We Do Whatever It Takes

Danny Ray and Kimberly
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We are a Magician & an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist and we do whatever it takes to have a thriving marriage. We have tips and tricks to help you do the same! (Disclaimer: this is not therapy and Kimberly is not acting as your therapist on this podcast. If you need therapy, please seek professional help from your mental health provider).

  1. 10/30/2025

    S5:E10- Grace vs. Rescuing

    Send us a text In this episode, Danny and Kimberly unpack the powerful difference between grace and rescuing. Grace means loving with truth—while rescuing means taking responsibility for someone else’s growth. Together they explore what happens when our motivation shifts from love and empathy to fear and control, and how that small shift can quietly lead to resentment and burnout. They’ll walk through “The Grace With Boundaries Model,” contrasting the heart behind grace versus rescuing, and share practical tools for discerning your own motivations. You’ll learn to ask key questions like: Am I doing this out of love or fear?Am I taking responsibility for something that isn’t mine?Does this act honor both of us equally?Grace says, “I love you enough to tell the truth and let you grow.” Rescuing says, “I can’t handle seeing you fail, so I’ll do it for you.” By the end of this episode, you’ll know how to love others deeply—without losing your boundaries in the process.

    23 min

  2. 10/23/2025

    S5:E9 Joe and Traci Castaneda The Power of Intentional Grace

    Send us a text In this special first-ever interview on We Do Whatever It Takes, Danny and Kimberly sit down with longtime friends Joe and Tracy Castañeda to talk about the real, everyday ways grace shows up in marriage. From high school sweethearts to nearly three decades of marriage and ministry, the Castañedas share candidly about the ups and downs of life together, long-distance dating before cell phones, learning to extend “undeserved kindness” in the middle of parenting chaos, and the courage it takes to break out of ruts. The conversation also explores the vision behind their ministry OnePlusOneMarriage.com, a community helping couples move from “just surviving” to genuinely thriving. You’ll hear practical wisdom on intentional date nights, vulnerable conversations about intimacy, and why small acts of grace can ripple out to impact not only marriages but also the next generation. Whether you’re in a season of routine or ready for renewal, this episode will inspire you to slow down, choose kindness, and take one intentional step toward a healthier, more grace-filled marriage.

    32 min

  3. 10/02/2025

    S5:E6—Grace Reloaded: Daily Forgiveness and Fresh Starts

    Send us a text Grace isn’t a one-time drop—it’s a daily reload. In this lively, practical, and hope-filled conversation, Danny (magician and pastor) and Kimberly (associate marriage & family therapist) explore how to give and receive fresh grace every day. They unpack why forgiveness is both a process and a choice, bust the “forgive and forget” myth, and share real-life marriage examples—complete with laughter, honesty, and a few “hypothetical” Amazon jokes. Listeners will learn: How to start each morning by receiving God’s new mercies (Lamentations 3:22-23)Ways to speak daily grace over your spouse with morning check-ins, midday pauses, and evening resetsPractical steps for working through conflict, communicating needs, and rebuilding trust when walls of resentment formWhether you’re navigating old wounds or everyday annoyances, this episode offers a grace-filled blueprint for stronger, freer relationships.

    27 min

  4. 09/25/2025

    S5:E5—Transforming Conflict into Connection

    Send us a text Danny Ray (magician & pastor) and Kimberly (AMFT) unpack what real, costly grace looks like in marriage — and why “cheap grace” (Bonhoeffer’s warning) often masquerades as forgiveness while bitterness quietly grows. Drawing on 29 years of marriage (and yes — a very messy paint story), they show how surprising, intentional acts of grace (“grace grenades”) can defuse conflict, invite repentance, and actually transform a relationship — but only when grace costs us something. In this episode you’ll hear: The difference between cheap grace and real grace (Dietrich Bonhoeffer’s insight).Why Biblical grace is a gift we’ve received and a costly pattern we’re called to imitate (Ephesians 2:8–9, Romans 5:8).Practical ways to drop a grace grenade in everyday moments — from traffic tension to household projects.How to extend grace without ignoring harmful patterns: forgiveness that transforms instead of sweeps things under the rug.First steps to rebuild trust: why consistency matters and what it looks like in real life.This is a no-fluff, real-life episode made for couples who want action, not just platitudes. If you’re tired of repeating the same fights and want practical ways to make grace the normal response in your home, press play.

    21 min

  5. 09/18/2025

    S5:E4—How Forgiveness Resets a Marriage

    Send us a text Welcome back to We Do Whatever It Takes! 🎙️ Danny (magician & pastor) and Kimberly (associate marriage & family therapist) share real-life lessons from 29 years of marriage—plus one very messy paint story—to show how unexpected grace can defuse conflict and build deeper connection. In this episode you’ll discover: Why Romans 5:8 is the ultimate “grace grenade.”How to break predictable patterns of criticism, withdrawal, and defensiveness.Practical ways to surprise your spouse with love and forgiveness—even in the middle of a mess.Whether you’re newly married or decades in, these simple but powerful practices will help you turn conflict into connection and make grace the normal response in your home.

    20 min

  6. 09/11/2025

    S5:E3 Forgiveness On the FrontLines

    Send us a text In this episode of We Do Whatever It Takes, Danny and Kimberly  unpack what it means to practice forgiveness right in the middle of conflict. Last week we explored how Grace Grenades can disarm fights before they explode. This week, we’re looking at what happens when the hurt runs deeper—and how forgiveness can break the cycle of anger. Using Colossians 3:13 and the Cycle of Anger model, Danny and Kimberly walk through practical ways to pause, disrupt negative thoughts, and choose grace instead of reaction. You’ll hear real-life examples, a counseling perspective, and a challenge to build your own “anger pause” practice so you can turn moments of tension into moments of connection. Grace begins when you choose to interrupt the cycle—not after you explode.

    20 min

  7. 09/04/2025

    S5:E2 Grace That Disarms: Turning Conflict into Connection

    Send us a text In this episode of We Do Whatever It Takes, Danny Ray and Kimberly dive into the power of Grace Grenades—intentional acts of love and forgiveness that defuse conflict and reset the atmosphere in your marriage. Theme: You can choose to escalate a fight or disarm it. Grace doesn’t fuel the fire—it smothers it. Scripture: Proverbs 15:1 — “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Counseling Insight: How small sparks can turn into wildfires—and how choosing grace instead can stop battles before they begin. Magic Connection: Just like in magic, tension builds toward an explosion… but grace makes the fight vanish instead. Challenge: The next time a fight is brewing, stop and drop grace. Practice responding with words that bring closeness instead of criticism. This week, discover how grace disarms conflict and creates intimacy—turning your marriage into a place of peace rather than battle.

    16 min

  8. 08/28/2025

    S5:E1 Grace Grenades: Choose to Pull the Pin

    Send us a text After a season-long pause, Danny and Kimberly return with fresh energy for Season 5 of We Do Whatever It Takes—and they’re bringing something explosive: Grace Grenades. In this kickoff episode, they unpack the idea of grace as an intentional, disruptive, and powerful choice that diffuses resentment and resets the atmosphere in marriage. With plenty of laughs (including the  “pants don’t shrink” story and Danny’s impromptu hit song), heartfelt honesty about family struggles, and a grounding in Scripture (John 1:16, John 8:11), they show how grace is both abundant and transformative when paired with truth. You’ll hear practical ways to stop destructive patterns, stories of real-life slip-ups, and a challenge to surprise your spouse this week with one unexpected act of grace. Because grace doesn’t change anything until you choose to pull the pin and drop it into your marriage.

    21 min
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4.6
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We are a Magician & an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist and we do whatever it takes to have a thriving marriage. We have tips and tricks to help you do the same! (Disclaimer: this is not therapy and Kimberly is not acting as your therapist on this podcast. If you need therapy, please seek professional help from your mental health provider).

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  • Creator
    Danny Ray and Kimberly
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2025
  • Episodes
    62
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2025 We Do Whatever It Takes
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