Victorious Coach

Victoria VIKI Cumberbatch
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If you’re a late-diagnosed ADHD woman who’s tried all the productivity hacks and still feel like you’re failing at life, here’s your lighthouse. You’re done with advice made for men. Done with coaches who don’t understand why their strategies send you into shame spirals. Done with optimizing and hustling your way to burnout. This isn’t just another ADHD podcast. It starts as a 6-month self-coaching journey from burnout to embodied autonomy. I’m Viki, a PCC life coach for the neurodiverse with trauma sensitive somatic and breathwork training. I’ve been where you are with the rumination, the

  1. 3D AGO

    Month 3:1 | Your Identity Was Assigned. Here's How to Audit It.

    | Want to start this course at its origin? https://youtu.be/hFz0gdpdA9A |Most of us don't realize we've been living inside a story someone else wrote for us. Not because we're naive, but because we were handed that story early, and nobody told us we could edit it.This week on Victorious Coaching, we get into identity, specifically the version of identity that gets handed to us before we're old enough to question it. I talk on growing up biracial in Jersey, not fitting neatly into any category, getting an ADHD diagnosis and feeling the pull to add it to my personal profile like a badge, and a conversation with my Balkan husband that cracked something open about how America flattens people into categories they never chose.This is Month 3, Week 1 of our six-month self-coaching journey. We're in the Excavation phase now. That means we're going underneath the patterns — specifically the beliefs you didn't know you were carrying. Identity is where we start because most of those beliefs have a name attached to them.This is a story episode. Show up with something to write with.| Chapters |0:00 — Welcome & What Month 3 Is About0:46 — Entering the Excavation Phase1:10 — Why We Start With Identity1:40 — Growing Up Biracial in North Jersey2:55 — Rotating Through Groups, Letting Labels Stick3:41 — Vietnam, an Eco-Farm & My Biggest Failure5:16 — The ADHD Diagnosis & the Pull to Claim It6:25 — Why I Don't Say "My ADHD"7:26 — Dee's Story & How America Flattens People8:34 — Identity Is Structural — and You Were Handed It9:01 — The Coaching Layer: The Rules You've Been Running On10:28 — Your Reflection Prompts for This Week11:29 — What's Coming Next Week| Shownotes |• Blog post: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/accepting-my-identity ___________________________📌 Want the Rest Menu? Grab it for free right here: https://vc.openinapp.link/rest 📌  More visual? Check the masterclass here: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/awadhddorder2 📌 Local to Denver? Check out an event: https://victoriouscoach.eventbrite.com  📌  Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg 💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

    12 min

  2. APR 28

    2:4 | Self trust still eluding you?

    | Want to start this course at its origin? https://youtu.be/hFz0gdpdA9A |You've spent this whole month learning what you want, understanding why you stopped trusting yourself, and practicing the somatic signals your body was already sending. This week we tie it all together with the thing that actually builds trust over time: keeping small promises to yourself.Not big dramatic gestures. Not vision boards. Small bets and kept commitments, tracked honestly, measured on progress rather than perfection. In this integration episode, we walk through the micro-commitment practice, why binary thinking is quietly destroying your follow-through, and what it actually looks like to build the self-trust muscle through repetition rather than revelation. This is how you eat an elephant. One unglamorous bite at a time.| Chapters |0:46 Month 2 Recap: What We've Built So Far2:01 The Destination Trap: Why Waiting for Self-Trust Keeps You Stuck2:49 The ADHD Brain: Dopamine, Time Blindness and Why Follow-Through Is Hard5:19 What Micro-Commitments Actually Are6:53 Working in Sprints and Dropping the Binary Thinking8:20 The Three-Part Practice: Size It, Track It, Review It9:45 Trust Is a Muscle, Not a Moment10:33 Your One Small Promise for Today10:52 What's Coming in Month 3| Shownotes |• Truth v Story Process: victoriouscoach.com/truthvstory • Cookie Jar: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/cookiejar ___________________________📌 Want the Rest Menu? Grab it for free right here: https://vc.openinapp.link/rest 📌  More visual? Check the masterclass here https://www.victoriouscoach.com/awadhddorder2  📌  Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg 💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

    11 min

  3. APR 20

    Month 2:3 | Your Body's Been Talking – Have You Been Listening?

    | Want to start this course at its origin? https://youtu.be/hFz0gdpdA9A |Your body has been talking to you for a long time. The question is whether you've been able to hear it.This week we're getting into the practice side of self-trust: somatic signals, what they actually are, and why late-diagnosed ADHD women often have a harder time accessing them than most. Not because something is wrong with you, but because you spent years learning to override the signal. The body adapted. It started whispering instead of talking.This week's practice is low-stakes and doable. Coffee or tea level, not quit your job level. That's intentional.This is month two, week three of the free six-month self-coaching journey on the Victorious Coaching podcast. If you're new here, start at the beginning and work through sequentially. Each episode builds on the last.Subscribe so you don't miss week four: integration.| Chapters |0:52 – Skepticism2:04 – Signals2:24 – Myths3:29 – Dictionary3:34 – Calibration4:33 – Confusion5:31 – Discernment5:58 – Protection6:19 – Stakes7:07 – Personal7:50 – Practice8:33 – Reps| Shownotes |• Process from previous week, Truth v Story: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/truthvstory ___________________________📌 Want the Rest Menu? Grab it for free right here: https://vc.openinapp.link/rest 📌  More visual? Check the masterclass here https://tinyurl.com/awadhdmc2📌  Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg 💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

    9 min

  4. APR 13

    Month 2:2 | Rebuilding Self Trust

    | Want to start this course at its origin? https://youtu.be/hFz0gdpdA9A |Self-trust and confidence are not the same thing, and for a long time, I was a case study in having plenty of one and almost none of the other. I could walk into rooms I'd hustled my way into, totally certain I could handle the external stuff, while completely ignoring what was happening inside. Confident? Sure. Trusting myself? Not even close.In this episode, I'm breaking down why self-trust erodes the way it does when you grow up with undiagnosed ADHD, why affirmations alone will not fix it, and what actually builds it back: small, concrete, unglamorous evidence.I walk you through the Lens Shift Process, a practical five-step tool I use with clients and in my own life for separating the story your protective brain tells from the neutral truth of what actually happened. If your inner critic is loud, if you second-guess your own read on situations, if you've historically outsourced your judgment to other people just to feel safe, this one is for you.This is Month 2 of the ADHD series. If you haven't listened to Month 1 on nervous system regulation, start there first.Topics covered: ADHD and self-trust, late diagnosis and internalized self-doubt, interoception and outsourced judgment, the difference between confidence and self-trust, the Lens Shift Process, somatic awareness during reflection work, rebuilding self-trust with evidence.| Chapters || Shownotes |• The visual framework: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/truthvstory ___________________________📌 Want the Rest Menu? Grab it for free right here: https://vc.openinapp.link/rest 📌  More visual? Check the masterclass here https://tinyurl.com/awadhdmc2📌  Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg 💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

    10 min

  5. APR 7

    Month 2:1 | Why ADHD Women Don't Know What They Want

    | Want to start this course at its origin? https://youtu.be/hFz0gdpdA9A |If you've ever blanked on what you want for dinner and then felt a flicker of disappointment when someone else chose, this episode is for you. :) This month we're going deep on self-trust: what it means, why it's so hard, and why late-diagnosed ADHD women in particular struggle to believe their own knowing.I”m breaking down some of the neuroscience behind why "I don't know what I want" is not a personality flaw. It's actually connected to interoception, the brain's ability to read internal signals, and for ADHD brains that signal is often genuinely quiet. Layer that on top of a lifetime of being corrected, dismissed, and second-guessed, and it makes complete sense that you stopped trusting yourself.This is Month 2 of the Self-Coaching Series for Late-Diagnosed ADHD Women. Over the next few weeks we'll be doing shadow work, unpacking where doubt got installed, and rebuilding self-trust from the inside out.| Chapters |1:53 - The Interoception Piece Nobody Talks About2:50 - How a Lifetime of Being Corrected Rewires Your Judgment4:14 - My Own Story: Nearly 80 Countries and Still Not Asking Myself What I Wanted6:32 - What Self-Abandonment Actually Looks Like From the Inside7:20 - The Teacher I Did Not Ask For (aka My Husband)8:13 - What Gets Triggered in Us and Why8:51 - What We're Building This Month: Returning to Self-Trust9:37 - We Are Not Fixing. We Are Returning.9:42 - Closing + Rest Menu CTA___________________________📌 Want the Rest Menu? Grab it for free right here: https://vc.openinapp.link/rest 📌  More visual? Check the masterclass here https://tinyurl.com/awadhdmc2📌  Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg 💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

    10 min

  6. MAR 23

    Month 1:4 | 10 Tools to Move From Tension to Intention

    | Want to start this course at its origin? https://youtu.be/hFz0gdpdA9A |Already spiraling? Already checked out? This episode walks you through 10 real, body-based regulation tools you can use right now. We do them together on camera. No toxic positivity, no deep breathing lectures, just practical tools for late-diagnosed ADHD women who are done white-knuckling their way through the day. Part of the Victorious Coaching 6-month self-coaching series.| Chapters |0:00:00 Introduction 0:02:40 Context: what these tools actually are (and aren't) 0:04:26 Tool 1: Bilateral Stimulation 0:06:54 Tool 2: 4-7-8 Breathing 0:09:02 Tool 3: Body Scan with Tapping 0:11:46 Tool 4: Ocular Pointing / Peripheral Vision 0:14:33 Tool 5: Palms Over Eyes 0:17:46 Tool 6: Shaking 0:20:14 Tool 7: Humming, Singing & Chanting 0:22:40 Tool 8: Mandible Release 0:24:22 Tool 9: Verbal Processing 0:26:30 Tool 10: Box Breathing 0:28:02 How to build YOUR toolkit (not mine) 0:30:09 The Res Kit + people worth following 0:31:46 The real point of this month 0:32:43 Next week: distrust in the self| Shownotes |• Dr Scherina: https://www.instagram.com/drscherina/ • The WorkoutWitch: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjq8zR8uB_FUaOc4oZRgmfw• Santi of Somatic Energy Alignment: https://www.somaticenergyalignment.com/somatic-release ___________________________📌 Want the RezKit? Grab it for $27 right here: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/rezkitworkbookproduct 📌  More visual? Check the masterclass here https://tinyurl.com/awadhdmc2📌  Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg 💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

    33 min

  7. MAR 16

    Month 1:3 | Your Window of Tolerance: Why You Keep Hitting Your Limit (And How to Expand It)

    | Want to start this course at its origin? https://youtu.be/hFz0gdpdA9A |If you're a late-diagnosed ADHD woman who hits her limit faster than everyone else, shuts down, explodes, or swings between both, this episode explains why. Today we're breaking down the window of tolerance, what it actually is without the clinical jargon, why ADHD shrinks it over time, and what expanding it actually requires. This is the framework that makes everything else possible.☝🏽 Please note: I am not a physician. Everything shared here is based on personal experience, independent research, and clinical guidance. Always consult your own healthcare provider.| Chapters | • 0:00 — The Regular Tuesday That Tips You Over• 1:26 — Introducing the Window of Tolerance• 1:58 — Who Viki Is + Episode Navigation• 2:26 — What You'll Walk Away With• 2:59 — Personal Story: The Tone of Voice Incident• 4:48 — The Science: Polyvagal Theory Origins• 5:30 — The Accordion Metaphor• 7:09 — Hyper vs. Hypoarousal: The Two Directions• 8:57 — Why Neurodivergent Brains Specifically• 14:14 — What Regulation Actually Is (And Isn't)• 16:44 — Neuroplasticity: The Accordion Can Change• 18:34 — Consistency Over Intensity• 20:26 — Go Slow to Go Far• 21:11 — You Can't Think Your Way to Regulation• 22:33 — Next Week + Recap• 24:55 — RezKit + Outro| Shownotes | • Blog: • Book: The Developing Mind by Dr. Dan Siegel• Book: Anchored by Deb Dana • YouTube: Dr. Dan Siegel's Hand Model of the Brain• Podcast: Trauma Chat with Laura Reagan LCSW — Episodes 10 and 11 specifically cover the window of tolerance and polyvagal ladder back to back___________________________📌  Get your RezKit here: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/rezkitworkbookproduct📌 Want the Rest Menu? Grab it for free right here: https://vc.openinapp.link/rest 📌  More visual? Check the masterclass here https://tinyurl.com/awadhdmc2📌  Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg 💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

    25 min

  8. MAR 9

    Month 1:2 | My Body Was Screaming For Decades Before My ADHD Diagnosis

    If you're a late-diagnosed ADHD woman who's been managing body stuff for years and wondering why nothing fully shifts, this episode may connect some significant dots.Getting my ADHD diagnosis didn't just explain my brain. It opened a door to discovering PCOS, pre-diabetes, fibroids, gut dysbiosis, food sensitivities, and decades of symptoms I had completely normalized. And more importantly, it revealed how directly all of that was amplifying my ADHD symptoms in ways nobody had ever told me about.In this episode I share the full chronological story including how estrogen, dopamine, gut health and neurodivergence are all connected in my female body, what changed when I finally addressed the whole picture, and three practical things you can start doing right now.This isn't about adding more things to a list of internal ‘fixes’. It's about understanding your body as a whole connected system that has been doing its absolute best to keep you alive.Please note: I am not a physician. Everything shared here comes from my personal experience, independent research, and guidance from clinicians. I highly recommend the work of Dr. Jolene Brighten for deeper research on hormones and neurodivergence. Always consult your own healthcare provider before making health decisions.Shownotes:• Dr. Jolene Brighten: https://drbrighten.com/ • Free Rest Menu for ADHD brains: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/linkz Subscribe for weekly episodes on nervous system regulation, self-trust, and embodied autonomy for late-diagnosed ADHD women. This is Month 1 of a free 6-month self-coaching journey. This is Episode 1 if you're new here.__________________________📌 Want the Rest Menu? Grab it for free right here: https://vc.openinapp.link/rest → More visual? Check the masterclass here https://tinyurl.com/awadhdmc2💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio👏🏽 Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg ___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

    22 min
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If you’re a late-diagnosed ADHD woman who’s tried all the productivity hacks and still feel like you’re failing at life, here’s your lighthouse. You’re done with advice made for men. Done with coaches who don’t understand why their strategies send you into shame spirals. Done with optimizing and hustling your way to burnout. This isn’t just another ADHD podcast. It starts as a 6-month self-coaching journey from burnout to embodied autonomy. I’m Viki, a PCC life coach for the neurodiverse with trauma sensitive somatic and breathwork training. I’ve been where you are with the rumination, the

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  • Creator
    Victoria VIKI Cumberbatch
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    63
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Victoria VIKI Cumberbatch
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    Victorious Coach