We Not Me

Dan Hammond & Pia Lee

Exploring how humans connect and get stuff done together, with Dan Hammond and Pia Lee from Squadify. We need groups of humans to help navigate the world of opportunities and challenges, but we don't always work together effectively. This podcast tackles questions such as "What makes a rockstar team?" "How can we work from anywhere?" "What part does connection play in today's world?" You'll also hear the thoughts and views of those who are running and leading teams across the world.

  1. 4D AGO

    Stop fixing people. Fix the system

    🎧 Three reasons to listen Rethink performance problems – Learn why most performance issues aren’t people problems at all, but symptoms of unclear systems, roles, and ways of working.Lead for impact, not burnout – Discover how leaders unintentionally drive burnout by asking individuals to compensate for broken systems—and what to do instead.Practical ways to create momentum – Take away simple, team‑level actions that improve clarity, decision‑making, and execution without needing enterprise‑wide change.Episode overview In this episode, Pia and Dan are joined in person by Squad coach Brooke Lewis to challenge one of the most common assumptions in organisations: that underperformance means someone needs fixing. Drawing on Brooke’s experience in organisational development, the conversation explores how organisations often default to coaching individuals, running workshops, or “upskilling” leaders—while overlooking the system those people are working within. From unclear decision rights and complex matrices to ineffective meetings and post‑Covid ways of working, the episode reframes leadership as creating the conditions for performance, not simply demanding more effort. This is a practical, grounded discussion for leaders who want to improve performance without pushing their people towards burnout. Key themes & insights Why organisations instinctively blame individuals instead of examining systemsThe three layers of performance: system, team, individualHow invisible architecture (strategy clarity, roles, decision rights, rhythms) shapes behaviourWhy leaders end up compensating for broken systems—and the cost of thatThe limits of individual development in poorly designed environmentsHow teams can regain agency by improving their own ways of workingMeetings as a powerful (and often overlooked) leverage pointMemorable moments “When the system lacks clarity, people compensate with effort—and effort without clarity leads to burnout.”“Great performance should be easier, not harder.”“Leadership is creating the conditions for other people’s success.”Practical takeaways Before investing in coaching or training, ask: What in our system is making performance harder than it needs to be?Zoom out one level when diagnosing issues—look first at clarity, structure, and ways of working.Start at team level: improve meeting purpose, decision flow, and operating rhythms to build momentum.Assume positive intent and competence; if people are struggling, the environment is usually the issue.Brooke’s media recommendation Shrinking (Apple TV+) - a smart, witty series starring Harrison Ford that explores ageing, relationships, therapy, and humour—with surprising depth. About the guest Brooke Lewis is a qualified coach and experienced executive with more than 20 years in organizational development and leadership across industries including technology, financial services, manufacturing, and non-profit. Throughout her career, she has been most energized by helping people grow — coaching, mentoring, and creating the conditions for others to thrive. An in-demand certified SquadifyPro team coach, Brooke works with leaders and teams to unlock their potential, elevate performance, and lead with authenticity and impact. She believes true leadership isn’t about titles or hierarchy — it’s about creating the conditions for others to thrive and building environments where people and business succeed together.

    34 min
  2. APR 16

    How can high-quality conversations untie the knots holding teams back?

    In an increasingly complex, polarised, and fast‑moving world, the ability to have high‑quality conversations may be one of the most important leadership skills we have. In this episode of We Not Me, Dan Hammond and Pia Lee are joined by Dianna Anderson, founding member of the International Coaching Federation and a pioneer of coaching-based leadership. Together, they explore why conversations are the hidden engine of change — and how curiosity, presence, and shared language can help teams and societies move forward together. Dianna introduces her framework “Untying the Knot”, offering a practical way to understand what really blocks progress in conversations — and how to shift from argument and polarity to connection, trust, and hope. 🎯 Three Reasons to Listen Learn a simple framework for navigating difficult conversations Diana’s Untying the Knot model helps you quickly identify what’s really getting in the way — whether it’s awareness, fear, or skills.Build confidence to engage across difference Discover how to stay grounded, curious, and connected — even when values, worldviews, or emotions run high.Reconnect with hope in a complex world This episode reframes today’s uncertainty not as collapse, but as fertile ground for meaningful change — starting with how we talk to one another.✨ Episode Highlights Why change today is fundamentally different — and why linear conversations no longer workHow our worldviews shape every interaction (often without us realising)The three types of “knots” that block progress in teams and relationshipsWhy curiosity is more powerful than persuasionHow to regulate yourself before entering high‑stakes conversationsThe link between psychological safety, leadership, and behavioural changeWhy hope is not naïve — but a leadership choiceHow better questions can completely transform everyday conversations🔓 The Three Knots That Block Change Diana explains that when conversations stall, there’s always a knot — and it’s usually one of these: Do‑Not‑See Knots Someone isn’t aware of a possibility, assumption, or perspective.Do‑Not‑Want Knots Fear, risk, or emotional resistance is holding someone back.Do‑Not‑Know Knots A genuine skills or capability gap is creating friction.Identifying the right knot helps focus the conversation where change can actually happen. 💡 Practical Takeaways Enter conversations with curiosity, not certaintyAsk open questions like “How does this make sense to you?”Don’t aim to win — aim to understandRegulate yourself before engaging othersStart small: connection is success📚 Recommended by Dianna 📖 Maybe You Should Talk to Someone — Lori Gottlieb A warm, thoughtful exploration of different human worldviews through the lens of therapy — and a powerful way to build empathy and curiosity. 🔗 Links Mentioned We Not Me podcast: 👉 https://www.squadify.netSquadify (podcast supporter): 👉 https://www.squadify.netBook recommendation: Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb (Available via major book retailers and libraries)International Coaching Federation (ICF): 👉 https://coachingfederation.org🎙 About the Guest Dianna Anderson is a founding member of the International Coaching Federation and a global thought leader in coaching-based leadership and change. With over 30 years of experience, she helps leaders and organisations build shared language for navigating the human side of complexity, transformation, and collaboration.

    39 min
  3. APR 2

    The family: your first team?

    In this episode, Dan and Pia are joined by Danielle DeMarco and Greg Neufeld to explore a powerful idea: the family is the first and most important team we ever belong to. Drawing on their backgrounds in venture capital, startups, and leadership, Danielle and Greg share how they intentionally design family culture using the same principles that underpin high‑performing teams — clarity, shared identity, rituals, and psychological safety. The conversation spans family values, collective purpose, rites of passage, co‑leadership, and why modern parenting often creates more anxiety than clarity. Along the way, the group surfaces lessons that apply not just at home, but directly to enterprise teams, co‑leaders, and organisations navigating complexity. Three Reasons to Listen Reframe family as a team — not a series of individuals Learn how shared identity, collective incentives, and simple rituals can dramatically strengthen connection and reduce fragmentation at home and at work.Practical leadership ideas you can apply immediately From family meetings to co‑leader alignment rituals, this episode offers concrete practices that translate directly into enterprise teams and leadership partnerships.A refreshing antidote to “perfect parenting” culture Danielle and Greg challenge fear‑based parenting narratives, replacing them with a zoom‑out, long‑game approach grounded in culture, intention, and compassion.Show Highlights Family as the first team: Why the earliest lessons about teamwork, expectations, and belonging are learned at home.Shared identity in action: The Neufeld family cheer — and how rituals instantly shift five individuals into one collective.Incentives that unite, not divide: How a shared “super ding ding ding” reward reinforces team behaviour rather than individual competition.High standards + high support: Lessons from elite investment cultures (including Ken Griffin’s Citadel) applied to family leadership.Culture lives in the present: Why great culture isn’t built for a distant future — but day by day, moment by moment.Family meetings done right: Moving beyond logistics and correction toward appreciation, learning, and connection.Rites of passage and individuation: Helping children climb their own mountains while keeping family as base camp.Co‑leadership under pressure: How to surface fear beneath non‑negotiables and stay on the same side.Why things going wrong is not failure: A powerful reframing of mistakes, hit rates, and “winning enough” in families and teams.Media recommendations with a twist: From the Founders podcast to Real Housewives as an unexpected masterclass in group dynamics.Useful Links & References The Most Important Thing Podcast — Danielle DeMarco & Greg Neufeld Focused on intentional family culture, leadership at home, and raising capable, connected humans.Bruce Feiler – Happy Families Referenced for its research on family meetings as a cornerstone of strong family culture.The Founders Podcast Recommended by Greg for studying timeless leadership and entrepreneurial mental models.Real Housewives (Franchise) Danielle’s unconventional but insightful recommendation for observing group dynamics, power, rupture, and repair.

    37 min
  4. MAR 6

    AI transformation is a leadership test, not a tech one - with Stephen Hunt

    AI transformation is fundamentally a human transformation, not a technology project. Success depends on taking deliberate steps to build AI literacy across your entire organisation while managing fear and maintaining team cohesion. Most companies are still at the beginning of their AI journey. The key is to start with a clear plan that's reviewed regularly, ensure everyone from board level to front desk has basic AI literacy, and create psychological safety by addressing fears about job loss. Stephen Hunt is serial entrepreneur whose AI journey dates back to 2011, when he used machine learning and neural networks to for ad targeting. He founded the Square Wave initially as a hobby project to help him understand AI, and he now works with clients on AI transformation, providing training and helping organisations develop AI strategies. Three reasons to listen Understand the leadership, rather than the technical challenges posed by AI transformationStart building AI literacy immediately through research, prompting, and trainingReframe AI as an opportunity for humans to be amplified rather than replacedEpisode highlights [00:12:53] What opportunities is AI presenting right now?[00:19:46] How to start taking advantage of AI[00:22:12] Three core AI literacy skills[00:26:40] Start with clarity[00:31:12] Where to start[00:35:52] Steve's media recommendation[00:38:12] Takeaways from Pia and DanLinks Connect with Steve via LinkedInThe Square WaveStartups Decoded – Steve’s podcast recommendationTrack and improve your team performance with SquadifyLeave us a voice note

    42 min
  5. FEB 6

    Three hidden patterns that could be holding your team back - with Noj Hinkins

    Teams often struggle with hidden dysfunctions that disguise themselves as positive behaviours, like pretending everything’s fine when it isn't, making decisions in corridors rather than as a team, and heaping blame on a single person rather than addressing systemic issues. These patterns are particularly insidious because they hide under seemingly good intentions, making them difficult to spot and address. Noj Hinkins is a team coach and leadership development consultant. He’s been working with senior teams for the past 15-20 years, typically at director level and above, doing one-on-one coaching, team building, and leadership development work. He specialises in identifying dysfunctions that can hold teams back. Three reasons to listen Recognise when toxic positivity is preventing your team from addressing real problems and creating a disconnect between team membersIdentify and eliminate covert processes that override team decisionsSpot scapegoating patterns where teams blame one person for systemic issuesEpisode highlights [00:12:50] Team patterns in 2026[00:14:19] Toxic positivity[00:24:23] Covert process[00:30:33] Scapegoating[00:41:39] What to do first if you spot these patterns[00:43:34] Noj's media recommendation[00:44:53] Takeaways from Dan and PiaLinks Covert Processes at Work, by Robert MarshakSo Far So Good, by the Blue Moon – Noj’s media recommendationTrack and improve your team performance with SquadifyLeave us a voice note

    51 min
  6. JAN 23

    Balancing artificial and human intelligence - with Jon Whittle

    In a working world where the conversation is increasingly dominated by AI, we need to consciously prioritise human connection and old-school practices, like face-to-face conversations, physical books, and time for deep thinking, to avoid becoming trapped in a cycle of constant acceleration that ultimately undermines our wellbeing and what makes us fundamentally human. Jon Whittle is the former CEO of CSIRO's Data61, Australia's national AI research and development centre. He led a team of around 500 scientists, engineers and support staff across Australia. Jon’s working is transitioning to helping organisations understand and adopt AI in an effective, human-centred way, particularly with boards and leadership teams. Three reasons to listen To reframe AI adoption around human needs rather than pure efficiencyTo discover the risks of outsourcing human connection to AIAo learn how to adopt old-school practices that preserve your humanityEpisode highlights [00:10:24] Leading hundreds of scientists and engineers[00:13:14] What it means to be human in an AI world[00:23:25] The danger of sharing problems with AI rather than other humans[00:31:33] What Jon has learned from classical Indian dance[00:36:18] AI for Business[00:39:55] Jon's media recommendation[00:42:06] Takeaways from Pia and DanLinks Connect with Jon via LinkedInAI for Business – Jon’s bookCSIRO presents: Everyday AI – Jon’s podcastTurning Down the Noise – Jon’s media recommendationTrack and improve your team performance with SquadifyLeave us a voice note

    53 min
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Exploring how humans connect and get stuff done together, with Dan Hammond and Pia Lee from Squadify. We need groups of humans to help navigate the world of opportunities and challenges, but we don't always work together effectively. This podcast tackles questions such as "What makes a rockstar team?" "How can we work from anywhere?" "What part does connection play in today's world?" You'll also hear the thoughts and views of those who are running and leading teams across the world.

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