We Should Probably Edit This — But We Won't

Matthew & Nancy Greger
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This is the unfiltered, unscripted podcast where Nancy and Matthew’s real life gets the spotlight—messy, hilarious, and unexpectedly meaningful. From navigating family drama and awkward money talks to wild stories and ones we’ll definitely regret later, hot takes, and questionable life advice, we dive in headfirst—no edits, no scripts, no pretending we’ve got it all figured out. We laugh, we overshare, we occasionally make sense. Think of it as your weekly dose of real talk, relatable moments, and just enough chaos to make things interesting. Nancy and Matthew keep it raw, relatable, and refreshingly unpolished. Just two people figuring life out in real time—and bringing you along for the ride. Perfectly imperfect and refreshingly honest. Grab your coffee (or cocktail) and let’s get into it.

  1. Things We'd Never Have Said at 30: Honor the Struggle. Bring the Joy.

    APR 7

    Things We'd Never Have Said at 30: Honor the Struggle. Bring the Joy.

    Recorded on Easter Sunday, Episode 36 of We Should Probably Edit This – But We Won't takes a reflective turn as Matthew and Nancy explore the phrases and personal growth mantras that have quietly become part of how they think, talk, and live. These aren't things they would've said when they first got married — but somewhere along the way, words like "honor the struggle," "bring the joy," "what would my better self do?", and "rejection is God's redirection" became part of their vocabulary. And they mean it. They get into the messy middle of setbacks, what it really means to summon the best of yourself, and why "just one more" can be the hardest — and most important — thing you say to yourself. They also talk about faith, legacy, grandkids, learning to listen to their adult kids without parenting them, and why being present in the moment is something grandparenting finally taught them to actually do. It's funny, it's honest, it's recorded on Easter — and yes, they will not be editing it. 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 People Mentioned: Ed Mylett — source of the "just one more" conceptNancy's mom — referenced in the context of saying things your parents used to sayMatthew and Nancy's adult children and grandchildren (unnamed) 🏢 Companies/Organizations Mentioned: BlackRock ChurchGrowthDay / Ultra (Brendon Burchard)

    32 min
  2. We Took the Strengths Test. His Tops Are Her Bottoms.

    MAR 31

    We Took the Strengths Test. His Tops Are Her Bottoms.

    Ever wonder why your partner thinks the way they do — and why no amount of explaining seems to change it? Matthew and Nancy took the Gallup CliftonStrengths assessment through a leadership class at their church, and the results were equal parts validating and hilarious. Matthew's strengths — Learner, Achiever, Futuristic, Belief, and Responsibility — put him squarely in strategic thinking mode, always planning, always visioning, always reaching for what's next. Nancy's strengths — Communication, Consistency, Significance, Harmony, and Responsibility — make her a powerhouse of influence, relationship, and execution. The twist? His top two are her bottom two. Her influencing strengths are nowhere in his top 10. And somehow they've been making it work for 37+ years without knowing why. In this episode they unpack the four quadrants — executing, influencing, relationship building, and strategic thinking — and what it looks like when a couple brings completely different ones to the table. About why Nancy doesn't need to be a strategic thinker, and why Matthew needs to stop requiring her to be one. And yes — about the moment Nancy dictated an entire list to Claude AI during a 45-minute drive just to get Matthew his beloved bullet points. Stop trying to fix your weaknesses. Stop trying to change your partner's wiring. This episode makes the case for leaning hard into what you're actually great at — together. 📋 TakeawaysHis tops are her bottoms — and that's actually the pointWeaknesses aren't meant to be fixed, they're meant to be acknowledged and handed offFour quadrants: executing, influencing, relationship building, strategic thinking — and most couples don't bring the same onesWhen you stop trying to change your partner's wiring and start working with it, everything gets easierHire, delegate, or partner to cover what you're not wired forNancy's son called her "spicy" years ago — turns out Harmony's description of "straightforward" basically confirms itMatthew has been futuristic and strategic since 2014 — the top two just swappedExecuting is where they both shine and where they get things done together — selling the house proved it 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 People Mentioned: Mel Robbins — mentioned in reference to the 5-4-3-2-1 rule 🏢 Companies/Organizations Mentioned: Gallup CliftonStrengths — the assessment Matthew and Nancy tookGrowthDay — referenced as a past personal development experienceClaude — Nancy's shortcut to making Matthew's beloved list (yes, really)

    32 min
  3. Clarity Changes Everything: From Assumptions to Alignment

    MAR 24

    Clarity Changes Everything: From Assumptions to Alignment

    In Episode 34, Nancy and Matthew explore the power of clarity in relationships, life decisions, and the next chapter ahead. They reflect on how, early in marriage, assumptions often replaced communication—and how real clarity only comes through growth, experience, and intentional conversations. Now in a new phase of life, they break down their individual top priorities—from faith and marriage to financial freedom, legacy, and purpose—and discover that alignment isn’t about being identical, but about understanding each other deeply. They also share insights from their recent GrowthDay event in San Diego, where conversations around AI sparked a new level of curiosity, creativity, and possibility for the future. This episode is honest, reflective, and full of those “wait… that’s actually important” moments that come from real-life conversations. Takeaways: Clarity in a relationship is a gradual development that requires ongoing communication and understanding.Early assumptions in marriage often lack true clarity, leading to misunderstandings and unmet expectations.Identifying evolving priorities such as faith, family, and finances fosters greater alignment within a long-term partnership.Reflecting on personal goals is essential for couples to navigate the complexities of their relationship effectively.Recent travel experiences can provide fresh perspectives on personal clarity and future aspirations.Leveraging technology, such as AI, can enhance decision-making processes and improve communication in relationships. Companies mentioned in this episode: GrowthDayChatGPTClaudeGemini

    30 min
  4. Sold, Stressed & Starting Fresh: Closing One Chapter, Building the Next

    MAR 17

    Sold, Stressed & Starting Fresh: Closing One Chapter, Building the Next

    We’ve been in the thick of it. In this episode, Nancy and Matthew catch up after a whirlwind few weeks of showings, offers, inspections, permits, repairs, packing, and finally selling the house. What started as a big decision quickly turned into a full-on sprint—and now, with closing around the corner, they’re beginning to exhale. They talk honestly about stress, emotional overload, community, faith, health, and what it feels like to leave one chapter behind while stepping into a brand-new season of life. From snowstorms and storage bins to retirement planning and the power of asking for “seven minutes,” this episode is a real look at transition, resilience, and starting fresh. Takeaways: The recent transition of selling our house transformed into an overwhelming experience filled with stress and emotional challenges.Navigating the complexities of home inspections and permits proved to be a significant source of anxiety during the selling process.We learned the importance of maintaining faith and community support throughout stressful transitions in life, particularly during major moves.The phrase 'seven minutes' serves as a vital reminder that reaching out for support during stressful times can be incredibly beneficial to one's well-being.Our journey has underscored the necessity of planning ahead when undertaking significant life changes, such as selling a long-term residence.Ultimately, embracing the chaos and uncertainty of change can lead to profound personal growth and new beginnings.

    31 min
  5. Snow Days, Perspective & Letting the World Slow Down

    JAN 26

    Snow Days, Perspective & Letting the World Slow Down

    An epic snowstorm forces an unexpected pause—and we finally take it. From house showings and Airbnb escapes to IKEA overload, grocery-store chaos, and the strange calm that only a snow day brings, this episode is about perspective. We talk about slowing down, controlling what you can control, respecting different viewpoints, and why personal growth matters more than arguing about the world. It’s reflective, cozy, honest, and a reminder that sometimes the best thing you can do is exhale. Takeaways: The unexpected pause brought about by the snowstorm serves as a valuable reminder to embrace moments of relaxation and reflection amidst life's chaos.In navigating through life's complexities, it is essential to focus on personal growth rather than engaging in futile arguments about differing perspectives.The ability to control one's own reactions and emotions is paramount in fostering personal development and harmony in relationships with others.Experiencing a snow day can illuminate the beauty of stillness and encourage a sense of gratitude for the simple joys of life.Taking time to understand opposing viewpoints can enrich personal understanding and enhance interpersonal relationships, leading to greater empathy and compassion.The snowstorm's quietude highlights the importance of appreciating the present moment and recognizing the necessity of slowing down in our fast-paced lives.

    25 min
  6. Putting Life in Perspective: Boundaries, Change & One Step at a Time

    JAN 20

    Putting Life in Perspective: Boundaries, Change & One Step at a Time

    In this episode, we talk about perspective — how it changes as you get older, how life forces you to set boundaries, and why the things that once felt overwhelming don’t always carry the same weight anymore. We reflect on faith, setbacks, and the reality that challenges don’t disappear — but your ability to handle them evolves. From selling our home and navigating unexpected obstacles, to learning when to pivot instead of panic, this conversation is about maturity, perseverance, and doing hard things one step at a time. If you’re in a season of change, questioning your decisions, or feeling overwhelmed by everything on your plate, this episode is a reminder: perspective comes with time — and progress comes from simply keeping going. Takeaways: The passage of time and accumulated experiences significantly alter one's perspective on life's challenges.During youth, obstacles often appear insurmountable; maturity fosters resilience and wisdom in navigating difficulties.Setting boundaries evolves with age, leading to a refined understanding of what one can tolerate.Facing setbacks requires a pivoting mindset, transforming challenges into opportunities for growth and progress.The mantra 'one step at a time' serves as a crucial survival strategy during overwhelming situations.Reflecting on faith and perseverance can provide clarity and motivation during life's most trying seasons.

    32 min
  7. Letting Go to Move Forward: A New Year, A New Chapter

    JAN 6

    Letting Go to Move Forward: A New Year, A New Chapter

    It’s our first episode of 2026—and instead of resolutions, we’re talking about release. From clearing decades of clutter to making fast, emotional decisions about what stays and what goes, this episode is about more than downsizing. It’s about energy, freedom, and forward momentum. We share what it’s really like to prepare for a major move, the weight of “someday,” and why letting go of stuff can unlock clarity in life, finances, and purpose. A new year. A clean slate. A chapter that finally feels intentional. Takeaways: In the pursuit of emotional and financial freedom, let us recognize that decluttering our physical space is a profound step toward liberation.As we navigate the complexities of life transitions, we must confront the emotional weight of our possessions and make decisive choices about their future.The act of decluttering serves not merely to create physical space, but to facilitate an emotional release from the burdens of 'someday' and postponed decisions.To embark on a journey of intentional living, we must first liberate ourselves from the clutter that impedes our progress and hinders our ability to embrace new opportunities.Through the process of letting go, we invite new energy into our lives, making room for growth and new experiences that align with our evolving aspirations.It is crucial to approach decluttering with a framework of quick decision-making, categorizing items into keep, donate, or discard, thereby alleviating the emotional burden associated with indecision.

    32 min
  8. The Christmas Shift: Grandkids, Gratitude & Letting Go

    12/23/2025

    The Christmas Shift: Grandkids, Gratitude & Letting Go

    Christmas used to mean sleepless nights, toy assembly, and mall chaos. Now it looks quieter — and surprisingly clearer. In Episode 29, Matthew and Nancy reflect on how the holidays have changed as parents become grandparents, kids grow up, and priorities shift. They talk about selling a home, purging decades of belongings, digitizing memories, and confronting the dangerous comfort of “someday.” This episode is a thoughtful, honest holiday conversation about gratitude, faith, family, and why simplifying your life can sometimes feel like gaining more — not less. Takeaways: The holiday season evolves as families transition into new roles, such as becoming grandparents.Reflecting on past Christmas experiences illuminates the emotional journey we all share during this time.Letting go of physical possessions can be liberating, allowing us to prioritize what truly matters.The concept of 'someday projects' can hinder our progress; it is imperative to act on our intentions now.Navigating family dynamics during the holidays requires open communication and the willingness to adapt.Gratitude for shared experiences and family connections remains a cornerstone of meaningful holiday celebrations.

    32 min
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This is the unfiltered, unscripted podcast where Nancy and Matthew’s real life gets the spotlight—messy, hilarious, and unexpectedly meaningful. From navigating family drama and awkward money talks to wild stories and ones we’ll definitely regret later, hot takes, and questionable life advice, we dive in headfirst—no edits, no scripts, no pretending we’ve got it all figured out. We laugh, we overshare, we occasionally make sense. Think of it as your weekly dose of real talk, relatable moments, and just enough chaos to make things interesting. Nancy and Matthew keep it raw, relatable, and refreshingly unpolished. Just two people figuring life out in real time—and bringing you along for the ride. Perfectly imperfect and refreshingly honest. Grab your coffee (or cocktail) and let’s get into it.

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