Wanting It More is about empowering women (and the men who love them) to heal from cultural messages so that they can discover true pleasure and connection in their sexual relationship and marriage. Labels like, “low libido” and “low sex drive” simply focus on the wrong thing. Women are NOT low in anything if they struggle to want and enjoy sex. The problem is they aren’t free to discover themselves without the shame and guilt that have been heaped on them by societal expectations and unintentional pressure from men. I'm Janna Denton Howes, a Marriage & Intimacy Educator and Desire Expert. I've dedicated my life to understanding the complexities of intimacy in relationships, particularly from the female perspective. I've developed the Wanting It More program, which has brought comfort, understanding, and ultimately, improvement to thousands of women struggling with low libido.If you’re looking for a fresh perspective that leaves you feeling empowered, hopeful and curious to create a sex life in your relationship that feels 100% safe and comfortable FOR YOU- you’re in the right place. If you’re a husband trying to understand and find solutions to your wife’s lack of interest in the bedroom and learn about your role in this dynamic, this podcast is for you too! Here’s to transforming infrequent, obligation and duty sex into an experience that leads to genuine unity, connection, and pleasure. You are not broken. You are not alone. There is so much hope.
Is It Too Late To Fix My Sex Life at 50?- with Elle | Ep. 72
Elle believed she was grappling with low libido as she reached the age of 50, having been married for 25 years with three children in college. Intimacy in her relationship had become a burdensome task, postponed for weeks at a time until guilt finally compelled her to engage. She considered this ebb in desire as a typical aspect of this stage in life.
It wasn't until Janna helped Elle compassionately delve into her personal history that the true roots of her low sex drive emerged. Unearthing childhood sexual abuse, the lingering effects of birth trauma, the relentless exhaustion and overwhelm from parenthood, and 22 years of untreated pelvic pain, Elle began to see the multifaceted layers of her struggle.
In our culture, women are often conditioned to endure pain, making it challenging to recognize when something is truly amiss. Elle shares her journey of self-discovery, articulating why she refrained from labeling her distress as pain for so many years. Now, with newfound awareness, she is bravely navigating a redefined understanding of intimacy with her husband, infused with compassion and hope for a more fulfilling connection.
Referenced episode: 27. UNDERSTANDING PELVIC PAIN WITH MANDY RÖSCHER
Janna Answers: What If I Don't Feel Anything During Sex? | Ep. 71
Janna dives into a question she receives often from women looking into her Wanting It More program: "Will this work for me if I don't feel anything during sex?"
A powerful misconception exists in our culture that something is wrong with a woman if she doesn't experience intense sensations during intercourse. Many of these women are labeled with “low libido” or “low sex drive.” Janna challenges the notion that sex is primarily focused on penetration, emphasizing the importance of understanding the clitoris with its extensive network of nerves and unique sensitivity.
She argues the essence of the intimate experience lies in pleasure and connection rather than adhering to a narrow view centered around genital engagement. She teaches a more inclusive understanding of pleasure that extends beyond the genitalia, emphasizing the significance of mutual connection and safety in fostering truly satisfying sexual experiences.
Janna shares personal experiences of overcoming years of feeling broken in the realm of sexuality, offering hope and encouragement for listeners to embrace their own unique journey towards fulfilling intimacy.
Does Withholding Sex Emasculate Men? - with Janna’s husband John | Ep. 70
Can the actions of women lead to emasculation in men? What intriguing power lies within the concept of emasculation? In today's podcast discussion, Janna and her husband John delve into the idea that women might possess the capacity to emasculate—a process defined as stripping a man of his male role or identity.
Together, they explore the narratives surrounding various behaviors often considered emasculating, questioning the generalizations and stereotypes associated with actions like withholding sex, exerting excessive control, attempting to forcefully alter a partner, adopting a maternal role, disparaging men's activities, and withholding appreciation.
What Is Intentional Rest And How Do We Get More Of It? - with Dr. Laura Froyen | Ep. 69
Everyone talks about getting more rest, but what does it truly mean to rest? Is it just about lying still and doing nothing? Join Janna and her good friend, Dr. Laura Froyen, as they dive into the world of rest in this delightful conversation.
They explore various types of rest – physical, emotional, mental, social, spiritual, sensory, and creative – unraveling the true essence of what rest aims to achieve. They recall rest experiences that can be not only rejuvenating and enlivening but also surprisingly active, creating a pathway to reconnect with yourself.
Janna and Dr. Laura will encourage you to ponder: How do you rest? What does your rest feel like? And most importantly, how do you feel after a good rest? Let's unravel the secrets of truly fulfilling rest together!
Dr. Laura Froyen: https://www.laurafroyen.com/
The Balanced Parent Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-balanced-parent-podcast/id1510139224
Vaginismus: How One Woman Transformed Her Intimacy Struggles - with Ellen | Ep. 68
Ellen bravely opens up about her journey with Vaginismus, a condition she discovered on her wedding night when she and her husband tried to have intercourse for the first time. A moment that should have been filled with joy and excitement left Ellen feeling gutted and cheated, particularly because she and her husband had eagerly waited until marriage to share this experience.
Vaginismus is a complex and often misunderstood medical condition that causes the muscles of the vagina to involuntarily tense or spasm upon penetration.
Over the years Ellen persisted in attempting intercourse, but each try brought pain and discomfort. Confounded by her body's response and overwhelmed by shame, she grappled in silence, feeling as though her body was broken.
However, through her challenging journey and the invaluable insights gained since then, Ellen has made remarkable strides in accepting and embracing her body just as it is. She graciously shares a detailed and practical account of how intimacy with her husband has evolved, offering a beacon of hope and understanding for women dealing with Vaginismus. Her story sheds light on the possibilities of finding comfort and fulfillment in intimate relationships despite the condition.
Sex, God & the Conservative Church author Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers | Ep. 67
Janna talks to the author of one of her most recommended books, "Sex, God, & the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy."
In this captivating conversation with Dr. Tina Schermer Seller, a licensed therapist specializing in sex and gender issues, they discuss her research of the Christian Conservative church and the rise of abstinence-only education and purity culture in the early 1980s. This shift has had serious negative effects on both women and men, impacting their ability to have meaningful and healthy sexual relationships.
Whether you come from a religious background or not, this discussion will help you understand the global influence of this narrative on our lives and how we can start the healing process.
Find out more about Dr. Tina Schermer Seller and her books here: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/
Great straight forward information for women and men
Sex is so taboo to talk about in our culture. This podcast does an excellent job of discussing a subject we all do desperately need to talk about!
Great review for program alumni!
I absolutely love this podcast for changing the way women and men think about sex. I went through Jana’s program a few years ago and I love this podcast to use as a refresher for the training that I went through. I recommend this podcast, even if you haven’t gone through Janice program to help change the way sex portrayed in society, and pass the knowledge down to further generations.