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Are you seeking balance in your life? Do you feel like there's so much to do, but not enough time?

Today's guest, Charis Santillie is here to help. As a coach, podcaster, inspirational speaker, and all-around seasoned entrepreneur, she knows what it's like to be born with ambition – and how, when left unchecked, it can lead to a lack of balance in your day-to-day life. 

When she was only 19, Charis was in a traumatic hot air balloon crash with her family that left her Dad paralyzed with a broken neck and led her Mom to become an alcoholic. After that, Charis lived her life feeling unsafe, unconsciously scared of everything, and always bracing for impact. 

For much of her life, Charis chose to avoid feelings and managed her INTERNAL crisis by staying ridiculously BUSY—giving the illusion of control. In this episode, she shares how we use control to bypass our own feelings, and even though in some ways it's easier to stay shut down from our emotions, why we should wake up and start feeling them.

This is a beautiful conversation about how peeling back the layers of yourself to heal can be challenging, but why it's so worth it so we can more deeply connect with our personal sense of joy, love, and passion.
We all experience events in our lives that cause us pain or disruption, but Charis shares that - despite what life gives you – there is always a way to reserve personal space, balance your needs and wants, and live a fulfilled life on your terms.

Meet Charis Santillie
Charis is a Life Balance Coach, Certified Fearless Living® Coach, Certified Fearless Trainer, Positive Intelligence® Trainer, Inspirational Speaker, and Entrepreneur who teaches people how  to heal your life, take back control, and change your energy for the betterment of yourself and the world.

Connect with Charis:
Listen to the Charis Your Life PODCASTRead her Life's a Hoot BLOGVisit her Website: CharisYourLife.com Learn about Busy to Balanced™ Get her FREE Training: How to Live Life on Your Own Terms & TimelineSupport the show_______________

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Are you living your life based on others' expectations? If so, you're not alone. In fact, it's the top regret of all humans!

In her book,  "The Top Five Regrets of the Dying," which is on her experiences with terminally ill patients,  Bronnie Ware cites that the top regret faced by those at the end of their lives is: "I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me."
So, if you feel this way – it's normal. But that doesn't mean it's okay!

Humans crave love, and so belonging is really important to us. We want to be understood, cared for, connected, and protected. Unfortunately, this need can leave us bending to the will of what we *think* others want from us, while completely leaving our own wants, needs, and desires in the dust.

Most people spend their lives pursuing the expectations and opinions of others rather than following their own dreams and desires.
We make sacrifices to meet societal or familial expectations, such as pursuing a particular career path, staying in unfulfilling relationships, or neglecting personal aspirations. At the end of life (or in the middle!) this make us feel like we've missed opportunities and unfulfilled our potential.

The time to untether from others' expectations and to start living up to your own is not when you are on your death bed. It is right NOW. 

Start prioritizing your own happiness, authenticity, and personal fulfillment today. Make choices that align with your inner truth. Start identifying and releasing the tethers of codependency for the betterment of yourself and those around you.

Now, admittedly, this is a journey. Freeing yourself from the burden of other people's expectations takes time and practice. Be patient and compassionate with yourself as you work towards prioritizing your own well-being and living a more authentic life.

In case you're curious, here are the top five regrets outlined in Ware's book:
"I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.""I wish I hadn't worked so hard.""I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.""I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.""I wish I had let myself be happier."Support the show_______________

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"Where do you see the magic in the world?" I ask this question to every podcast guest, but I've never answered it myself. In this episode, I share my POV on where the magic truly lies, and I'll give a total spoiler alert: It's in YOU.
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Is it hard for you to make a decision?

Do you get caught up in which way to go, hemming and hawing until the last second — and then sometimes make a snap judgment you later regret? Do you fuss and worry and feel guilty during and after a decision is made?

Believe me, I’ve done all of the above, but it doesn’t have to be this way!

There are two culprits who are responsible for this scenario, and you’re probably allowing both of them to live rent-free inside your head. They are The Perfectionist and The Kindergartner, and when left unchecked, these two troublemakers can be a real nuisance.

In this episode, I share how you can work with the Kindergartner and Perfectionist to make decisions that are aligned to your highest and best — all while following a simple structure that will speed up the process so you can make more informed and aligned decisions, faster than ever before.

The process:
1. Decide
2. Take Action
3. Reflect (get self feedback)
4. Repeat
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Are you hitting road blocks on your self development journey? Maybe you make some progress, but then it seems like you hit an invisible brick wall?

Misty Springer is on the podcast today to help give some understanding as to why this is happening, and what you can do about it.

As a life coach who specializes in transformational embodiment work, Misty helps people work with their mind, their heart, and their bodies to create real and lasting change. After all, when you access your mind, you're only accessing 20% of your transformational power, while 80% of it happens through your body and our heart.

Misty is a dear friend I've met along my own breathwork, coaching, and embodiment journey, and she has deeply supported me in following my own breadcrumbs of YES. I hope you enjoy this episode, because I know she can do the same for you, too!

Listen to this episode to hear:
Why aligning your heart, mind, and body is the biggest shift you can make, no matter your current goal or challengeWhy tapping into your feminine gifts is one of the most powerful things you can doHow getting out of your head and into your body can help you move past the invisible brick walls you keep hitting on your journey 
MEET MISTY SPRINGER
Misty is part Life Coach and part transformation artist who helps her clients release limiting beliefs, own their purpose, and activate their potential to show up as powerful creators in their life and business. Her program empowers women to release limiting beliefs and harness the power of their mind, body, and heart to show up confident and at peace in their purpose, body, and relationships.
Connect with Misty 
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8-week Be Aligned Deep Dive (opens in September 2023)Get a free consultationSupport the show_______________

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Do you ever find yourself crippled with doubt? Unable to make a decision or move forward because you can't muster the courage?

If this is true for you, please have some compassion for yourself.

Doubt is a massive tether. It's a strong protective mechanism, intended to keep you from things that could hurt you. The problem is, doubt is often not as necessary as it thinks it is.

So, how do you conquer doubt?

When faced with doubt while trying to move forward or manifest something into their lives, people will often default to "hoping it will happen."

This does not work.

Hope does have enough gusto to yank the tether of doubt. It's like trying to lift a basket with a single birthday balloon. So, what  WILL yank the tether of doubt up and out of the ground? BELIEF.

The shift that  happens in the human body when we switch from the disempowered feeling of hope to full-bodied belief is one of the most powerful things on Earth. Belief is like a giant hot air balloon that will lift you up into the sky, soaring to uncharted and amazing places.

So, next time you're beginning to doubt that there's something you can do, have, or manifest - remember that hope is not the answer.

When it comes to conquering doubt, belief is the way.


Try the Feeling Belief exercise from this episode:
Think of something you wantImagine what it will feel like to have that thingNotice the feelings you feel in your body when you feel itAllow yourself to really feel those feelingsRepeat regularly!_______________

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