NYT bestselling author of Impossible Odds, Jessica Buchanan, along with fellow writer Jessica Kidwell, attempt to unpack the uncomfortable topics that nobody is talking about, but definitely should. With intention to hold real, authentic, conversation about EVERYTHING, the Two Jess(es) bring their humor and a healthy dose of self-deprecation to the table as they unpack issues relating to PTSD, grief, imposter syndrome, body image, middle age, the plight of the working mom and more.
The Siren House: Women Building Intentional Community through Co-Housing and Questioning Societal Norms
Herrin Hopper and Holly Harper met in 2015 when their kids were in the same preschool program on Capitol Hill in Washington, D.C. Through normal socializing with other parents, somehow six moms - all married and all living in the same 10-block radius - became friends. Sometime in 2016, Holly disclosed to Herrin that her marriage was in BIG trouble. Infidelity. Anxiety. Depression. At the same time, Herrin was working through her own marriage troubles, but from a different perspective and approach. They began to grow closer together as they navigated this time, offering one another advice and just friendship. When Holly's marriage finally ended in 2018 - Herrin was there for her through the worst of it. Six months later, she and her husband decided to separate as well. By the fall of 2019, both were living in fancy schmancy high-rise apartments on H Street NE in the Capitol Hill neighborhood, trying to get used to the "new normal." By early 2020, both were starting to consider their next home buying journey. Over a game of Bogle, they decided to look for a duplex. Less than 10 days later, they had a realtor and went out property hunting. They saw four properties that first day, and the fourth one was "The Siren House." They closed in June 2020 and have been continuing to build community since they moved in.
In this episode Jess and Jess talk with the Siren House owners about what it means to build intentional community, the opportunity to become homeowners, and support other women in that journey, and what it means to parent each others children, setting boundaries, sharing the housing load and living in a mindset of service.
To learn more about The Siren House and their intentional community, visit their website https://www.sirenfoundry.com/
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Roe v. Wade: You Better Believe We Are Going to Talk About It. A Friday Edition.
We, along with millions of women in America, are feeling the depths of despair, panic and grief. We are heartbroken. 💔
The law, as it stands now, has overturned women’s rights to make decisions about their own bodies, their futures regarding motherhood and economy- in one fell swoop, futures have been stolen, autonomy has been smashed and the patriarchy has once again re-traumatized us, and our sisters of all colors, backgrounds, ages and experiences.
This most f*cking certainly is a #humanrights issue. And for those who think this is a solitary human rights issue- here’s breaking news for you: This is only just the beginning.
We want to utter words of hope right now. We WANT to find a silver lining- or a sliver of positivity. But in true WeSTAT fashion- we can authentically say with utmost certainty that today, we are mourning a loss of our rights, our perceived equality, our daughter’s futures, and our sons.
We’ll show up because we always show up. But for you in our WeSTAT community who are hurting and are being re-traumatized right now- know we are sobbing and holding space with you.
This episode is our attempt at trying to hold space for each other and all of you.
music courtesy of Jarrett Nicolay at Mixtape Studios
#womensupportingwomen #womensrightsarehumanrights #makeabortionlegal #bodyautonomy #reproductiverights #supremecourt #wesupportabortion
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Who is Wellness For? We Should Talk About That With Multidisciplinary Artist and Author, Fariha Roisin.
Growing up a Queer Bangladeshi Muslim in Australia, Róisín struggled to fit in. In attempts to assimilate, Róisín distanced herself from her South Asian heritage and identity. Years later, living in the United States, she realized that the customs, practices, and even food of her native culture that had once made her different—everything from ashwagandha to prayer—were now being homogenized and marketed for good health, often at a premium by white people to white people.
In this episode, Jess and Jess discuss how wellness has been co-opted by the privileged few, which is paradoxical to what wellness actually means. Fariha shares her wisdom, hard earned through her life experiences of surviving abuse, and a life long journey of finding who she is within her own wellness, and how we can attune more closely to ourselves and allowing ultimate self-care, which IS available to us all- which is the ultimate goal of wellness.
To learn more about Fariha Roison and her work go to: https://www.fariharoisin.com/
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We Should Talk About Your Skin and Aging...LIVE with Medical Esthetician, Jennifer Daniels
Jess and Jess realized that one of the most popular points of conversation with their friends (40 and over!) has been what to do about their aging faces. Botox? Age gracefully? Sunscreen? Serums? Facials? What's good, what's bad, what's somewhere in between?
So they decided to bring this conversation to a wider audience, and invited their WeSTAT community to join in!
Along with resident skincare expert and owner of The Med Spa (http://www.themedsparaleigh.com/) Jennifer Daniels, TTJ(es) assembled dozens of women at one of their most favorite local Virginia venues, Revel (https://revelava.com/) to talk about All.The.Things.
Lots of fun in this episode! Tips,, information rich and questions from the audience! If you are wondering what approach is right for you and the largest organ of your body- then you will learn something with this one- for sure!
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Life on the Road, Gay Pride and Empowering Women Through Adventure Boudoir with Big Boudie Bus Founder and Photographer Sarah Marcella
Who else thinks living in a 30 foot converted school bus and traveling around the country taking empowering photos of women in nature sounds like THE DREAM? Incredibly talented photographer, Sarah Marcella spent 2.5 months traveling the US in her Subaru a few years ago in order to really learn how to be alone, with herself in all her many layers. And what she decided was that life on the road was what she needed in order to be fully figure out who she was created to be. After being married to a man for five years, Sarah came to terms with her own sexuality and came out at the age of 27, and realized it was time to move fully into her truest self.
Cue forward to The Big Boudie Bus- a concept that has become not just a lifestyle, but a mission- to empower women through the lens of Pay What You Can adventure boudoir photography. Sarah travels from city to city in her Big Boudie Bus and photographs women in natural settings, as naked as they want to get, as a form of ceremony, therapy, spiritual practice and a way to love themselves from the inside out.
Sarah believes EVERY woman should have this experience made available to them- so she operates on a pay what you can basis. She believes she can hold space with each woman she photographs as they fall in love with themselves again, and offer them proof through a photograph, of how exquisite and beautiful they are.
If you would like Sarah to come to your city- DM her at Bigboudiebus or email her through her website at https://www.theboudiebus.com/.
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Guns, School Shootings, and Our Aching Hearts with Public School Teacher and Sensible Gun Laws Advocate, Kellie Healy
Jess and Jess have felt lost, forlorn, broken-hearted and out of words this last week. Shocked and encompassed soul crushing grief, along with many other Americans, TTJ(es) had to sit in the muck of shock until they came to the same conclusion: We HAVE TO TALK ABOUT THIS.
One of the best things about building this WeSTAT community is so many are willing to sit in the space of uncomfortable conversations, and so, this past Saturday morning, Jess and Jess sat down at Kidwell's kitchen table, turned on a microphone, and invited their friend, Kellie in to share the heart-wrenching story of her own brother's homicide by gun violence in 1990. Her brother was on the way to living the rest of a beautiful life when he was shot point blank, in an Arbey's parking lot while grabbing a late night sandwich with friends. He bled out before the ambulance could even get to him. Kellie recounts her grief is not of just losing her brother, but also that four lives were lost that night- all three of the assailants were apprehended and put in prison- they were also high school dropouts and had fathered children in their teens.
As a reaction to her grief, Kellie has dedicated her life to drug and gun violence prevention with staggering success, and is now serving as a special education teacher at a Title I public school.
This is out of the ordinary for Jess and Jess- it is raw, and you will notice background noise as their lives are moving in the background of the recording (dogs and kids!) but it is a conversation that feels necessary in a time when we have nothing left to say. Because we have a lot of work ahead of us- and we have to do it together.
Kellie lost her brother to gun violence in September 29, 1990. She left her career in advertising to start a nonprofit organization called The Boston Coalition Against Youth Drug Use and Violence. Using her contacts from the advertising agency she was able to bring together the leadership in the private and public sectors to develop a multi-tiered plan for the city. She was lured to Washington, DC in 1995 to help communities across the country build coalitions to address drug use and violence. Working with the Dependent of Justice she helped develop a safe gun storage public service announcement with The Ad Council that was nominated for an Emmy. She raised $1M to create a one-hour TV special produced by ABC News called “The Power of One” which featured five people across the country who were making a difference in their communities to reduce drug use and violence. Since 2012, Kellie has been working in the public schools. Her bother’s killers, who were all 17, had easily accessed a gun but had also all dropped out of school. Kellie is currently working as a Special Education Teacher with at-risk kids at a Title 1 school because she wants to help kids, no matter their challenges, to stay in school. She is an active member of Moms Demand Action and an outspoken advocate for sensible gun laws.
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The lengths that the two Jess’s go to in order to bring individuals together, tell personal stories, and create communities is absolutely amazing, and oh-so enjoyable for the listener.
I’m grateful for every introduction and admire that no topic is too scary or off limits. If it impacts anyone, anywhere, it’s valued in this space. Love, love!
Talking about what needs to be…talked about!
Each Jess brings their own uniquenesses, insight, wisdom and honesty to these much needed conversations. I love WeSTAT and will forever be a fan of this podcast!
Thankful for your podcast
These ladies are brilliant, hilarious, and doing important work for our community of wonderful women. Keep it up ladies…I am a listener for life. XO Lyssa