The VowsToKeep Marriage Podcast

David & Tracy Sellars
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Need help in your marriage?! We've got you covered! The VowsToKeep Marriage Podcast will help you grow closer to your spouse and closer to God's design for your marriage. No marriage is too far gone to save or too healthy to not need a check up. Let's get started by building a Biblically healthy marriage! 

  1. 2D AGO

    How Mercy And Respect Rebuild Marriage Conversation

    One careless comment can land like a verdict, and one merciful response can keep a marriage talking. We start with a real early-marriage mistake, David’s gold 1998 Ram Air Firebird bought sight unseen, and why Tracy’s refusal to shame him didn’t just avoid a fight. It built trust, kept communication open, and taught a long-term lesson about valuing a spouse’s voice instead of defending our pride.  From there, we get painfully practical about the habits that make a husband stop engaging: malice that wants payback, belittling that turns mistakes into character attacks, and the slow drift into independence where we seek advice from everyone except the man we vowed to be one with. We anchor the conversation in Scripture (James 1, Ephesians 4, 1 Peter 2) and talk about the real antidote to toxic communication: kindness, tenderhearted forgiveness, and a heart that genuinely wants the best for our spouse.  We also dig into two surprisingly common connection killers: rejecting your husband’s compliments and the way we talk when we’re frustrated. Tone of voice, shouting, coldness, and even body language can say “I don’t respect you” long before our words catch up. If God puts His finger on a specific sin, we encourage you to name it, ask forgiveness, and start rebuilding unity with truth and encouragement.  Subscribe for more biblical marriage help, share this with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review so more couples can find it. What one change in your words or tone would make the biggest difference this week? Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

    25 min

  2. APR 27

    A Soft Heart And Humility Can Bring Your Husband Back Into Conversation

    The moment your husband goes quiet, it’s easy to assume the worst: he doesn’t care, he’s checked out, or you’re asking for too much. We get it, and we’re naming what’s really happening for many couples: a communication epidemic that spreads through everyday moments until the silence feels normal. We unpack one of the biggest shutdown triggers we see in Christian marriage coaching: demands that carry a hidden message of “this is my right.” Sometimes they show up as pointed questions, coded comments, or repeated pressure that turns a home into a place where both people brace for impact. We sort through wrong demands that begin as simple preferences and grow into must-haves, then we talk about right desires like spiritual leadership, getting out of debt, or praying for a prodigal child and how even good goals can crush connection when respect drops. Along the way, we anchor the antidote in Scripture, especially Galatians 5 and Colossians 3. We talk about humility, the fruit of the Spirit, asking better questions, and choosing a posture that advocates for restoration to God rather than acting as judge and jury. We also tackle nagging head-on, what Proverbs compares to constant dripping, and why “normal” marital joking about it can hide real damage. If you want practical biblical marriage help and a clear path back to calmer conversations, press play, then join us next week for part two. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review so more couples can find support. Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

    25 min

  3. APR 20

    You Can Learn To Speak Courage Into Your Marriage

    Avoiding your wife doesn’t make the problem disappear, it just teaches your marriage to live with distance. Today we name the cycle a lot of couples get trapped in: annoyance that grows into anger, bitterness that hardens into apathy, and silence that turns into full-blown avoidance. If you’re a husband who wants to love well but feels stuck, worn out, or unsure how to talk without it becoming a fight, we give you a clear, biblical path forward.  We use a simple and surprisingly practical study: how Jesus communicates in the Gospels. We look at how he speaks to his disciples with immediacy and encouragement, how he goes deeper than surface talk, and how he asks thoughtful questions that draw out the heart. Then we talk about truth telling and why spiritual leadership in marriage isn’t about winning arguments, it’s about guiding your home with Scripture as the shared standard so you can lead without harsh judgment or defensiveness.  Next we shift to how Jesus speaks to crowds and skeptics, which matters when your spouse feels guarded or doubtful about you. We focus on compassion when you’re tired, strength that comes from God rather than your own resources, loving challenge that calls someone higher, and wholehearted sacrifice that refuses to keep score. You’ll walk away with marriage communication tools, Christian husband leadership insights, and a renewed vision for discipling your wife with grace and truth.  Subscribe to Vows to Keep Radio on your favorite podcast app, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review to help more couples find biblically healthy marriage encouragement. What’s one conversation you’ve been avoiding that you’re ready to face with courage? Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

    25 min

  4. APR 13

    Stop Tuning Out And Start Hearing Your Spouse

    A husband goes to the ear doctor convinced he can’t hear his wife. The test comes back perfect, and the doctor delivers the line that stings because it’s true: it’s not your ears, it’s your heart. That story opens a deeper conversation we all need, especially if your marriage has settled into side-by-side living where the TV is loud, the phones are glowing, and real connection keeps getting postponed. We talk straight to husbands about why listening is not a soft skill but a core way you love your wife. When she feels understood, intimacy grows. When she feels ignored, the marriage starts to lose friendship, fun, unity, and spiritual momentum. We also get honest about why men pull back, including bitterness, unforgiveness, fear of conflict, “peace at any cost,” and pride that refuses to admit change is needed. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same argument like you’re driving forever with no destination, you’re not alone. Then we map the slide many couples experience: annoyance that turns a need into an interruption, anger that hardens the heart, apathy that says “I don’t care,” and avoidance that quietly threatens the future. We connect that pattern to biblical marriage principles, practical communication habits, and the spiritual work of repentance and forgiveness. We also point to prayer as a way to stop reacting and start leading with clarity, courage, and compassion. If you want stronger Christian marriage communication, deeper emotional intimacy, and a home marked by grace and truth, listen and take one next step this week. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review so more couples can find biblical help for their marriage. Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

    25 min

  5. APR 6

    Are You Chasing Fruit While Neglecting Roots

    A perfect date can be the loudest reminder that something deeper is off. We start with a story about a husband who tries to reconnect through a big romantic plan, only to discover that what both spouses really want is honesty, forgiveness, and a heart-level bond that can’t be purchased or scheduled. We talk about Christian marriage and biblical marriage advice through the picture Jesus gives in Luke 6: the fruit always reveals the tree. If the roots of your relationship are dry, even the best restaurant or most expensive surprise can feel empty. That’s why we draw a hard line: dating will not fix a marriage in jeopardy. Real change starts with Jesus Christ, a transformed heart, and learning to treat your spouse with grace, respect, and steady love. If things are unhealthy, we also encourage getting help from a pastor or counselor for prayer and direction. From that healthy foundation, we share practical marriage tips for romance that actually work: the energize and deflate two-column list, small surprises that speak directly to your spouse’s needs, intentional date planning, and a fun tool David calls Love Note Strips to spark better conversation and anticipation. We also walk through the Five Love Languages so your acts of love land the way your spouse receives them, plus ideas for birthdays, anniversaries, and “pulse checks” that keep you from drifting. If this helps you, subscribe, share the show with a friend, and leave a review. Then come tell us your best tip on Facebook.com slash Vows2Keep. Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

    25 min

  6. MAR 30

    What If Your Marriage Runs On Undeserved Kindness

    Forgetfulness can freeze a home even when the heat is sitting five feet away. We start with a simple firewood story and then hold it up to a hard spiritual reality: many of us have received mercy and grace from God, yet we still treat our spouse like a debtor who must pay up now. We walk through Matthew 18 and the parable of the unmerciful servant to define mercy and grace in plain terms and show how quickly “I’ve been forgiven” can turn into “I have rights.” From there, we connect Luke 18 to the pride and self-righteousness that block humility, making it nearly impossible to give what we refuse to remember we’ve been given. If you’ve ever thought, “This is unacceptable” or “They owe me,” this conversation puts language to what’s happening in your heart. Then we get practical for Christian marriage: when your spouse’s sin affects you, Hebrews 4 points you to the throne of grace where God promises mercy and grace in your time of need. We tie forgiveness to relationship, revisit Jesus’ “seventy times seven,” and use Psalm 103 to challenge the habits that keep couples stuck in grudges and emotional distance. The hope is real: the warmth of gospel-centered love is re-obtainable when we stop keeping score and start re-gifting what God supplies. If this helped you, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs encouragement, and leave a review so more couples can find biblical marriage support and practical tools for forgiveness and grace. Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

    25 min

  7. MAR 23

    Stop Agreeing To Disagree

    “Agree to disagree” sounds mature, but we’ve watched it quietly hollow out unity in marriage. When two people stop working toward oneness, they don’t stop the conflict, they just postpone it until it comes back louder. We start with a listener question we hear all the time and unpack why even small disagreements can grow into bitterness, disrespect, and emotional distance when each spouse retreats into “I’ll do me.” From there, we get practical and biblical. We talk through how to identify the heart of the issue, how to test our motives against Scripture, and why Philippians 2 and Romans 12 call us to humility, honor, and giving preference rather than demanding our way. We also draw a clear line between personal preference and situations where God’s Word is at stake, because unity cannot be built on ignoring obedience. We also tackle two pressure points that show up in countless Christian marriages: lack of quality time together and strain in the bedroom, plus the high-stakes debate of staying home with kids versus working. We share a simple time inventory you can do this week, a budgeting process based on real spending history, and ways to address fears about finances and isolation. Finally, we answer whether it’s better to argue behind closed doors or in front of kids, and we lay out a path for hard conversations shaped by prayer, accountability, and Matthew 18. If this helped you, subscribe for more biblical marriage guidance, share it with a couple you care about, and leave a review so more marriages can find the show. Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

    25 min

  8. MAR 16

    Not Every Want Is a Need: Ending Marriage Fights the Biblical Way

    This podcast episode from Vows to Keep explains that marital conflict usually comes from inner desires and spiritual battles, not from a spouse being the “enemy.” Drawing from James 4, Galatians 5, Ephesians 6, and other passages, David and Tracy urge listeners to: Identify and list their desires (tangible and intangible)Sort them into biblical, neutral, and sinful categories, backed by ScriptureBring those desires to God in prayer, examining motivesShift from demanding personal wants to trusting God as FatherSurrender desires with an “open hand,” seeking more of God (His Spirit, presence, and purposes) rather than worldly fulfillmentThey emphasize three key words—belief, trust, and surrender—as the path to healthier “roots” in the heart, which leads to less fighting, greater unity, and a biblically healthy marriage Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

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Need help in your marriage?! We've got you covered! The VowsToKeep Marriage Podcast will help you grow closer to your spouse and closer to God's design for your marriage. No marriage is too far gone to save or too healthy to not need a check up. Let's get started by building a Biblically healthy marriage! 

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  • Creator
    David & Tracy Sellars
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    319
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 The VowsToKeep Marriage Podcast
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