Wake Your Dream

Annaliese Seaborn
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Join Annaliese Seaborn, Certified Professional Life Coach, on this bi-weekly podcast as she talks with her husband Alan about growth, how your brain works, and how to make shifts in your thoughts and actions in an everyday way that can help you make real changes and create a life you love.

  1. 2D AGO

    113 - Living A New Belief

    Annaliese and Alan talk about how to change your unhelpful thoughts and beliefs once you discover you have them. They dig into how these beliefs have been shaping your experiences in life for a long time — and how to build new ones that open up more of what's actually possible for you! You'll Hear About: How your daily patterns — anxiety at work, struggling to trust yourself, needing constant outside opinions — are likely rooted in a deep , hidden belief that's been running the show. Learn to see it so you can start to shift it! Why your beliefs shape how you feel about yourself and your life, and how to build a new one using same way the old one formed — through slightly better thoughts, gentler self-treatment in real-time, and small aligned actions built in your moments added up over time. How to choose a new belief that feels realistic and hopeful, not perfect or out of reach. You want beliefs that help you feel capable and resilient in real life — not like you need to escape it. Your Free Coaching Call: See ways you'd like to work through this yourself? Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule your FREE 1-hour Discovery Coaching Chat with Annaliese! You'll gain practical tips and steps in this call, even if it's the only coaching session you ever make. 3 Steps to Live From a New Belief: Notice and name your current belief — Find it by locating what your discomfort has been. Feeling not enough? Feeling judged? Feeling unsafe or risky? Name it so you can see it. Identify the change you want — What's the new direction you see you're missing here? (Feeling enough vs. feeling scarce. Owning your choices vs. life happening to you.) Take changed actions — Pick one small, intentional response — not a reaction — that you can take in any moment that will align you with your new belief instead of just reinforcing the old one.

    37 min

  2. FEB 25

    112 - Our Hidden Triggers

    Annaliese and Alan talk about how your hidden triggers quietly shape your emotional reactions, relationships, and everyday life. So often, reactive stories start playing in your mind (thoughts) and body (feelings) before you even realize it. When you learn to notice that inner narrative in the moment, you gain powerful self-awareness, giving you the ability to decide whether that story gets to lead you or whether you want to choose a different response. You’ll Hear About: Why building self-awareness around the stories in your head is essential for personal growth, emotional maturity, and mindset change. When you understand why you’re showing up the way you are, you can actually measure growth and make intentional shifts. How to recognize the subtle cues of your hidden triggers. Are you assuming someone’s tone means something negative? Jumping to conclusions about their intentions? Feeling irritation rise quickly? These trigger stories color your perception and are shaping your experience in real time. Why triggers often feel like they come “out of nowhere.” Your brain is wired to make quick meaning and try to protect you. But without awareness, you can end up replaying the same negative patterns in your relationships, communication habits, and the ways you experience daily stress. Your Free Coaching Call: Ready to go deeper in your own self-development journey? Schedule your FREE 1-hour Discovery Chat with Annaliese at www.linktree.com/coachannaliese. Share your situation and receive helpful coaching tools to create some real, lasting change. Related Podcast Episode: Listen to learn more about changing the story in your head: https://wakeyourdream.podbean.com/e/18-you-can-change-the-story-in-your-head/ FINDING YOUR HIDDEN TRIGGERS Facing and reflecting on your inner experience regularly helps you uncover the hidden trigger stories driving your reactions — so you don’t have to keep repeating reactive habits on autopilot. Practice: Sitting With Yourself Get alone with your thoughts and feelings long enough to name them. Try to resist the urge to distract, avoid, or immediately fix what you find. The true goal is to gently uncover the reality of your experience so you can understand why certain situations or people stir irritation, defensiveness, or reactivity in you. Identify and Log What You Find Simply notice and list what’s present as you sit and reflect on your experience — thoughts, feelings, assumptions, reactions, expectations. Don’t analyze or change anything yet. This step is awareness only. Shift Into a Listening Posture Notice your internal stance toward yourself. If you sense critical, defensive, or tense energy, gently shift toward a little more curiosity and openness to listening and hearing. Your goal here is familiarity and understanding, not self-correction. Simple Evaluation (“Just One Reason”) Choose one thing from your Log (step 1) and ask, “What’s one reason this showed up in me?” Approach yourself with wisdom and love here - kindness toward yourself helps you see your options and create change where you want it. From this place of awareness, you’ll begin to see what small, intentional shifts are possible to try out.

    35 min

  3. FEB 11

    111 - Kind Communication in Key Relationships

    Annaliese and Alan talk about what makes communication both effective and deeply connecting in close relationships. They reflect on how many adults eventually notice communication blind spots in themselves because different communication styles were modeled in their families growing up. This conversation explores how emotional maturity and intentional practice help us build healthier, more connected relationship patterns over time. You’ll Hear About: Why relationships aren’t strengthened by clear or frequent communication alone, but by learning to balance speaking the truth accurately while also speaking with love, kindness, and respect. Real connection grows when honesty and care are held together. How contributing more to an important relationship often means being willing to say things in messy or clunky ways at first. Practicing new communication patterns—whether becoming clearer and more assertive or softer and more compassionate—takes experimentation, humility, and courage, but builds intimacy, trust, and deeper connection. How practicing “speaking the truth in love” helps repair imbalanced or disconnected relationship dynamics while also helping you grow personally. Learning to be both direct and loving gives the other person what they need while helping you become a healthier communicator. Your Free Coaching Call: Want support improving your communication, deepen your relationships, and improve your own emotional experience? Schedule your FREE 1-hour Discovery Chat with Annaliese at www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to see how coaching with her helps you get practical next steps toward the meaningful change you want. PRACTICE KIND, TRUTHFUL COMMUNICATION: Learning to speak the truth in love is one of the most powerful ways to build the intimacy and trust you want in your relationship—including in your relationship with yourself! Practicing new communication skills is good and valuable work, even when it's the most challenging. Support yourself internally as you practice before trying something new gives you a strong foundation. It’s okay if it feels messy at first—your growth will work out way better than the old way! Ask yourself: Where do I fall on the scale between Speaking The Truth and Speaking With Love? Which comes more naturally? Which feels harder? Notice your honest reaction and see why the harder skill is your growth invitation. Aim for small, daily improvement: “I’ll try to say this truth 2% more clearly,” or “I’ll try to say this truth 2% more lovingly.” Check your tone and posture—inside and out—before conversations. Take a few minutes to ground yourself and choose calmness and direction before interacting. Notice the posture you’re carrying internally, because it usually shows up outwardly too. Ask yourself: Am I walking in trying to make them see my point? Am I open and receptive, or trying to avoid discomfort or quickly drop my point and leave?

    34 min

  4. JAN 28

    110 - Fixating On The Outcome

    Annaliese and Alan talk about how fixating on outcomes in life can quietly consume your limited energy in the present moment. Annaliese shares how our deeper invitation is to notice how we actually feel in and about our lives right now—and to intentionally prioritize spending our primary resources (time, money, attention, and energy) on what we can realistically influence today. When we shift our focus to what’s within our control in the present, we regain steadiness, clarity, and a greater sense of peace. You’ll Hear About: Spending too much time picturing, preparing, and planning for the future? Planning can be healthy and helpful—when it’s grounded in the reality of the present. When it’s not, it drains your energy, increases anxiety, and leaves you feeling defeated or incapable. Learning to let go of what you can’t control and re-anchor your focus in what you can helps restore joy, motivation, confidence, and emotional stability. How to notice where your focus lives most often (past, present, or future) and what it’s costing you. The present moment is where your power actually exists. You are only responsible for your own thoughts, actions, and how you navigate your feelings—and that work can only happen now. When focusing on a future outcome—even a meaningful one—causes you to abandon the present. Living as if peace, rest, or fulfillment can only come after an outcome steals the very resources you need to grow, thrive, and move forward today. Your Free Coaching Call: Experience how coaching can help you gain results you want in your life! Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule your FREE 1-hour Discovery Chat with Annaliese. Share where you're at and what you're working on, and gain practical, supportive guidance for creating real change. Practices: STEPS TO LET GO OF FIXATING ON THE OUTCOME: Spending more resources on the future than the present often steals from your current quality of life—it doesn’t guarantee the future. This present reality is your life. More things probably matter to you than just the outcome you’ve been fixating on (even when it’s very important). How can you free up your resources to do the living you need and want for today? Notice where your focus is and what it’s costing you. Pay attention to your body sensations, emotions, and recurring thoughts to show you where your focus and attention are going. Your focus directs how you spend your limited resources of time, energy, attention, and money. Reflect on where your resources are going and how that’s shaping your current quality of life. Practice accepting what’s in your control—and what’s not. You can influence outcomes through your thoughts, attitudes, and actions, but you can’t ensure certainty. Remembering the natur of life and what's outside of your control helps you feel your own capability and wisdom again. Your limited resources are best spent creating the stability, peace, and consistency you need the present. Slow down once a week for a Values and Balance Check-In. Notice where your daily energy (of just you being you) feels out of balance. Where are your attention/action choices helping—or hurting—you most? What does this reveal about what you value, and what else might deserve more attention? Small, honest reflections here can lead to meaningful daily shifts.

    30 min

  5. JAN 14

    109 - Perfectionism: Setting Impossible Goals

    Annaliese and Alan talk about perfectionism in practical ways that actually help you in the moment. Annaliese explores how perfectionism often disguises itself as the “right way” to be, think, or live—when in reality, it slowly disconnects you from your authenticity, agency, and inner clarity. You’ll uncover how perfectionism undermines personal growth by demanding control over things you can’t control in order to succeed. Instead of helping you reach your goals, it quietly works against your true desires. Listen for how to plug back into your aligned values and support your emotional well-being on the way to your goals. You’ll Hear About How: Perfectionism can feel compelling, like it’s the only acceptable way to pursue growth or success. But notice how it makes you feel—pressured, defeated, or trapped without choices. These feelings are often signals that you’re disconnected from your true desires and natural capability. Perfectionism feeds you impossible rules about life and about yourself: you can’t change your mind, you must know the right way ahead of time, you have to get it right the first time, and failure isn’t allowed. These standards don’t create effectiveness, confidence, or peace. Perfectionism is a form of self-protection and self-reliance that doesn’t actually provide motivating safety, trust, or strength. Seeking control distracts you from what’s more powerful—your built-in courage to live authentically without certainty. Your Free Coaching Call: Have a coaching session with Annaliese yourself! Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule your FREE, 1-hour Discovery Chat and see how coaching gives you clarity, mindset support, and practical next steps. TIPS FOR NAVIGATING PERFECTIONISM: Perfectionism feels like pressure, stress, rigidity, and defeat because it says you need certainty to be “right.” Real freedom comes from remembering you need courage—not control—to live purposefully and effectively. And courage is always available inside you! Reflect on what you truly want and specify your aim and goal Caring about doing things well is healthy, but notice how you’re approaching excellence. Decide how you want the process to feel as you grow, live your life, and pursue your goals. Notice if you’re criticizing, undermining, or defeating yourself Self-criticism makes change harder, not easier. How you treat yourself during growth or progress matters even more than the outcome, because it's shaping you as a person. Handle your disappointments with empowerment, not punishment Use disappointments and mistakes to clarify your focus not disqualify you. Letting yourself experiment more freely helps you show back up with renewed belief, trust, and self-compassion instead of tearing yourself down.

    29 min

  6. 12/31/2025

    108 - Love Fuels Your Growth

    Annaliese and Alan talk about one of the most overlooked foundations of real personal growth: learning to love yourself. This episode reframes self-compassion as more than a concept that sounds good or feels good—it’s meant to become a brand new foundation of love for yourself that effectively fuels any change you hope to make. Instead of growing from a basis of self-criticism or judgment, this conversation invites you to see yourself from a new angle, soften the lens you use on yourself, and shift your focus toward how you treat yourself day to day. You’ll Hear About: How real self-compassion means learning to see yourself through a lens of love instead of criticism or judgment. Where you usually approach change from a pain point or a judgmental stance, notice there is another way: “God doesn’t change us in order to love us. He loves us into change.” Seeing and identifying your own walls that come up against practicing self-compassion. Treating yourself from a starting point of kindness and love, even before you’ve made changes, might feel uncomfortable, but will be infinitely more effective. The reasons that harsh, rigid, judgmental ways of motivating yourself can work temporarily for outcomes, but end up undermining your quality of life. And why accepting that you matter and deserve to be loved in your life is the building block for genuine change and transformation. Tips to Practice Love That Fuels Your Growth The outcome is not all that matters in your life. You matter in your life. The best way to actually feel that is to live out a new foundation of love for yourself—not self-criticism or judgment. Hang out with yourself more in your day. Think about your day like, “I’m with myself today.” Check in more often: Did I hang out with myself, or did I leave myself behind? Did I show up only to correct myself? Treat yourself like you’re a person who matters too. If other people are supposed to matter to you, remember—you are an “other person” to them as well, so it makes sense to practice seeing yourself as lovable, valuable, and significant! Actually practice your relationship with yourself. Pay attention to yourself. Factor yourself into your choices. Ask: What’s my thought life like right now? How am I feeling? What am I doing and why? Pick one small way to act like you matter today. Treat yourself like you’re worth showing up for. Practice and repeat your relationship with yourself daily. Your Free Coaching Call: -Have a coaching session with Annaliese yourself! Visit www.linktree.com/coachannaliese to schedule your FREE, 1-hour Discovery Chat. Share what you hope for and Annaliese will help you gain helpful tips to make real changes in your life. Want more on self-compassion? Listen to Wake Your Dream episode 47.

    32 min

  7. 12/17/2025

    107 - ENCORE Episode 14: Update Yourself

    Annaliese and Alan dig into how the way you see yourself shapes the way you think, speak, and act. When you’re trying to grow, your inner picture matters. Annaliese shares a simple mindset tool called “Update Yourself,” a practice that helps you picture yourself as more capable, grounded, and empowered so real change feels possible—not overwhelming. You’ll Hear About: How your brain can learn a new, more confident picture of who you are and what you can do. You’re not locked into old patterns—you truly can do new things. Why owning your choices matters. Are you supporting your growth or slipping back into old standards like perfectionism or settling? Choose a standard that actually helps you move forward. How your body responds differently to Updated Stories versus Outdated Stories. When you celebrate who you’re becoming, you feel your growth, and that creates natural motivation fuel for more of it, inside and out. How Updating Yourself strengthens your relationship with you. It’s a bridge from doubt to desire. Simple “updated” thoughts—like “I’m the person who gets to make change happen”—open doors that old thoughts keep shut. How to stop assuming the worst about uncertain outcomes and start expecting what you hope to find. Resources: Schedule your FREE, 1-hour Discovery Chat. Share what ideas and changes you want to make in your life and Annaliese will help you gain helpful tips to make them happen! Your Resources: time, money, attention, energy. Tell Yourself UPDATED Stories, Not Outdated Ones: Ask yourself: How am I different today than I have been before? What do I care about now that I didn’t before? Notice what you’re improving on or what matters to you now. Tell yourself about the updated person you’re becoming—statements like “I’m more organized now” or “I know how to organize better.” Remember the real goal is becoming your true self, not chasing a perfect outcome. What do you want instead of what you’ve been getting? What changes would support that? Focus on the change you want to make. Choose a thought about yourself that helps you feel capable, satisfied, and ready to take that step.

    55 min

  8. 12/03/2025

    106 - Building A Boundary

    Annaliese and Alan talk about how to make healthy, effective boundaries that actually support real life and real relationships. Instead of boundaries being a last-minute reaction to discomfort or conflict, they explore how boundaries work best when they’re intentional, value-based, and planned all the way through. Annaliese share the 3 Prongs of Building a Boundary—choose it, set it, enforce it. Learn why you need all three if you want your boundary to work for you instead of creating more tension, guilt, or frustration. Listen today to hear how creating a plan for each prong helps you stay grounded, clear, and steady while setting your boundary, no matter how others respond. You’ll Hear About: Why boundaries are at their best when they support your deeper values and help build a bridge that makes relationship possible—not a wall that cuts people off How to choose a boundary by first noticing your discomfort, clarifying what you want the boundary to protect or support, and getting clear on your “why” before deciding how to communicate it How clarifying your deeper “want,” especially in relationships, helps you understand why certain interactions feel threatening or draining, and what goal you truly want to shoot for in the relationship Why disappointment often happens when you forget to make a plan to enforce a boundary—and why follow-through matters Your Free Coaching Call: Schedule your free 1-hour Discovery Chat with Annaliese to get personalized support with boundaries, communication, and self-leadership: www.linktree.com/coachannaliese Practice: BUILDING A BOUNDARY: If you only make a boundary as a reaction to uncomfortable situations, and don’t intentionally talk it through first with the person and proactively plan it out, you’ll likely end up with an ineffective boundary and a more frustrating dynamic. Walk yourself through these 3 Prongs with honesty, self-awareness, and openness. Prong 1: Choose It -Take time to reflect on the specific situation and be clear about what the boundary needs to be and why. -Identify what the boundary is meant to protect or support—your values, time, energy, priorities, or goals. -Remember: others don’t have to agree with your values for you to show up in a respectful, confident way and build a boundary that supports how you want to show up, even if there’s pushback. Prong 2: Set It -Decide who you want to be as you communicate the boundary and how you want the conversation to feel. -Think intentionally about the other person’s experience. What do they actually need to hear? What would help this feel like a mutual, relationship-forward conversation rather than you just pushing an agenda? -Picture how you want both of you to feel during and after the conversation—this clarity helps you choose language that keeps connection and respect in view. Prong 3: Enforce It -Prepare for likely responses and scenarios and decide how you’ll support yourself in those cases (ex. reactions/lashing out, disagreement or exclusion from the other person, perspective the other person adds that changes your viewpoint). This isn't about worst-case scenarios, it's about facing and navigating reality wisely. Plan what you’ll say if needed in each possible situation, what boundaries around space or support you may need, and practice how you would calmly shift or re-communicate the boundary without overexplaining or reacting. -Boundaries work best when you’re willing to commit to walking them out confidently and respectfully over time, not just say them once.

    37 min
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Join Annaliese Seaborn, Certified Professional Life Coach, on this bi-weekly podcast as she talks with her husband Alan about growth, how your brain works, and how to make shifts in your thoughts and actions in an everyday way that can help you make real changes and create a life you love.

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  • Creator
    Annaliese Seaborn
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    114
  • Rating
    Clean
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    Wake Your Dream