The VowsToKeep Marriage Podcast

David & Tracy Sellars

Need help in your marriage?! We've got you covered! The VowsToKeep Marriage Podcast will help you grow closer to your spouse and closer to God's design for your marriage. No marriage is too far gone to save or too healthy to not need a check up. Let's get started by building a Biblically healthy marriage! 

  1. 2d ago

    Trusting The Good Shepherd Changes Everything

    One sentence can change the way you see your marriage: “I am.” When Jesus uses those words, He isn’t offering a motivational slogan, He’s revealing who He is and what your relationship truly needs to survive and grow. We start with John 10 and Jesus’s claim to be the door, the only gate into salvation and the only path into the kind of abundant life that touches Monday morning, not just eternity. We also name the loud, convincing voices that promise relief but lead to dead ends, and we get honest about the “trades” that quietly drain marriages, like pornography, emotional escape, secret spending, and the habit of self providing outside the safety of God’s design. Then we move to “I am the good shepherd” and ask a hard question: what does trust look like in real decisions? We talk about control, distance, separate plans, and the insecurity that keeps spouses at arm’s length. We also share why bringing hidden things into the light isn’t about shame, it’s about healing, and how God intends husbands and wives to be allies in sanctification instead of lone fighters against temptation. Finally, we connect “I am the resurrection and the life” to the gospel’s transforming power through Romans 6 and Romans 8. The same Spirit who raised Jesus lives in believers, giving strength to say no to sin and yes to righteousness, and John 15 reminds us that fruit comes from staying attached to the vine. If you want a stronger Christian marriage built on Scripture, trust, and real intimacy, press play, then subscribe, share this with a couple who needs hope, and leave a review so more families can find it. Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

  2. Jul 20

    Bread Of Life For A Hungry Marriage

    Your marriage can look “fine” on the outside while quietly starving on the inside. We’ve been there, and that’s why we slow down and apply three of Jesus’ powerful I am statements from the Gospel of John to real married life, not theory. Using a simple lens, we break each statement into four parts: an invitation, an action, a promise, and a warning. It’s a practical way to read the Bible for marriage and actually know what obedience looks like on a Tuesday afternoon. We start with Jesus saying, “I am the bread of life” (John 6:35) and talk about spiritual nourishment, daily prayer, and why “once-a-week” faith can’t sustain a Christian marriage. When we chase quick fixes to satisfy our hunger or thirst, we may get a temporary hit of relief, but we lose our appetite for what truly feeds us. Then we move to “I am the light of the world” (John 8:12) and get honest about how darkness shows up through sin, bitterness, and self-made rules, and how following Jesus means choosing love in specific, costly ways. We close with “I am the way, the truth, and the life” (John 14:6) and the reminder we all need: the greatest gift in your marriage isn’t just the good things you can name, it’s the presence of Jesus Christ through the Holy Spirit. If your relationship needs direction, a stable foundation, or new life, he’s not one option among many, he’s the source. Subscribe, share this with a couple you care about, and leave a review so more marriages can find steady help from God’s Word. Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

  3. Jul 13

    The Xbox Fight That Flatlined A Marriage

    A marriage can be legally intact and still be dying. We start with that uncomfortable reality and then work through Exodus 20 to name the habits that quietly drain a relationship of friendship, passion, and trust, one small choice at a time. From an Uber story about a marriage that ended up on life support to the “final cut” moments couples never saw coming, we get honest about how conflict, sarcasm, stonewalling, and selfish priorities can function like slow-motion murder. Then we talk about adultery the way Jesus does in Matthew 5, not as a technical line you cross, but as a heart-level break in covenant. We address pornography, lust, and emotional affairs, and we also share real hope we’ve seen through counseling when God redeems what looks like a deal breaker. We get practical about boundaries and accountability, especially in a social media age where private messages and old relationships can quietly reopen doors that should stay shut. We move into “do not steal” as an entitlement mindset in marriage, where spouses start keeping score with money, time, and responsibilities. From there, “do not bear false witness” becomes a warning about the stories we tell about our spouse to friends and even to ourselves, plus three common lies that unhappy couples believe. We close with the tenth commandment and the poison of comparison, then offer the antidote: trusting God’s provision and practicing gratitude, all summed up in the Great Commandment to love God and love your nearest neighbor, starting at home. Subscribe, share this with a couple who needs encouragement, and leave a review with the biggest takeaway you’re going to apply this week. Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

  4. Jul 6

    Put Down The Phone And Take A Holy Nap

    Most of us don’t struggle because we’ve never heard God’s commands. We struggle because we try to live them with the wrong fuel. We’re David and Tracy Sellers, and we’re digging into the Ten Commandments for marriage with a focus on the one command Jesus says sits above them all: love the Lord your God with everything you are, and love your neighbor as yourself. When that becomes the center, the commandments stop feeling like a cold rulebook and start functioning like guardrails that lead to real freedom, peace, and closeness. We also get honest about the inner war Paul describes in Romans 7, and why Galatians makes it clear that law keeping cannot make anyone right with God. The law exposes sin and points us to our need for Jesus Christ, while faith brings the power to obey from the heart. That’s not abstract theology. It’s marriage help for the couple who feels stuck in cycles of guilt, striving, or spiritual burnout and needs a better way forward. From there, we apply two commandments directly to everyday family life. First, we talk about Sabbath as God’s gift of rest, worship, and unity. We challenge the nonstop schedule, the screen-based “rest” that never restores, and the idea that good things should crowd out the best things. Then we unpack honoring father and mother, including what it can look like when you’ve been hurt, how to set wise boundaries through leaving and cleaving, and how honoring parents can bless your marriage and model godliness for your kids. If you want a stronger Christian marriage grounded in Scripture, take this with you, share it with your spouse, and let us know what part you’re going to put into practice. Subscribe, share this broadcast with a friend who needs encouragement, and leave a review so more couples can find biblical marriage support. Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

  5. Jun 29

    The Ten Commandments Through A Marriage Lens

    The fastest way to find what you worship is to look at what gets your attention when life feels tight. David and Tracy Sellers start with a simple sense of wonder about the universe, then bring it home: the same God who designed the cosmos also designed marriage, and His plan is not limited to your past or your honeymoon memories. If you’ve ever felt like God’s “rules” are heavy, we challenge that assumption with a different lens: His commandments are meant to protect, free, and realign our hearts. We connect the Great Commandment to the real world of marriage, where loving your “nearest neighbor” can be the hardest assignment of the week. Why is it easier to be kind at church than to be gentle under your own roof after disappointment, conflict, or betrayal? From there, we walk through the first three of the Ten Commandments with practical marriage application: putting God first instead of keeping Him on speed dial, recognizing modern idols like comfort, success, consumerism, and control, and seeing how idolatry quietly reshapes priorities, time, and intimacy. We also unpack “do not take the Lord’s name in vain” as far more than avoiding a phrase. Our words, our tone, and the way we talk about our spouse can either strengthen our witness or sabotage it. With James 3 as a warning about the tongue, we point to a better starting place: asking God to change the heart so the mouth follows. If you want a biblically healthy marriage built on trust, obedience, and grace, this is a grounded next step. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review so more couples can find it. Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

  6. Jun 22

    Living Upside Down

    Fair feels natural in marriage. Grace does not. When we follow our instincts, we often aim for control, payback, or the bare minimum, then wonder why the same fights keep repeating. We dig into why rules can manage behavior but never create the deep heart change a Christian marriage needs, and why Jesus goes straight after what is happening beneath the surface.  We’ve been studying the Sermon on the Mount, and the message is unmistakable: God’s kingdom economy is upside down. Jesus calls us to forgive when we want to punish, to serve when we want to be served, to pray when we want to judge, and to love most when our spouse deserves it least. We translate those commands into real, practical marriage moments like harsh words, old offenses resurfacing, unequal workloads, and the temptation to keep score.  We also share a personal story from our own life about choosing a small step of financial obedience and watching God provide in unexpected ways, not just to improve a bank account but to grow our faith. The thread tying it all together is simple and hard: amazement at Jesus’ teaching is temporary, but obedience plants truth deep enough to change the tone of a home.  If you want a biblically healthy marriage marked by forgiveness, compassion, and real transformation, listen now and take one concrete step today. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review that helps more couples find the path toward God’s design for marriage. Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

  7. Jun 15

    From Routine Prayers To Real Relationship

    Most of us learned to pray by repeating familiar words at familiar times, but what happens when those words stop reaching our heart? David and Tracy Sellers take us into Matthew 6 and the Lord’s Prayer, not as a script to speed through, but as Jesus’ clear invitation into a real relationship with our Heavenly Father that strengthens a Christian marriage from the inside out. Along the way, we talk about how prayer habits form in families, why routines can turn into empty ritual, and how to regain confidence when praying out loud with your spouse feels awkward.  We slow down over “Our Father in heaven” and why that single word “our” changes the posture of a couple. We also wrestle honestly with “Hallowed be your name” and “Your kingdom come, your will be done,” because surrender is where control issues surface. If you’ve ever wondered whether God can be trusted with your marriage, your plans, or your deepest fears, this conversation gives language for that tension and a path forward.  Then we explore “Give us today our daily bread” as both God’s provision and our spiritual hunger for Scripture and Christ as the Bread of Life. We close with the heart work Jesus includes on purpose: forgiveness, battling temptation, and ending with praise that puts everything back where it belongs, with God’s kingdom and God’s glory. If this encouraged you, subscribe, share the episode with a friend, and leave a review so more couples can find biblical help for marriage and prayer. Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

  8. Jun 8

    What If Blessed Is Not What You Think

    You can hit the goal, buy the thing, fix the schedule, even get your spouse to change a little and still feel that ache that nothing seems to touch. We start a brand-new series called The Bible for Marriage by naming that restless pursuit for what it is: chasing a cloud. Instead of adding more self-help noise, we go straight to God’s Word as the only true source for an abundant life and a biblically healthy marriage. From there, we open Matthew 5 and slow down over the Beatitudes, the opening of Jesus’ Sermon on the Mount. “Blessed” isn’t a vague religious word. It carries the idea of “oh, how happy,” and Jesus attaches real promises to each statement: comfort, satisfaction, seeing God, being called children of God, and the kingdom of heaven. We also talk honestly about why these verses can feel distant or discouraging when we read them too fast or only see our failures. We unpack the Beatitudes as a refining process that touches three relationships at once: our relationship with ourselves, our relationship with God, and our relationship with others, including our spouse. We walk through the “emptying” of being poor in spirit, mourning over sin, and learning meekness from Jesus, then we turn to the filling that comes from hungering and thirsting for righteousness. Finally, we connect mercy, purity of heart, peacemaking, and even persecution to what it looks like to live out faith inside a real home with real conflict. If this encouraged you, subscribe, share the episode with a friend who needs hope for their marriage, and leave a review so more couples can find biblical marriage help. Support the show For episode transcripts, click HERE. For more marriage encouragement, visit: www.VowsToKeep.com | V2K Blog | Marriage Counseling | Insta | FB Apple Podcast listener? Would you consider leaving us a review, as this helps more couple's to find our resources?! Leave your review HERE.

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Need help in your marriage?! We've got you covered! The VowsToKeep Marriage Podcast will help you grow closer to your spouse and closer to God's design for your marriage. No marriage is too far gone to save or too healthy to not need a check up. Let's get started by building a Biblically healthy marriage!