Victorious Coach

Victoria VIKI Cumberbatch

If you’re a late-diagnosed ADHD woman who’s tried all the productivity hacks and still feel like you’re failing at life, here’s your lighthouse. You’re done with advice made for men. Done with coaches who don’t understand why their strategies send you into shame spirals. Done with optimizing and hustling your way to burnout. This isn’t just another ADHD podcast. It starts as a 6-month self-coaching journey from burnout to embodied autonomy. I’m Viki, a PCC life coach for the neurodiverse with trauma sensitive somatic and breathwork training. I’ve been where you are with the rumination, the

  1. 6d ago

    You’re not lazy, you’re seasonal

    Ever wonder why your energy soars in spring, crashes in late summer, and drifts in winter? You’re not broken, you’re seasonal. In this episode, we explore the ancestral, embodied approach to life and business called seasonal living. Learn how circadian, ultradian, and infradian rhythms affect your focus, creativity, and well-being; especially if you’re neurodivergent or biologically female. Walk away with practical ways to work with your cycles, not against them, so you can do meaningful work without burning out.Shownotes:• Industrial Era work ethic: http://workethic.coe.uga.edu/hir.html • Body doubling: tinyurl.com/flownviki • Infradian rhythm: https://health.clevelandclinic.org/infradian-rhythm ___________________________| Chapters |_____________________________📌 Late diagnosed? Take the quiz to see what’s possible: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/awadhdquiz Local to Denver? Check out an event: https://victoriouscoach.eventbrite.com 📌Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg💫he BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio_______________________On Victorious Coach, we explore self-reclamation through evidence-based coaching, nervous system regulation, embodiment, psychology, and honest conversations about becoming fully yourself.Each episode offers practical tools, compassionate challenge, and a reminder that you're shaped by your experiences—but never sentenced by them.I'm Viki, a PCC coach, breathwork facilitator, speaker and educator helping women move beyond labels and reclaim authorship of their lives through coaching, nervous system regulation, embodied practice and practical tools.more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

  2. Sep 14

    6 Months In | Who You Were vs Who You're Becoming

    We made it. Six months of this series, and this episode is the reflection, not another lesson.This is the season finale, structured as pure practice and integration. I'm revisiting a story I told two years ago about my harshest inner critic, a girl named Valerie who's about sixteen in my head, and how I went from believing I was a quitter to reframing everything I do as a hypothesis I get to test. We talk about quick body check ins, catching yourself performing instead of aligned, and naming your actual next growth edge instead of just what you produced this year.| Want to start this course at its origin? https://youtu.be/hFz0gdpdA9A || Chapters |0:00 - Welcome to the Finale0:24 - How Today's Episode Is Different0:59 - Meet Valerie, the Inner Critic1:32 - Quick Body Check1:47 - The Web Series That "Failed" (Anderson Street)2:13 - Nobody Showed Up to My Women's Circle2:33 - From Quitter to Experimenter3:00 - Witnessing This Season Together3:25 - Your Final Integration Homework4:08 - What a Real Coaching Container Looks Like4:47 - What's Next & Where to Find Me5:11 - The Rez Kit5:36 - Sign Off & Ireland TripAll three episodes are chaptered now. Want me to pull these together with the rest of the content suite (scripts, blog posts, newsletters) for the season, or are chapters all you needed?___________________________📌 Late diagnosed? Take the quiz to see what’s possible: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/awadhdquiz 📌 Local to Denver? Check out an event: https://victoriouscoach.eventbrite.com  📌  Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg 💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

  3. Sep 8

    Why Success Scares You More Than Failure

    I got invited to a big-deal track meet three years in a row. Three years, three excuses to my coach about why he needed to use the backup runner.I was not sick. I was terrified of being good at something in front of people.This one is unscripted and a little raw. I went live because I had just gotten off a call and needed to process something that surfaced during a social media detox in August: I am not afraid of failing. I am afraid of it working.We get into the difference between the two, because they are not the same fear. Fear of failure keeps you from starting. Fear of success lets you start, lets you get close, and then hands you a perfectly reasonable excuse to fumble it at the finish line.Then there is the neurodivergent layer, which nobody talks about. Never registering your own accomplishments. Rejection sensitivity. Reading visibility as danger. Collecting endless certifications so you never have to declare yourself qualified.I also walk through the four things I actually use with clients and on myself:• Name it, tame it, claim it (mine is named Vivian)• The experience timeline, which is basically an anti-resume• The cookie jar, a physical cure for success amnesia• Sprints instead of five and ten year goalsNot sure if this is your pattern or something else entirely? Start with the free Adventuring with ADHD quiz. Five minutes, no email gymnastics, and you will get a read on how your brain is actually wired.Take the quiz: victoriouscoach.com/awadhdquiz| Chapters |0:00 Intro0:42 The August detox that surfaced this1:43 What fear of success actually looks like2:38 Three years of bailing on the same race4:04 The diploma, the Peace Corps, and the pattern6:24 The ADHD layer nobody talks about9:16 Fear of failure vs fear of success10:56 Do you want it, or were you told to want it15:17 Name it, tame it, claim it17:40 The experience timeline and the cookie jar20:11 Sprints instead of 10 year goals21:52 The my grass is green problem| Shownotes |• Cookie Jar template: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/cookiejar ___________________________📌 Late diagnosed? Take the quiz to see what’s possible: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/awadhdquiz 📌 Local to Denver? Check out an event: https://victoriouscoach.eventbrite.com  📌  Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg 💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

  4. Aug 27

    Your Body Remembers What You Repressed

    An oldie but goodie! Did you know that your emotions can literally impact your physical health? From stress-induced inflammation to grief sitting in the lungs, ancient wisdom and modern science agree—unprocessed emotions don’t just disappear, they manifest in the body.If you’ve ever dealt with chronic stress, autoimmune issues, or mysterious health struggles—this conversation is for you. Let’s dig in.Shownotes:• You can heal your life Book: https://amzn.to/4kwS9az • Inspirational War Kitchen Newsletter: https://editorial.warkitchen.net/p/how-fertile-are-you?utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web • Great follow up video on this topic by Dr Gabor Mate: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q_qhvzDpQpk • Another goodie with Eckhart Tolle: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ONUjdUDFi1I • A review and novel theoretical model of how negative emotions influence inflammation: The critical role of emotion regulation: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8649080/• Psychological Stress and the Human Immune System: A Meta-Analytic Study of 30 Years of Inquiry: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC1361287/• Emotions and TCM: https://encircleacupuncture.com/the-emotions-and-traditional-chinese-medicine/#:~:text=The Shen embodies consciousness%2C emotions,TLC%2C this is your point. • The E Course: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/awadhdcourseintro ___________________________📌 Late diagnosed? Take the quiz to see what’s possible: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/awadhdquiz 📌 Local to Denver? Check out an event: https://victoriouscoach.eventbrite.com  📌  Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg 💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

  5. Aug 4

    6.2 | Sweaty Pits and Tight Chest? Your Body's Already Solved It

    Racing heart. Sweaty pits. Tight chest. That's not random anxiety, that's your body handing you information before your brain catches up.Week two of Living as Yourself Without Permission is about what embodiment actually means once you strip away the wellness industry gloss. It's the difference between forced action, reacting out of old patterns and self blame, and aligned action, actually listening to what your body already knows. I'm walking through a real moment this showed up for me and what I did differently.| Want to start this course at its origin? https://youtu.be/hFz0gdpdA9A || Chapters |0:00 - Your Body Already Knows0:10 - Welcome Back & What Embodiment Actually Means0:50 - Embodiment Isn't a Candle Scent1:05 - Your Body's Data Points (The Email Story Begins)1:34 - Forced Action vs. Aligned Action2:34 - What the Walk Taught Me2:52 - Embodiment Is a Practice, Not a Skill You Master3:16 - Rest Counts as Aligned Action3:51 - Take the Adventuring with ADHD Quiz4:18 - Energy Is Currency5:01 - Sign Off___________________________📌 Late diagnosed? Take the quiz to see what’s possible: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/awadhdquiz 📌 Local to Denver? Check out an event: https://victoriouscoach.eventbrite.com  📌  Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg 💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

  6. Jul 28

    6:1 | Shame, Perfectionism, and Doubt Walk Into a Party

    You're not bad at time management. You're waiting for permission you never needed.This week I'm kicking off a new series called Living as Yourself Without Permission, starting with the moment I realized my shame, perfectionism, and inadequacy were all the same guy at the same party. Waiting for validation of my existence, how I think, and what I like.Clients come to me asking for better systems and better scripts. What they're actually asking for, almost every time, is liberation. This episode is about naming that, and asking what your own driver's seat actually looks like.| Want to start this course at its origin? https://youtu.be/hFz0gdpdA9A || Chapters |0:00 - The Permission Party0:29 - Who I Am & Where We Are in the Series0:52 - Shame, Perfectionism, Inadequacy: Same Guy, Different Outfit1:34 - What Clients Are Really Asking For2:28 - Time Management Is Actually Energy Management3:09 - The Big Question: Who's Driving Your Life3:42 - The 7 Levels Deeper Exercise4:11 - Nobody's Handing You a Permission Slip4:31 - Liberation Isn't Toxic Positivity, It's Rest5:04 - This Week's Challenge & Sign Off| Shownotes |• 7 Levels Deeper Exercise | https://canva.link/jd4jmytiirdccwa ___________________________📌 Late diagnosed? Take the quiz to see what’s possible: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/awadhdquiz 📌 Local to Denver? Check out an event: https://victoriouscoach.eventbrite.com  📌  Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg 💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

  7. Jul 21

    5:3 | Self Care Begins with One Word: No

    You’re not rude. You’re reclaiming yourself.In this episode, I’m diving into the challenging realities of BOUNDARY setting - especially when you’ve been raised, praised, or socialized to be agreeable, accommodating, and available 24/7.Inside this episode, we’ll unpack:• Why boundary-setting feels so hard for women & neurodivergent folks• How people-pleasing gets coded as safety• Why boundaries are actually a somatic self-care practice• A simple sentence to start using if saying “no” still feels impossibleThis one’s for every recovering good girl, over-giver, and over-explainer.💬 Drop a comment: What boundary are you working on this week?Shownotes:- Nedra Tawwab book on boundaries: https://amzn.to/4q2Lnvm - Lysa TerKeurst on boundaries & goodbyes: https://amzn.to/4iJtkro ___________________________📌 Late diagnosed? Take the quiz to see what’s possible: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/awadhdquiz 📌 Local to Denver? Check out an event: https://victoriouscoach.eventbrite.com  📌  Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg 💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

  8. Jul 14

    5.2 | Your Boundary Problem Isn't Actually a Boundary Problem

    You do not have a boundary problem. You have a nervous system that learned disappointing people was dangerous.This week on Adventuring with ADHD we get into fawning, the fourth survival response nobody warned you about, and why every boundary book you have read has been quietly failing you. Spoiler: the words were never the issue. A boundary is a regulation skill wearing a communication costume, and you cannot script your way out of a survival response.We cover what fawning actually is, why traditional boundary advice flops for ADHD women, the regulation it really takes to hold a line, and the self-trust underneath all of it.| Want to start this course at its origin? https://youtu.be/hFz0gdpdA9A || Chapters |0:00 - You don't have a boundary problem1:27 - Meet the fourth F: fawning2:47 - Why every boundary book fails you4:28 - Which survival pattern is yours (free quiz)5:07 - A boundary is a regulation skill in disguise6:39 - The self-trust layer underneath it all8:15 - How to actually measure a boundary9:07 - Your assignment this week| Shownotes |• xxx___________________________📌 Late diagnosed? Take the quiz to see what’s possible: https://www.victoriouscoach.com/awadhdquiz 📌 Local to Denver? Check out an event: https://victoriouscoach.eventbrite.com  📌  Liked the content? Consider keeping the lights on & buy me a coffee! https://coff.ee/cumberbatcg 💫 The BEST all around business platform for entrepreneurs, periodt! Unltd. email, CRM, sales pages, funnels, course creation, communities [and so much more, it's actually wild]: https://openinapp.link/sio___________________________Hey, I’m Viki! TLDR I’m a resilience coach empowering the neurodiverse from living in states of TENSION to living in a state of INTENTION. As a trauma sensitive practitioner, I support people through coaching, somatics and events. Sometimes, I post about empowerment through health, wellness and natural living. Find more: victoriouscoach.com/linkz

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If you’re a late-diagnosed ADHD woman who’s tried all the productivity hacks and still feel like you’re failing at life, here’s your lighthouse. You’re done with advice made for men. Done with coaches who don’t understand why their strategies send you into shame spirals. Done with optimizing and hustling your way to burnout. This isn’t just another ADHD podcast. It starts as a 6-month self-coaching journey from burnout to embodied autonomy. I’m Viki, a PCC life coach for the neurodiverse with trauma sensitive somatic and breathwork training. I’ve been where you are with the rumination, the