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A space for women to feel like they are not alone in the hardships or struggles that they are facing. Some conversations may be lighthearted, some may touch upon taboo topics, but the overall mission for this podcast is to make every woman realize that she is not alone in whatever struggle she may be going through. We are all in this together, I promise.

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A space for women to feel like they are not alone in the hardships or struggles that they are facing. Some conversations may be lighthearted, some may touch upon taboo topics, but the overall mission for this podcast is to make every woman realize that she is not alone in whatever struggle she may be going through. We are all in this together, I promise.

    God’s Plan: When Everything Begins to Fall Apart with Huda Alvi

    God’s Plan: When Everything Begins to Fall Apart with Huda Alvi

    It’s understood that Allah’s plans are always greater than ours, but how strong is your trust in Him if after making dua, everything in your life begins to fall apart?

    Growing up you have probably heard the hadith which stated that “none shall enter the fire of Hell who has in his heart the weight of a mustard seed of Iman”, as well as, “none shall enter Paradise who has in his heart the weight of a mustard seed of pride.”

    And so you think to yourself, the size of a mustard seed is incredibly tiny - but what if this hadith wasn't just emphasizing its size, but also highlighting a specific characteristic?
    Did you know that one mustard seed can produce a tree-like plant that is a little over 6 feet tall. Imagine that - a tiny seed that has the ability to grow into something larger than life. What if this hadith used the seed as an example to show how having a tiny bit of faith can transform into complete reliance on Allah. 

    After all, a grain of sand could have been used as an example, but sand doesn’t have the ability to grow.  
    This seed reflects how faith can grow and become strong enough to overcome the most difficult of hardships. 
    In today’s episode, I sat down with Huda Alvi, founder of The Girls Trip, to discuss her journey of self discovery. 
    Recently, Huda returned to social media after a year or so long hiatus - with her return came an update, one filled with affliction, tears, hope and an emphasis on extending compassion to others and sharing our truth. 
    Within this conversation we touched upon how as women we sometimes fear what’s on the other side of friendships + relationships - which is a journey of solitude that no one has truly prepared us for. Huda shares intimate details of her marriage falling apart and her road to self growth and acceptance of Allah’s plans no matter how much we tend to resist them at first.
    I want to extend my deepest gratitude for Huda for being so vulnerable and sharing her story - her words and her journey have helped me immensely in terms of my own healing - and I hope the same for you, too. 

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    • 55 min
    Shame and Silence: The Dangers of Victim Blaming and Lack of Accountability w/ Eman Idil Bare

    Shame and Silence: The Dangers of Victim Blaming and Lack of Accountability w/ Eman Idil Bare

    In the words of bell hooks: We cannot dismantle a system as long as we engage in the collective denial about its impact on our lives.

    Protecting the vulnerable and the oppressed is a duty of ours in Islam, yet we have failed to stand firmly in the face of injustice, specifically abuse and the many forms that it comes in.
    In today's episode, special guest Eman Bare is choosing to courageously share her story by speaking up about the various accounts of abuse, harm and hyper sexualized rumors that have been spread about her.

    As a community I believe it's time that we go beyond the unfollow and block button when it comes to taking action against abusers. Why do we place the burden on the victim to share their story so publicly without the support of community leaders at times?
    Given the lack of accountability, we are creating loopholes for abusers to get away with what they have done which means that we are also inherently protecting these same abusers and instead dissecting and placing blame on the victim - sending a clear message that they are not safeguarded or to be believed by their community.
    In this conversation, we discuss how shame is used as a tool by the oppressor against victims and survivors of abuse, why it's important to publicly name abusers, the lack of accountability amongst our communities and the dangers of victim blaming.
    To anyone  who has ever endured such harm, may Allah protect you in the same manner that you are choosing to publicly share your story in order for others to not fall victim to these abusers. May you always be believed and supported in every capacity.
    Please pass on the following resources to your family and friends:

    1. Peaceful Families Project: focuses on preventing all types of abuse in Muslim families, specifically domestic violence.

    2.  HEART: provides Muslims with the resources, language and choice to nurture sexual health and confront sexual violence.

    3. FACE: stands for Facing Abuse in Community Environments, and they promote safer Muslim communities by holding religious and community leaders accountable for abuse.
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    @emanidil

    • 1 hr
    Spiritual Awakening: Who Am I and Why Am I Here?

    Spiritual Awakening: Who Am I and Why Am I Here?

    What exactly is a spiritual awakening and why is it so painful?

    Have you ever found yourself wanting to take a break and crawl into a hole all by yourself but not knowing the reason why? Could it be that almost everything feels forced lately? Forced interactions, forced relationships and even forced conversations?

    I tend to believe that our mental breakdowns are truly spiritual breakthroughs. Someone once told me that if you're not speaking it, you're storing it and that can get pretty heavy.
    In today's episode, I sit down with Hanan Abdel-Khalek, the founder of Young Nevertiti, and somehow even though we live thousands of miles apart, we are always on the same wavelength.

    In our discussion we both exhibited the same painful experiences, the same desire for solitude and the unfortunate feeling like we are being consumed by things that are distancing us away from our Creator. We came to the conclusion that we were each going through a spiritual awakening.

    Hanan discusses what triggered her to embark on this journey and how social media at times can be used as an escape route from real life and how it's a tool that allows us to peer into the lives of our family, friends and even strangers. We converse about the internal struggles we have faced and how one can never be truly ready for the lessons written for us, but these hardships are required in order for us to grow into a new version of ourselves.
    It may be a terrifying feeling for you to finally give yourself permission to be yourself, but in this conversation you'll see that you are not alone on this journey and as painful as spiritual awakenings can be, they are such a gift to experience in this world.
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    @hananithink

    Check out Young Nevertiti:
    www.youngnevertiti.com

    • 1 hr 12 min
    Career Talk: Resume Do's and Dont's, Salaries and Overcoming Rejection w/ Wardah Khalid

    Career Talk: Resume Do's and Dont's, Salaries and Overcoming Rejection w/ Wardah Khalid

    I'm not sure what's worse : a rejection letter from the company I had just applied for or no reply at all.

    Did you know that job search depression is actually a thing? I was reading an article that mentioned how looking for a new job but having zero luck can truly be a bit demoralizing.

    I wonder if I can highlight my ability to stay standing after receiving 'x' amount of rejection letters as one of my skill sets on my resume - kidding of course.
    But on a serious note, we fail to realize that our emotional and mental health can be greatly impacted because our career is also an indication of who we are, it's a part of our personal identity.
    Personally, I didn't want to just find a job that pays my bills. Recently, I had released an episode with Alex Fox to discuss how to better align our purpose in life with our passions. Our conversation gave me so much more clarity on what I was seeking and it was the motivation that I needed to continue pursuing my job search.
    So, in today's episode I sit down with Wardah Khalid, a political analyst, activist and career coach, just to name a few of her notable positions, to discuss the topic of career coaching. I realized that I needed all of the help that I can get and I wanted to lend these same resources to anyone else out there searching for a new career, too!
    In this conversation, Wardah discusses resume do's and dont's, why cover letters are so important, how to not close the door in our own face and how to better advocate for ourselves in the interview process.
    So while you guys are tuning in, I'll be fixing up my resume...
    Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:
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    @wardahkhalid_

    Check out Wardah's website:
    www.wardahkhalid.com

    • 1 hr 3 min
    Finding our Life's Purpose and Using Our Gifts to Serve Allah feat Alex Fox

    Finding our Life's Purpose and Using Our Gifts to Serve Allah feat Alex Fox

    Why is it that we stay put in positions that our minds and even our hearts want a way out of?

    It's no secret or miraculous discovery to know that we all have a purpose, but the most difficult part is finding out what our purpose is and how to better align it with our passions.
    Recently, I have found myself at a crossroads - one that many others have discovered along their own life's journey. The intersection of fulfilling our life's purpose and choosing the path that best fits with our intentions.
    This topic brings me back to the question of who am I? Who am I stripped of all of my labels? The label of being someone's sister, friend, daughter and etc?  I found myself dissecting this question and the reason why I hesitate in answering it for myself is simply out of fear.
    What I mean by this is that to understand who I am, I have to pave my own path. A path that no one else has ventured onto before.
    And so, in today's episode I sit down with Alex Fox, the founder of Origin of Mind, to discuss what it means to align our purpose in life with our passions. Alex is someone who I had the pleasure of crossing paths with on the Clubhouse app, where she has created two of the largest Muslim clubs, which gave us all a platform to foster discussions surrounding faith, relationships, women empowerment and so much more.
    Alex and I may not be experts on this topic, but we each come with our fair share of personal life experiences and hardship that we have overcome. A laundry list of obstacles that we have faced in our own career paths and so we believed it was necessary to have more dialogue surrounding the idea of setting our intentions, understanding the role that our hardships play in figuring out our purpose and so much more.
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    @alalafox

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    @originofmind

    • 52 min
    Muslim Representation in Media (or Lack Thereof) featuring Arij Mikati

    Muslim Representation in Media (or Lack Thereof) featuring Arij Mikati

    Raise your hand if you grew up believing that you wanted to be Jasmine from Aladdin only to realize that this movie was perpetuating orientalist stereotypes of the Middle East and Asia.
    Keep your hand raised if you are exhausted with the idea that being Muslim and being accepted by society are mutually exclusive.

    Don't you think it's time that we deserve more accurate portrayals of Muslims in media?
    If you've caught yourself holding your breath when you've seen a Muslim cross your television screens, you're not alone. You're silently hoping this Muslim character won't be portrayed as the villain, the terrorist or someone who is oppressed and needs to detach from their faith if they want to be accepted by others.
    Frankly, we are tired of these dangerous tropes and stereotypes that have been overdone for decades now.

    "Let Muslims tell you who we are, rather than telling you what we're not by constantly playing defense."
    These are the words of Arij Mikati, today's special guest and someone whom I have been vocal about when it comes to how much I admire her and how many doors she has opened for herself and the rest of us as she continues to challenge these roadblocks and stereotypes.
    Recently, Riz Ahmed, with the help from Pillars Fund, USC Annenberg and the Ford Foundation have unveiled the Blueprint for Muslim Inclusion in Media and the Arts.
    Over 90% of films from 2017-2019 were missing Muslim characters, that's 181 out of 200 films that had no Muslim representation at all.
    In today's episode, Arij explains how the erasure of Muslim filmmakers behind and in front of the camera means that countless of stories go untold. She dives into what representation actually means and why it's so important. We discuss how the lack of positive and accurate portrayals of Muslims is directly linked to horrific and Islamophobic attacks on our Muslim communities and so much more.
    Arij and her peers are excited to announce what can be done to change the narrative and it all starts with the Muslim Visibility Challenge and the Pillars Artist Fellowship, just to name a few of the initiatives that are currently unfolding.
    Thank you once again to Arij, Pillars Fund, Riz Ahmed and the many others who are working tirelessly on this initiative. I am so incredibly honored to have Arij join us today to discuss the building blocks of a brighter future for Muslim creatives.
    Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:
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    Follow Arij Mikati  on Instagram:
    @arijmikati

    Follow Pillars Fund on Instagram:
    @pillarsfund

    Check out the Variety article here:
    Blueprint for Muslim Inclusion

    • 52 min

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