We are the Traffic

Tyler Lewke - Ally Gregory
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Most people are sitting in traffic, wondering why everything is backed up. We are the traffic. Tyler Lewke and Ally Gregory have real conversations about the things that actually matter, the state of the world, the state of your heart, and the space between the life you're performing and the one you actually want to live. No experts. No frameworks. No comfortable lies. Just two people telling the truth out loud, about business, relationships, parenting, grief, joy, and what it actually takes to stay open-hearted when everything feels heavy. Work wise. Speak truth. Love people.

  1. MAR 15

    The Words We Choose

    Something worth saying up front: this is a new show. You may know Tyler from Not Your Teacher, a solo podcast he's been running for a while now. This is different. We Are the Traffic is a co-hosted conversation between Tyler Lewke and Ally Gregory, and it exists because the two of them kept having the kind of honest, wandering, hard-to-categorize conversations that felt too good to keep to themselves. The name came from a four-year-old. Ally's son Juniper, stuck in traffic, asked why everything was stopped. Ally explained that everyone was waiting for the traffic to clear. Juniper looked at her and said: but we are the traffic. That's the show. We are not observers of the mess. We are the mess. And the only honest place to start is there. In this first episode, Tyler and Ally follow a single question all the way down: what happens when we choose inquiry over outrage? Language isn't just how we communicate. It's how we see, or erase, the person in front of us. From pronouns to the talk a brother-in-law didn't know how to give, to a hug that quietly changed everything, this conversation is about the space between understanding someone and honoring them. You don't have to understand it. You just have to honor it. This is episode one. This is where it starts. No way out but in.

    29 min

  2. FEB 1

    Ep. 17 | We Are The Traffic: On Switching, Earthquakes, and Finding Good in Heavy Times

    Tyler and running coach Ally Gregory sit down for a raw, wide-ranging conversation about mental fortitude, collective heaviness, and the exhaustion that comes from constant context-switching in modern life. This episode moves from taper blues and training struggles into deeper territory: navigating a world that feels increasingly heavy, finding compassion in the midst of tragedy, and recognizing that we are not stuck IN the traffic—we ARE the traffic. Tyler shares a vulnerable reflection on the Minneapolis shooting, questioning his impulse to "other" the shooter while honoring the grief. Ally responds with honesty about her own family's conversations and the flickers of light they're all searching for. The conversation shifts to Tyler's revelation about burnout: after uploading his entire calendar for AI analysis, he discovered his exhaustion wasn't from working too many hours—it was from switching contexts hundreds of times without pause. He shares his militant redesign of daily life around "the cost of switching" and why he's learning to do instead of declare. Ally commits to feeling her emotions "with her whole chest" in 2026, including crying over ruined croissants. Tyler wants to be an earthquake—small shifts that ripple outward, shaking up old patterns so we can settle into new directions. This is a conversation about staying open-hearted when the world feels closed, finding the good even in tragedy, and recognizing that individual actions matter more than we think. Because when two or more are gathered, the ripples start to grow.

    37 min

  3. 11/06/2025

    Ep. 16 | Why Your Self-Care Practices Aren't Working (And What to Do Instead)

    Why Your Self-Care Practices Aren't Working (And What to Do Instead) Your meditation isn't hitting the same. Your morning run feels hollow. The journaling that used to center you now feels like going through the motions. What's happening? In this raw, unfiltered conversation, Tyler Lewke and Ally Gregory explore why our coping mechanisms are failing us right now—and it's not what you think. The problem isn't the practices themselves; it's our expectation that they should work the way they always have. Drawing on the metaphor of interconnected root systems in a forest, Tyler explains why individual self-care can never be enough when the community around us is suffering. When the tree down the street is struggling, we feel it too—whether we realize it or not. In this episode: Why self-care without community care is incompleteThe radical act of curiosity over fear in uncertain timesHow to recognize when YOU are "they"Why we need to rotate our practices instead of letting them become habitsThe difference between people in a room and actual communityTyler's 4am running revelation that changed how he sees strangersWhy the benefits of your practices show up when you need them, not when you want themThis conversation doesn't offer easy answers or quick fixes. Instead, it offers something better: permission to feel uncertain, tools to stay open-hearted, and a reminder that practicing humanity might be the most important self-care of all.

    27 min

  4. 09/02/2025

    Ep. 15 | Resistance, Fear, and Sacred Healing

    In this raw and vulnerable episode, Tyler explores the profound difference between actual pain and the fear that keeps us frozen long after healing has begun. After months of back pain that prevented him from running, Tyler discovers that even when the physical pain subsided, fear continued to paralyze him—until his friend Ally refused to let him cancel their running session. This realization opens a deeper conversation about when to push through versus when to rest, the sacred middle path between effort and surrender, and how hustle culture has conditioned us to ignore our bodies' wisdom. Tyler shares his transformative experience at an Indigenous healing circle in Ohio, where he witnessed the profound simplicity of collective pain release and learned about the seven generations practice—honoring seven generations past and considering seven generations future in every action. From the power of "noble friendship" that refuses to let us give up, to discovering the indigenous wisdom that exists right beneath our feet, this episode challenges us to examine what else in our lives we've been capable of doing but haven't because of fear, expectation, or simple resistance to getting started.

    37 min

  5. 06/04/2025

    Ep. 14 | No Way Out But In

    Tyler sits down for an in-depth conversation about what it really takes to scale a business—and it's not what most entrepreneurs think. In this raw, unfiltered episode, Tyler reveals why nearly every business challenge he encounters traces back to one thing: our relationship with money. From his unconventional coaching approach that seamlessly weaves between QuickBooks and sex life conversations, to the explosive reactions that happen when entrepreneurs are forced to examine their financial beliefs, Tyler shares the real stories from his coaching practice. He explains why he believes "debt is the albatross of the creative spirit"—not just credit card debt, but emotional debt, unfinished business, and unhealed relationships that keep us stuck. What you'll hear: Why traditional business coaching misses the mark by separating inner work from outer growthThe moment most entrepreneurs blow up when confronted about money (and what happens next)How poverty consciousness keeps talented people playing small, regardless of their skillsTyler's intensive retreat model and why he's "not an accountability coach"The connection between childhood money messages and current business plateausWhy there's literally "no way out but in" when it comes to real growth Perfect for: Entrepreneurs who've hit a plateau, business owners who suspect their limitations aren't tactical but personal, and anyone ready to examine the deeper patterns that keep them stuck. This isn't your typical business podcast episode—it's a deep dive into the intersection of money, psychology, and authentic business growth. Come prepared to question everything you think you know about scaling a business.

    40 min

  6. 05/04/2025

    Ep. 13 | Trauma Nation

    In these weird, wild and uncertain times of our current lived experiences, we all have a hunger to know how to keep our relationships growing and businesses thriving, while keeping our hearts and minds open and centered. This unconventional conversation with Mary and Ali dives deep into how we're all carrying more than we realize. Our nervous systems are inflamed, absorbing the chaos and discord around us - even when our intellect isn't attaching to it. We explore why everyone seems "f****d off" right now and how to recognize that much of what we're experiencing isn't even ours. When we speak f*cking truth, everything gets better. That's why I'm offering 15 questions to help deepen your awareness, cultivate more empathy, and add just a little more love to the world. Because that's how we change everything - by offering a tiny bit more grace with someone you don't directly relate to. Remember: your biology is receiving messages you don't even know you're getting. Work wise, speak truth, love people - and don't forget to breathe.

    31 min

  7. 03/06/2025

    Ep. 12 | Return to Sender

    Tyler and Mary explore a transformative concept: what if our deepest struggles aren't actually ours, but inherited patterns we can choose to return to sender? Tyler shares his breakthrough realization that the money anxieties waking him at 2AM for thirty years weren't his own - they were inherited from his father. Through observing his dad and uncle during a recent visit, Tyler discovered how to "return to sender" these inherited traumas, leading to immediate relief from lifelong struggles with financial anxiety and body image issues. Mary reflects on her own inherited pattern of constant apologizing - her mother's "forty dressings" syndrome - and how liberating it feels to recognize these behaviors as borrowed rather than intrinsic. Together, they unpack how we inherit not just money or physical traits, but also anxieties, behavioral patterns, and limiting beliefs. This episode introduces a radical concept: we can acknowledge these inheritances with love and compassion, then consciously choose which ones to keep and which to return. Join Tyler and Mary as they explore this revolutionary approach to healing, offering practical techniques for identifying and releasing generational patterns that were never yours to fix in the first place.

    36 min

  8. 01/12/2025

    Ep. 11 | Intention, Truth, and What's Next

    In this beautifully messy episode, Tyler and Mary dive deep into the transformative power of clearing exercises and authentic ritual. Through their 25-year friendship, they've developed practices that cut through the noise of aspirational thinking and get to the heart of what matters. Mary vulnerably shares how a "productive lie" led to profound truth, while they explore their time-tested New Year's ritual - a seven-hour journey through accomplishments, regrets, resentments, and the eternal question of "what's next?" This conversation isn't your typical goal-setting pep talk. It's about the gritty, honest work of looking in the mirror, naming what's incomplete, and finding the "one thing" that makes everything else easier or unnecessary. Tyler and Mary challenge the Instagram-ready declarations of "new year, new me" by offering a more grounded path: deep introspection, radical honesty, and a commitment to actionable change. Whether you're a seeker, a teacher, or someone searching for more authentic ways to grow, this episode invites you into intimate dialogue about what it truly means to hold space, embrace constraints, and allow life to change us rather than trying to force change upon life. #iloveyouiamlistening #iloveyoukeepgoing

    36 min
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Most people are sitting in traffic, wondering why everything is backed up. We are the traffic. Tyler Lewke and Ally Gregory have real conversations about the things that actually matter, the state of the world, the state of your heart, and the space between the life you're performing and the one you actually want to live. No experts. No frameworks. No comfortable lies. Just two people telling the truth out loud, about business, relationships, parenting, grief, joy, and what it actually takes to stay open-hearted when everything feels heavy. Work wise. Speak truth. Love people.

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  • Creator
    Tyler Lewke - Ally Gregory
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    18
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Tyler Lewke - Ally Gregory
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