Her Mother Tongue

Felicia Sol
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I come from women who survived by shrinking. I tried that too—made my life neat, made my voice polite, made my longing a private hobby. It didn’t hold. I was raised by an alcoholic Lakota runaway and discipled by a cult that told me holiness was obedience. My body knew better. It kept humming: there is a wilder, kinder way. These days I practice a daily liturgy of listening—intuitive, erotic, embarrassingly tender. I mother four bright beings and the girl inside me who wanted to be free. I teach self-worth as sacrament, boundaries as mercy, and desire as a compass you can trust. My God is love. My work is remembering. My offering is a rebel’s theology of transformation—usable, embodied, just dangerous enough to set you honest. hermothertongue.substack.com

  1. Why we don’t want sex

    11月6日

    Why we don’t want sex

    Most relationships aren’t starved for sex—they’re starved for attunement. In this kickoff, we unpack why “I don’t want sex” often means “I don’t feel safely, slowly, specifically known.” The episode opens with a real call from a friend questioning divorce, then moves through safety rituals, curiosity as foreplay, and “mother-grade noticing” you can practice tonight. “I’m not into sex” often means: I don’t feel safe, seen, or specifically known. We address why we need to connect first and why it’s not asking for a lot. Want to know me! Don’t ask me to open my body before you open my mind. What you’ll learn Why “I don’t want sex” often means “I don’t feel safely, slowly, specifically known.” Performance vs presence: date-night checkboxes vs reading the body. Consent as architecture (negotiate → check-ins → aftercare). “Mother spidey senses” for everyone: notice need before words. Self-knowledge first: the Gesture Glossary + a 60-sec self-scan. Try one of these tonightOne slow kiss (no goal) • One real question you don’t know the answer to • One sensory upgrade (light/music/scent) • Ask: “What helped your body breathe?” Pull quotes “We’re not asking for more performance. We’re asking for attunement.” “Safety didn’t kill the thrill—it made the risk taste like freedom.” “Curiosity is foreplay.” “Know your tells to read theirs.” Get full access to Her Mother Tongue at hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

    33 分钟

  2. 11月4日

    When you feel like you're dying

    Felicia traces the quiet deaths we live through—leaving a home, shedding an identity, choosing motherhood and self at once. From fallen leaves to umbilical cords, she explores how change asks us to release control, face pain, and tell the truth about who we are becoming. Key Themes: Micro-deaths: identity, place, and roles Change as nature’s law (trees, decomposition, renewal) The umbilical cord as a metaphor for attachment and release Pain as a necessary passage—not a bypassable step Christ as exemplar vs. outsourced savior Integrity as daily practice: tiny honest moves Listener Takeaways: Notice where you’re clinging; name one cord you can loosen today Choose one small act of integrity and do it before the day ends Reframe pain as the doorway to alignment, not a detour Get full access to Her Mother Tongue at hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

    4 分钟

  3. 11月4日

    Mother for hire

    Felicia explores the everyday altar of motherhood—where care becomes love when it’s shared, not hoarded. Through a Dark Goddess lens (Dancing in the Flames), she reframes “self-sacrifice” as a broken cauldron and argues for boundaries, shared labor, and the courage to receive as prerequisites for giving. Pop-culture moments (a “Gatsby gala,” The Hunger Games, and “They were careless people”) help teach our kids what not to emulate—and what to build instead. What you’ll hear: Children as initiations, not nuisances The altar vs. the martyr: why love requires reciprocity Grief, regret, and the tenderness of shared care The Dark Goddess as a guide to wholeness (laundry-room altars, Baba Yaga questions) Why boundaries, rest, and pleasure keep the “cauldron” from cracking Teaching discernment in a spectacle-driven culture References & resources: Marion Woodman & Elinor Dickson, Dancing in the Flames: The Dark Goddess in the Transformation of Consciousness F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby (“They were careless people…”) Suzanne Collins, The Hunger Games (the Capitol as spectacle) Takeaways: Caring is love’s teacher—but only when it’s shared. You can’t pour from an empty body; you also can’t pour if you never receive. Ordinary rooms can be altars; ordinary tasks can be rituals. Our magic isn’t gone—it’s waiting for a stronger pot. If this moved you, share it with one friend who’s carrying too much—and subscribe on Substack for essays, early drops, and members-only conversations. Get full access to Her Mother Tongue at hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

    4 分钟
  4. Why I Left

    11月1日

    Why I Left

    Felicia reflects on the question, “Why did you get divorced?” and traces an answer through embodied pleasure, the deadness she refused, and the ways women’s sexuality is outsourced and commodified. An intimate meditation on erotic aliveness, consent, and coming home to the Divinity inside our cells. Key Takeaways Self-pleasure can be a practice of presence, not performance. Women’s sexuality is often commodified and policed; liberation must be self-owned, not traded. Erotic aliveness counters numbness and “deadness,” reconnecting imagination, emotion, and sensation. Safety is the precondition for opening; the body tells the truth first. Get full access to Her Mother Tongue at hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

    5 分钟
  5. Devastating Unknowing

    10月31日

    Devastating Unknowing

    Halloween, divorce, and the everyday test of wills. In this tender solo, Felicia invites us into the messy middle—the school parade you weren’t ready for, the “you’re so strong” comments that land sideways, and the private moments where the storm threatens to rip you to pieces. This is an episode about soul-holding: tiny acts that keep us human when the to-do list stretches to infinity. Not a bypass. Not grit theatre. Practice. We talk about: letting pain move so it doesn’t poison you; why one small action unlocks big ones; how to “do what I can and let go of what I can’t”; and the quiet grace of being held—by a brother’s “I got you, sis,” by a hug, by your own steady breath. If you’re walking through something hard today, come sit with this one. Get full access to Her Mother Tongue at hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

    5 分钟

  6. 10月30日

    How I Dropped Purity Culture

    Felicia traces a lineage of women who never rested grandmother, mother, herself—and the moment she burned down a “perfect” life to make space for truth. This is a tender, feral meditation on rest, eros, and the inner girl who only appears when she’s loved. A rebel’s theology of transformation, usable, embodied, a little dangerous. Episode Highlights The women who never sat down: inherited hustle, tender pride, and the cost of being “good.” The pedestal and the cage: how “perfect wife/mother” scripts sanctify our exhaustion. On virgin myths and hidden bodies: why purity culture tries to sterilize the erotic. The fire moment: choosing truth over optics and watching the old house burn. Meeting the inner fairy: rescuing the malnourished self from the cave. Rest as resistance: moving from self-betrayal to self-belonging. Boundaries as mercy; desire as compass; devotion as daily, embodied practice. Mary Magdalene’s subversive gospel: the treasure is within; rules without love are cages. Learning to be seen without apologizing—and the holy art of posting, deleting, and trying again. What it means to mother four souls while re-mothering yourself. Who this episode is for Women who are tired of being the exhibit of “having it all,” mothers who feel guilty for wanting more, ex-good girls, and anyone ready to trade performance for presence. Listener Takeaways A simple reframe: “I don’t need to be better; I need to belong to myself.” A mini-practice for rest you’ll actually do (bath, sun, nap, movement, kiss, post, delete, try again). One permission slip: Your desire isn’t the problem, it’s the map. Get full access to Her Mother Tongue at hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

    6 分钟
  7. Not an Up-There God

    10月29日

    Not an Up-There God

    Today’s devotional wrestles with where—or if—God lives, and why the body was my first church. I talk about hiding from “knowing” with busy perfection, getting brought to my knees, and the strange alchemy where the pain of alignment expands our capacity for joy. If “up-there God” never worked for you, this one’s for you. Timestamps Coffee + confession: “I don’t believe in an up-there God.” The gendered God problem; why a half-God can’t hold a whole life The body as the beginning: tight, trapped, spinning wheels How I hid from knowing (babies, birthdays, busy) Letting myself out: color floods back, but so does shadow Pain as teacher: brought to my knees until I listened The equation: capacity to hold pain = capacity to receive joy If prayer never fit, try presence: “God as the love I house” Get full access to Her Mother Tongue at hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

    4 分钟
  8. A Mother's Crashout

    10月28日

    A Mother's Crashout

    This episode traces how want eclipses love, why our nervous systems cling to the status quo, and what it looks like to re-center care—personally, politically, and on the block where we actually live. In this episode The “want machine” vs. the memory of love Need as interruption—and why that’s the point Motherwork as a political ethic (remembering, soothing, staying) Homeostasis/allostasis 101: why change feels impossible From dominance to care: reframing “strength” Micro-rituals for turning your sight inward (bath, breath, boundaries) Neighborhood resilience: co-ops, block pantries, bees & barter Five takeaways Want is loud; need is quiet. Train your attention toward the quiet. Biology isn’t destiny. Stability bias (homeostasis) explains the resistance—and invites patient, repeated, embodied reps. Motherwork is governance. Remembering and soothing are political acts. Care scales locally first. Start with neighbors; build small systems that keep people sane and fed. Strength ≠ dominance. Try courage with compassion. Get full access to Her Mother Tongue at hermothertongue.substack.com/subscribe

    7 分钟
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I come from women who survived by shrinking. I tried that too—made my life neat, made my voice polite, made my longing a private hobby. It didn’t hold. I was raised by an alcoholic Lakota runaway and discipled by a cult that told me holiness was obedience. My body knew better. It kept humming: there is a wilder, kinder way. These days I practice a daily liturgy of listening—intuitive, erotic, embarrassingly tender. I mother four bright beings and the girl inside me who wanted to be free. I teach self-worth as sacrament, boundaries as mercy, and desire as a compass you can trust. My God is love. My work is remembering. My offering is a rebel’s theology of transformation—usable, embodied, just dangerous enough to set you honest. hermothertongue.substack.com

信息

  • 创作者
    Felicia Sol
  • 活跃年份
    2019年 - 2025年
  • 单集
    267
  • 分级
    儿童不宜
  • 版权
    © Felicia Sol
  • 节目网站
    Her Mother Tongue

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