliefs, self-expression boundaries COME SAY HI AND LEARN MORE ABOUT US: Instagram: http://instagram.com/andi.momtoring Website: http://momtoring.com Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you don't miss what's coming next. New episodes every week. If something landed for you, share it with another working mom who needs to hear it. And if you're ready to go deeper, find me at www.momtoring.com or come say hi on Instagram at @andi.momtoring. I'd love to hear what cracked open for you. Questions, reflections, or just want to reach out? Write to me at hello@momtoring.com. Music by prettyjohn1 from Pixabay

May 5

Why High-Performing Women Can’t Stop People-Pleasing (And Why It Leads to Resentment)

A coach once said something to me that stopped me in my tracks. You don’t resent them. You resent yourself. In this episode, I’m talking about the kind of resentment so many working moms carry but don’t say out loud. The kind that comes with guilt, because you love your life, your kids, your partner… and still feel it. What I’ve come to see is that it’s not really about them. It’s about all the moments you said yes when you meant no. The times you put everyone else first without even checking in with yourself. The needs you learned to ignore so well that you stopped hearing them altogether. This goes deeper than boundaries or time management. It’s about where people-pleasing actually starts, the belief underneath it, and why burnout is often just the surface of something much older. We also talk about what it means to start reconnecting with yourself again. Not in a perfect, overnight way, but in small, honest moments. The pause before you answer. The question you start asking yourself again. If you’ve ever felt stretched thin, quietly resentful, or guilty for even feeling that way, this episode will probably feel very familiar. And it might help you see where it’s really coming from. Topics covered: working mom boundaries, why can't I say no, people pleasing working mom, mom resentment, default parent, working mom guilt, over-functioning working mom, working mom mental health COME SAY HI AND LEARN MORE ABOUT US: Instagram: http://instagram.com/andi.momtoring Website: http://momtoring.com Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you don't miss what's coming next. New episodes every week. If something landed for you, share it with another working mom who needs to hear it. And if you're ready to go deeper, find me at www.momtoring.com or come say hi on Instagram at @andi.momtoring. I'd love to hear what cracked open for you. Questions, reflections, or just want to reach out? Write to me at hello@momtoring.com. Music by prettyjohn1 from Pixabay

Apr 22

The burnout nobody sees because it looks like accomplishment

If you're still showing up, still delivering, still holding it all together, you might think you're fine. But burnout in working mothers rarely announces itself. It doesn't look like falling apart. It looks like keeping going, and it looks like you. It looks like accomplishment. It looks like being on. Which is exactly why so many of us miss it... until something small cracks it open and we don't recognize ourselves in what comes after. In this episode I share what burnout actually felt like from the inside... the real version, not the clinical checklist. Not the dramatic collapse. The quieter version: the loss of patience that frightens you, the disconnection that creeps in slowly, the fog, the weight of ordinary tasks. And the symptom I was most reluctant to name out loud because it felt so unlike who I am. I also share a research-backed insight about why we stay stuck in burnout even when nothing dramatically "wrong" is happening and what it reveals about the kind of recovery that actually works. It's not what most of us have been told. This episode won't give you a to-do list. It will give you something more useful: a signal you may have been dismissing, and a different question to carry into your week. If you've been telling yourself you're fine... this one is for you. FIND THE BODY SCAN HERE: http://momtoring.com/episode-2 COME SAY HI AND LEARN MORE ABOUT US: Instagram: http://instagram.com/andi.momtoring Website: http://momtoring.com Topics Covered: working mom burnout, high-functioning burnout, burnout symptoms in women, stress cycle, mental load, mom exhaustion, default parent burnout, working mom mental health, burnout recovery Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you don't miss what's coming next. New episodes every week. If something landed for you, share it with another working mom who needs to hear it. And if you're ready to go deeper, find me at www.momtoring.com or come say hi on Instagram at @andi.momtoring. I'd love to hear what cracked open for you. Questions, reflections, or just want to reach out? Write to me at hello@momtoring.com. Music by prettyjohn1 from Pixabay

Apr 20

Why Working Moms Can’t “Do It All” And Why You Need to Choose Your Chapter

You're not exhausted because there's a magical system you haven't cracked yet. You're exhausted because you've been performing every role at full intensity, with no permission to choose which one matters right now. Most working moms never stop to ask the question. There's always something next on the list, always someone who needs something, always a version of yourself you're supposed to be showing up as. The busyness becomes the identity. And somewhere underneath all of it, the real you gets very, very quiet. This episode started with a five-word comment I almost didn't hear. Someone said something to me, with total warmth and no agenda, and I deflected immediately. I was good at that. But it stayed with me. And when I finally let it land, it opened up a question I hadn't asked myself in years. I also share what Michelle Obama got right about this. Something she said about chapters and ambition and the myth that working moms can, or should, do it all at the same time. It's not a self-help principle. It's a permission slip. And once I heard it, I couldn't unhear it. You shouldn't either. This episode is for the working mom who is everywhere and somehow still nowhere. The one who is capable, dependable, and quietly running on empty. The one who has never once given herself permission to choose what this chapter of her life is actually about. You don't need to do more. You need to choose. Topics Covered: working mom, doing it all, mom guilt, working mom identity, Michelle Obama chapters, working mom presence, ambitious working mom, default parent, mental load, working mom coach COME SAY HI AND LEARN MORE ABOUT US: Instagram: http://instagram.com/andi.momtoring Website: http://momtoring.com Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you don't miss what's coming next. New episodes every week. If something landed for you, share it with another working mom who needs to hear it. And if you're ready to go deeper, find me at www.momtoring.com or come say hi on Instagram at @andi.momtoring. I'd love to hear what cracked open for you. Questions, reflections, or just want to reach out? Write to me at hello@momtoring.com. Music by prettyjohn1 from Pixabay

Apr 10

Introducing Unscripted, a Podcast for Working Mothers Who Are Everyone's Default

You built the career. You built the family. So why do you still feel like you're not enough? This is the trailer for Unscripted, a new podcast from working mom coach Andi Salcedo. It is for the ambitious working mother who remembers everything so nobody else has to, the one running a list only she can see even while her kid is standing right in front of her asking the same question twice. This show is not about doing less. It is not another list of things to fix. It is about the guilt that has nothing to do with love, the mental load that never fully shuts off, and actually enjoying the life you have worked so hard to build. If you’re ready to stop living on autopilot, question the expectations, and create a life that feels true to you, hit follow and start living Unscripted. New episodes every week. Hit follow so you do not miss what is coming. COME SAY HI AND LEARN MORE ABOUT US: Instagram: http://instagram.com/andi.momtoring Website: http://momtoring.com Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe so you don't miss what's coming next. New episodes every week. If something landed for you, share it with another working mom who needs to hear it. And if you're ready to go deeper, find me at www.momtoring.com or come say hi on Instagram at @andi.momtoring. I'd love to hear what cracked open for you. Questions, reflections, or just want to reach out? Write to me at hello@momtoring.com. Music by prettyjohn1 from Pixabay

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Working Mom Overwhelm: How to decide what actually gets Your time when everything feels important

Why Delegating Doesn't Fix the Working Mom Mental Load - You're Over-Responsible, Not Burned Out

Why working moms feel guilty when their kid is not happy, even when they did nothing wrong

Why More Achievement Never Makes You Feel “Good Enough”

The Stories You Learned About Yourself and How They’re Still Deciding for You

When You Finally Get Time Alone and Don’t Know Who You Are Anymore

Why Working Moms Can’t Stop Trying to Be Perfect, and what it's costing you

Why Boundary-Setting Advice for Working Moms Doesn’t Work

Why High-Performing Women Can’t Stop People-Pleasing (And Why It Leads to Resentment)

The burnout nobody sees because it looks like accomplishment

Why Working Moms Can’t “Do It All” And Why You Need to Choose Your Chapter

Introducing Unscripted, a Podcast for Working Mothers Who Are Everyone's Default

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Working Mom Overwhelm: How to decide what actually gets Your time when everything feels important

Why Delegating Doesn't Fix the Working Mom Mental Load - You're Over-Responsible, Not Burned Out

Why working moms feel guilty when their kid is not happy, even when they did nothing wrong

Why More Achievement Never Makes You Feel “Good Enough”

The Stories You Learned About Yourself and How They’re Still Deciding for You

When You Finally Get Time Alone and Don’t Know Who You Are Anymore

Why Working Moms Can’t Stop Trying to Be Perfect, and what it's costing you

Why Boundary-Setting Advice for Working Moms Doesn’t Work

Why High-Performing Women Can’t Stop People-Pleasing (And Why It Leads to Resentment)

The burnout nobody sees because it looks like accomplishment

Why Working Moms Can’t “Do It All” And Why You Need to Choose Your Chapter

Introducing Unscripted, a Podcast for Working Mothers Who Are Everyone's Default

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