We are the Traffic

Tyler Lewke - Ally Gregory

Most people are sitting in traffic, wondering why everything is backed up. We are the traffic. Tyler Lewke and Ally Gregory have real conversations about the things that actually matter, the state of the world, the state of your heart, and the space between the life you're performing and the one you actually want to live. No experts. No frameworks. No comfortable lies. Just two people telling the truth out loud, about business, relationships, parenting, grief, joy, and what it actually takes to stay open-hearted when everything feels heavy. Work wise. Speak truth. Love people.

  1. FEB 1

    Ep. 17 | We Are The Traffic: On Switching, Earthquakes, and Finding Good in Heavy Times

    Tyler and running coach Ally Gregory sit down for a raw, wide-ranging conversation about mental fortitude, collective heaviness, and the exhaustion that comes from constant context-switching in modern life. This episode moves from taper blues and training struggles into deeper territory: navigating a world that feels increasingly heavy, finding compassion in the midst of tragedy, and recognizing that we are not stuck IN the traffic—we ARE the traffic. Tyler shares a vulnerable reflection on the Minneapolis shooting, questioning his impulse to "other" the shooter while honoring the grief. Ally responds with honesty about her own family's conversations and the flickers of light they're all searching for. The conversation shifts to Tyler's revelation about burnout: after uploading his entire calendar for AI analysis, he discovered his exhaustion wasn't from working too many hours—it was from switching contexts hundreds of times without pause. He shares his militant redesign of daily life around "the cost of switching" and why he's learning to do instead of declare. Ally commits to feeling her emotions "with her whole chest" in 2026, including crying over ruined croissants. Tyler wants to be an earthquake—small shifts that ripple outward, shaking up old patterns so we can settle into new directions. This is a conversation about staying open-hearted when the world feels closed, finding the good even in tragedy, and recognizing that individual actions matter more than we think. Because when two or more are gathered, the ripples start to grow.

    37 min
  2. 11/06/2025

    Ep. 16 | Why Your Self-Care Practices Aren't Working (And What to Do Instead)

    Why Your Self-Care Practices Aren't Working (And What to Do Instead) Your meditation isn't hitting the same. Your morning run feels hollow. The journaling that used to center you now feels like going through the motions. What's happening? In this raw, unfiltered conversation, Tyler Lewke and Ally Gregory explore why our coping mechanisms are failing us right now—and it's not what you think. The problem isn't the practices themselves; it's our expectation that they should work the way they always have. Drawing on the metaphor of interconnected root systems in a forest, Tyler explains why individual self-care can never be enough when the community around us is suffering. When the tree down the street is struggling, we feel it too—whether we realize it or not. In this episode: Why self-care without community care is incompleteThe radical act of curiosity over fear in uncertain timesHow to recognize when YOU are "they"Why we need to rotate our practices instead of letting them become habitsThe difference between people in a room and actual communityTyler's 4am running revelation that changed how he sees strangersWhy the benefits of your practices show up when you need them, not when you want themThis conversation doesn't offer easy answers or quick fixes. Instead, it offers something better: permission to feel uncertain, tools to stay open-hearted, and a reminder that practicing humanity might be the most important self-care of all.

    27 min
  3. 06/04/2025

    Ep. 14 | No Way Out But In

    Tyler sits down for an in-depth conversation about what it really takes to scale a business—and it's not what most entrepreneurs think. In this raw, unfiltered episode, Tyler reveals why nearly every business challenge he encounters traces back to one thing: our relationship with money. From his unconventional coaching approach that seamlessly weaves between QuickBooks and sex life conversations, to the explosive reactions that happen when entrepreneurs are forced to examine their financial beliefs, Tyler shares the real stories from his coaching practice. He explains why he believes "debt is the albatross of the creative spirit"—not just credit card debt, but emotional debt, unfinished business, and unhealed relationships that keep us stuck. What you'll hear: Why traditional business coaching misses the mark by separating inner work from outer growthThe moment most entrepreneurs blow up when confronted about money (and what happens next)How poverty consciousness keeps talented people playing small, regardless of their skillsTyler's intensive retreat model and why he's "not an accountability coach"The connection between childhood money messages and current business plateausWhy there's literally "no way out but in" when it comes to real growth Perfect for: Entrepreneurs who've hit a plateau, business owners who suspect their limitations aren't tactical but personal, and anyone ready to examine the deeper patterns that keep them stuck. This isn't your typical business podcast episode—it's a deep dive into the intersection of money, psychology, and authentic business growth. Come prepared to question everything you think you know about scaling a business.

    40 min

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Most people are sitting in traffic, wondering why everything is backed up. We are the traffic. Tyler Lewke and Ally Gregory have real conversations about the things that actually matter, the state of the world, the state of your heart, and the space between the life you're performing and the one you actually want to live. No experts. No frameworks. No comfortable lies. Just two people telling the truth out loud, about business, relationships, parenting, grief, joy, and what it actually takes to stay open-hearted when everything feels heavy. Work wise. Speak truth. Love people.